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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

From a conversation with a friend who said that someone was 'out of their league' it made me wonder why people should think that.

My response was that if there's an attraction then it doesn't matter.

Do you consider anyone to be 'out of your league' and if so why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have just received message today saying we are out of someone's league. I personally don't like to think that people would feel that way. We certainly don't think of ourselves that way!

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By *ab and funCouple
over a year ago

FIFE

I wouldn't contact people as I think they are out of my league and I'm surprised at some of the people we have met and have had fun with as still think they are out of my league. But that's my insecurities xx

Lou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't we have this last week?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?"

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't contact people as I think they are out of my league and I'm surprised at some of the people we have met and have had fun with as still think they are out of my league. But that's my insecurities xx

Lou"

You look great Mrs. But you already know that I think that. S xx

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By *ab and funCouple
over a year ago

FIFE


"I wouldn't contact people as I think they are out of my league and I'm surprised at some of the people we have met and have had fun with as still think they are out of my league. But that's my insecurities xx

Lou

You look great Mrs. But you already know that I think that. S xx"

Thanks Hun, you too xx

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By *odkaredbull23Man
over a year ago

some where central

Definitely... I don't think I'm insecure, I just realise that I would be punching above my weight with some of the women on here...

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

I've been out of so many peoples league it's unreal and now it's way to late for promotion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely... I don't think I'm insecure, I just realise that I would be punching above my weight with some of the women on here... "

Maybe that are looking for someone just like you and don't see it that way though!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think on a single guys perspective you don't start of as thinking your out of someone's league be it a single female or couple but after a while due to constant thanks but no thanks replies you do start to think that way or maybe that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely... I don't think I'm insecure, I just realise that I would be punching above my weight with some of the women on here... "

You're not the only one to come to that realisation and it gets reinforced with all the unread and deleted messages. Vicious cycle but we soldier on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are different leagues...

Can be in many ways such as looks, wealth, social standing, education, ECT, ECT, ECT.

I work a living wage job but was asked on a date by a lawyer, looks wise he said he felt I was out of his league. On income, house, job, education, social standing, life opportunities, travel, experiences ECT he was well out of my league and it made me feel uneducated and uncomfortable because our lives are so different.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Didn't we have this last week?"

Kind of but I don't see a problem..

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I thought I was for a long time... out of this league or out of that league... but not now!

It was only my insecurities and me putting my own limitations on situations.

I no longer do that, as am growing older, I am being much kinder on/with myself! And more open to the 'go with the flow and see what happens' philosophy.

In my opinion, because one is different, has this or that, it does not make them better or worse than anyone else.

Hope this makes sense

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By *horstrollMan
over a year ago

Caprona


"I thought I was for a long time... out of this league or out of that league... but not now!

It was only my insecurities and me putting my own limitations on situations.

I no longer do that, as am growing older, I am being much kinder on/with myself! And more open to the 'go with the flow and see what happens' philosophy.

In my opinion, because one is different, has this or that, it does not make them better or worse than anyone else.

Hope this makes sense

"

concur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed nawty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!"

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago.

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By *odkaredbull23Man
over a year ago

some where central


"Definitely... I don't think I'm insecure, I just realise that I would be punching above my weight with some of the women on here...

Maybe that are looking for someone just like you and don't see it that way though!?!"

Possibly ... I mean I do have rugged good looks blue eyes and tattoos.....whats not to like haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely... I don't think I'm insecure, I just realise that I would be punching above my weight with some of the women on here...

Maybe that are looking for someone just like you and don't see it that way though!?!

Possibly ... I mean I do have rugged good looks blue eyes and tattoos.....whats not to like haha "

Haha! Exactly. Think positively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely... I don't think I'm insecure, I just realise that I would be punching above my weight with some of the women on here...

Maybe that are looking for someone just like you and don't see it that way though!?!

Possibly ... I mean I do have rugged good looks blue eyes and tattoos.....whats not to like haha "

Haha! Exactly. Think positively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?"

Yep, i think I may have coined the phrase that week and I stick by my original remark. Of course there are folk in life out of ones league! Even on fab I do not for a second think I can pull everyone, taking several factors into consideration. And I totally accept that and don't worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is attracted to different things. If you think you are out of someone's league that's down to yourself and doing other people's thinking for them.

