FabSwingers.com forum: Veris - can you ever get it right?

By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Always such a confidence booster, to receive a verification how much fun someone's had with you and how they've enjoyed your company. And that in real life you look even better than in the pictures (been said a few times, but why don't they put something like that in a veri, that would be a fantastic compliment). But it can also very much make me doubt myself.

Personally I don't go into much detail of what we were up to. What exactly happens stays between me and my date (or possibly in one of my blogs on another site, obviously with permission of the people involved). I make sure to not make any of my dates get the impression I had more fun with someone else. What's going through someone's mind, if they don't put my veri on their profile? Did I put down the wrong things?

Or, for example, if someone leaves me a veri and it's to the point and even a little bit impersonal. While the next veri he leaves for someone else makes it sound like they had waaaay more fun. Damn, thought we had an amazing afternoon. Guess not then... Or maybe he's being polite, or maybe he thinks I gave him a shite veri.

So need your opinions. What's good, what isn't good to put in a verification. Do people want explicit details in there? Is that where I go wrong? Would you differentiate the people you had most fun with in the veris you leave behind? Making the other people you met with feel slightly unworthy and they'd probably not meet you again.

Love to hear from as many of you as possible x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I don't go into details in a veri as I don't like graphic veris. I write a little about having a great time, like to put a little cheek into it, and enjoy getting veris like that too. Something that makes me smile when I read it

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I don't go into details in a veri as I don't like graphic veris. I write a little about having a great time, like to put a little cheek into it, and enjoy getting veris like that too. Something that makes me smile when I read it

They're the good ones! The ones that put a smile on your face. Just hope mine do the same for the people who left me one of those x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

They're the good ones! The ones that put a smile on your face. Just hope mine do the same for the people who left me one of those x"

Me too

And I like reading those between others as it makes me think 'here's someone I can get along with'

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

They're the good ones! The ones that put a smile on your face. Just hope mine do the same for the people who left me one of those x

Me too

And I like reading those between others as it makes me think 'here's someone I can get along with'

And that's where I went wrong, feeling like I'm lesser than someone else. Which I'm not

Not saying I'm better than anyone else either mind! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate graphic veris

And always seems weird when it's a hubby speaking about his wife with someone else (why dosnt she write it?

If I receive 1 great thanks if I don't I don't lose any sleep over it

I usually show it the day I receive it ..as a cheers for it but then I hide all mine

Nobody else's buisness who Iv met

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I'd like to think I give good veris

But they're always only social. I just don't do play veris as it's no one else's business

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By *awty40_xxWoman
over a year ago

north lanarkshire

For me a veri means your real and of the sex you state you are thats all... on a previous profile i had a very graphic verification which actually put me off the guy who gave me it

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

I'll be reading all your veris now btw (if you're showing them on your profile obviously). And probably your veris' veris

Just hope I have never made anyone feel bad with a veri I left, or made it too impersonal.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

I thought they were a badge of honour lol among swingers, time to get hiding

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I thought they were a badge of honour lol among swingers, time to get hiding

Badge of honour... I've seen some where that would actually apply quite nicely x

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I hate graphic veris

And always seems weird when it's a hubby speaking about his wife with someone else (why dosnt she write it?

If I receive 1 great thanks if I don't I don't lose any sleep over it

I usually show it the day I receive it ..as a cheers for it but then I hide all mine

Nobody else's buisness who Iv met "

And in all honesty, I should stop snooping about too much as well. Not really my business who my date was with after me. But couldn't help myself!!

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Should have a little humour in them for me, after all Fab is only a bit of fun

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"For me a veri means your real and of the sex you state you are thats all... on a previous profile i had a very graphic verification which actually put me off the guy who gave me it"

That's exactly what they're meant to be like in my opinion! To confirm someone is real and good company.

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Should have a little humour in them for me, after all Fab is only a bit of fun

Fab is a whole lot of fun!!

Having such a fantastic time with people I met through here. Very much makes up for the occasional time it makes you feel not so good, which is really very sporadic and usually because of these blasted veris.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"Should have a little humour in them for me, after all Fab is only a bit of fun

Fab is a whole lot of fun!!

Your veris look good to me, you could do with one more though

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Veris dont mean a lot to me if I get one good if I dont no problem.

All Im interested in is that we've had a good time no need to let anyone else know about it and I aint interested in whos meeting who either

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Should have a little humour in them for me, after all Fab is only a bit of fun

Fab is a whole lot of fun!!

Your veris look good to me, you could do with one more though

That's because the one or 2 (maybe even 3) in question aren't on my profile. Nobody will make me look lesser than someone else on here, so won't be advertising them

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"Should have a little humour in them for me, after all Fab is only a bit of fun

Fab is a whole lot of fun!!

Your veris look good to me, you could do with one more though

That's because the one or 2 (maybe even 3) in question aren't on my profile. Nobody will make me look lesser than someone else on here, so won't be advertising them

I'm sure no one would be disappointed lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although...

Some veris can put me off meeting certain guys lol

Just saying

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By *onderful 13Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh/Dunfermline

"Should have a little humour in them for me, after all Fab is only a bit of fun

Fab is a whole lot of fun!!

Fab is a whole lot of fun I agree. I also think the. Verification process should be used as a guide to how a person treats you socially during the meet (even if it's a play meet), rather than the minutiae of the sexual content. That way it's function is to inform any future meet for safety and social reasons. Sexually our likes and dislikes are so varied... though it's true we all like a wee look at what other people are up to, and I rely to a certain extent on verifications in trying to make initial judgement tbh.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"Although...

Some veris can put me off meeting certain guys lol

Just saying

Got any tips lol, yes tips

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Should have a little humour in them for me, after all Fab is only a bit of fun

Fab is a whole lot of fun!!

