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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've bn on here for a while, nd we arent gettin anywhere at all, we're very shy but r looking for some chat possibly leading to more in future? But it's nearly impossible to getta convo goin wae u ladies haha u see ppl sayin come say hi, send me a pic 1st, or no reply haha! But we're jus not to sure bout doin that jus yet?! Expesh when the person that is asking for a pic doesn't have 1 themselves lol anyway any advice would b much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone that has been around a while

Not many straight chicks are willing to meet a cpl just so the guy can get his rocks off I'm afraid

And saying your both really shy...bit off putting also

Sorry if I'm being blunt

But hey you never know

Good luck in your search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most couple on here are looking for single girls.

I tend to look at a profile before opening a message and deciding if I'm interested to try making that stand out, its your shop window afterall x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone that has been around a while

Not many straight chicks are willing to meet a cpl just so the guy can get his rocks off I'm afraid

And saying your both really shy...bit off putting also

Sorry if I'm being blunt

But hey you never know

Good luck in your search "

Oh I didn't even notice that. I wouldn't even consider meeting a straight couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah ok thanx for ur advice...whether it's blunt or not haha gives us a better understanding nd I suppose we're being honest on the shy side! But it's defo not so the bf can get his rocks off...so ppl r jus goin to assume b4 there's any chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if you state on your profile the chick is straight..yes?

Maybe if your thinking about being with another woman change your profile to bi curious? But only if the female wants that?

Females on here can spot a fake bi lady from 100 yards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile make it out that any prospective girl would need to work hard with you both... and we all know the girls do no leg work whatsoever on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well if you state on your profile the chick is straight..yes?

Maybe if your thinking about being with another woman change your profile to bi curious? But only if the female wants that?

Females on here can spot a fake bi lady from 100 yards lol"

Again that's good advice...thanx it's much appreciated nd take the bluntness on board haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single female who is interested in meeting couples I wouldn't pay much attention to your profile for the following reasons:

*straight couples tend to want a single female so the male can be spoiled for attention and play with both women, I prefer threesomes to involve all three so I would be put off.

*your profile has 2 pictures, no pictures of the male other than a cock and I need more than that to be interested in someone.

*your profile comes across as you would both need a lot of coaxing and effort. While I don't expect to meet people without a little effort, I'm not here to try and encourage others into meeting. If you're hesitant try socials as a toe in the water before looking for meets.

Basically there is nothing on your profile that attracts single women, when you're competing with lots of other couples who's profiles are much better.

Sorry to be blunt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile make it out that any prospective girl would need to work hard with you both... and we all know the girls do no leg work whatsoever on here"

Ah does it lol need to sort that out...it was a bit rushed tbh lol nd will prob answer a lot nd ur ryt bout the woman lol cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would definitely agree with the above about going to a Social...they are a great way of meeting people with no pressure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a single female who is interested in meeting couples I wouldn't pay much attention to your profile for the following reasons:

*straight couples tend to want a single female so the male can be spoiled for attention and play with both women, I prefer threesomes to involve all three so I would be put off.

*your profile has 2 pictures, no pictures of the male other than a cock and I need more than that to be interested in someone.

*your profile comes across as you would both need a lot of coaxing and effort. While I don't expect to meet people without a little effort, I'm not here to try and encourage others into meeting. If you're hesitant try socials as a toe in the water before looking for meets.

Basically there is nothing on your profile that attracts single women, when you're competing with lots of other couples who's profiles are much better.

Sorry to be blunt

"

No not at all...ur bluntness is much appreciated nd thanx again...yeah we r shy nd didn't realise that the honesty in that wld scare ppl away nd ppl wld defo not b forcing us into it...we understand bout it looking like the guy wanting his cake nd eat, that is way off the truth haha! So maybe we'll need to scrap our profile txt nd have a think nd re edit it...thanx again

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I agree with busty. And it just so happens there's a social in Dundee on Saturday, good way to meet a load of people at once and break the ice

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

A little more bluntness for you....... at some point the fem was straight. now it would seem shes a screaming full on bisexual. no idea if true or hoop jumping if its the latter this thread kinda grasses you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A little more bluntness for you....... at some point the fem was straight. now it would seem shes a screaming full on bisexual. no idea if true or hoop jumping if its the latter this thread kinda grasses you up "

That's some leap lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with busty. And it just so happens there's a social in Dundee on Saturday, good way to meet a load of people at once and break the ice "

Lol nd that's our down fall, cannae getta babysitter haha...ach I think we'll need to evaluate nd thanx again

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I agree with busty. And it just so happens there's a social in Dundee on Saturday, good way to meet a load of people at once and break the ice

Lol nd that's our down fall, cannae getta babysitter haha...ach I think we'll need to evaluate nd thanx again"

Failing that there's another one in Aberdeen on 8th Jul

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

Single ladies are the holy grail on Fab its tough enough to get a couple these days .