For me there is no leagues, you are either attracted to someone or you are not and there's no harm in asking. We look for a certain type but that doesn't mean we think people that aren't that type are in any other league, the just don't match our preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is attracted to different things. If you think you are out of someone's league that's down to yourself and doing other people's thinking for them.

For me there is no leagues, you are either attracted to someone or you are not and there's no harm in asking. We look for a certain type but that doesn't mean we think people that aren't that type are in any other league, the just don't match our preferences. "

Ok,put it this way. Do you think any fab female is going to snare prince harry? Gerard butler? I could go on here...Of course there are people out of ones league!! I know also that there are guys on fab who state they don't want to play with a middle-aged lady. And some who are not interested in a 5'5" inch size 10/12! But I don't care!

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By *odkaredbull23Man
over a year ago

some where central


"Everyone is attracted to different things. If you think you are out of someone's league that's down to yourself and doing other people's thinking for them.

For me there is no leagues, you are either attracted to someone or you are not and there's no harm in asking. We look for a certain type but that doesn't mean we think people that aren't that type are in any other league, the just don't match our preferences. "

lovely bum by the way...what you up to later haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I was for a long time... out of this league or out of that league... but not now!

It was only my insecurities and me putting my own limitations on situations.

I no longer do that, as am growing older, I am being much kinder on/with myself! And more open to the 'go with the flow and see what happens' philosophy.

In my opinion, because one is different, has this or that, it does not make them better or worse than anyone else.

Hope this makes sense

"

And you are spot on here. But there are guys in life who are unobtainable..Well out.of.my league who I will never get to indulge.my fantasies with. I have very good self esteem but realistically know my chances of snaring Gerard butler are non existent!

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I thought I was for a long time... out of this league or out of that league... but not now!

It was only my insecurities and me putting my own limitations on situations.

I no longer do that, as am growing older, I am being much kinder on/with myself! And more open to the 'go with the flow and see what happens' philosophy.

In my opinion, because one is different, has this or that, it does not make them better or worse than anyone else.

Hope this makes sense

And you are spot on here. But there are guys in life who are unobtainable..Well out.of.my league who I will never get to indulge.my fantasies with. I have very good self esteem but realistically know my chances of snaring Gerard butler are non existent!"

And I disagree with your comment Regarding Prince Harry or G Butler.

They are human beings like the rest of us! Maybe I won't be there cup of tea physically but I can guarantee you that we would have a good laugh if not chemistry like I would like any guys on here!

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

*their

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am out of everyone's league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*their "

Yep I'm sure they would have a good laugh and maybe like my company but I know I won't ever be meeting them. I think the key is to have confidence in yourself and be realistic about your limitations. I have done fairly well on fab but then again so have many of you!

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I used to be massively insecure about my looks and size. When I first joined Fab I looked at the most fabbed pics and my heart sank as all the girls were skinny, stunning and had huge tits. I felt a bit like I would never get any meets, as I'm 'sturdy' (as my dad would say) and have the opposite of a 6-pack. And I felt like pretty much everyone was out of my league.

Fast forward to now, and also I still am insecure, I'm not nearly as bad. I have met some amazing people, some for one off meets and some who I'm in constant contact with, and have shown me that for a good number of people, it's not just about looks, or body shape, or whatever, it's about more than that.

Yes, there are people who I would definitely class as out of my league, but I would still drop them a wink to say hi, whereas 3 months ago, no chance!

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"*their

Yep I'm sure they would have a good laugh and maybe like my company but I know I won't ever be meeting them. I think the key is to have confidence in yourself and be realistic about your limitations. I have done fairly well on fab but then again so have many of you! "

Right! We need to organise coffee with G Butler and found out x

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I used to be massively insecure about my looks and size. When I first joined Fab I looked at the most fabbed pics and my heart sank as all the girls were skinny, stunning and had huge tits. I felt a bit like I would never get any meets, as I'm 'sturdy' (as my dad would say) and have the opposite of a 6-pack. And I felt like pretty much everyone was out of my league.

Fast forward to now, and also I still am insecure, I'm not nearly as bad. I have met some amazing people, some for one off meets and some who I'm in constant contact with, and have shown me that for a good number of people, it's not just about looks, or body shape, or whatever, it's about more than that.

