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"Your biggest problem your male guys post they tend to get little to no intrest fems get flocked. " Aye I understand what your saying however if it's done right and the right people are involved and it's marketed in a hip, hop and happening way the women of Fab will come in their droves fs. | |||
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"I'd love to go to a social but due to my job I can't really commit to anything too far in advance so one where I could turn up if I'm free would be cool. Go for it M1cks! I'm sure we'll have fun even if it is just the 2 of us "Your gonna be my sidechick, I mean side kick on this one BH, I reckon we could pull of something quite spectacular given the time. 
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"Discretion is what you need to keep in mind....the most important part of swinging always, not all bars etc like swingers and not every person in the bar would be accepting .... not everyone is discrete." Thats noted cheers but everyone i mix with respect everyone else regardless of lifestyle especially in the venues in know for sure. | |||
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"Discretion is what you need to keep in mind....the most important part of swinging always, not all bars etc like swingers and not every person in the bar would be accepting .... not everyone is discrete. Thats noted cheers but everyone i mix with respect everyone else regardless of lifestyle especially in the venues in know for sure. " That's good if you have a venue that accepts the community ...go for it then ...they could be a great laugh | |||
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"Discretion is what you need to keep in mind....the most important part of swinging always, not all bars etc like swingers and not every person in the bar would be accepting .... not everyone is discrete. Thats noted cheers but everyone i mix with respect everyone else regardless of lifestyle especially in the venues in know for sure. That's good if you have a venue that accepts the community ...go for it then ...they could be a great laugh " Och ultimately that's what's it's all about, having a laugh wi like minded folk, it's the whole point of any social, tbh i wouldn't even mind if it was just all guys who turned up beers and male bonding galore fs. | |||
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"Discretion is what you need to keep in mind....the most important part of swinging always, not all bars etc like swingers and not every person in the bar would be accepting .... not everyone is discrete. Thats noted cheers but everyone i mix with respect everyone else regardless of lifestyle especially in the venues in know for sure. That's good if you have a venue that accepts the community ...go for it then ...they could be a great laugh Och ultimately that's what's it's all about, having a laugh wi like minded folk, it's the whole point of any social, tbh i wouldn't even mind if it was just all guys who turned up beers and male bonding galore fs." Ahem......all guys and me | |||
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"Discretion is what you need to keep in mind....the most important part of swinging always, not all bars etc like swingers and not every person in the bar would be accepting .... not everyone is discrete. Thats noted cheers but everyone i mix with respect everyone else regardless of lifestyle especially in the venues in know for sure. That's good if you have a venue that accepts the community ...go for it then ...they could be a great laugh Och ultimately that's what's it's all about, having a laugh wi like minded folk, it's the whole point of any social, tbh i wouldn't even mind if it was just all guys who turned up beers and male bonding galore fs. Ahem......all guys and me "Greedy arse  | |||
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"Go for it OP. You can show us how easy it is to run a free, no deposit required, no guest list, swinging friendly venue Fab social with a good mix of single guys, ladies and couples. I'll even attend if I'm available. " It's a social so I don't think a deposit is required folk can put a kitty in or pay for themselves as they go on the day, guest list is open to all who can attend so that's that sorted, as for 'swinging friendly' venue, well we're not animals and it's no like we're gonna be getting naked and getting jiggy with it in front of the masses fs, so that's not even an issue, as for the mix of people that can only be determined on the day. I don't think there's much to it really, I've organised many similar events in the past can't see this being any different. Hopefully you can get involved in the planning process as you seem to have a sound knowledge of what makes a decent social | |||
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"To be fair to the op I kinda agree with what heis saying most (not all) socials are just a group meeting in a pub." Kola I always have time for your opinion cause more times than not you say it how it is, I know that's not always the popular way but like me you don't give a fuck | |||
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"I agree always wondered why a deposit was needed for a pub night? A social is just that so who cares if more guys than chicks or more singles than cpls Still a good way for folk to meet up " Exactly right fs, besides if you turn up and don't like it your free to go elsewhere or mix with the masses in public venue without having to worry about some daft deposit. | |||
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"Money making? My last murder mystery night raised £160 for Bloodwise. First one raised £102 for Macmillan. Pub quiz socials are free but I don't organise the events just try and get people along. " Well done to you both great causes however that's more fundraising than a social imo. | |||
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They were advertised as a charity night
I'm talking about pub socials or socials in general "Big socials can be daunting and personally I've only met a handful of people that way. This way a few new couples could meet and actually talk to each other without music blaring. There's no right or wrong way to have socials. There's a giant Tea Party gets held in England for instance as a fab social. Just as long as everyone mixes and has a good time. | |||
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"I agree But.. Asking folk to hand over cash or details for PayPal to complete strangers is also a bit daunting As I said previously back in the day there were only really a few socials a yr...now it seems to be every other week But if it gets folk together then what harm can I do "I agree excellent points | |||
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"When it comes to socials we should help each other to make them welcoming for all who wish to attend, no put up barriers or be selective. As a like minded community we should promote socials amongst local fabbers as a way of networking not just with the aim of getting laid fs. " but...I prob wouldn't attend a social run from a guy that has his profile hidden either | |||
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"When it comes to socials we should help each other to make them welcoming for all who wish to attend, no put up barriers or be selective. As a like minded community we should promote socials amongst local fabbers as a way of networking not just with the aim of getting laid fs. but...I prob wouldn't attend a social run from a guy that has his profile hidden either "That's your choice as it is mine to hide my profile. | |||
