FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies, feedback please?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey ladies,

I have a question. I have of course seen the posts from single males having no luck and I have a male friend in the same boat, good looking guy, decent profile (in my opinion) etc. So I wonder whether you are single or part of a couple, what would make you give a single guy a chance?

Mrs x

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Get to a social or club.

We have met a few single guys this way. You can tell alot from a person by the way they talk also body language and more importantly if there is that connection.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get to a social or club.

We have met a few single guys this way. You can tell alot from a person by the way they talk also body language and more importantly if there is that connection.

Yeah it does benefit everyone I think if you are able to meet in person. Would you/have you ever met single males on strength of profile alone?

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

We dont anymore. We don't have the time for organising meets and i always worry about what if the guys a nutter lol.

At least at the clubs its a controlled environment with set rules. If i like the guy i will let him play if i don't its just a simple no thanks.

Nobody loses out as there is no guarantees.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We dont anymore. We don't have the time for organising meets and i always worry about what if the guys a nutter lol.

At least at the clubs its a controlled environment with set rules. If i like the guy i will let him play if i don't its just a simple no thanks.

Nobody loses out as there is no guarantees. "

Hmm yeah fair point. From what I can tell a lot of single males get shot down before getting that far. I have seen a lot of advice for single guys on their profile and first message etc but assuming they are doing all this and been here a long time (well over a year) is it just bad luck that they haven't met anyone to meet with yet!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on mood at the time, as well as if theres an attraction personally for us. However you never no lol x

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

I can sympathise with them to a point.

I think now fab has been saturated with fake profiles not just single guys but couples and females also.

By going to the clubs you know everyone in the place is there for the same reason and its fair to say the clubs and socials we have been to have had a fantastic mix of singles and couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All depends on mood at the time, as well as if theres an attraction personally for us. However you never no lol x "

Cool, good to know that there are ladies/couples out there that are open to it and of course you always have to feel attraction/comfortable with any potential meet x

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I give single guys a chance but I must admit that in recent months I prefer to meet them at socials or clubs.

I find that some guys can't or don't know how to converse via messages.

Some messages I think... Really??

What would you reply to that?

What do you think you come across as??

Perhaps they are so sure the message won't get read or replied to that they don't make an effort!

Hope this kinda answers your question

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can sympathise with them to a point.

I think now fab has been saturated with fake profiles not just single guys but couples and females also.

By going to the clubs you know everyone in the place is there for the same reason and its fair to say the clubs and socials we have been to have had a fantastic mix of singles and couples.

This is very true. I have even seen friends pictures appearing under another profile in public pics section. I have seen quite a few dodge/fake couples profiles and of course, like you say at a club, everyone is real and there for similar reasons

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I give single guys a chance but I must admit that in recent months I prefer to meet them at socials or clubs.

I find that some guys can't or don't know how to converse via messages.

Some messages I think... Really??

What would you reply to that?

What do you think you come across as??

Perhaps they are so sure the message won't get read or replied to that they don't make an effort!

Hope this kinda answers your question

Good insight. Appreciate the feedback. I totally get why anyone would want to meet single guys in a club or larger group, makes sense. Nice to find some ladies that are giving a reasonable chance, there's hope yet lol

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

The single guys we have met at clubs have been nothing but gentlemen.

I think if the single men have the ability to attend the socials and clubs alone and socialise with singles and couples it becomes far easier to arrange meets out with the venue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The single guys we have met at clubs have been nothing but gentlemen.

I think if the single men have the ability to attend the socials and clubs alone and socialise with singles and couples it becomes far easier to arrange meets out with the venue.

Totally. I do think that they tend to get a bad rep (but then my personal interactions have all been positive). We are not seeking to play with single males but they can message as I have male friends on here. Anytime someone has messaged looking for something I have just explained my situation and they have been nothing but polite and understanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single and have no luck on here

Don't think I'm gods gift or anything like that

But would like to get a chance some time

I've got a bit of an anxiety problem when it comes to social things and feel a bit odd among strangers

Is there anything I can do better ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm single and have no luck on here

Don't think I'm gods gift or anything like that

But would like to get a chance some time

I've got a bit of an anxiety problem when it comes to social things and feel a bit odd among strangers

Is there anything I can do better ???