Yes, there are people who I would definitely class as out of my league, but I would still drop them a wink to say hi, whereas 3 months ago, no chance! "

Glad this site has helped with confidence.... you go get what you want sexy....

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

On another tangent to this can I say the "what are you doing here.... you're better than this" messages more offensive.

Here because I like the community and have met some fantastic people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a bigger woman I often look at profiles and think God there out if my league. But at the same time some people think because I'm bigger I'm in some way desperate and would meet anyone.

Which couldn't be further from the truth I'm very fussy who I meet .

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby


"I used to be massively insecure about my looks and size. When I first joined Fab I looked at the most fabbed pics and my heart sank as all the girls were skinny, stunning and had huge tits. I felt a bit like I would never get any meets, as I'm 'sturdy' (as my dad would say) and have the opposite of a 6-pack. And I felt like pretty much everyone was out of my league.

Fast forward to now, and also I still am insecure, I'm not nearly as bad. I have met some amazing people, some for one off meets and some who I'm in constant contact with, and have shown me that for a good number of people, it's not just about looks, or body shape, or whatever, it's about more than that.

Yes, there are people who I would definitely class as out of my league, but I would still drop them a wink to say hi, whereas 3 months ago, no chance!

Glad this site has helped with confidence.... you go get what you want sexy....

"

Ah thank you! It's brought out a whole sode of me that I knew existed somewhere, but was never quite able to find it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*their

Yep I'm sure they would have a good laugh and maybe like my company but I know I won't ever be meeting them. I think the key is to have confidence in yourself and be realistic about your limitations. I have done fairly well on fab but then again so have many of you!

Right! We need to organise coffee with G Butler and found out x "

Hey, let's make this our mission then! Look for some gorgeous hottie who will appreciate our talents! I'm all for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*their

Yep I'm sure they would have a good laugh and maybe like my company but I know I won't ever be meeting them. I think the key is to have confidence in yourself and be realistic about your limitations. I have done fairly well on fab but then again so have many of you!

Right! We need to organise coffee with G Butler and found out x

Hey, let's make this our mission then! Look for some gorgeous hottie who will appreciate our talents! I'm all for that! "

PS I'm finally getting some decent pics taken later tonight..Well let's see how it works out!

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"*their

Yep I'm sure they would have a good laugh and maybe like my company but I know I won't ever be meeting them. I think the key is to have confidence in yourself and be realistic about your limitations. I have done fairly well on fab but then again so have many of you!

Right! We need to organise coffee with G Butler and found out x

Hey, let's make this our mission then! Look for some gorgeous hottie who will appreciate our talents! I'm all for that!

PS I'm finally getting some decent pics taken later tonight..Well let's see how it works out!"

Ooh looking forward to seeing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well you know after a great night spent with a beatiful lass last night. all i can say is if you like someone dont waste time thinking you are no good for them. they would never like you. just have some balls and ask them. i should have been a bigger man and asked her out on a date a long time ago.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"well you know after a great night spent with a beatiful lass last night. all i can say is if you like someone dont waste time thinking you are no good for them. they would never like you. just have some balls and ask them. i should have been a bigger man and asked her out on a date a long time ago. "

The thing Rasta, I believe things happen at the right time and when you're ready for them. Even if we don't always see it! So look forward and enjoy x

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By *haostimeMan
over a year ago

north Glasgow

I don't think anyone is out of anyone's league. Everyone has different tastes,, I just think not everyone has masses of confidence

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

Sry guys but your ALL not good enough for my league. Twmtwiamcl league. (The world mini tiddly wink in a milk carton lid ) chapionship league. Im the only player in the world. Im soooo good i win the league every year.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"*their

Yep I'm sure they would have a good laugh and maybe like my company but I know I won't ever be meeting them. I think the key is to have confidence in yourself and be realistic about your limitations. I have done fairly well on fab but then again so have many of you!

Right! We need to organise coffee with G Butler and found out x

Hey, let's make this our mission then! Look for some gorgeous hottie who will appreciate our talents! I'm all for that! "

Kooeee yoo hoo ( waving hand emoji )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a result of a lifetime of being painfully shy and insecurities makes me feel a lot of women on here are out of my league

Getting older isnt going to change me

but maybe I'll become a babe magnet when I get my bus pass in a couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well you know after a great night spent with a beatiful lass last night. all i can say is if you like someone dont waste time thinking you are no good for them. they would never like you. just have some balls and ask them. i should have been a bigger man and asked her out on a date a long time ago.