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"It's not all about couples though or at least it shouldn't be, singles both male and female are swingers too and shouldn't be excluded from socials, couple's seem to be on top of the food chain especially in the Scotland forum which I don't entirely agree with or understand as without single males and females many swinging couples kinks would just be fantasies fs. " All very valid BUT the internet has changed the face of Swinging sites like Fab immensely and in a relatively short space of time. Swinging was originally a couples orientated and social activity. Now it includes just about anything and everything and a lot of "true swingers" use other sites which adhere to this. Many now consider Fab a sex site now but as far as your plans go it sounds fantastic gofurrrit!!! | |||
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"It's not all about couples though or at least it shouldn't be, singles both male and female are swingers too and shouldn't be excluded from socials, couple's seem to be on top of the food chain especially in the Scotland forum which I don't entirely agree with or understand as without single males and females many swinging couples kinks would just be fantasies fs. All very valid BUT the internet has changed the face of Swinging sites like Fab immensely and in a relatively short space of time. Swinging was originally a couples orientated and social activity. Now it includes just about anything and everything and a lot of "true swingers" use other sites which adhere to this. Many now consider Fab a sex site now but as far as your plans go it sounds fantastic gofurrrit!!! "Excuse my ignorance but wtf are 'true swingers'? no doubt some if not many couples started off as singles to begin with, the point of' open to all' socials would be to get like minded people out and meeting others maybe even meet their match or engage with couples who they have common ground wi. As a community of supposedly open minded and sexually liberated folk we can sometimes be really negative and narrow minded in our approach to those participating in our swinging lifestyle. | |||
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"Advertise your social giving as much details as you can and leave others to run their socials in a way that suits them and those attending its really that simple "That's excellent advice right there, just to reiterate I wasn't trying to belittle your well organised and planned event, or subtract from your experience in organising such socials, I just don't get why not everyone who wants to attend can't just turn up after expressing their interest, why have reserve lists and what not? Surly the purpose behind a social is to include everyone and make them feel welcome not be selective, which to me would imply a private party and so should be advertised as such! | |||
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"Advertise your social giving as much details as you can and leave others to run their socials in a way that suits them and those attending its really that simple
That's excellent advice right there, just to reiterate I wasn't trying to belittle your well organised and planned event, or subtract from your experience in organising such socials, I just don't get why not everyone who wants to attend can't just turn up after expressing their interest, why have reserve lists and what not? Surly the purpose behind a social is to include everyone and make them feel welcome not be selective, which to me would imply a private party and so should be advertised as such!" | |||
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"It's not all about couples though or at least it shouldn't be, singles both male and female are swingers too and shouldn't be excluded from socials, couple's seem to be on top of the food chain especially in the Scotland forum which I don't entirely agree with or understand as without single males and females many swinging couples kinks would just be fantasies fs. All very valid BUT the internet has changed the face of Swinging sites like Fab immensely and in a relatively short space of time. Swinging was originally a couples orientated and social activity. Now it includes just about anything and everything and a lot of "true swingers" use other sites which adhere to this. Many now consider Fab a sex site now but as far as your plans go it sounds fantastic gofurrrit!!!
Excuse my ignorance but wtf are 'true swingers'? no doubt some if not many couples started off as singles to begin with, the point of' open to all' socials would be to get like minded people out and meeting others maybe even meet their match or engage with couples who they have common ground wi.
As a community of supposedly open minded and sexually liberated folk we can sometimes be really negative and narrow minded in our approach to those participating in our swinging lifestyle. "Hey I'm not being negative, I'm saying the face of Swinging has changed and so have sexual outlooks. Overall that's a good thing of course and I agree with you overall but what I was pointing out that change has been fast and the original meaning of Swinging was mostly couples. I think Fab now has more singles which was not the case when it first started a mere 11 years ago. Your idea is a good one and I wish you every success with it  | |||
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"Advertise your social giving as much details as you can and leave others to run their socials in a way that suits them and those attending its really that simple
That's excellent advice right there, just to reiterate I wasn't trying to belittle your well organised and planned event, or subtract from your experience in organising such socials, I just don't get why not everyone who wants to attend can't just turn up after expressing their interest, why have reserve lists and what not? Surly the purpose behind a social is to include everyone and make them feel welcome not be selective, which to me would imply a private party and so should be advertised as such!"Because if I wanted to organise a bigger drinks night / social I would simply book a bigger venue but I dont and thats why its a smaller get together. Also as someone metioned above most want discrete venues with a private area so its easy to know who are members of the site rather than being in a huge pub with other members of the piblic. As anyone whos ever tried to organise a get together it doesnt always come free hense why some costs are involved I hope this explains things to your curiosity | |||
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"Advertise your social giving as much details as you can and leave others to run their socials in a way that suits them and those attending its really that simple
That's excellent advice right there, just to reiterate I wasn't trying to belittle your well organised and planned event, or subtract from your experience in organising such socials, I just don't get why not everyone who wants to attend can't just turn up after expressing their interest, why have reserve lists and what not? Surly the purpose behind a social is to include everyone and make them feel welcome not be selective, which to me would imply a private party and so should be advertised as such!Because if I wanted to organise a bigger drinks night / social I would simply book a bigger venue but I dont and thats why its a smaller get together.
