FabSwingers.com forum: Go with your gut?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You get a message from a sparse but verified profile, gut says it's fake or do you give the benefit of the doubt that there could be good reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with your gut

Good luck

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By *ab and funCouple
over a year ago

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I agree, if in doubt, I always go with my instinct xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always like to see the good in people so give them a chance to prove they are genuine but maintain a cautious view so not to dissapointed if your gut is correct.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

If something doesnt feel right go with your gut instinct

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Go with your gut... Unless you had a dodgy lunch...

Fake people are easy to spot.. They just don't behave normal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go with your gut... Unless you had a dodgy lunch...

Fake people are easy to spot.. They just don't behave normal

My lunch was safe

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We tend to check the verification, if possible, to see if the person who verified looks genuine. If it's a hidden verification then we're far more wary. See so many new profiles who are verified right away and that's it. You can look at them months later, if they're still around, and they still have only the single verification from the day they joined.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We tend to check the verification, if possible, to see if the person who verified looks genuine. If it's a hidden verification then we're far more wary. See so many new profiles who are verified right away and that's it. You can look at them months later, if they're still around, and they still have only the single verification from the day they joined."

Yeah I know what you mean. Lots of profiles been on a year, verified 11 months ago, 1 public image and that's it, hmmmmm!

To be fair, I'm not that desperate that ignoring one profile is going to be a big hardship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your gut might be right,then again it might be too early to say for sure.

If you think it might be worth following up you have nothing to lose by chatting for a bit then asking to speak on the phone so you can get a better idea about them.....

Depends on if you think it might be worthwhile or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Benefit of doubt is good way to get catfished.

As you say, missing one profile is no loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the internet, take everything with a massive pinch of salt!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Yeah I know what you mean. Lots of profiles been on a year, verified 11 months ago, 1 public image and that's it, hmmmmm!

I don't show my veris....

Who to say I have more than 1..??

Sometimes you have to take a chance and dig deeper...I sure as hell would not be taking advice from this lot

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

If something doesnt feel quite right i tend to look deeper than just move on sometimes gut is right but sometimes its not n you could miss out on a gem

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

OP you have to remember....when someone leaves, so does any verification they have given...So it can look bad for some.

Someone correct me if that has changed..?

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By *haostimeMan
over a year ago

north Glasgow

I dunno, I don't have many verification's, and I'm 100 percent, there are a few that are legit, but caution is always good

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"OP you have to remember....when someone leaves, so does any verification they have given...So it can look bad for some.

Someone correct me if that has changed..?"

The actual verification disappears but on the summary the numbers remain

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I take on board all the points raised here, all very valid.

Think the combination of being on a while, only one verification just after joining and only having a single image is what set alarm bells ringing, had it been just one of those things I probably would have overlooked it

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Yeah I know what you mean. Lots of profiles been on a year, verified 11 months ago, 1 public image and that's it, hmmmmm!

To be fair, I'm not that desperate that ignoring one profile is going to be a big hardship"

That's pretty much how we view things as well if there's any doubt. Couldn't be bothered digging too deeply and possibly wasting time when there's plenty of obvious genuine profiles out there. If someone does turn out to be genuine and you ignored them it's no big deal.

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By *ancognitoMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Go with FIRST feeling and don't try to think it through.

Be as instinctive with the "feel" of the profile as when you "know" you have reached last rep....!

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By *ancognitoMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *urglasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Always go with our gut. All depends on opening message for us

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By *urglasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Agree guys. Though hiding their veris not always a bad thing. recent meet had theirs hid and he was a hit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree guys. Though hiding their veris not always a bad thing. recent meet had theirs hid and he was a hit

If they are hidden does it not still show in the count? This was actually only a single verification.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go with FIRST feeling and don't try to think it through.

Be as instinctive with the "feel" of the profile as when you "know" you have reached last rep....!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a single guy I'd be glad to receive any contact. However couples and girlies should be careful, and probably go with the gut.

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By *urglasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Yes you see how many but not the actual verification just whether it was m couple f etc.

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By *p4funduoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Wish i had read this before i met someone twice as old as his pics and 3 times the size! Tea and scones perhaps to start?

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By *urglasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Oh my lol. time for a sharp exit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally go with my gut and i also double check verifications if possible ie they have 6 verifications in 8 weeks all from people that joined 8/9 week's ago

, but i suppose we were all new once so can't hurt to give them to go on cam in chat if they are genuine and intrested they will normally be happy to show face

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By *heekyguy2Man
over a year ago

Local

What's to say they simply haven't met ppl during that time?

Especially for single guys. I've been on here for yrs but rarely meet anyone simply due to a lack of connection or interest.

My last acc was verified with a social meet and so far not met anyone using this one.

Also what's to say they can even show verifications? When ppl leave the site the verifications go to, But the ppl they verified stay verified.

I'd say dig a little, this site is too often negative and sceptical. I say allow them to show they are genuine. Give them the benefit of the doubt.

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By *heekyguy2Man
over a year ago

Local

Yeah I know what you mean. Lots of profiles been on a year, verified 11 months ago, 1 public image and that's it, hmmmmm!

I don't show my veris....

Who to say I have more than 1..??

Sometimes you have to take a chance and dig deeper...I sure as hell would not be taking advice from this lot

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always go with your gut

Good luck

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By *eekingSinCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If the profile is sparse, chances are soo is their personality. Instantly forgettable!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your gut might be right,then again it might be too early to say for sure.

If you think it might be worth following up you have nothing to lose by chatting for a bit then asking to speak on the phone so you can get a better idea about them.....

Depends on if you think it might be worthwhile or not.

This, then after chatting go with your gut.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the profile is sparse, chances are soo is their personality. Instantly forgettable!! xx"

Agreed. I have been on a few weeks now and keep adding to my profile, so would expect someone that's been on that long to have more on it. Time to move on

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

What's to say they simply haven't met ppl during that time?

Especially for single guys. I've been on here for yrs but rarely meet anyone simply due to a lack of connection or interest.

My last acc was verified with a social meet and so far not met anyone using this one.

Also what's to say they can even show verifications? When ppl leave the site the verifications go to, But the ppl they verified stay verified.

I'd say dig a little, this site is too often negative and sceptical. I say allow them to show they are genuine. Give them the benefit of the doubt."

Scepticism is good on a site like this. There are more than enough clearly genuine profiles out there for us to avoid the ones we have any doubts about. We're not missing out on anything by refusing to give them a chance or digging deeper.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the profile is sparse, chances are soo is their personality. Instantly forgettable!! xx"

Haha! Good point xx

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By *urglasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Yes in count you can see how many male fem or couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with gut feeling x

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