The thing Rasta, I believe things happen at the right time and when you're ready for them. Even if we don't always see it! So look forward and enjoy x

thanks max

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just received message today saying we are out of someone's league. I personally don't like to think that people would feel that way. We certainly don't think of ourselves that way!"

Was it from a single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but maybe I'll become a babe magnet when I get my bus pass in a couple of weeks

"

It didn't work for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be massively insecure about my looks and size. When I first joined Fab I looked at the most fabbed pics and my heart sank as all the girls were skinny, stunning and had huge tits. I felt a bit like I would never get any meets, as I'm 'sturdy' (as my dad would say) and have the opposite of a 6-pack. And I felt like pretty much everyone was out of my league.

Fast forward to now, and also I still am insecure, I'm not nearly as bad. I have met some amazing people, some for one off meets and some who I'm in constant contact with, and have shown me that for a good number of people, it's not just about looks, or body shape, or whatever, it's about more than that.

Yes, there are people who I would definitely class as out of my league, but I would still drop them a wink to say hi, whereas 3 months ago, no chance! "

I had a confidence boost when i first joined ... but the stark contrast between the interest I get on here vs the wall of silence i get on vanilla sites stripped that confidence away again

"Good enough to sleep with but not to date" has ended up putting me off meeting altogether so i kinda feel like most are out my league at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually suffer from quite low self confidence anyway so i think most people are out of my league! When i do meet i then worry beforehand that people will be disappointed by how i look because lets be honest, only good pics go on fab!!

Such is life though....

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago."

So....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate that phrase out of my league

There's no leagues and if folk say that there above you block and delete

Yes we have all done the veri trail and wondered oofft they have met her/him why would they be interested in me...?but...if you don't ask or try...you will never know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" lets be honest, only good pics go on fab!!

"

THAT'S where I'm going wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago.

So....? "

I'm with you on that one Lucyfur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago.

So....? "

I'd be concerned about early-onset dementia.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago.

So....?

I'm with you on that one Lucyfur "

I mean are you going to say same for Marry, Fuck, Kill threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago.

So....?

I'm with you on that one Lucyfur

I mean are you going to say same for Marry, Fuck, Kill threads "

Yup. And 175.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" lets be honest, only good pics go on fab!!

THAT'S where I'm going wrong! "

Probs gonng wrong having a female avatar in male profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look closely. I'm in it too.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


" lets be honest, only good pics go on fab!!

THAT'S where I'm going wrong!

Probs gonng wrong having a female avatar in male profile "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look closely. I'm in it too."

Yes i can see your hand with the wedding ring too ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Am not sure if league is how I see things.

Perhaps ranking is a better term.

I feel that whilst I probably rank lower on the physique side of things, I am not too bad on the manners and charming chat.

Some folk prefer the former and others the latter.

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay


"I used to be massively insecure about my looks and size. When I first joined Fab I looked at the most fabbed pics and my heart sank as all the girls were skinny, stunning and had huge tits. I felt a bit like I would never get any meets, as I'm 'sturdy' (as my dad would say) and have the opposite of a 6-pack. And I felt like pretty much everyone was out of my league.

Fast forward to now, and also I still am insecure, I'm not nearly as bad. I have met some amazing people, some for one off meets and some who I'm in constant contact with, and have shown me that for a good number of people, it's not just about looks, or body shape, or whatever, it's about more than that.

Yes, there are people who I would definitely class as out of my league, but I would still drop them a wink to say hi, whereas 3 months ago, no chance! "

Well, I will publicly vouch that I think you have nothing to be insecure about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often look at some of the ripped fit guys on here and think oooft they're way outta my league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone is out of my league. Physically or Mentally. I and definetly not bigheaded, its just the way I perceive it.

I don't say the person in question will say the same when they view me, They might think I am out of my league. if anyone thinks they are too good for you or you are no way near their league then I suggest they are shallow minded and you are dodging a bullet, not contacting them.

I know what I was like when I was younger and even now hot younger ones who thought 'naww, he's no chance with me', once they chat and met me then they have a way different attitude.

