FabSwingers.com forum: Dodgy statuses

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just seen a really dodgy status implying unconsensual sex.

This is in my opinion not a dom/sub relationship.

Does anyone else think the wannabe doms on here need educated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys on here confuse being an asshole with being a Dom.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah there's a few in particular who do it regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of guys on here confuse being an asshole with being a Dom.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"A lot of guys on here confuse being an asshole with being a Dom.

Haha that made me laugh

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just seen a really dodgy status implying unconsensual sex.

This is in my opinion not a dom/sub relationship.

Does anyone else think the wannabe doms on here need educated?"

Without a doubt there are many on here who seem to have absolutely no idea what being a 'Dom' is. As to whether they can be educated, that all depends on whether they can be persuaded to think with their big heads instead of their little ones!

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By *inUpGirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Seen this aswell very unnerving.

That goes way past being dom n sub if its not consensual in my eyes its sexual assult x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just seen a really dodgy status implying unconsensual sex.

This is in my opinion not a dom/sub relationship.

Does anyone else think the wannabe doms on here need educated?

The ones I've seen I doubt that. They think being a dom is about abusing a partner. It's really quite pathetic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seen this aswell very unnerving.

That goes way past being dom n sub if its not consensual in my eyes its sexual assult x"

Exactly what I thought x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non consensual sex is r@&e, plain and simple. In our opinion the worst thing that has happened in the past 10 years with regards to BDSM is 50 Shades of Gray as it has led countless giys who havent the first notion about Sub/Dom relationships to run out buy a flogger,ball gag and restraints and abuse women disguising it as BDSM. Utter morons!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Non consensual sex is r@&e, plain and simple. In our opinion the worst thing that has happened in the past 10 years with regards to BDSM is 50 Shades of Gray as it has led countless giys who havent the first notion about Sub/Dom relationships to run out buy a flogger,ball gag and restraints and abuse women disguising it as BDSM. Utter morons!! "

Unfortunately it's rife just now. See the same guys with a different couples profile every few months. Just smacks of using, abusing then dropping them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I risk offending which isn't my intention but in my experience it seems to me to more a male dom thing.

Many seem to see rough, abusive sex as bdsm when in reality its using that scene and title as an excuse to take advantage.

I'm domme and I still get messages from men wanting to take control of me and even sell me to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really get the whole dom/sub side to be honest yet, but as for the male species it was a genetic defect we were all born with called arseholitis and only a select few of us actually grow out it.

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By *ngelkDevilCouple
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Seen this status and absolutely not right at all.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I have no intrest in dom/domme sub relationships for myself though I do find the topic intresting. So my perspective is it takes alot of trust in both parties which means it req a bit of time to be spent with both parties.......that being said if folk are meeting with "wannabe mr grays" the blame for any badness imo falls on both parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off topic but I've had a few requests for racial abuse play.

Not my thing at all !

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

"Off topic but I've had a few requests for racial abuse play.

Not my thing at all !"

How's that work? You as the Domme?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saw the status too (if it's who I think it is, it's gone now) and when I saw it I just shook my head.

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

There are a couple of truly vile people on here who seem to mix up being Dominant with being manipulative, rude, obnoxious and completely clueless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen this aswell very unnerving.

That goes way past being dom n sub if its not consensual in my eyes its sexual assult x"

Absolutely agree x

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By *eeBexxWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

I've came across a few dodgy statuses and requests on here. I do the usual report and leave it to admin but most times the status just gets removed and nothing more is done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just seen a really dodgy status implying unconsensual sex.

This is in my opinion not a dom/sub relationship.

Does anyone else think the wannabe doms on here need educated?"

Hope you reported it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following this thread with keen interest as most people who have met me know my feelings on wanna be dommes and arseholes who think it's all about causing pain and abusing the trust and position of power a submissive gifts to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's being a Dom and being an asshole.

Some guys just haven't a clue and I'm sure they are easy to spot or during a message you find out the truth.

You've just got to ask the right questions and see what the reply's are.

