FabSwingers.com forum: the definitive newbie single mans guide to fab

By *earded villain OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

these posts crop up regular about lack of action . so lets put together a constructive helpful guide to fab for the single man ....

1. this is not dial a fuck . lower your expectations before you start the fab streets are not paved with free and willing pussy

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

When talking to a couples profile, be aware that there are two people reading your message and act accordingly, do not ignore the male half

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Your profile is your shop window, so sell yourself as best you can

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By *earded villain OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

ditch the cock pics unless done ina seductive artistic style . black and white with a moody undertone is acceptable

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By *earded villain OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

put the hard work in

chat rooms , forums , socials and clubs gove you a chance to meet people . get verified . and let your personality shine rather than your online persona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the love of god do not send any photos of it dangling over the toilet!

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By *earded villain OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

trim the baws as a minimum . big wild raging bush pubes no matter how manly isnt considered attractive . most want clean shaved baws but a bit of manscaping is the minimum expected standard . also gives ye an extra inch if you get your angles right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tidy the surrounding environment of a photo.

You could be Brad Pitt but if your room looks like a dump it's not attractive

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Tidy the surrounding environment of a photo.

You could be Brad Pitt but if your room looks like a dump it's not attractive"

That applies to women too! How hard is it to tidy up?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .

No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.

Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Dont take anything written in the forums as gospel its all rubbish. The only thing that matters is your perception

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By *earded villain OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

dont take yourself to seriouslly . learn to have a laugh and chill out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont take anything written in the forums as gospel its all rubbish. The only thing that matters is your perception"

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By *ockerMrBloggs6969Man
over a year ago

nr you but not too near

Eh.......just leave now,save yrself the time n trouble

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .

No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.

Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it

That's why this is a guide for guys

a female can be as fugly as hell and not had a wash in months yet still be bombarded with offers from desperate guys

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .

No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.

Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it

That's why this is a guide for guys

a female can be as fugly as hell and not had a wash in months yet still be bombarded with offers from desperate guys

John

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Patience, Patience, Patience...

People have lives outside fab, so if you don't get a reply straightaway, chill... the person will reply in their own time.

No reply, take it as thank you but no thank you.

And if you get a thanks but no thanks, take a deep breath and move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take anything personal. It's often difficult as we are all human.

You need skin like a Rhino here for certain but pinches of salt aren't too expensive.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .

No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.

Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it

That's why this is a guide for guys

a female can be as fugly as hell and not had a wash in months yet still be bombarded with offers from desperate guys

John

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my comment was across the board male & female ...not just for single guys altho I understand the post was aimed at single males lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When talking to a couples profile, be aware that there are two people reading your message and act accordingly, do not ignore the male half "

Well said ...

Its a 3sum ..3 share the experience equally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.

Be respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles. "

I disagree with your first comment ..

I agree with your second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.

I disagree with your first comment ..

I agree with your second

Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.

I disagree with your first comment ..

I agree with your second

Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason. "

Hiya x..

I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.

I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.

I disagree with your first comment ..

I agree with your second

Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.

Hiya x..

I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.

I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x

I guess I can kinda see where youre coming from if the profile has many stipulations. Mine only has locals only and no Dick pics, I still get loads every day and daily invites to hotel rooms or "ill be in your area next week"

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.

I disagree with your first comment ..

I agree with your second

Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.

Hiya x..

I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.

I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x

I pulled up a single guy last night who admitted he'd read my preferences but chose to ignore them and message me anyway. That's rude and disrespectful, his needs are not greater than mine.

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By *earded villain OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.

I disagree with your first comment ..

I agree with your second

Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.

Hiya x..

I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.

I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x

aye but youre hot as fuck so rules go out the window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aye but youre hot as fuck so rules go out the window

Its a cross I have to bear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend request without any kind of interraction beforehand?

Naw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .

No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.

Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it

true and agree!!

Let them learn for themselves but everything written is just common sense, have respect for everyone and use your head the you will see people become receptive to you

Enjoy and have a great time

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By *e_frenchMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Here is my recommendation, thanks to that template I had many meets:

Hey,

How are you today?

I want to fuck you tonight, here is a pictures of my dick!

Can I come at yours in an hour? I am a cool guys!

See ya babe!

Xxx

Lol I am only kidding do the opposite and make sure you read people a profile. Be courteous and patient and/or brave.

Good luck man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.

Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.

I disagree with your first comment ..

I agree with your second

Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.

Hiya x..

I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.

I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x

I pulled up a single guy last night who admitted he'd read my preferences but chose to ignore them and message me anyway. That's rude and disrespectful, his needs are not greater than mine."

Or the arrogance that despite preferences they're special enough for me to bend my rules for...usually come from blank profiles with no pictures

Newbies of both male and female persuasion.....don't forget your sense of humour! Things would be much easier on here if people didn't take it too seriously and just had a laugh!

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Smile and be yourself. There's always someone out there for everyone. Don't try and be something you're not

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By *heesyheadbandMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

it's easier to pick someone up off the street than on here lol

social and club meets...

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By *urglasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

This is the top tip. never ignore the other partner. its called respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm parked up in my truck come see me" or 3am of a Wednesday morning "what you into?"

Does that ever actually work??!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And my (Nat) biggest bugbear, the same three/four single males send me the same message most days when clearly it'll tell them a) my own page isn't looking for single males and b) it'll say that they've already messaged me without reply

Rant over xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I'm parked up in my truck come see me" or 3am of a Wednesday morning "what you into?"

