FabSwingers.com forum: Manners

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

... cost nothing.

So sick of being sent this message. If guys can't be bothered to read my profile then why should I be borhered to reply to their messages? And then I get abuse for not replying. Very droll.

On the plus side, hump day is over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your username is attracting the wrong guys? I read your profile and your username seems quite at odds with it. As in it suggests you just want to be 'used' and that will attract a certain type of guy. The type that maybe won't bother reading profile text. And may have names like big_knob and hole_filla

Just my impression. Not that it should make a difference to how guys message you, but going by some threads I have read on the forums before, it can and does x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe your username is attracting the wrong guys? I read your profile and your username seems quite at odds with it. As in it suggests you just want to be 'used' and that will attract a certain type of guy. The type that maybe won't bother reading profile text. And may have names like big_knob and hole_filla

Just my impression. Not that it should make a difference to how guys message you, but going by some threads I have read on the forums before, it can and does x"

Thanks, I guess my name is at odds, didn't think about that, but my interests have changed since I set up account.

It's not guys messaging that bothers me, it's getting abuse when it is clear I am not interested. Do they think that by sending me abuse will make me suddenly say 'oh well I changed my mind I will fuck you now' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my impression. Not that it should make a difference to how guys message you, but going by some threads I have read on the forums before, it can and does x

Thanks, I guess my name is at odds, didn't think about that, but my interests have changed since I set up account.

Haha yeah. I've gone from being "sexy as hell" to "a fat pig" in the space of a message more than once! Just proves to me I was right to turn them down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my impression. Not that it should make a difference to how guys message you, but going by some threads I have read on the forums before, it can and does x

Thanks, I guess my name is at odds, didn't think about that, but my interests have changed since I set up account.

Haha yeah. I've gone from being "sexy as hell" to "a fat pig" in the space of a message more than once! Just proves to me I was right to turn them down

Yes the change from sexy to pig ugly can give you whiplash

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Makes you almost ashamed to be the same species

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I love the about change from you're stunning to you're too fat for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today has been my worse day on here with piss poor messages

My cock loves your c..t

Seriously WTF???

I'm sorry but Iv always stuck up for single guys on here

But honestly just now it seems that guys think all chicks on here are slags and are gagging for it 24/7

Aarrgghhhhh

Sorry rant over lol

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

never understood the need to get a reply .

no reply - no interest

no requirement to have ' manners ' to appease anyone .

and the abuse thing is just pathetic . block em and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes you almost ashamed to be the same species"

I would hazard a guess some women can be just as nasty when they don't get what they want! And the majority of guys I speak to are nice enough. Else I wouldn't hang around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv hardly ever had abuse on here

And usually laugh and move on but just seems to be the last cpl weeks the messages I'm getting are crude to tell point I'm like WTF

I have all my filters on bar single guys ...I have age limits and need to be verified blah blah so guess it's heading towards blocking guys all together which is a shame first the genuine nice blokes on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today has been my worse day on here with piss poor messages

My cock loves your c..t

Seriously WTF???

I'm sorry but Iv always stuck up for single guys on here

But honestly just now it seems that guys think all chicks on here are slags and are gagging for it 24/7

Aarrgghhhhh

Sorry rant over lol "

My profile is hidden just now but when it's not I just giggle and delete the stupid and disrespectful messages. Not worth getting wound up about. I find if I get abuse it's usually from someone that has written a nice enough message. Pretending to be nice. But when I reply nicely with a no their ugly nature comes out... but again, I just view it as proof I was right and give thanks I've seen then and there what they are like so I can block them and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anyone want to reply to any of the messages that are disrespectful or any other way.

Personally if anyone gets a cock pic, why would you reply, even to rant just read, block, delete or why reply back to anyone who hasn't read your profile.

These type of messages means you have won a watch, you have found out what a asshole that person really is and you don't need to find out anymore about them.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"... cost nothing.

So sick of being sent this message. If guys can't be bothered to read my profile then why should I be borhered to reply to their messages? And then I get abuse for not replying. Very droll.

On the plus side, hump day is over! "
block & ignore job done carry on with your day

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By *andCforfunCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Having had a singles profile (male half here), I have to admit to being a little fed up at times, when I would write a very polite introduction, and sending clear face pics. For it just to be deleted at some point. Without being read most of the time. I often wondered how anyone actually got to meet any of the women or couples on here!

However, since having a couples profile with buttons. It has opened my eyes to a lot of what sort of messages women get on a daily basis! Before, if I sent a message, there was either no reply or a reply to say thanks but not my type. I would message back to thank them for the reply and move on. Never have I understood the mentality of guys on here! It's ridiculous the way some guys carry on in here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the thing

I always reply to messages

No thanks

And 99% of guys Reply thanks for at least replying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"never understood the need to get a reply .

no reply - no interest

no requirement to have ' manners ' to appease anyone .

and the abuse thing is just pathetic . block em and move on "

This is my thinking, if you don't reply I know your not interested, don't make me think I have a chance if I don't, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes you almost ashamed to be the same species"

This 100%. Cannot fathom guys who get abusive over being turned down, not receiving a reply or even getting back a message of thanks but no thanks. If I get a no thanks back I consider myself lucky for having messaged a lady who takes the trouble to reply when there is absolutely no obligation for her to do so.