Also as someone metioned above most want discrete venues with a private area so its easy to know who are members of the site rather than being in a huge pub with other members of the piblic.
As anyone whos ever tried to organise a get together it doesnt always come free hense why some costs are involved I hope this explains things to your curiosity
"Aye what your saying makes sense in that respect. Which leaves a gap in the market so to speak for free, bigger drinks nights/socials inclusive to all who can attend, were folk don't mind getting up close and personal with other fabbers and the masses around them. | |||
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"Advertise your social giving as much details as you can and leave others to run their socials in a way that suits them and those attending its really that simple
That's excellent advice right there, just to reiterate I wasn't trying to belittle your well organised and planned event, or subtract from your experience in organising such socials, I just don't get why not everyone who wants to attend can't just turn up after expressing their interest, why have reserve lists and what not? Surly the purpose behind a social is to include everyone and make them feel welcome not be selective, which to me would imply a private party and so should be advertised as such!Because if I wanted to organise a bigger drinks night / social I would simply book a bigger venue but I dont and thats why its a smaller get together.
Also as someone metioned above most want discrete venues with a private area so its easy to know who are members of the site rather than being in a huge pub with other members of the piblic.
As anyone whos ever tried to organise a get together it doesnt always come free hense why some costs are involved I hope this explains things to your curiosity
Aye what your saying makes sense in that respect.
Which leaves a gap in the market so to speak for free, bigger drinks nights/socials inclusive to all who can attend, were folk don't mind getting up close and personal with other fabbers and the masses around them. "Il look out for your social post in the near future | |||
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"People want different things from socials and you'll never please everyone. I've never made a penny from a social I've organised, usually end up a little out of pocket. The upcoming Aberdeen social is a paid for event, ticket price covers the cost of hiring a function room and DJ, a buffet, entertainment and a party bag. This type of social comes from feedback from the last few I've been organised in, but again there will be some who aren't happy there is a ticket cost. There is plenty of room on Fab for informal pub socials and formal organised private socials, there are pros and cons around both and neither is the wrong kind. So why not let people organise the socials they want. If they are not your type then don't go, it's very simple and doesn't require criticism. Quite often those who spend so often criticising others efforts are the ones who wouldn't put any effort into doing something themselves. And believe me it can take some organising! Op good luck with your social x" well said | |||
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"People want different things from socials and you'll never please everyone. I've never made a penny from a social I've organised, usually end up a little out of pocket. The upcoming Aberdeen social is a paid for event, ticket price covers the cost of hiring a function room and DJ, a buffet, entertainment and a party bag. This type of social comes from feedback from the last few I've been organised in, but again there will be some who aren't happy there is a ticket cost. There is plenty of room on Fab for informal pub socials and formal organised private socials, there are pros and cons around both and neither is the wrong kind. So why not let people organise the socials they want. If they are not your type then don't go, it's very simple and doesn't require criticism. Quite often those who spend so often criticising others efforts are the ones who wouldn't put any effort into doing something themselves. And believe me it can take some organising! Op good luck with your social x" Excellent points and we'll noted thanks for the encouragement | |||
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"Are there socials with no overheads or layout......yes........ do the organisers ask for payment......yes......some do it for some good reasons and some do it doe shady reasons. That in essense is another problem you will run into while I have nothing against you. it being so open would mean folk who I deem unsavory maybe attending and I wont associate with those. So I simply wouldnt attend this style of social." Not having actually socialised with the troops on here, well maybe a few many moons ago in the infamous CJ's, I can't really comment on how savoury or unsavoury folk may or may not be, I'd give everyone a clean slate to start with and see how it pans out for future socials, me personally am about as savoury as they come, cool, calm and collected that much I can vouch for fs | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. " I have arranged a few in the past. You'll find it guy heavy in folk showing interest then as the day gets closer they start dropping out and come the event it's pretty quiet. Then females want to know, rightly so, how many other females are going as they don't want it to be a cock fest. That was Edinburgh though, glasgow or elsewhere might be different. Folk charging covers costs (buffets/ DJs etc) and having reserve lists is fair enough if there's a capacity issue for a function room. I've always done mine in bars where it was free and folk could just meet up and have a laugh. Think we (wife and I) done three over the years then just though 'fuck it'. More hassle than it was worth. Tough gig likes. Good luck if you go for it. | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. I have arranged a few in the past. You'll find it guy heavy in folk showing interest then as the day gets closer they start dropping out and come the event it's pretty quiet. Then females want to know, rightly so, how many other females are going as they don't want it to be a cock fest. That was Edinburgh though, glasgow or elsewhere might be different. Folk charging covers costs (buffets/ DJs etc) and having reserve lists is fair enough if there's a capacity issue for a function room. I've always done mine in bars where it was free and folk could just meet up and have a laugh. Think we (wife and I) done three over the years then just though 'fuck it'. More hassle than it was worth. Tough gig likes. Good luck if you go for it. " It does sound challenging which makes it all the more appealing to me, I do love a wee challenge, what's the worst that could happen fs? | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. I have arranged a few in the past. You'll find it guy heavy in folk showing interest then as the day gets closer they start dropping out and come the event it's pretty quiet. Then females want to know, rightly so, how many other females are going as they don't want it to be a cock fest. That was Edinburgh though, glasgow or elsewhere might be different. Folk charging covers costs (buffets/ DJs etc) and having reserve lists is fair enough if there's a capacity issue for a function room. I've always done mine in bars where it was free and folk could just meet up and have a laugh. Think we (wife and I) done three over the years then just though 'fuck it'. More hassle than it was worth. Tough gig likes. Good luck if you go for it. It does sound challenging which makes it all the more appealing to me, I do love a wee challenge, what's the worst that could happen fs? " Last one we put on was in a strip bar - not as bad as it might sound (it's not there anymore now an Italian I think?), they had a lounge area for us, was free and more 'night clubby' than anything. We ended up having people from Germany, New Zealand, England, Fife, glasgow, West Lothian and a few other places - not a soul from Edinburgh! That was after about 60-70 'aye we'll definitely come' messages. lol couldn't make it up. | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. I have arranged a few in the past. You'll find it guy heavy in folk showing interest then as the day gets closer they start dropping out and come the event it's pretty quiet. Then females want to know, rightly so, how many other females are going as they don't want it to be a cock fest. That was Edinburgh though, glasgow or elsewhere might be different. Folk charging covers costs (buffets/ DJs etc) and having reserve lists is fair enough if there's a capacity issue for a function room. I've always done mine in bars where it was free and folk could just meet up and have a laugh. Think we (wife and I) done three over the years then just though 'fuck it'. More hassle than it was worth. Tough gig likes. Good luck if you go for it. It does sound challenging which makes it all the more appealing to me, I do love a wee challenge, what's the worst that could happen fs? Last one we put on was in a strip bar - not as bad as it might sound (it's not there anymore now an Italian I think?), they had a lounge area for us, was free and more 'night clubby' than anything. We ended up having people from Germany, New Zealand, England, Fife, glasgow, West Lothian and a few other places - not a soul from Edinburgh! That was after about 60-70 'aye we'll definitely come' messages. lol couldn't make it up." Strip clubs are just late night pubs, Edinburgh has a few of them lol, the good thing about a free social is its no big deal if folk can't make it last minute, there's no obligation and Glasgow is big and varied enough that you can easily change venue when everyone's there to cosier surroundings if less turn up. It would be great to meet folk from all the said places and even better to meet like minded natives hopefully you both might be free to attend also if it no too much of a trek. | |||
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"hi .. never been to a social on this site so this may be a good way to get started....looking forward to reading more about it ... "Defo bud watch this space | |||
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I've heard what they do to us nice innocent east coasters over there "Aye we'll corrupt your innocence just like any good host would. We're a friendly bunch up this way just don't mention salt n sauce an you'll be right as rain fs | |||
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"Only arranged 1 social on my own back in February and a couple of socials as part of a 'team' last year. Personally, I think people are free to organise the type of Socials they wish and think others would want to attend. If they don't want too many males there fair enough, if they want to control numbers with a reserve list because of the venue size fair enough too! Their social, their call. There is no 'perfect' way to arrange a social, organisors have different personalities, different views etc... things happen on the day.. just do your thing! I think it's great to have varied Social events to satisfy/suit everyone taste. At the end, it is the people attending that matter. If they are happy then it is all good. It's not a competition or popularity contest or about egos... it is about having a few like minded people together and have fun. Hope this makes sense. OP, do your social the way you want it and good luck " | |||
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"Everyone organises socials differently, if you think there is a gap in the market go for it you never know till you try. Being on Fab from almost the start we used to attend most of the socials (there were only 3-4 a year then), some were fantastic, some okay and some not so. The cost back then was around £5 per head that was for the venue/buffet or nibbles and a DJ. We decided many years ago never to go to another "Charity Night" as we know for a fact one of these organised events resulted in the charity of choice never seeing a penny of the money!! I worked for the charity and it was my job to deal with the donations ... it never materialised and the couple left the site less than a week later. We have no problem in people charging costs to cover the event and hey even if it included a free night and hotel etc for them for the hassle but to con people is another issue. Good Luck with your social." some were brilliant!!! Some were that bad we ended up having the best nights tho | |||
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"Everyone organises socials differently, if you think there is a gap in the market go for it you never know till you try. Being on Fab from almost the start we used to attend most of the socials (there were only 3-4 a year then), some were fantastic, some okay and some not so. The cost back then was around £5 per head that was for the venue/buffet or nibbles and a DJ. We decided many years ago never to go to another "Charity Night" as we know for a fact one of these organised events resulted in the charity of choice never seeing a penny of the money!! I worked for the charity and it was my job to deal with the donations ... it never materialised and the couple left the site less than a week later. We have no problem in people charging costs to cover the event and hey even if it included a free night and hotel etc for them for the hassle but to con people is another issue. Good Luck with your social.some were brilliant!!! Some were that bad we ended up having the best nights tho "Hahaha yea we always made the most of the nights that's for sure xx | |||
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"Only arranged 1 social on my own back in February and a couple of socials as part of a 'team' last year. Personally, I think people are free to organise the type of Socials they wish and think others would want to attend. If they don't want too many males there fair enough, if they want to control numbers with a reserve list because of the venue size fair enough too! Their social, their call. There is no 'perfect' way to arrange a social, organisors have different personalities, different views etc... things happen on the day.. just do your thing! I think it's great to have varied Social events to satisfy/suit everyone taste. At the end, it is the people attending that matter. If they are happy then it is all good. It's not a competition or popularity contest or about egos... it is about having a few like minded people together and have fun. Hope this makes sense. OP, do your social the way you want it and good luck "All advice is great and thanks. | |||