Does that ever actually work??!!!!"

I feel sorry for the poor wee guy whose parked up at Darnley at 3am and he hasn't got a clue why all these guys are chapping his cabbin door as he's not on fab

WTF

lollllllll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha

I get soooo many invites like that zero communication ever but yes il be round the now my good sir what's your registration number ffs gimme a break! It's all in the build up lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha

I get soooo many invites like that zero communication ever but yes il be round the now my good sir what's your registration number ffs gimme a break! It's all in the build up lol x"

lollllllllllllllll, its all in thw build up.

Can you imagine this down and out coming to your car and saying, "hi, you on fab"

lollllllllllllllllllllllllll

Now that's what I call a build up

giggling like feck the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha I'm glad someone's giggling

Each to their own but cabin beds in trucks ain't for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha ha I'm glad someone's giggling

Each to their own but cabin beds in trucks ain't for me

I know, can you imagine being at the wrong end, fecking murder trying to turn, so I've been told

cabin beds, feck that, I love my own bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im going to twist this a little ..

Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..

"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?

Is he wrong in asking this ? ..

Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.

The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.

These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.

It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.

Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..

But someone sending a message asking for sex ..

Yes .they are entitled too ask

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Im going to twist this a little ..

Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..

"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?

Is he wrong in asking this ? ..

Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.

The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.

These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.

It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.

Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..

But someone sending a message asking for sex ..

Yes .they are entitled too ask

Totally agree with this. I'm also entitled to delete those messages if I don't like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im going to twist this a little ..

Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..

"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?

Is he wrong in asking this ? ..

Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.

The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.

These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.

It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.

Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..

But someone sending a message asking for sex ..

Yes .they are entitled too ask

Yip agreed

But I would never do it.

He/she is allowed but he/she should make sure they read the person profile incase they state they don't want that kind of message.

Each to their own, its what makes fab ticks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im going to twist this a little ..

Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..

"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?

Is he wrong in asking this ? ..

Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.

The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.

These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.

It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.

Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..

But someone sending a message asking for sex ..

Yes .they are entitled too ask

Yip agreed

But I would never do it.

He/she is allowed but he/she should make sure they read the person profile incase they state they don't want that kind of message.

Each to their own, its what makes fab ticks

Completely agree.

And I think in a lot of cases it helps. My old profile before I got into one of those pesky relationships, I got bombarded with cock pics.

This time round I've put on my profile that I'd rather not see them. And have noticed a vast difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im going to twist this a little ..

Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..

"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?

Is he wrong in asking this ? ..

Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.

The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.

These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.

It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.

Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..

But someone sending a message asking for sex ..

Yes .they are entitled too ask

Totally agree with this. I'm also entitled to delete those messages if I don't like them

Absolutely ..

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

If you're going to message someone, read the fucking profile first for gods sake, takes 2mins... you might even gain from the available info that messaging would be a waste of time...

If messaging, try to expand it beyond "howz u?... wot u up to?....ur hot".... etc...

Make the message polite, just because its a swingers site a message doesnt guarantee a fuck, its a swingers site not instashag, people are within their rights to not be interested in swinging with you if your message is rude, offensive or just generally low effort and shit...

If somebody wants to see your cock, they'll ask,you dont need to send the 5 pics of it that are on your profile anyway...

Agree to a social first if asked, this earns many many brownie points and also demonstrates your genuine and likely to turn up to a play meet....

Respect peoples preferences, no means no, no reply means no thanks, continually winking or messaging an uninterested profile just sees you blocked...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Im going to twist this a little ..

Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..

"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?

Is he wrong in asking this ? ..

Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.

The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.

These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.

It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.

Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..

But someone sending a message asking for sex ..

Yes .they are entitled too ask

Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im going to twist this a little ..

Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..

"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?

Is he wrong in asking this ? ..

Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.

The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.

These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.

It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.

Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..

But someone sending a message asking for sex ..

Yes .they are entitled too ask

Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!

Go on ....Im listening ..Why does it not ?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!

Go on ....Im listening ..Why does it not ?

You seriously believe that joining a sex site gives you rights and entitlements??

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Whether they're 'entitled' to ask or not, "Hi, never spoken to you before but fancy a fuck?" gets the deaf ear from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whether they're 'entitled' to ask or not, "Hi, never spoken to you before but fancy a fuck?" gets the deaf ear from me"

Thats my point x

Im not saying this is how i have ever approached a message to anyone.

Anyone can send a message asking for sex...whether you agree with it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!

Go on ....Im listening ..Why does it not ?

You seriously believe that joining a sex site gives you rights and entitlements??

Working within the rules and guidlines of the site ..Yes ..i do believe members have rights and entitlements.

Why would someone asking you for sex,be wrong ?

Yes ..you may think thats rude disrespectful or whatever.There is nothing too say that he cant ask.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Whether they're 'entitled' to ask or not, "Hi, never spoken to you before but fancy a fuck?" gets the deaf ear from me

Thats my point x

Im not saying this is how i have ever approached a message to anyone.

Anyone can send a message asking for sex...whether you agree with it or not.

Basic manners dictate that you don't though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely...

The reason some members can send rude disrespectful messages.is purely because they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't fight the duckwar in the end you will be outnumbered and defeated with humiliation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

learn that no matter how pushy you are there are couples far worse

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