I have met some absolute beautiful, stunning people on here, some have been stunning inside as well as outside, some have not. Once you meet anyone, your whole perception will change, so if you think you are out of someone's league then you may never know unless you meet them.

ffs I've just had a thousand couples and girls block me thinking, 'he's not in our league'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if I'm in anyone's league or if I'm just to good for everyone

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago."

Sorry but I didn't see it. It just came rom a conversation I had with a friend. But thank you for pointing out my ineptitude for not searching before posting! Wish we were all as perfect.

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Thanks for the responses. Great replies.

I do try and encourage people to meet up to see if they click regardless of perceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago.

Sorry but I didn't see it. It just came rom a conversation I had with a friend. But thank you for pointing out my ineptitude for not searching before posting! Wish we were all as perfect. "

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By *ootall2920Man
over a year ago

Linlithgow

I see a lot of attractive women and guys on here, I do tend to think that they are out of my league so won't approach.

However, my tastes are about personalities rather than looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't we have this last week?

I never seen it last week. Suppose it's going to happen that sometimes threads are repeated. No biggie!

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/653071#message_13815810

Last post only 6 days ago.

Sorry but I didn't see it. It just came rom a conversation I had with a friend. But thank you for pointing out my ineptitude for not searching before posting! Wish we were all as perfect. "

Ah hahahahahahahahahaha!!!

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I see a lot of attractive women and guys on here, I do tend to think that they are out of my league so won't approach.

However, my tastes are about personalities rather than looks."

You won't know what their personalities are like if you don't meet them. Take that leap of faith and message someone who you consider to be out of your league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women are out of my league lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Nessarosa writing)

I think sometimes we scare people and they make pre-judgments on us.

(Thats okay, we don't want to meet them anyway...hee hee)

We would hope that No one would consider us out of their league.

We are quite relaxed and "normal".

So out of our league.... im not to sure how self conscious I would feel next to a lovely thin female with beautiful breasts and no stretch marks.... out of my league no, would I want to play on the same pitch... doubtful.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From a conversation with a friend who said that someone was 'out of their league' it made me wonder why people should think that.

My response was that if there's an attraction then it doesn't matter.

Do you consider anyone to be 'out of your league' and if so why?"

Most couples and women on Fab seem to believe I'm out of their league. Which is a shame, because if any of them gave me the time of day on here.. they'd find out I'm in a League of my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From a conversation with a friend who said that someone was 'out of their league' it made me wonder why people should think that.

My response was that if there's an attraction then it doesn't matter.

Do you consider anyone to be 'out of your league' and if so why?

Most couples and women on Fab seem to believe I'm out of their league. Which is a shame, because if any of them gave me the time of day on here.. they'd find out I'm in a League of my own.

No disrespect bud but that statement probably pissed of most couples and females so they won't give you time of day "

I read it as very tongue in cheek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From a conversation with a friend who said that someone was 'out of their league' it made me wonder why people should think that.

My response was that if there's an attraction then it doesn't matter.

Do you consider anyone to be 'out of your league' and if so why?

Most couples and women on Fab seem to believe I'm out of their league. Which is a shame, because if any of them gave me the time of day on here.. they'd find out I'm in a League of my own.

No disrespect bud but that statement probably pissed of most couples and females so they won't give you time of day

I read it as very tongue in cheek."

I read it so wrong so deleted

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"From a conversation with a friend who said that someone was 'out of their league' it made me wonder why people should think that.

My response was that if there's an attraction then it doesn't matter.

Do you consider anyone to be 'out of your league' and if so why?

Most couples and women on Fab seem to believe I'm out of their league. Which is a shame, because if any of them gave me the time of day on here.. they'd find out I'm in a League of my own.

No disrespect bud but that statement probably pissed of most couples and females so they won't give you time of day

I read it as very tongue in cheek.