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"Everyone organises socials differently, if you think there is a gap in the market go for it you never know till you try. Being on Fab from almost the start we used to attend most of the socials (there were only 3-4 a year then), some were fantastic, some okay and some not so. The cost back then was around £5 per head that was for the venue/buffet or nibbles and a DJ. We decided many years ago never to go to another "Charity Night" as we know for a fact one of these organised events resulted in the charity of choice never seeing a penny of the money!! I worked for the charity and it was my job to deal with the donations ... it never materialised and the couple left the site less than a week later. We have no problem in people charging costs to cover the event and hey even if it included a free night and hotel etc for them for the hassle but to con people is another issue. Good Luck with your social.some were brilliant!!! Some were that bad we ended up having the best nights tho "Haha these sound great the crazy, random and unplanned nights are normally the most fun ones | |||
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"Everyone organises socials differently, if you think there is a gap in the market go for it you never know till you try. Being on Fab from almost the start we used to attend most of the socials (there were only 3-4 a year then), some were fantastic, some okay and some not so. The cost back then was around £5 per head that was for the venue/buffet or nibbles and a DJ. We decided many years ago never to go to another "Charity Night" as we know for a fact one of these organised events resulted in the charity of choice never seeing a penny of the money!! I worked for the charity and it was my job to deal with the donations ... it never materialised and the couple left the site less than a week later. We have no problem in people charging costs to cover the event and hey even if it included a free night and hotel etc for them for the hassle but to con people is another issue. Good Luck with your social." Cheers guys hopefully get the ball rolling soon and plenty of great pointers and tips from you all to try and rustle up summit half decent fs | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. " Firstly you may THINK it's a piece of piss ....it's not .In fact that statement just belittles the huge amount of time,effort and damn hard work that other people put in to some truly fantastic socials . Walk a mile in there shoes or actually wait till you've done a social and then come back and say how easy it was . Lol .You have to find decent venue in a central local .Date to actually suit folks .Then theres getting the interest in the event .Trying to actually contend with people trying to derail it and being totally indiscreet. The list goes on Secondly doing it free of charge ... if you can then fantastic. Those who do charge a very nominal fee do so to firstly out the folks who ain't ever gonna turn up ,wasting time and a space that could of been used by someone else who does want to attend . It also covers things like a drink or a buffet . As for the shitty reserve list ... you only have a certain numbe of spaces for any venue .So does it not make common sense that you'd then have the reserve list of people who take space if folks drop out (which they will) and save that space going to waste ?? Kudos and huge respect to those who've organised fantastic events I've been to. It's not a job I'd take on and think way you worded the post very poor especially considering you want advice from said ppl. I do wish you all the very best should you go ahead with it Think you'll find it very enlightening . | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. Firstly you may THINK it's a piece of piss ....it's not .In fact that statement just belittles the huge amount of time,effort and damn hard work that other people put in to some truly fantastic socials . Walk a mile in there shoes or actually wait till you've done a social and then come back and say how easy it was . Lol .You have to find decent venue in a central local .Date to actually suit folks .Then theres getting the interest in the event .Trying to actually contend with people trying to derail it and being totally indiscreet. The list goes on Secondly doing it free of charge ... if you can then fantastic. Those who do charge a very nominal fee do so to firstly out the folks who ain't ever gonna turn up ,wasting time and a space that could of been used by someone else who does want to attend . It also covers things like a drink or a buffet . As for the shitty reserve list ... you only have a certain numbe of spaces for any venue .So does it not make common sense that you'd then have the reserve list of people who take space if folks drop out (which they will) and save that space going to waste ?? Kudos and huge respect to those who've organised fantastic events I've been to. It's not a job I'd take on and think way you worded the post very poor especially considering you want advice from said ppl. I do wish you all the very best should you go ahead with it Think you'll find it very enlightening .
Add to that the folks who don't understand he concept of a social and go around upsetting folks by being sleazy and expecting it to be an orgy. "If folk can't behave in a civilised manner well that's their problem and more than confident whoever they misbehave with will soon put them right, no one here is wrapped up in cotton wool fs. | |||
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"Maybe folk don't like giving email address out tho? I for 1 do not like giving any personal details to strangers? And yes they do...most socials have a cap on single guys Never single ladies or cpls My drinks socials have never had a cap on single guys. I usually end up with about 20-25 on the list, lucky if 4 turn up lol Tbh its a Social not as has been said by another a orgy or meet, who cares if a 100 guys show up or vice versa it's more people for people to get to know and form a impression on, good or bad. " I didn't say it was. I said in my experience whenever I have organised a drinks night in a pub, so no fee, lots of guys say they're interested and then bottle it.I'd be more than happy if everyone who put their name down turned up! The issue we have over here is that no one other than myself and one or two others ever organise anything on the east coast, and if they do it's usually around edinburgh. There is life north of edinburgh and Glasgow, honest! I'd go to more socials but when it involves a 90min drive to get there I become choosy about what I attend. It's one reason I loved going to the Aberdeen club was because it was an opportunity to socialise with fellow east coasters. It would be lovely if other people organised things, hopefully with the success of the big Dundee socials and the two recent Aberdeen ones I've attended, things are picking up around here. Now if only someone had the money to open a bloody club! | |||
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She has a point though. You've asked for feedback, people are giving it to you, yet you're saying you have it all figured out.