Me, I aint a Dom and never said I was but I deffo, when in the mood, you will do as I say, pretty please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea what being a dom.or for that matter being a sub entails ,yes you can roll your eyes and sat no one that naive, but in the true sense of being those things have no clue ,

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

interesting topic as it brings up so many grey areas .

i agree on the whole dom/sub thing so many with no real concept of whats involved other than 50 shades , so guys think being abusive and slapping them about a bit girls think it more a bit kinky and a wee slapped arse , surely its the responsibility of both parties to discuss boundaries and what they are after ? i seriously doubt this is easily arranged on a typical meet and would be something thats built on trust and understanding ?

obviously there should never ever be non consensual goings on , but i played with someone who wanted the r@#e role play , even her talking about it freaked me out as it was to thin a line for me to feel comfortable .

i tend to be physically dominant due to my size but as i was told the other day youll never mentally dominate , that sits fine with me as it keeps it a role to play rather than who i am .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

A true Dom doesn't advertise, he unders_ands the dynamics of the relationship and takes time to really get to know someone and their desires and finding what makes her tick. He takes control of her mind before her body.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay. "

ffs, don't give any guys a hint, they will still try their best to portray themselves as something they are not, lollll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay.

ffs, don't give any guys a hint, they will still try their best to portray themselves as something they are not, lollll

I thought that was law around here?

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

"Just seen a really dodgy status implying unconsensual sex.

This is in my opinion not a dom/sub relationship.

Does anyone else think the wannabe doms on here need educated?

Hope you reported it

I reported it and I know a few other people who did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay.

ffs, don't give any guys a hint, they will still try their best to portray themselves as something they are not, lollll

I thought that was law around here?

a hints a hint and some will still not get it lol

and some will try to use thinking they can get away saying their DOM

but the truth shall prevail.

common the avengers

lolllllllllll, feck, I need to take a break from these forums or watching the avengers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay.

ffs, don't give any guys a hint, they will still try their best to portray themselves as something they are not, lollll

I thought that was law around here?

a hints a hint and some will still not get it lol

and some will try to use thinking they can get away saying their DOM

but the truth shall prevail.

common the avengers

lolllllllllll, feck, I need to take a break from these forums or watching the avengers

Stop watching the avengers, Id miss your chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay.

ffs, don't give any guys a hint, they will still try their best to portray themselves as something they are not, lollll

I thought that was law around here?

a hints a hint and some will still not get it lol

and some will try to use thinking they can get away saying their DOM

but the truth shall prevail.

common the avengers

lolllllllllll, feck, I need to take a break from these forums or watching the avengers

Stop watching the avengers, Id miss your chat "

I canny, I get most of my quotes from iron man. he's the bomb, so ma EX says

lollllllll

feck, wit am I laughing for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay.

ffs, don't give any guys a hint, they will still try their best to portray themselves as something they are not, lollll

I thought that was law around here?

a hints a hint and some will still not get it lol

and some will try to use thinking they can get away saying their DOM

but the truth shall prevail.

common the avengers

lolllllllllll, feck, I need to take a break from these forums or watching the avengers

Stop watching the avengers, Id miss your chat

I canny, I get most of my quotes from iron man. he's the bomb, so ma EX says

lollllllll

feck, wit am I laughing for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any guy on here portrays himself as a "Dom" its an instant no from me.

Half the fun of a D/s relationship is in building the connection. If you go in saying this is my role and that's yours then that's just roleplay.

ffs, don't give any guys a hint, they will still try their best to portray themselves as something they are not, lollll

I thought that was law around here?

a hints a hint and some will still not get it lol

and some will try to use thinking they can get away saying their DOM

but the truth shall prevail.

common the avengers

lolllllllllll, feck, I need to take a break from these forums or watching the avengers

Stop watching the avengers, Id miss your chat

I canny, I get most of my quotes from iron man. he's the bomb, so ma EX says

lollllllll

feck, wit am I laughing for

you may laugh my dear but the sad thing is, this fecking place keeps me sane

lollllllllll

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

I suspect sometimes that the wannabe Doms would have difficulty spelling BDSM let alone its constituent components.

