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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Can you hold a grudge for?

I forgive probably far to easily .

Seems far to many hold grudges for a very long time and I just wonder what they gain from it ?

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By *mudg3rMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I never hold a grudge though if I ever meet the guy who pinched my school milk back in the day, there'll be trouble.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Depends on who it is at times. Sometimes I can forgive easily. Other times I can bear a grudge for a long time.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I never hold a grudge though if I ever meet the guy who pinched my school milk back in the day, there'll be trouble. "
lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Depends on who it is at times. Sometimes I can forgive easily. Other times I can bear a grudge for a long time. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it depends on what the grudgee did. I find it hard to forgive those involved in the break up of my marriage, but anything else is a mere trifle in the end, and not worth hanging onto.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I think it depends on what they did. Some things can't be forgiven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it depends on what they did. Some things can't be forgiven"

Agree with this completely somethings that have been said and actions done can never be forgiven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you hold a grudge for?

I forgive probably far to easily .

Seems far to many hold grudges for a very long time and I just wonder what they gain from it ? "

Id imagine it all depends on how youve been wronged, to date there is only one thing thats happened to me that I still hold a grudge for and although it no longer eats away at me I hope karma bites the bitch right where it hurts. The satisfaction of that happening is what Id gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I think holding a grudge makes you bitter ...forgiving sets you free but yes it would depend whats gone on I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that."

Oh, and she disowned me too.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Can you hold a grudge for?

I forgive probably far to easily .

Seems far to many hold grudges for a very long time and I just wonder what they gain from it ?

Id imagine it all depends on how youve been wronged, to date there is only one thing thats happened to me that I still hold a grudge for and although it no longer eats away at me I hope karma bites the bitch right where it hurts. The satisfaction of that happening is what Id gain. "

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that."
wow thats a big thing and yes I can see why it would be hard to forgive

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

There is a difference between forgiving and forgetting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you hold a grudge for?

I forgive probably far to easily .

Seems far to many hold grudges for a very long time and I just wonder what they gain from it ?

Id imagine it all depends on how youve been wronged, to date there is only one thing thats happened to me that I still hold a grudge for and although it no longer eats away at me I hope karma bites the bitch right where it hurts. The satisfaction of that happening is what Id gain. "

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It depends on what the person did.

I would not say I hold a grudge!

Only that... Some things are forgiven but... Not forgotten... and as such I would want nothing to do with that person or know to watch my back if I can't cut ties with that person.

Hope this makes sense.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"It depends on what the person did.

I would not say I hold a grudge!

Only that... Some things are forgiven but... Not forgotten... and as such I would want nothing to do with that person or know to watch my back if I can't cut ties with that person.

Hope this makes sense.

"
perfect sense max

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By *ero666Man
over a year ago

fife

It depends on the individual,you may find they hold a grudge for a long time,you then have to look at how that person has been treated,some people can be the object of unwanted anger and don't deserve any forgiveness.hense the so called grudge

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"It depends on the individual,you may find they hold a grudge for a long time,you then have to look at how that person has been treated,some people can be the object of unwanted anger and don't deserve any forgiveness.hense the so called grudge "
make love not war lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lifetime, and if I was reincarnated, I'd say two lifetimes! I'm forgiving, but take the piss, and you're out!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Forever. I can move on and not be bitter by simply cutting those who hurt me out of my life

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Forever. I can move on and not be bitter by simply cutting those who hurt me out of my life"
thats the best way to deal with it

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Forever and a day.... I can forgive certain things and certain people, but won't forget.. (last bit's not true, my memory's like a sieve lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A grudge, in the truest sense, is for life.......if I have a grudge I will take it to the grave fuck this forgive and forget, happy clappy, tree hugging "Kumbaya my Lord" bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.

I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.

Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hold grudges nor waste energy on negative things. Life is all too short. You only end up hurting yourself in the end. Move on and rise above it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.

I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.

Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever."

I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hold a grudge. Life is too short for that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.

I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.

Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever.

I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family? "

Why would I give up my life and go to jail for someone else's actions. Id support the member of my family and let justice take its course through the law or through Karma. You cant change anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.

I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.

Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever.

I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family?

Why would I give up my life and go to jail for someone else's actions. Id support the member of my family and let justice take its course through the law or through Karma. You cant change anything. "

I wasn't saying that you should take the law into your own hands, i was only asking if you could forgive someone who had harmed a family member, if you can forgive someone for that and feel no anger towards them then that's admirable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.

I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.

Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever.

I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family?

Why would I give up my life and go to jail for someone else's actions. Id support the member of my family and let justice take its course through the law or through Karma. You cant change anything.

I wasn't saying that you should take the law into your own hands, i was only asking if you could forgive someone who had harmed a family member, if you can forgive someone for that and feel no anger towards them then that's admirable.

"

I would only feel pity and be comfortable in the knowledge that the other person knows I know the true them and any face they put n in public is a lie and as I said ..they leave my life x

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Don't hold grudges, just move on, as others have said waste of precious energy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not spoken to a family member for almost 5 years and have no intention of ever speaking to them again.

Me - I gain my sanity, as they were very toxic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what someone has done ?

Iv a very long memory when it comes to folk acting like knobs

I dont sweat the small stuff tho

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Indefinitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just cant do it . To soft. Well not all the time

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Depends what the issue was .... I never forget anything once I have the measure of you it is duly noted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that."

She's not deserving of forgiveness the vile human being ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't hold grudges... I see that kind of energy as very corrosive. We all get angry with each other, especially in close relationships but in general I think things through and want to talk things out, however that takes two people making effort... if someone has an issue with me that is irreconcilable then it won't be for a lack of effort on my part, however I also won't stop them leaving as I think the worst thing you can do to anyone is cage them... I've experienced that and it's horrible and so now I feel that those who want to be in my life will be... as the saying goes "If you let someone go and they come back to you, they are yours... if they don't, they were never really yours in the first place"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to let go of people I dislike intensely or feel resentful towards. I find them damaging to me. I can ruin a perfectly good day by reliving events or conversations from the past. It's a tricky one especially when family members are involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what the issue was .... I never forget anything once I have the measure of you it is duly noted! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never hold a.grudge but I make it clear if its unforgivable then I won't have that person in my life , life's to short to worry about others I do my own thing only person a girl can depend on is herself and well a few amazing girlfriends on hand with wine when shit goes down lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I never hold a.grudge but I make it clear if its unforgivable then I won't have that person in my life , life's to short to worry about others I do my own thing only person a girl can depend on is herself and well a few amazing girlfriends on hand with wine when shit goes down lol "
so true!

Eradicate the problem and moving on is far better than always looking for revenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what about the man who murdered my parents, Thomas and Martha Wayne? Should I not don the cape and cowl, and bring the criminals of Gotham to justice?

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