So what's the point in the thread then? "No one can have it all figured out least of all someone like me who's gonna be doing a fab one for the first time, i do have ideas on what to do from expirence in hosting socials in other walks of life, feedback is very important if you want to know your market. Maybe ask yourself what's the point in any thread! | |||
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"I'd love to go to a social but due to my job I can't really commit to anything too far in advance so one where I could turn up if I'm free would be cool. Go for it M1cks! I'm sure we'll have fun even if it is just the 2 of us "i would come too bunny you look delicious lol | |||
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"I've organised a few now and really enjoy it. I do try to make sure everyone who attends is mixing with others and no ones left on their own. Venues don't tend to be an issue as usually plenty money gets taken over the bar. However I dont give anyone the exact venue until the last minute. Discretion is key and making clear it is a social event and not a free for all orgy! " Brilliant and very informative I'll no doubt call on your experience at a later stage if you don't mind that is | |||
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"Would folk mind mixing with the natives in a pub setting or would you prefer a private area or both? " I don't mind either. Can I behave amongst natives
My February social was in a pub but we had an area reserved for us. Dance-floor and bar was 'public'.
However, I had bought some glow in the dark bands so people could identify each other.
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"Maybe folk don't like giving email address out tho? I for 1 do not like giving any personal details to strangers? And yes they do...most socials have a cap on single guys Never single ladies or cpls My drinks socials have never had a cap on single guys. I usually end up with about 20-25 on the list, lucky if 4 turn up lol Tbh its a Social not as has been said by another a orgy or meet, who cares if a 100 guys show up or vice versa it's more people for people to get to know and form a impression on, good or bad. I didn't say it was. I said in my experience whenever I have organised a drinks night in a pub, so no fee, lots of guys say they're interested and then bottle it.I'd be more than happy if everyone who put their name down turned up! The issue we have over here is that no one other than myself and one or two others ever organise anything on the east coast, and if they do it's usually around edinburgh. There is life north of edinburgh and Glasgow, honest! I'd go to more socials but when it involves a 90min drive to get there I become choosy about what I attend. It's one reason I loved going to the Aberdeen club was because it was an opportunity to socialise with fellow east coasters. It would be lovely if other people organised things, hopefully with the success of the big Dundee socials and the two recent Aberdeen ones I've attended, things are picking up around here. Now if only someone had the money to open a bloody club! " Aye i understand where your coming fae I suppose you would have to be picky if your traveling that kind of distance. | |||
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"I dont attend socials for varies reasons but as an observer and iv chatted to few fabbers in pms about it specially like myself who are here playing alone ..orginised socials in private rooms yes are discrete and only to fabbers but still risky for certain ppl as instantly you cant turn round in say you are there by chance if u bump into relatives or friends ..it would be oh feck lol ..so in a pub where its ppl just meeting for few drinks isnt so obvious..just my thot " Mine too | |||
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My February social was in a pub but we had an area reserved for us. Dance-floor and bar was 'public'.
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But really depends on the numbers and how you want to 'control' it and how you see things in your head. "Loving the glow bands idea very Cool | |||
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"Maybe folk don't like giving email address out tho? I for 1 do not like giving any personal details to strangers? And yes they do...most socials have a cap on single guys Never single ladies or cpls My drinks socials have never had a cap on single guys. I usually end up with about 20-25 on the list, lucky if 4 turn up lol And yet single guys say how difficult it is to get verified and get meets. Think Fab should give them a pair of socks for their cold feet! Yes, when what they actually mean is they want a fuck without having to put in any effort whatsoever. Is this your own logic because it sounds like it's tarring every single person with the same brush which surly can't be a good thing fs." I'm not tarring anyone with the same brush. I am speaking from 5 years of experience that the majority of single guys on here who do not wish to attend any socials, or go to clubs/parties etc are only wanting instashag and can't seem to understand why they're not getting it. They do not comprehend the effort that they need to expend on their profile, messages etc to get anywhere on here and tbh would be much better off down the pub or on tinder. However, that is a completely different subject to the one you raised. You obviously have a solid idea of how you want to do things, so best of luck with that. Although be aware that your replies to people on here have seemed on the defensive for no reason that is apparent to me. Happy socialising | |||
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"The problem appears to be folks perception of a "social". I think the op is reffering to folk meeting up in a public bar as opposed to a venue being hired.there are socials where folk are taking money to confirm their space and making their own caps on attendance but stillonly meeting in a public bar." Which imo is wrong, unless they're providing other entertainment or food which most good pubs in sunny Glasgow dae anyway. | |||
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"Id feel more comfortable in a place owned by a fabber knowing we weren't at risk of being asked to leave (unless I misbehave, I know!) No matter where we go we'll be lining someone's pocket so it might as well be someone generous enough to open out their place with no guaranteed number of attendees or income instead of letting it be booked by clientelle who will be paying. Hes taking a risk himself. " Whar risk is there unless it was a fab only private night .which he's made clear that it wouldnt .so he's still be open anyway to the public . Zero risk just more people than he'd have with out the social turning out . Win win for op . As for reduced rate drinks ops ... you'd still make a profit . | |||
