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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, apologies new to the forum. I've been on this on and off for a few month... Only thing I'm really struggling with is one me being picky and two just not finding what I'm looking for. Can anyone give me any advice on finding exactly what your after?l which sounds total cliche but what I mean is do you just say then and there in the chat this is what I want and just be honest with the first liner? Granted the girls must get overloaded with messages so can't be all forward etc. Tips hints and feedback all welcome.

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Time , patience and just keep plodding along it will happen in time if it's for you.

If you like clubs try cj's etc

If you like meeting socially try the various nights out , quiz nights , parties etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put what you're after in your profile?

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Yeah your profile is there's to sell you ! Use it make yourself stand out

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Yeah your profile is there's to sell you ! Use it make yourself stand out "

This

Or try Russian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put what you're after in your profile?"

Agreed

Also remember some of the things you might be after others might not have tried so it might intrigue them or chase them away. people have interests on their profile but as I have found some don't add interests that they really want to try so it all about exploring finding people who interest/stimulate you and then see if they are into similar interests.

There's no rush on here

Good luck and may the force be with you in your struggle with darkness

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Agreed.

Develop your profile a bit to detail what you want/looking for.

What's 'really experimental' and 'really up for anything' to you, etc...

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

25

Cannot accom ?

Best go to a bar and pull from there?

Good looking guy so you would have no problem

Unless your patter is pish tho?

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah your profile is there's to sell you ! Use it make yourself stand out

This

Or try Russian "

Or in your case Luxembourgish

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

That all depends on what exactly you are after ... good looking bloke so can't imagine it to be too hard x

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By *hetrickmaster3Man
over a year ago

ayr

Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site .

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site . "

Defeats it for who ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site . "

Explain please....defeats the purpose?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely?? "

You can be truthful politely truthful

And if honest about what you like then you aren't wasting anyone's time

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

yiu can be honest yes, if people don't like it and take offence then tough shit !

Just have to keep hunting

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely?? "
its your preference and people preferences need to be respected

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By *edzyWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely?? "

I am completely not your type lol - I'd rather you were clear - but to be honest I don't look for such a big age gap anyway. Why not attend the socials or clubs? That way you will be able to select based on age and body type in person?

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely?? "

Oh dear! I am... Not your type lol

Am not big, am not small and am well over 40

But hey! You're not my type either you're under 36! Nah nah

It's a preference. Nothing wrong with that. We are all on here for what we are looking for.

One can be honest and direct without being rude.

Save everyone time if you're direct on your profile.

Good luck

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I agree with the above.

We have the profile age range set, but that is because we host parties. My playing age range is actually smaller than that so I have written it on the profile.

My single profile just has the profile age range,but says what I'm looking for within the profile.

You can say what you're looking for in a polite way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely??

Oh dear! I am... Not your type lol

Am not big, am not small and am well over 40

But hey! You're not my type either you're under 36! Nah nah

It's a preference. Nothing wrong with that. We are all on here for what we are looking for.

One can be honest and direct without being rude.

Save everyone time if you're direct on your profile.

Good luck "

You don't look over 40 though.

Agree with this

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site . "

why does people being choosy defeat the purpose of the site?

what do you think the purpose of the site is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site . "

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site . "

i know ladies ffs the purpose is surely to get fucked and feel grateful for it . god forbid you should feel the need to be attracted to your suitors and certainly never consider you may need to enjoy the experince or cum !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely?? "

Bit more info on your profile should help. Also have your settings adjusted, if you don't want women over 40 then set age range to that as currently says 18-99

Bit more info on your interests too.

As others have mentioned club nights such as CJ's are good as you can meet/see people in person and decide from there!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site .

i know ladies ffs the purpose is surely to get fucked and feel grateful for it . god forbid you should feel the need to be attracted to your suitors and certainly never consider you may need to enjoy the experince or cum !! "

I knew I was getting it wrong somewhere

Thanks Bearded

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site .

i know ladies ffs the purpose is surely to get fucked and feel grateful for it . god forbid you should feel the need to be attracted to your suitors and certainly never consider you may need to enjoy the experince or cum !!

I knew I was getting it wrong somewhere

Thanks Bearded "

dont thank me . thank casanova up above for pointing it all out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site .

i know ladies ffs the purpose is surely to get fucked and feel grateful for it . god forbid you should feel the need to be attracted to your suitors and certainly never consider you may need to enjoy the experince or cum !!

I knew I was getting it wrong somewhere

Thanks Bearded

dont thank me . thank casanova up above for pointing it all out "

But you were so much more eloquent in your explanation

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Just keep trying m8 u might get lucky but a lot of ladies on here are quite choosey which defeats the purpose of the site .

i know ladies ffs the purpose is surely to get fucked and feel grateful for it . god forbid you should feel the need to be attracted to your suitors and certainly never consider you may need to enjoy the experince or cum !!

I knew I was getting it wrong somewhere

Thanks Bearded

dont thank me . thank casanova up above for pointing it all out

But you were so much more eloquent in your explanation "

lol

honestly it must be one of the best posts ive seen for completley cock blocking yourself

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I like your style and what you are saying is good and I believe you will get more women like this, at least you are selective, I don't get any cocky vibe from the post all he is saying is I have not found what I want, in a world full of unselective guys , guys like you are important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah your profile is there's to sell you ! Use it make yourself stand out

This

Or try Russian

Or in your case Luxembourgish "

Battenburgish for Furry surely

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay


"Hey hey hey maybe I put it wrong... When I mean trouble looking for what I'm after I'm not really short on offer wise ' don't mean to sound cocky or big headed' don't take that the wrong way.. like what I mean is I'm actually struggling to find what I'm into as in type wise.. I can't say not into big girls over 40 and be that brutal surely?? "

You either ignore or send a I'm sorry you're not quite what I'm looking for at the moment.

I can show you several examples I've been sent. Usually very polite and in no way brutal at all.

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