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By *gag001 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I always like to make an effort for a meet, even if it's just meeting for a quick introduction. It shouldn't just be down to the ladies to make all the effort, & first impressions do count.

R

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I make the effort just for a social, I expect the same in return

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By *pl 4 funCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Not hard to make an effort for a meet id say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tosser

Way back in the beginning myself n hubby met a cpl in town...she obviously just finished work...still had her I'd card round her neck the guy had a rugby jersey on with half his dinner down it..we left pretty soon then got a txt saying they had a great night without us ended up at a casino where they both got pissed and got thrown out...yeah sounded as if we missed a hoot

Dodged a bullet I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone should make an effort. Smart jeans and shirt with a shave and a bit of aftershave works wonders.

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

There are numpties everywhere.

I make an effort, it's part of the fun and makes me feel good. I also really appreciate how much effort she / they go to.

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By *acedinMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

That's shocking. Defo dodged a bullet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fud !

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"

You're a stunning looking lady Mrs A, guy needs a check up from the neck up for not making the effort.. his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet

Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?

Perhaps he is always very casual?

Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?

So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for

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By *gag001 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet

Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?

Perhaps he is always very casual?

Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?

So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for "

Totally.

However you don't come back like a petulant child in a sweetie shop when you're told you can't get the sweetie you wanted. Saying it's all rubbish and you didn't really want it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet

Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?

Perhaps he is always very casual?

Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?

So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for

Totally.

However you don't come back like a petulant child in a sweetie shop when you're told you can't get the sweetie you wanted. Saying it's all rubbish and you didn't really want it anyway. "

Definitely

I would see it as another 'filter'

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

There was another thread recently about how people like to dress.

Maybe if you got to know the guy, he could be suited/booted in work hours, but likes to dress casually otherwise. There's nothing wrong with that.

First impressions count, but that's why I prefer chatting first, get to know the personality, then who cares what they wear if we get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think smart casual is the way to go for a social meet... I certainly dont go in my best clobber or sexy underwear. I want to feel comfortable and relaxed.

If he likes me enough like that to want to take things further then he will like whats on offer in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wear gym gear much of the time and I always dress very much like thisfor social meets but never untidy.

Hotel meets I tend to dress up

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By *litter and GrumpCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Smart but casual I think ie jeans and a shirt and have a shave or tidy up as said first impressions last and told my pics are crap so I need to make a good impression lol

Grump

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Smart casual for social meets.

Hair & makeup always done for both social and playmeets.

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet

Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?

Perhaps he is always very casual?

Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?

So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for

Totally.

However you don't come back like a petulant child in a sweetie shop when you're told you can't get the sweetie you wanted. Saying it's all rubbish and you didn't really want it anyway. "

I have a question about the guy. During your chats prior to the social did you get any inkling that he was a joggers and t-shirt kinda guy? Was he better dressed in any of his pics?

I'm not questioning your judgment, just curious as he must've impressed enough in online/phone chat to warrant a social.

Some less intelligent guys put in the effort to get that all important first meet, thinking all they need to do is turn up and play, more to pitied than scorned. You may have been pissed about it for the rest of the evening, but in the morning you're fine, and he's still an ignorant tool

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By *lue4youCouple
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Having met you once at a social the guy in question was a total arsehole and made a total fuck up. But look on the bright side he made it an easy choice for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smart casual always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless he was Gerrard Butler,in pristine joggies and crisp tight white tee (*takes a steadying breath) and had charm, wit etc... then I agree with the forum opinion... you dodged a bullet... sometimes folk talk the talk but don't walk the walk.... put it down to a wtf/lol memory and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would always make an effort to dress smart for any type of meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't care what he was wearing. If the chat was shit I wouldn't go any further tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't care what he was wearing. If the chat was shit I wouldn't go any further tho x"

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Maybe they were his lucky joggers and baseball cap!

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By *izzymayWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I always dress to impress at any meet and expect the same in return...unless previously discussed x

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Maybe they were his lucky joggers and baseball cap! "

Not so lucky anymore!

We like our socials in a nice bar where anyone dressed like this guy would stand out for the wrong reasons.

For us a mutual attraction is necessary and first impressions count.