I am by no means an expert but having a quick look at profile it seems a bit short on info, a bit more about you or what you like? Could be worth just trying to get one or two social verifications too. Meet someone just for a coffee or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a combination of a first message that is interesting and having a profile that makes them stand out - nice pictures/good text.

I'm also more likely to meet/message back someone that I recognise from chatting on forums.

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

from a single guys perspective .

there is many sub groups of single guys on here .

fakes

pisstakers

photo collecters

fab 'straight'

desperados

shag anything brigade

genuine

the common denominator with genuine guys is they attend socials or clubs, interact on forums and chatrooms . i.e they put they effort in to meet people and let folk see the real them rather than an internet persona .

of course folk from the other groups will get meets as there are many woman and couples profiles similar but they tend to drift away or have a moan on the forum then suddenly UNLOS appears.

for me its often a misconception that you can join here and its paved with lime minded horny stunners that are happy to swap a message or two then meet for some no strings fucking .

just my tuppence worth

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

You dont need to be gods gift lol we certainly aren't.

It mabey difficult for you to mingle in groups but i can assure you all the socials we have been to the hosts have been fantastic and you will always find someone to talk to.

Dundee are having a social im sure you will be welcomed there.

I have a soft spot for Dundonians.

It was the first place i moved to when i met B. One of the most welcoming cities with fantastic people.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

"from a single guys perspective .

there is many sub groups of single guys on here .

fakes

pisstakers

photo collecters

fab 'straight'

desperados

shag anything brigade

genuine

of course folk from the other groups will get meets as there are many woman and couples profiles similar but they tend to drift away or have a moan on the forum then suddenly UNLOS appears.

for me its often a misconception that you can join here and its paved with lime minded horny stunners that are happy to swap a message or two then meet for some no strings fucking .

just my tuppence worth

I would say spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me it's a combination of a first message that is interesting and having a profile that makes them stand out - nice pictures/good text.

I'm also more likely to meet/message back someone that I recognise from chatting on forums. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really glad I asked, all the feedback/info and different perspectives are useful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I fancy him or not lol

It really is that simple for me

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By *heekyguy2Man
over a year ago

Local

"Hey ladies,

Mrs x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I fancy him or not lol

It really is that simple for me

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I'm single and have no luck on here

Don't think I'm gods gift or anything like that

But would like to get a chance some time

I've got a bit of an anxiety problem when it comes to social things and feel a bit odd among strangers

Is there anything I can do better ???

You can't be everyone's cup of tea!

To start with, improve your profile, it's the first thing people see of you.

Your profile is only 1 sentence, the 'study/permission' bit is longer that the section that should be about you and what you are looking for.

And we are all a little nervous around strangers at Socials or Clubs.

We are all in the same boat.

At the end of the day, only you can take yourself by the hand and get stuff done!

Good luck

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I personally try to reply to all messages (unless they have sent a stupid/crude message that doesn't deserve a response!), even if it's a thanks but no thanks. I'll often give my reason why. I do think that a lazy message/profile would make for a lazy meet. A bit of effort goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I personally try to reply to all messages (unless they have sent a stupid/crude message that doesn't deserve a response!), even if it's a thanks but no thanks. I'll often give my reason why. I do think that a lazy message/profile would make for a lazy meet. A bit of effort goes a long way.

Yeah get where you are coming from. I usually don't bother too much if first message is short as I have also sat trying to think what to write in first message but if it doesn't pick up after a few then it gets boring

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I definitely need some kind of mental connection too. A 1 word message doesn't exactly get anyone excited.

P.s: nice to meet you both briefly last week (at least I'm sure it was you both?) x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I definitely need some kind of mental connection too. A 1 word message doesn't exactly get anyone excited.