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"So if you own the place you must have experience in organising events so why ask for our opinions? Also you will profit from holding it at a venue you own. You should have made that clear from the start and should also be stated when advertising the event. You've had lots of great advice from people who have experience of organising events and socials. Whatever you organise will not appeal to everyone. The best way to prove yourself is by running a successful social that's free and without a reserve list and show us how it's done. " The venue hasn't been decided yet nor was it in my thoughts before reading some of the issues being faced by fabbers, who as you quite rightly said have organised such events with the venue being a difficulty, fortunately I have several venues both owned and of friends at my disposal so it won't be an issue, I've never done a swingers social yet but don't imagine it being any different to others, opinions are always good I listen to everyone but ultimately do what my heart tells me, it's a winning formula that's never let me down. I don't have anything to prove or have to show anybody anything, when I do, do a social all will be welcome to it, regardless of sex or pairing, there will be no reserves list or deposit or entry fee, folk can come, enjoy, pay as they go, then get up the road or take it fae there, simple. | |||
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"Damned if ya do damned if ya dont even if the guy owns the place hes not exactly gonna make a fortune hell if its a fri sat in the town he may have to be refusing entry to some joe public to make this work. I think there are folkwould really like the free flow of what your proposing even though for reasons ive said its not for me. Hell some will see it as a positive you own/run the place" And thank you, someone who sees reason and logic fs, would actually be good to have you along bud your on a similar wavelength, refreshing fs | |||
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"Some folk will argue with themselves if need be, as like most of us i tend to steer clear of such folk and have little time or patience for them, that's not being rude or defensive it's just a personal preference fs. whats this comment about ? People are passing comments on the points you have raised. Some will agree with you some wont its called health debate not arguing "Those who it effects and need to know already know. Your not one of them is all that you need to know. As you so eloquently suggested previously, concern yourself with your own business and let me deal with mine. | |||
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Those who it effects and need to know already know. Your not one of them is all that you need to know. As you so eloquently suggested previously, concern yourself with your own business and let me deal with mine. "you've lost me with that comment but if your so friendly in opening up your social to all is your last paragraph there not contradicting yourself? | |||
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"Some folk will argue with themselves if need be, as like most of us i tend to steer clear of such folk and have little time or patience for them, that's not being rude or defensive it's just a personal preference fs. whats this comment about ? People are passing comments on the points you have raised. Some will agree with you some wont its called health debate not arguing
Those who it effects and need to know already know. Your not one of them is all that you need to know. As you so eloquently suggested previously, concern yourself with your own business and let me deal with mine. you've lost me with that comment but if your so friendly in opening up your social to all is your last paragraph there not contradicting yourself?"Naw | |||
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"Some folk will argue with themselves if need be, as like most of us i tend to steer clear of such folk and have little time or patience for them, that's not being rude or defensive it's just a personal preference fs. whats this comment about ? People are passing comments on the points you have raised. Some will agree with you some wont its called health debate not arguing
...... honestly.....you are now really begining to contradict yourself. A bar owner who requires advice and patently ( from observing your posts) couldn't order a round of drinks.
No doubt you'll be arriving in your Maserati or Bentley ??? ............ I think I hear your Mum shouting from downstairs for you to get off your computer as you've got school tomorrow!!!
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"Id feel more comfortable in a place owned by a fabber knowing we weren't at risk of being asked to leave (unless I misbehave, I know!) No matter where we go we'll be lining someone's pocket so it might as well be someone generous enough to open out their place with no guaranteed number of attendees or income instead of letting it be booked by clientelle who will be paying. Hes taking a risk himself. Whar risk is there unless it was a fab only private night .which he's made clear that it wouldnt .so he's still be open anyway to the public . Zero risk just more people than he'd have with out the social turning out . Win win for op . As for reduced rate drinks ops ... you'd still make a profit . Oh behave fs. Making a valid point ...as you admitted to earlier. Had you been up frount that you had venue or friend that owns venue then it would be no issue . But open the thread making a big thing saying socials should be free ... then it comes to only much later when pushed about you owning venue just comes across as totally hypocrisy. People may see a fab member owning the venue as a huge posative and happy to spend their money riging their till rather than just a random pub . But at least be honest from the off . " Give yerself a break fs. | |||
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Thank you and hope to see you there, no reserves list remember and won't cost you a penny to enter, just the way it should be imo. "There is no need to criticise what others are doing. As said it's your opinion, some like a free for all some like private functions. No one is better than the other it's about catering for different preferences, something this site should be all about. It's not a competition for God's sake!! | |||
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"Some folk will argue with themselves if need be, as like most of us i tend to steer clear of such folk and have little time or patience for them, that's not being rude or defensive it's just a personal preference fs. whats this comment about ? People are passing comments on the points you have raised. Some will agree with you some wont its called health debate not arguing
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No doubt you'll be arriving in your Maserati or Bentley ??? ............ I think I hear your Mum shouting from downstairs for you to get off your computer as you've got school tomorrow!!!