They do sometimes tell a lot about a person. And often very helpful to figure out you'll possibly get on well, or you're into totally different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although...

Some veris can put me off meeting certain guys lol

Just saying

Got any tips lol, yes tips

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who where and why

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Although...

Some veris can put me off meeting certain guys lol

Just saying

Got any tips lol, yes tips

who where and why

As long as it wasn't yourself, it's all good

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"Although...

Some veris can put me off meeting certain guys lol

Just saying

Got any tips lol, yes tips

who where and why

As long as it wasn't yourself, it's all good

There are some on here that would if they could, self love

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I'd like to think I give good veris

But they're always only social. I just don't do play veris as it's no one else's business

Your veris are fantastic. Will put anyone's mind at ease before even meeting you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people get confused between a verification and a review it's fab after all not what car

Verification means establish the validity or truth of someone which in turn gives others confidence in that person.

Nobody wants to hear what two people got upto between the sheets I firmly believe if it was that good the two people involved will remember it!

Definitely doesn't need documenting

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I think some people get confused between a verification and a review it's fab after all not what car

Verification means establish the validity or truth of someone which in turn gives others confidence in that person.

Nobody wants to hear what two people got upto between the sheets I firmly believe if it was that good the two people involved will remember it!

Definitely doesn't need documenting

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Agreed

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I think some people get confused between a verification and a review it's fab after all not what car

Verification means establish the validity or truth of someone which in turn gives others confidence in that person.

Nobody wants to hear what two people got upto between the sheets I firmly believe if it was that good the two people involved will remember it!

Definitely doesn't need documenting

It does feel like a review sometimes. And it's definitely not meant to be like that. Lots of people seem to like them more detailed and I don't mind, each to their own, but they're just not for me x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

When I give veris they vary from just confirming they are real, to a flattering and complimentary verification if it's deserved. I never give details of playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take much heed with verifications tbh. Although I must say some of the more explicit ones put me right off

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I just don't think I'm very good at writing things so I try to keep mine short and sharp and definitely to the point x

I freeze up when I try to put stuff like that into words.

I'm not going to enter into the world of erotic fiction any time soon, put it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like graphic Verifications and ask my meets to omit some intimate details! I have had a few very intimate Verifications which I prefer not to display

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate graphic veris

And always seems weird when it's a hubby speaking about his wife with someone else (why dosnt she write it?

If I receive 1 great thanks if I don't I don't lose any sleep over it

I usually show it the day I receive it ..as a cheers for it but then I hide all mine

Nobody else's buisness who Iv met "

Agreed on all of this ESPECIALLY the hubby speaking about his wife thing.

Verifications are strange... we all want to know the person is genuine... also they can support an initial feeling about someone you're chatting to (or not)... they can also be totally misleading...

I've been here a while (despite my apparent newness) and it's good to be verified in that there's an affirmation you're real and also in terms of freedom on the site BUT mostly... keep your spidey sense on high and have good filters lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like graphic veri's, but it does make you smile when you get a veri where you can see they have put some time and effort into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate graphic verifications and wouldn't display one. Social ones are fine though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only do "social" veris

Playtime is private

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I ask folk not to verify me simply not needed after first.

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I don't like graphic veri's, but it does make you smile when you get a veri where you can see they have put some time and effort into it."

Bit of effort definitely appreciated. And not just with veris

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

In all honesty, more detailed ones are ok with me. Like someone mentioned earlier, my date has put effort into it. And sometimes even gets me all horny on again reading about it. But I am keeping those for myself and would never display them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

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veris dont have to be positive or should there be a thumbs up thumbs down system lol

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

veris dont have to be positive or should there be a thumbs up thumbs down system lol "

Lol

I can see the abuse of that system!

He's grumpy on the forum... you get a thumb down

She said that he said that... you get a thumb down!

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

veris dont have to be positive or should there be a thumbs up thumbs down system lol

Lol

I can see the abuse of that system!

He's grumpy on the forum... you get a thumb down

She said that he said that... you get a thumb down!

"
damn my masterplan blown to bits max why so cynical.

have you not witnessed first hand the love and positivity that flows through the forums

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

veris dont have to be positive or should there be a thumbs up thumbs down system lol

Lol

I can see the abuse of that system!

He's grumpy on the forum... you get a thumb down

She said that he said that... you get a thumb down!

damn my masterplan blown to bits max why so cynical.

have you not witnessed first hand the love and positivity that flows through the forums

Hey, I'm cool with being called a 'grumpy, miserable, time wasting git'

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

"Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

veris dont have to be positive or should there be a thumbs up thumbs down system lol

Lol

I can see the abuse of that system!

He's grumpy on the forum... you get a thumb down

She said that he said that... you get a thumb down!

damn my masterplan blown to bits max why so cynical.

have you not witnessed first hand the love and positivity that flows through the forums

Hey, I'm cool with being called a short hairy 'grumpy, miserable, time wasting git'

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By *ringles0510 OP Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

veris dont have to be positive or should there be a thumbs up thumbs down system lol

Lol

I can see the abuse of that system!

He's grumpy on the forum... you get a thumb down

She said that he said that... you get a thumb down!

I replied with a polite and friendly "sorry you're not what I'm looking for". Didn't block the person. Thumbs down for me!!!

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"Along with veri's a negative feedback system could also be useful

veris dont have to be positive or should there be a thumbs up thumbs down system lol

Lol

I can see the abuse of that system!

He's grumpy on the forum... you get a thumb down

She said that he said that... you get a thumb down!

I replied with a polite and friendly "sorry you're not what I'm looking for". Didn't block the person. Thumbs down for me!!!

Could be worse, they could have blocked you afterwards

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