P.s: nice to meet you both briefly last week (at least I'm sure it was you both?) x"

Aha! Sorry, didn't realise it was you lol. Just checked your pics and clicked. Lovely to meet you too x

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"from a single guys perspective .

there is many sub groups of single guys on here .

fakes

pisstakers

photo collecters

fab 'straight'

desperados

shag anything brigade

genuine

of course folk from the other groups will get meets as there are many woman and couples profiles similar but they tend to drift away or have a moan on the forum then suddenly UNLOS appears.

for me its often a misconception that you can join here and its paved with lime minded horny stunners that are happy to swap a message or two then meet for some no strings fucking .

just my tuppence worth

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sorry the common denominator with genuine guys is they attend clubs and socials that simply isnt the case. There are folk (im one of them) who wouldnt attend a club as sexual discrimination aint my bag. Alot of socials are clique gatherings hence I dont attend many now. So by your measure im fake lol

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"from a single guys perspective .

there is many sub groups of single guys on here .

fakes

pisstakers

photo collecters

fab 'straight'

desperados

shag anything brigade

genuine

of course folk from the other groups will get meets as there are many woman and couples profiles similar but they tend to drift away or have a moan on the forum then suddenly UNLOS appears.

for me its often a misconception that you can join here and its paved with lime minded horny stunners that are happy to swap a message or two then meet for some no strings fucking .

just my tuppence worth

sorry the common denominator with genuine guys is they attend clubs and socials that simply isnt the case. There are folk (im one of them) who wouldnt attend a club as sexual discrimination aint my bag. Alot of socials are clique gatherings hence I dont attend many now. So by your measure im fake lol "

yeah because my opinion is a hard and fast set in concrete rule

of course there are exceptions ffs like everything else in life . what i would say is you are active in the forums so would fall into the category ive mentioned

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By *ittlemissnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I definitely need some kind of mental connection too. A 1 word message doesn't exactly get anyone excited.

P.s: nice to meet you both briefly last week (at least I'm sure it was you both?) x

Aha! Sorry, didn't realise it was you lol. Just checked your pics and clicked. Lovely to meet you too x"

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

It wasnt to get at you why I posted. for me there is no greater measure of genuine than gut. Someone proving it by typing on a forum is a poor indicator imo same as attending a club or social is to me a poor indicator of genuine users and abusers can attend these things also. I prefer to spend time on and with a person to decide if I feel they are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously lol

Its a sex site lol

Way too many ifs buts n whys

If you fancy the said person..you message back if theres no spark accept it and move on

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Initially the first pics you see and the profile do make an impression. You can't help but make some judgement on that.

If you get further than a couple of messages then you're doing well.

Face pics are a must. I wouldn't meet without knowing what they look like.

Then it's decision time to meet for a coffee or not! The all important part to see if there's a spark.

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By *heekyguy2Man
over a year ago

Local

Lol. Less thinking more doing and action.

As nike says, just do it! Lol

Hopefully have fun in the process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have talked to a few people but I have only ever met one lady off here

Not complaining she was absaloutly fantastic and a funny great woman. But it's a right pain ain't it :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I give single guys a chance but I must admit that in recent months I prefer to meet them at socials or clubs.

I find that some guys can't or don't know how to converse via messages.

Some messages I think... Really??

What would you reply to that?

What do you think you come across as??

Perhaps they are so sure the message won't get read or replied to that they don't make an effort!

Hope this kinda answers your question

Agree with Max though I do give single guys a chance I don't get much time for 1-1 meets and think bigger socials are a great way to meet genuine people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Initially the first pics you see and the profile do make an impression. You can't help but make some judgement on that.

If you get further than a couple of messages then you're doing well.

Face pics are a must. I wouldn't meet without knowing what they look like.

Then it's decision time to meet for a coffee or not! The all important part to see if there's a spark."

