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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

been on here about 5 months and i still havnt met anyone,dont know what im doin wrong,any tips/offers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"been on here about 5 months and i still havnt met anyone,dont know what im doin wrong,any tips/offers? "
according to your profile you had a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get into the chatrooms and prove yer gen xx

auds x

ps,,and stop moaning most single guys are in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"get into the chatrooms and prove yer gen xx

auds x

ps,,and stop moaning most single guys are in the same boat "
yup 1 thing i dont do is moan about not getting anything then you wont get anything

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

or get along to a social plenty of meets at those n lets peeps see you and know you are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or get along to a social plenty of meets at those n lets peeps see you and know you are genuine "

I was in a swingers club for a while - (just as anti-single-men as 'Fab' !), - and people there still insisted on not believing that I'm genuinely single. Merely being in a social setting doesn't make people believe anything that upsets their prejudices.

'Fab' seems to be endemically 'anti-single-men'. To most couples, single men are scum by definition. Single guys all get tarred with a broad brush; .. yet I know some single females and some couples who aren't exactly angelic either, but you don't hear a fuss about them.

Couples forget that they too were all single at one time; .. indeed many still are, but go on here as "couples" though they are just fuck-buddies. But let them split up, and suddenly the men of such couples will realise (rather late) how badly they treated other single men on the site.

Women, couples, - please don't let the few single bampots poison your view of all single guys. There are some nice ones out here too, you know ! There's only one way to find out ...

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"or get along to a social plenty of meets at those n lets peeps see you and know you are genuine

I was in a swingers club for a while - (just as anti-single-men as 'Fab' !), - and people there still insisted on not believing that I'm genuinely single. Merely being in a social setting doesn't make people believe anything that upsets their prejudices.

'Fab' seems to be endemically 'anti-single-men'. To most couples, single men are scum by definition. Single guys all get tarred with a broad brush; .. yet I know some single females and some couples who aren't exactly angelic either, but you don't hear a fuss about them.

Couples forget that they too were all single at one time; .. indeed many still are, but go on here as "couples" though they are just fuck-buddies. But let them split up, and suddenly the men of such couples will realise (rather late) how badly they treated other single men on the site.

Women, couples, - please don't let the few single bampots poison your view of all single guys. There are some nice ones out here too, you know ! There's only one way to find out ... "
can only speak of my own experiences and have found most people to be sincere in what they say and do havent really encountered this single male hatred but ah dont really try to meet all the time and when i do i make sure that we are looking for the same things maybe a check of your profile and then search for others looking for same may help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if there is single male hatred on here

why are single women after single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in general, I only meet single guys, so dont tare everyone with that huge brush your using, although i'd never meet anyone that whinged about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in general, I only meet single guys, so dont tare everyone with that huge brush your using, although i'd never meet anyone that whinged about it"
i am not whingeing about it only going throw what others has said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The "anti-single-men" attitude isn't from the single women; it's from a lot of the couples. Read the profiles and you'll see. And when you dare to ask for couples' face pics, hardly an unreasonable request, they react like you've asked for their credit-card numbers.

It happened to me today as a latest example.

Tom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The "anti-single-men" attitude isn't from the single women; it's from a lot of the couples. Read the profiles and you'll see. And when you dare to ask for couples' face pics, hardly an unreasonable request, they react like you've asked for their credit-card numbers.

It happened to me today as a latest example.

Tom."

perhaps the "anti-single men couples" just dont want to meet single men!!!! why do so many single men moan about not getting a meet??? I know lots of single blokes on here who do very well, Ive never heard them moan, never heard them comment on other peoples profiles (cause after all why should it bother them), never seen them write anything negative in the forums ... that is probably why they do better than others! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have met single guys and have single guys we will meet again.

the reason we have blocked single guys for the third time is that the majority of messages we get are from guys who clearly did not read the profile or just ignored it

then to make matters worse when sent a polite no thanks we got sbuse

if a profile says no single men then dont message them

if you are outside the age range then dont message them

if you dont match what the couple are looking for dont message them

INSTEAD look for a couple who are looking for men your age. then READ the profile and only if you match what they are looking for send a well thought out message and refer to the profile to show that you took time to read it first.