I read it so wrong so deleted "

We can behave like adults after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can talk about leagues on here but got to realise FAB and the outside world are different playing fields. I get practically no replies to any messages on here, yet when out in town at weekends I get much more interaction with females and attention from them

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By *lasgownewbies6266Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Would never consider anyone out of my league I'm not that arrogant

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Can talk about leagues on here but got to realise FAB and the outside world are different playing fields. I get practically no replies to any messages on here, yet when out in town at weekends I get much more interaction with females and attention from them "

Opposite for me. I rarely if ever get chatted up on a night out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can talk about leagues on here but got to realise FAB and the outside world are different playing fields. I get practically no replies to any messages on here, yet when out in town at weekends I get much more interaction with females and attention from them

Opposite for me. I rarely if ever get chatted up on a night out. "

Like I say, FAB and the outside world are two different playing fields

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can talk about leagues on here but got to realise FAB and the outside world are different playing fields. I get practically no replies to any messages on here, yet when out in town at weekends I get much more interaction with females and attention from them

Opposite for me. I rarely if ever get chatted up on a night out.

Like I say, FAB and the outside world are two different playing fields"

That's correct. Of course they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say "
och weesht you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say och weesht you "

how many times you knocked me back now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say "

You are at it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say "

Conversely I probably wouldn't meet you (or others with a similar physique ) as I would consider you out of my league and therefore think it was a case of a any holes a goal approach, and I try to avoid them at all costs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say

Conversely I probably wouldn't meet you (or others with a similar physique ) as I would consider you out of my league and therefore think it was a case of a any holes a goal approach, and I try to avoid them at all costs

"

I definitely don't have the attitude that any holes a goal, I need an attraction there to be into it enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say

You are at it lol "

I wish I was kidding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I am not the most aesthetically pleasing guy ive always had to rely on my personality and As long as I can get it across to people I dont get disheartend if im not someone's cup of tea as we all need a certain level of physical attraction at a very basic anamalistic level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the fear of being rejected or judged on not good looking enough or not the right body shape in comparison to some of our fellow fabbers. We honestly see people from the inside (so to speak) if they have a good soul we will always connect with them no matter what they look like.We have luckily so far met some really great people in and out of bedroom since we joined fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the fear of being rejected or judged on not good looking enough or not the right body shape in comparison to some of our fellow fabbers. We honestly see people from the inside (so to speak) if they have a good soul we will always connect with them no matter what they look like.We have luckily so far met some really great people in and out of bedroom since we joined fab. "

I sometimes wonder wether having a decent body actually works against me and whether I would have much more success with just an ok body with less muscle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here probably... but elsewhere surely it attracts people who like that and then you would be more likely to be with someone with similar interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite often see people as out of my league and I tend to avoid them for that reason even if they do show interest..what I see in myself and what others see isn't always the same but hey that's life..nothing wrong with a little perv though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the fear of being rejected or judged on not good looking enough or not the right body shape in comparison to some of our fellow fabbers. We honestly see people from the inside (so to speak) if they have a good soul we will always connect with them no matter what they look like.We have luckily so far met some really great people in and out of bedroom since we joined fab. "

Interesting point. My friend was on fab 5 years ago and just newly single again. Chatted to this guy who asked for her face pic. She sent it nervously to receive a rather curt message saying she had a "face like a well skelped arse". In floods of tears she deleted her profile and has never rejoined. I personally found that remark cruel and unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change nothing, you are a perfect specimen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the fear of being rejected or judged on not good looking enough or not the right body shape in comparison to some of our fellow fabbers. We honestly see people from the inside (so to speak) if they have a good soul we will always connect with them no matter what they look like.We have luckily so far met some really great people in and out of bedroom since we joined fab.

Interesting point. My friend was on fab 5 years ago and just newly single again. Chatted to this guy who asked for her face pic. She sent it nervously to receive a rather curt message saying she had a "face like a well skelped arse". In floods of tears she deleted her profile and has never rejoined. I personally found that remark cruel and unnecessary."

We only had one message like that from a couple whom we won't name as we're not that kind of people. We courteously said Hi to them as we found their profile to be quite nice and interesting. The reply we got reduced Katie to tears which really angered me. I don't mind that we will never be everyone's cup of tea but there is just no need to be rude to people. I think the message went along the lines of " we appreciate you think you have a chance with us but it's probably best you look in the mirror before messaging people as fit as us" it's been the only bad one we've had so far though so it never put us off thankfully as most people are lovely on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the fear of being rejected or judged on not good looking enough or not the right body shape in comparison to some of our fellow fabbers. We honestly see people from the inside (so to speak) if they have a good soul we will always connect with them no matter what they look like.We have luckily so far met some really great people in and out of bedroom since we joined fab.