Definitely F. I like to see full length initially (face not required until it's likely a meet might happen) and if chat is decent and you seem to be on same page then take it from there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I have talked to a few people but I have only ever met one lady off here

Not complaining she was absaloutly fantastic and a funny great woman. But it's a right pain ain't it :p"

I'm trying to fight the corner of the single guys lol

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

We have no interest in meeting guys at Clubs as we don't attend as don't hundreds of others from the site!!! If I am attracted to the bloke from his pic then will start up a conversation it's really that simple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy being genuine and not pushy help

tbh a rarely even messsge people first,

i started off in the scotland chat room helped me to know people and went from there to cjs to kik groupes

the best advice i can give is to never back out a meet un less you have a exceptional excuse and to not expect anything from fab also good banter goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the responses, always interesting to get others perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have no interest in meeting guys at Clubs as we don't attend as don't hundreds of others from the site!!! If I am attracted to the bloke from his pic then will start up a conversation it's really that simple x"
lol training you we are just a cpl of some chicks lol .we do the ask much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have no interest in meeting guys at Clubs as we don't attend as don't hundreds of others from the site!!! If I am attracted to the bloke from his pic then will start up a conversation it's really that simple xlol training you we are just a cpl of some chicks lol .we do the ask much

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scrub that ...sun was in my eyes lol

...try again lol

We are the same tracey ..

Same chicks that dont ask for much lol

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"We have no interest in meeting guys at Clubs as we don't attend as don't hundreds of others from the site!!! If I am attracted to the bloke from his pic then will start up a conversation it's really that simple xlol training you we are just a cpl of some chicks lol .we do the ask much

scrub that ...sun was in my eyes lol

...try again lol

We are the same tracey ..

Same chicks that dont ask for much lol

Hahaha I read the first one and thought she's been on the Smirnoff ices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have no interest in meeting guys at Clubs as we don't attend as don't hundreds of others from the site!!! If I am attracted to the bloke from his pic then will start up a conversation it's really that simple xlol training you we are just a cpl of some chicks lol .we do the ask much

scrub that ...sun was in my eyes lol

...try again lol

We are the same tracey ..

Same chicks that dont ask for much lol

Hahaha I read the first one and thought she's been on the Smirnoff ices

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you know me too well

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"For me it's a combination of a first message that is interesting and having a profile that makes them stand out - nice pictures/good text.

I'm also more likely to meet/message back someone that I recognise from chatting on forums. "

Yeah I would agree with this. Recently I've had a fair few single guys messing me about so for now I'm not meeting new guys outwith cjs.

I will still meet single guys if I already know them or have met them at a club/social. That way I know they're not fantasists

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Unfortunately a few idiots make it difficult or genuine guys.

An initial physical attraction is a start for me but won't meet right away prefer to chat for a while which gives an insight to personality.

But due to my job iv met gabber iv spoken to.and thot he's nicer/better looking than pics etc so I think socials are a great way to meet initially x

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By *heekyguy2Man
over a year ago

Local

The quickest way to find if you click is to speak. Once you find out their conversation skills, time of voice, type of discussion. You'll know in a few mins if you would want more lol. On top of seeing if they are physically attractive to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The quickest way to find if you click is to speak. Once you find out their conversation skills, time of voice, type of discussion. You'll know in a few mins if you would want more lol. On top of seeing if they are physically attractive to you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have talked to a few people but I have only ever met one lady off here

Not complaining she was absaloutly fantastic and a funny great woman. But it's a right pain ain't it :p"

Yep 9 months for me and nothing

But iv given up moaning about it

I've updated my profile..... a bit

still needs work but see what happens now fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I have talked to a few people but I have only ever met one lady off here

Not complaining she was absaloutly fantastic and a funny great woman. But it's a right pain ain't it :p

Yep 9 months for me and nothing

But iv given up moaning about it

I've updated my profile..... a bit

still needs work but see what happens now fingers crossed

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have talked to a few people but I have only ever met one lady off here

Not complaining she was absaloutly fantastic and a funny great woman. But it's a right pain ain't it :p

Yep 9 months for me and nothing

But iv given up moaning about it

I've updated my profile..... a bit

still needs work but see what happens now fingers crossed

Good luck

Thanks

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