We may in future open to single guys but reading some of the moans in this and other forums we wonder if it would be more of the same

Pity is that some of the best messages we got were from younger guys (under 25) and the guys who were sending one liners, did not match what we were looking for or send messages as if they were entitled to a meet despite what the couple wanted were over 40 (wonder if this attitude is why they are single)

if you cannot READ AND RESPECT what the couple have WRITTEN in their profile then you cannot expect a reply nevermind a meet - its not rocket science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have met single guys and have single guys we will meet again.

the reason we have blocked single guys for the third time is that the majority of messages we get are from guys who clearly did not read the profile or just ignored it

then to make matters worse when sent a polite no thanks we got sbuse

if a profile says no single men then dont message them

if you are outside the age range then dont message them

if you dont match what the couple are looking for dont message them

INSTEAD look for a couple who are looking for men your age. then READ the profile and only if you match what they are looking for send a well thought out message and refer to the profile to show that you took time to read it first.

We may in future open to single guys but reading some of the moans in this and other forums we wonder if it would be more of the same

Pity is that some of the best messages we got were from younger guys (under 25) and the guys who were sending one liners, did not match what we were looking for or send messages as if they were entitled to a meet despite what the couple wanted were over 40 (wonder if this attitude is why they are single)

if you cannot READ AND RESPECT what the couple have WRITTEN in their profile then you cannot expect a reply nevermind a meet - its not rocket science"

You are correct, its amazing the amount of people who don't read profiles. I will add though that even when the criteria is met, a lot couples do not respond to the message even just to say no thanks - in this instance just block and move on plenty more fish in the sea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps single guys should consider the sheer volume of mail that couples receive.

We've met a good few single guys who have all been polite, respectful and good company. We want someone who'll be able to hold a conversation, you can tell a lot about their ability to do this from their introductory message.

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By *carletRomanceCouple
over a year ago

glasgow


" I will add though that even when the criteria is met, a lot couples do not respond to the message even just to say no thanks - in this instance just block and move on plenty more fish in the sea! "

The problem there is the sender may think they meet the criteria, but the, for want of a better word, receiver doesn’t. We’ve had quite a few messages that being with ‘I’m exactly what you’re looking for’ (usually they’re not even close). When you say ‘no thanks’ it’s sometimes followed by accusations and abuse because we both have the same boxes ticked.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm both a single guy and a Rocket Scientist.

I'm not sure if this increases, or decreases my prospects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what I was trying to say, is that too many couples tar all single men with one broad brush because one or two guys let them down; and they're immediately bristling like porcupines as soon as they see the word "single" (as if it meant "psychopath" or similar!).

It's not that they just don't fancy single men, - of course that's their right; - but a lot of couples' profiles scream out about the inherent rottenness of single men in general, as if it were a crime to be one. I've read plenty.

They don't realise that some couples too can be guilty of letting down single men, but we guys don't automatically write off all couples as a result. They brand the entire species as scumbags on the basis of their experience of a few.

I was recently contacted, out of the blue, of their own accord, by a couple who have 'not looking for single guys' on their profile. And then within one exchange of messages they started to accuse me of being dishonest without knowing anything about me; and of having a bad attitude for daring to ask for their face-pics after I'd sent them mine, .. (what a crime to ask for face pics!).

Because some other bampot single blokes previously gave them trouble, and since I'm single, well, automatically I too MUST be like those other idiots, mustn't I, .. even though I'd done and said nothing to warrant such abuse. What happened to natural justice, - "innocent until proved guilty" ??

If they were so prejudiced, why did they even bother to contact me at all ? - Just desperate, perhaps, because they couldn't find another couple at the time ? (.. So let's go for the last resort, the despicable single man ? ..)

But they had a prior negative expectation, and as soon as I put fingers to keyboard they were trigger-happy to pounce and accuse me of fulfilling their negative expectations. When I objected to being called a liar by total strangers, that too was "evidence" of my bad attitude, .. just like all the other rotten single guys. - Talk about "self-fulfilling prophecies" !

They weren't at all grateful that I hadn't just deleted them because their profile excluded single guys. They thought they had a right to call the tune and be arrogant and rude, just because I was just a mere single man, a lesser-evolved species.

Then, having accused me of dishonesty and bad attitudes, they had the nerve to suggest I meet them !.. As if I had no self-respect and would be browbeaten into accepting verbal abuse and then undress for them, only too glad to be offered sex after having been such a bad boy ! .. i.e. Trample down the guy's esteem then he'll be only too willing to be pushed around like he were less than human.

Couples, especially the menfolk, forget that they too were once single, and that they could easily become single again. They should treat single guys the way they themselves would like to be treated, for singleness could easily come to them again. Then they'll regret how they've treated other single men, when they find themselves at the receiving end of needless hostile prejudice.

But I have no intention of pre-judging all couples as "hostile bullies" just because I've been mistreated. We're all entitled to be judged on our own merits, not pre-judged on what somebody else has done.

Tom.

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