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By *ornyStew77Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Makes you almost ashamed to be the same species

Couldn't agree more

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Manners maketh the man.

That was said by my gran long before I was even a twinkle in my dads eye. Still true today.

Unfortunately OP, some people never learnt it.

Just block the idiots and rude people and concentrate on the nice ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes you almost ashamed to be the same species

This. Manners personified. Thanks Al x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes you almost ashamed to be the same species

This. Manners personified. Thanks Al x"

You're quite welcome lovely lady. x

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By *eeBexxWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Had a guy a few weeks back have a go at me for viewing his profile and not wanting to chat. It appears a misclicked profile means they are in to some lol

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

We blocked a profile of a couple who didn't want to meet but kept looking at our profile (3-4 times a day for a week). If you are getting 30+ messages a day answer them all is a no no. You just don't have the time. The thumbnail, the title and the first 12 words is all that's needed to know if you are going to "delete without reading" I don't see the need to open mail that looks shit from just that. This method means I can delete the rubbish in under 90 seconds. Leaving the hour or so saved writing back to have sex.

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

My pet hate is guys embarrassing our species by acting like spoilt children, as my dear mum use to say " if you've nothing to say, don't say anything" never any reason for abusive mails ever.

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By *tatic nomadMan
over a year ago

All over

If its not cry baby men its egotistical women and couples, fabs full of both.

Personally I message and if the message is read then deleted I have my answer no hard feelings

But if it's straight deleted I assume it could be a clear out and try at a later time.

It's not black and white have got no reply only to later meet up with the person I've messaged, patientce and persistence if done respectfully isn't always a bad thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know what annoys me people that give people abuse for no reason it shows what they are truly like. If someone is not intrested in me i just reply with a "thanks for you're reply good luck

" everyone has their own tastes their defiantly is no reason to be aggressive because of it.

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By *SPrincessWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere near you

What's funny is when some guy you've never spoken to sends you a message saying nobody will take you seriously because you're clearly a fake, then a couple of weeks later goes on a thread about manners pretending to be holier than thou.

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By *earded villainMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"What's funny is when some guy you've never spoken to sends you a message saying nobody will take you seriously because you're clearly a fake, then a couple of weeks later goes on a thread about manners pretending to be holier than thou.

ohhh shit just got real

( wasnt me , was it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... cost nothing. "

This works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... cost nothing.

So sick of being sent this message. If guys can't be bothered to read my profile then why should I be borhered to reply to their messages? And then I get abuse for not replying. Very droll.

On the plus side, hump day is over! "

Nothing states that any message you receive inherits a reply.

A non-response should be taken as a "No Thanks".

Some Guys dont handle rejection too well..But with the same token Women cant either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's when certain ppl feel the need to have a go in a message then when you go to defend yourself and reply they have blocked you ...1 way abuse is very rude and they certainly dont know manners

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Folks perception of "manners" are very diffrent. alot of folk see me as offensive. Because they dont agree with the way I deal with things. while others see me as being "above my station and aloof" they are both right because "manners" is about each individuals interpretation of what manners is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pleased to say that in my short time here I have had no abusive/rude messages. I do think on the whole women can be as bad as men and couples too.

I have sent messages and had no reply and just assumed for whatever reason I/we are not their cup of tea. No hard feelings, time to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *mberbCouple
over a year ago

Lothians

"... cost nothing.

So sick of being sent this message. If guys can't be bothered to read my profile then why should I be borhered to reply to their messages? And then I get abuse for not replying. Very droll.

On the plus side, hump day is over! "

Exact here guys don't read profile then when we ignore or say no thanks Abuse lol. stick to your guns. And yes you will get a lot of negativity from the guys Ignore!! Its a swinging site they need to remember this NOT Dial a shag..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glasgow

"... cost nothing. "

This works both ways

See all this thats why I chose to turn them down and not meet. I knew I was right in dismissing the guy blah blah blah. See if u have started any interaction with a shitty slightly snotty attitude be you man woman she he or he she then it will come across as you are up yourself and as you are not god for example and had you not been so above the people you were dismissing and were just a sound nice person with no demands and no seriously snotty shit like im not here to sleep with all the site nonsense and tried the being polite and non judgemental easy going nice to everybody way of thinking, used common sense when accosted by one of sites doughballs and blocked them and didnt waste another second of your time thinking about them, then everyone would be better for it

No one likes rejection, however where as people like to reject on here and lots it seems. So maybe how about not say any rejection just be nice and if you not into them be friendly and if they step the mark say what your unhappy about in there behaviour and what ur thinking is unappropriatethen if there is a second time block em.

Job done. Because seriously that same old im free to reject whomever i want shite is so past its best its not real. Life is short modesty and a little humble go a long way and no one is way so better than any other person on earth and we all die and suffer doing so the same kinda ways and therefore we came in same wY we leave with nothing but an open mind and hopefully the ability to have manners for our next stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I love the about change from you're stunning to you're too fat for me

You would never be too fat for me x

There - nice manners and a compliment

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Many on here make demands regarding respect & manners but its got to work both ways too many think the same rules dont apply to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Usernames tell me aot about the person and I seldom respond if the username is not to my liking. Mind you I wasn't always of this mindset ha ha!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Being friendly only encourages them..

IF you really not interested, it is best to simply ignore/delete

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