How this guy has reacted to the reject just confirms to us that you made absolutely the right decision, I'm sure it wasn't pleasant but far better to do that than go through with something you weren't convinced with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did they pick him did he give a different impression on here, if he has it does not say much for having pics on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless he was Gerrard Butler,in pristine joggies and crisp tight white tee (*takes a steadying breath) and had charm, wit etc... then I agree with the forum opinion... you dodged a bullet... sometimes folk talk the talk but don't walk the walk.... put it down to a wtf/lol memory and move on "

Can't say I remember that meet

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be serious

Joggers etc not my bag but it takes all sorts.

The attitude is the killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.

There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.

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By *gag001 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Thanks everyone for your comments. At least we're not the only ones to feel the way we did! K&A

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By *p4funduoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Just no!

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By *ero666Man
over a year ago

fife

It was still better than a balaclava and a raincoat

I must have looked a real state on mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always make an effort for anything we do regarding meets or socials. First impressions are very important. it goes all the way back to profiles. Crap profile and you get nil replies or interest.

Yes each to their own I agree but the question is why the hell wouldn't you dress to impress? It's supposed to be sexy and exciting. Surely that's what it's supposed to be about.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

By chance was it a younger guy the "rules" of decent attire are very diffrent across the generations. And for lots of folk the gym look is perfectly acceptable.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

People often go on the offensive when they've fkd up, looking at your pics, he must have realised he really fkd up

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By *p4funduoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"It was still better than a balaclava and a raincoat

I must have looked a real state on mine "

Haha! I think that sounds okay i do like a man in a balaclava

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

Surely getting dressed up is part of the fun . Even in guy mode I only feel sexy if I'm dressed smart xxxx

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By *gag001 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"By chance was it a younger guy the "rules" of decent attire are very diffrent across the generations. And for lots of folk the gym look is perfectly acceptable."
He wasn't much younger than us and what he was wearing looked like it could've done with being ditched a couple of years ago. I agree that 'casual and comfortable' is more than acceptable for meets but I don't think his clothes were either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"

Dress to impress.lol doesnt mean suited and booted , but atleast make an effort. Joggies and a t shirt!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.

There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.

"

I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they dont make the effort for u in getting ready then I would worry they wouldnt in the bedroom either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.

There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.

I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town!"

Tobe honest i think youd look god in anything.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"

YOU NEVER GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION.

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By *exmadscotMan
over a year ago

alloa

casual with my cap on backwards for social but my good jeans and my cap on properly for other meets I like impress and always take the lady a gift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.

There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.

I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town!

Tobe honest i think youd look god in anything.lol"

Xxx

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You mean I shouldn't wear my tigger onesie tonight?!?

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By *ero666Man
over a year ago

fife


"You mean I shouldn't wear my tigger onesie tonight?!? "

Only if you keep your ugg boots on

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"You mean I shouldn't wear my tigger onesie tonight?!?

Only if you keep your ugg boots on "

Oh I usually wear it with my crocs... they are better in Scottish weather I find...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally for me it's not what the person wears thats going to appeal to me its going to be there attitude towards me that would matter , but i fully understand where woman and couples who do go all out to look there best would maybe expect someone to dress to impress . P.S Even for a social i do dress ro impress and try to smell my best

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By *ero666Man
over a year ago

fife


"You mean I shouldn't wear my tigger onesie tonight?!?

Only if you keep your ugg boots on

Oh I usually wear it with my crocs... they are better in Scottish weather I find... "

Here's me thinking you would be more a white plastic open toed sandle type person

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By *e_frenchMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"

Having met you once I can all two things:

1-you're both friendlly and very courteous and very elegant. Mrs is divine wearing high heels and the nicest nylon on her delicious legs.

2-you are down to earth and not like these snobby couples thinking that single men are animals. You always give a chance to people.

Shame for that guy I think he missed a great time!

I have uploaded my profile picture in dedication to that amazing moment we spent that evening

Xxx

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"casual with my cap on backwards for social but my good jeans and my cap on properly for other meets I like impress and always take the lady a gift"

don't like caps especially on backwards!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I could almost forgive the outfit. Cap, definitely not.

Who does he think he's doing a favour? You chose to meet him out of 100's of other guys. He's the one that should feel honoured.

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By *exmadscotMan
over a year ago

alloa


"I could almost forgive the outfit. Cap, definitely not.