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

OP, as a single guy I am not what you're looking for and that's great.

But, as someone who has been here 'a while' try and cut the text speak down as it puts quite a lot of people off I'm afraid.

Please don't take it as personal criticism as it's not meant like that, I'm just trying to help you improve your chances on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single ladies are the holy grail on Fab its tough enough to get a couple these days ."

Think that single ladies must get overwhelmed on Fab by the volume of messages as a lot of then have to hide their profiles. Having seen some of the garbage that passes as communication on here from members of all sexes its little wonder that the "elusive" single female is so reluctant to "play" a lot of the time. Would put you off sex for life lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, as a single guy I am not what you're looking for and that's great.

But, as someone who has been here 'a while' try and cut the text speak down as it puts quite a lot of people off I'm afraid.

Please don't take it as personal criticism as it's not meant like that, I'm just trying to help you improve your chances on fab "

No not takin it personal...constructive criticism is jus as good nd take all advise on board...as I said above somewhere lol think we'll need to wipe our profile txt when we get around to it nd word it all diff ??

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"OP, as a single guy I am not what you're looking for and that's great.

But, as someone who has been here 'a while' try and cut the text speak down as it puts quite a lot of people off I'm afraid.

Please don't take it as personal criticism as it's not meant like that, I'm just trying to help you improve your chances on fab

No not takin it personal...constructive criticism is jus as good nd take all advise on board...as I said above somewhere lol think we'll need to wipe our profile txt when we get around to it nd word it all diff ?? "

Hmmm....only advice is to be yourselves. And as someone already pointed out, your profile is your shop window. If it looks inviting you'll get more of a positive response.

As for pics, sometimes less is more.....but as it's a couples profile you both need to be visible to attract people. Maybe the good lady could pick some nice boxers for the hubby and give a hint of what's there. And vice versa, if he picked some underwear out he finds the wife sexy in, then wear that.

Just a couple of thoughts

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


"Your profile make it out that any prospective girl would need to work hard with you both... and we all know the girls do no leg work whatsoever on here"

Can't believe you got away with that, no comebacks or snide remarks. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know shots were fired for some light hearted banter seems the novelty of the class clown has worn off

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By *heekyguy2Man
over a year ago

Local


"Your profile make it out that any prospective girl would need to work hard with you both... and we all know the girls do no leg work whatsoever on here

Can't believe you got away with that, no comebacks or snide remarks. Lol"

Lmao!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would like to say thank u all for the advice nd we've decided this jus isn't for us! To much time nd effort that we don't have! Nd to much thought needs to go into everything on here lol tc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What puts me off with a few couples is that after exchanging messages I have felt that they were seeking a single female as a free sex toy or to provide the entertainment for hubby.

I am not on fab for either so politely decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What puts me off with a few couples is that after exchanging messages I have felt that they were seeking a single female as a free sex toy or to provide the entertainment for hubby.

I am not on fab for either so politely decline."

Sorry I may add that it should read 'mere sex toy', ha ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What puts me off with a few couples is that after exchanging messages I have felt that they were seeking a single female as a free sex toy or to provide the entertainment for hubby.

I am not on fab for either so politely decline.

Sorry I may add that it should read 'mere sex toy', ha ha!"

The first wasn't wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would like to say thank u all for the advice nd we've decided this jus isn't for us! To much time nd effort that we don't have! Nd to much thought needs to go into everything on here lol tc "

Yw...ttfn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much effort? Did Tey expect single women to throw themselves at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw the biggest thing they did wrong was leave i reckon! No hope now

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Maybe their use of text/shorthand speech sums up their lack of patience!!

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay


"Too much effort? Did Tey expect single women to throw themselves at them "

Of course not, the women are too busy throwing themselves at all the single men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aw the biggest thing they did wrong was leave i reckon! No hope now "

They'll be back... (said in Big Arnie voice )

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"What puts me off with a few couples is that after exchanging messages I have felt that they were seeking a single female as a free sex toy or to provide the entertainment for hubby.

I am not on fab for either so politely decline.

Sorry I may add that it should read 'mere sex toy', ha ha!

The first wasn't wrong... "

Agreed

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