Too many just think of their own desires rather than that of their partners.

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Stop watching the avengers, Id miss your chat "

What kind if advice is that?! Keep watching the avengers - they're awesome. Especially if that includes Guardians of the Galaxy

(not an expert - do they count as avengers?).

Back on topic, I didn't see the status but I gather that it implied something non consensual. I can see from other posts that I'm preaching to the choir (which gives me hope) but I still have to step in and say just fucking no.

On the bdsm side of things, since that also seems to have been implied, I've said this before but I'll say it again: I am dominant for those who want me to be. When I am I reckon my job is to figure out exactly what the submissive wants, desires and needs - and then give them exactly that. Hopefully it's clear from that that I need more than just consent before I even start - I need to know that there's a real desire there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following this thread with keen interest as most people who have met me know my feelings on wanna be dommes and arseholes who think it's all about causing pain and abusing the trust and position of power a submissive gifts to them. "

You could certainly show them a thing or two! It's an art form really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it.

What is said in an update is between the individuals ?on there profile,after all it's all words .it's like the saying no one knows what goes on behind a closed door.

And tbh i have seen worse staus than that.like recently i was in a club and I seen guys asking other guys to fxxck there mrs

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"The way I see it.

What is said in an update is between the individuals ?on there profile,after all it's all words .it's like the saying no one knows what goes on behind a closed door.

And tbh i have seen worse staus than that.like recently i was in a club and I seen guys asking other guys to fxxck there mrs"
exactly why is a guy asking another guy if he would fuck hid missus bad? Perhapa his wife g/f is to shy to ask herself. Sorry but the scenario your saying isnt bad in the slightest especially when compared to s person inflicting unrequested pain

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"The way I see it.

What is said in an update is between the individuals ?on there profile,after all it's all words .it's like the saying no one knows what goes on behind a closed door.

And tbh i have seen worse staus than that.like recently i was in a club and I seen guys asking other guys to fxxck there mrs"

The way I see it... is that statuses are public and read by whoever so they are not between 2 or more specific individuals.

If one wants to keep it between the individuals, keep the play session to yourselves or via private messages to whom one wants to inform of the play session.

As for words are words bit and like saying noone knows what goes on behind close door?! I really don't get that??

Why one would bother put such a status like that up unless it is to tell what's happening being close door!

And 'not consensual' ... one can turn the words up, down, sideways, it still means the same. And in my opinion not words to be used lightly to entertain the gallery.

As for that status, I just rolled my eyes

as it was fooling no one.

My opinion anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why no i don't

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

"The way I see it.

What is said in an update is between the individuals ?on there profile,after all it's all words .it's like the saying no one knows what goes on behind a closed door.

And tbh i have seen worse staus than that.like recently i was in a club and I seen guys asking other guys to fxxck there mrs"

If it's private why post it publicly on a status?

Your argument of it being worse for guys to ask others to fuck their wives makes no sense at all. As said before maybe the female is shy or it's a cuckolding situation. Nothing 'against their will' there

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"The way I see it.

What is said in an update is between the individuals ?on there profile,after all it's all words .it's like the saying no one knows what goes on behind a closed door.

And tbh i have seen worse staus than that.like recently i was in a club and I seen guys asking other guys to fxxck there mrs"

what a very worrying statement to make .... you think that is worse than non consensual sex? ....

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The way I see it.

What is said in an update is between the individuals ?on there profile,after all it's all words .it's like the saying no one knows what goes on behind a closed door.

And tbh i have seen worse staus than that.like recently i was in a club and I seen guys asking other guys to fxxck there mrs"

None of what you've said actually makes any sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a black guy want me to do full on slave role play with a faux noose

And an Asian guy who wanted me to call him racial slurs.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Can you report this type of thing as it isn't allowed on the site.

Thanks

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