Interesting point. My friend was on fab 5 years ago and just newly single again. Chatted to this guy who asked for her face pic. She sent it nervously to receive a rather curt message saying she had a "face like a well skelped arse". In floods of tears she deleted her profile and has never rejoined. I personally found that remark cruel and unnecessary.

We only had one message like that from a couple whom we won't name as we're not that kind of people. We courteously said Hi to them as we found their profile to be quite nice and interesting. The reply we got reduced Katie to tears which really angered me. I don't mind that we will never be everyone's cup of tea but there is just no need to be rude to people. I think the message went along the lines of " we appreciate you think you have a chance with us but it's probably best you look in the mirror before messaging people as fit as us" it's been the only bad one we've had so far though so it never put us off thankfully as most people are lovely on here"

Speaks volumes about the kind of people they were I would say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" My friend was on fab 5 years ago and just newly single again. Chatted to this guy who asked for her face pic. She sent it nervously to receive a rather curt message saying she had a "face like a well skelped arse". In floods of tears she deleted her profile and has never rejoined. I personally found that remark cruel and unnecessary."

That is beyond the joke. The only thing I can think to say about that, is it would be better to get no reply at all, than to be told that. I hope Karma gave him payback for it.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Can talk about leagues on here but got to realise FAB and the outside world are different playing fields. I get practically no replies to any messages on here, yet when out in town at weekends I get much more interaction with females and attention from them

Opposite for me. I rarely if ever get chatted up on a night out. "

Same here

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By *entonMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I thought I was for a long time... out of this league or out of that league... but not now!

It was only my insecurities and me putting my own limitations on situations.

I no longer do that, as am growing older, I am being much kinder on/with myself! And more open to the 'go with the flow and see what happens' philosophy.

In my opinion, because one is different, has this or that, it does not make them better or worse than anyone else.

Hope this makes sense

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Leagues" will exist as long as there are still people out there knocking back others and including nasty/ignorant messages (as shown in previous posts).

We always want a reason for something too, so those getting the KB's will ask why, and it's surely frustration that leads to the nasty comments? In that sorta situation it's best to say nothing, and if you're the one getting the KB, just move on.

Also people who think they're better than others don't help the situation.

Mandy

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

I know that I am out of some peoples league but that just how it goes, not much I can do about it.

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By *ockerMrBloggs6969Man
over a year ago

nr you but not too near

Not interested in leagues,if I see someone who looks good n sounds interesting I'll msg them

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Think on fab everyone is out of my league going by the responses I get, or lack of I should say "

Too young for me.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I think it often.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

There is league s if you believe there is no matter how many folk tell you there isnt.

if you believe it its your choice to live with that or change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not interested in leagues,if I see someone who looks good n sounds interesting I'll msg them"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im in the Fourth Division .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people I think I'd have no chance with so I don't even bother, that's probably a personal confidence thing, but what ya gonna do it's just life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people I think I'd have no chance with so I don't even bother, that's probably a personal confidence thing, but what ya gonna do it's just life "

Im the same as ya ..Thats my interpretation of "out of my league"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people I think I'd have no chance with so I don't even bother, that's probably a personal confidence thing, but what ya gonna do it's just life

Im the same as ya ..Thats my interpretation of "out of my league"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From a conversation with a friend who said that someone was 'out of their league' it made me wonder why people should think that.

My response was that if there's an attraction then it doesn't matter.

Do you consider anyone to be 'out of your league' and if so why?"

I tend to feel that everyone is out of my league. I feel I'm in some starter league that doesn't have a hope.

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By *alcon43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"From a conversation with a friend who said that someone was 'out of their league' it made me wonder why people should think that.

My response was that if there's an attraction then it doesn't matter.

Do you consider anyone to be 'out of your league' and if so why?

I tend to feel that everyone is out of my league. I feel I'm in some starter league that doesn't have a hope."

Just takes time to get established on here. Be positive. Put what your looking for in your profile. Go to socials.

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By *has like usMan
over a year ago

east kilbride

I certainly don't think anyone's out of my league, think a lot has to do with confidence ( and if you can take a decent selfie or not lol), and confidence ebbs and flows on a daily basis. If at first etc etc x

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