****lol, I see what you done there would have been better if you could spell and string a sentence together, but hey ho, gave me a giggle, cheers m1cks*****
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"Been to many well run socials over the years always felt more comfortable if held in private venue knowing that everyone there were likeminded ppl, not to sure how it would work in a open bar how would you know who was who ect ?,and as others have said discretion is a must for most swingers how would you control that ,not being critical but would need to know these things before we would think of attending " That's not being critical that's positive feedback which is most welcome, tbh i don't know the logistics of it all yet however had some really good advice, feed back and support from fmites on here, when I do get round to it I'll make sure everything is as watertight for everyone as possible including myself fs. | |||
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"Been to many well run socials over the years always felt more comfortable if held in private venue knowing that everyone there were likeminded ppl, not to sure how it would work in a open bar how would you know who was who ect ?,and as others have said discretion is a must for most swingers how would you control that ,not being critical but would need to know these things before we would think of attending That's not being critical that's positive feedback which is most welcome, tbh i don't know the logistics of it all yet however had some really good advice, feed back and support from fmites on here, when I do get round to it I'll make sure everything is as watertight for everyone as possible including myself fs. "Cheers gd luck will look out for it | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. You say in your original post that you have organisational skills and that organising such a social would be in your words 'a piece of pish'. Put your reputation where your mouth is and let's see a social being organised. " | |||
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"or difficult is it to arrange a forum drinks social? Anyone with experience on said matter your input is more than welcome. Think I want to get involved in this side of Fab more, with my contacts and organisational skills I reckon it would be a piece of pish, none of the shitty reserve list crap, which probably makes folk feel unwanted, anyone who wanted to attend could do and for free of charge fs. You say in your original post that you have organisational skills and that organising such a social would be in your words 'a piece of pish'. Put your reputation where your mouth is and let's see a social being organised. Would you like me to jump off a bridge at your say so too? This just in............how about naw and I'll decide thank you very much. " | |||
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"It's as easy as you make itbits that simple , go for it you have nothing to loose it will either be a hit or it won't ... end of the day swinging is evolving as the years go on... trying it a new way isn't always a bad thing as long as discretion ( yes that word again ) is respected always when planning " Cheers, agreed and noted | |||
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"Been to many well run socials over the years always felt more comfortable if held in private venue knowing that everyone there were likeminded ppl, not to sure how it would work in a open bar how would you know who was who ect ?,and as others have said discretion is a must for most swingers how would you control that ,not being critical but would need to know these things before we would think of attending That's not being critical that's positive feedback which is most welcome, tbh i don't know the logistics of it all yet however had some really good advice, feed back and support from fmites on here, when I do get round to it I'll make sure everything is as watertight for everyone as possible including myself fs.
Cheers gd luck will look out for it"Cheers, watch this space as they say | |||
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"Alright bob "I shot the sheriff but I did not shoot the deputy fs | |||
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"Do it do it do it!!
You're gonna be helping out with it shorty, teamwork fs "Someone mention my name??? | |||
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"Id feel more comfortable in a place owned by a fabber knowing we weren't at risk of being asked to leave (unless I misbehave, I know!) No matter where we go we'll be lining someone's pocket so it might as well be someone generous enough to open out their place with no guaranteed number of attendees or income instead of letting it be booked by clientelle who will be paying. Hes taking a risk himself. " This | |||
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"Do it do it do it!!
You're gonna be helping out with it shorty, teamwork fs
Someone mention my name??? "Aye, be ready tae dae some PR work fs | |||
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"Where about generally are we talking about holding this social? " It'll be a central public location in Glasgae bud. | |||
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"any new ideas on socials are welcum, xxx penny. " | |||
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"Id feel more comfortable in a place owned by a fabber knowing we weren't at risk of being asked to leave (unless I misbehave, I know!) No matter where we go we'll be lining someone's pocket so it might as well be someone generous enough to open out their place with no guaranteed number of attendees or income instead of letting it be booked by clientelle who will be paying. Hes taking a risk himself. " what risks do you reckon hes taking? | |||
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"Reputation loss......lose that you lose custom. You should know that you witnessed the aftermath of individuals phoning establishments and the chaos it created." yeah thats one thing | |||
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"I can't believe this is still going on about a social that may or may not happen "lololol x | |||
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"I can't believe this is still going on about a social that may or may not happen " typical Scottish forums lol | |||
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"Id feel more comfortable in a place owned by a fabber knowing we weren't at risk of being asked to leave (unless I misbehave, I know!) No matter where we go we'll be lining someone's pocket so it might as well be someone generous enough to open out their place with no guaranteed number of attendees or income instead of letting it be booked by clientelle who will be paying. Hes taking a risk himself. what risks do you reckon hes taking?" He could end up with a half empty venue instead of allowing it to be booked by a paying customer. He could end up out of pocket, its an open invite, there's no guarantee anyone will show. | |||
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"Id feel more comfortable in a place owned by a fabber knowing we weren't at risk of being asked to leave (unless I misbehave, I know!) No matter where we go we'll be lining someone's pocket so it might as well be someone generous enough to open out their place with no guaranteed number of attendees or income instead of letting it be booked by clientelle who will be paying. Hes taking a risk himself. what risks do you reckon hes taking? He could end up with a half empty venue instead of allowing it to be booked by a paying customer. He could end up out of pocket, its an open invite, there's no guarantee anyone will show. " fair enough I thought it was just a pub not a paying venue | |||
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" wonders if there will be a How Easy 2 thread... "
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