Who does he think he's doing a favour? You chose to meet him out of 100's of other guys. He's the one that should feel honoured.

"

I'm rarely without my cap, well except when I'm on the job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sakes.. I don't even own such clothes.. Always make the effort smart is good.. Gotta make em want you after all! Can tell a lot by folks shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I'm not a judgmental or cruel person & I realise not everyone has the money to go out & buy nice clothes I wouldn't care if a meet showed up in her pyjamas with no make up on, just seen as it's more about the person, maybe if I could have sex with clothing I'd be like most of you but that's no possible so al just carry on accepting people for who they are and not what they wear

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Sakes.. I don't even own such clothes.. Always make the effort smart is good.. Gotta make em want you after all! Can tell a lot by folks shoes "

I like to see a man in nice polished shoes, unless he's barefoot, don't like to see that at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in the good old days when I did get meetings I always showered shaved nice aftershave and smart casual.

Anything less and I would have felt I was insulting the other person / couple as if they made the effort to meet me at least I should be presentable.

What is wrong with a bit of effort.

That is why guys struggle on Fab esp after dishing out the unwarranted abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a twat.. Im always immaculately turned out for any kind of date.. Expecting folk to get naked ye gotta bring your a game!! joggers onsies trainers tee shirts hoodies.. Boak..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So disrespectful and to give you cheek is worse, we always make a effort and try look out best . It's not hard hope it doesn't put you off . Sam and Dave xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always be smart casual!! You only get one chance 2 make a good 1st impression

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Goes without saying, smart casual???

Although, i have been greeted at the door with a woman in her PJs.. And i was in mine too (last minute plan)

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

First impressions are always the most important. I make a point of dressing well (smart/casual) and smelling well fir all of my first meets and certainly appreciate it when its reciprocated.

I'm sure most people want to please and like to be pleased in turn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"

Well I think that's the whole purpose of a social - first impressions count. Throwing his toys out of the pram - well two strikes then. It's a disappointment but at least you didn't have to turn him away at the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's got to at least be jeans for a first meet

Won't lie though I have went to meet someone wearing joggers but in my defence I told them I wasn't at home and asked if they minded first, wouldn't just turn up giving the impression I didn't care what they though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the very least be clean, smell nice and don’t look like you’ve just fallen out of bed or off the couch. Not difficult!

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Geez so disrespectful. As to the comment about "not everyone can afford nice clothes" I'm on a very tight budget, think all my meets, even if we've not gone on to have fun, would agree I'm always clean and tidy and well turned out. Clean smart jeans and t-shirt, good personal hygiene - absolute basics.

Also not a fan of baseball caps especially on older chaps, just looks like they're trying to look younger than they are or cover hair loss (which in my opinion isn't necessary).

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By *xplorer13Man
over a year ago

glenrothes


"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.

There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.

I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town!"

I don't think having a social with a lady wearing gym gear would do it for me at all. Unless you have just come out of the gym but then I wouldn't want to meet a sweaty person.

I play 5 aside football but I would never turn up for a meet in shorts and footie too. You only get one chance at a first impression and remember a social is like an interview, your selling yourself. Smart fresh and smelling lovely is the way for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is some people just don’t have standards. Whether the meet is purely social or perhaps fun then I will always make an effort and dress well for the occasion. You only get one opportunity to create a first impression. Cleanliness is essential for me. I would never take a meet further if the lady or couple had not made an effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The truth is some people just don’t have standards. Whether the meet is purely social or perhaps fun then I will always make an effort and dress well for the occasion. You only get one opportunity to create a first impression. Cleanliness is essential for me. I would never take a meet further if the lady or couple had not made an effort "

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I always try and look my best when meeting anyone and dress appropriately depending on where we're meeting and Id expect a little effort too from my meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always try and look my best when meeting anyone and dress appropriately depending on where we're meeting and Id expect a little effort too from my meet "

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I always try and look my best when meeting anyone and dress appropriately depending on where we're meeting and Id expect a little effort too from my meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make the effort no matter what kind of meet it is. It's always lovely when the man looks at you in appreciation. Means he likes what he sees x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Acceptable attire, at any time (for ladies) = suspender belt, sussies and heels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Acceptable attire, at any time (for ladies) = suspender belt, sussies and heels "

Definitely

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