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"Looking for some advice and thoughts. I've been separated for almost three years now, been living in central Edinburgh and ex and kids living in ex material home. We're still on relatively good terms and I've been looking for a new flat to move nearer kids in Midlothian. Now I have somewhere, bigger than my current, but it's in the same town. Just told the ex today and she commented that I'm right on her doorstep and thought it would be uncomfortable once we move on with our personal lives. I don't have an issue, she seems to. What are you thoughts? I moved back to be closer to kids as I travel 3-5 times per week back and forth to see them or collect/drop them back to their mum" It sounds to me that you are comfortable moving on in life whereas she has doubts. Maybe she still feels something? | |||
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"Looking for some advice and thoughts. I've been separated for almost three years now, been living in central Edinburgh and ex and kids living in ex material home. We're still on relatively good terms and I've been looking for a new flat to move nearer kids in Midlothian. Now I have somewhere, bigger than my current, but it's in the same town. Just told the ex today and she commented that I'm right on her doorstep and thought it would be uncomfortable once we move on with our personal lives. I don't have an issue, she seems to. What are you thoughts? I moved back to be closer to kids as I travel 3-5 times per week back and forth to see them or collect/drop them back to their mum It sounds to me that you are comfortable moving on in life whereas she has doubts. Maybe she still feels something?" Or maybe she doesn't like that you've moved on period. | |||
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"Looking for some advice and thoughts. I've been separated for almost three years now, been living in central Edinburgh and ex and kids living in ex material home. We're still on relatively good terms and I've been looking for a new flat to move nearer kids in Midlothian. Now I have somewhere, bigger than my current, but it's in the same town. Just told the ex today and she commented that I'm right on her doorstep and thought it would be uncomfortable once we move on with our personal lives. I don't have an issue, she seems to. What are you thoughts? I moved back to be closer to kids as I travel 3-5 times per week back and forth to see them or collect/drop them back to their mum" how near? Unless you can see her house it's fine for kids access | |||
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"I would say do what is best for You and your kids and not your ex,it might feel selfish but you have a right to live a life as happy as you can make it and if it means you move to be closer to your kids then so be it. No reasonable person can fault you for wanting to be as close and as involved in your kids lives as you want to be. Live your own life the way you want to and not to suit others. Might seem selfish at 1st but remind yourself why your doing it in the 1st place. Best of luck OP" | |||
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"My ex still stays the odd night and lives 5 minutes away, it's really helped the kids adjust to the separation and meant that we can still be a family for them. Can you explain to your ex that you're not close to keep an eye on her or that you have any interest in what she does with her life, your priority is your kids and living close is convenient for them. She should appreciate everything you've done and how dedicated you are as a father!" Totally agree Buzz x | |||
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"My ex still stays the odd night and lives 5 minutes away, it's really helped the kids adjust to the separation and meant that we can still be a family for them. Can you explain to your ex that you're not close to keep an eye on her or that you have any interest in what she does with her life, your priority is your kids and living close is convenient for them. She should appreciate everything you've done and how dedicated you are as a father! Totally agree Buzz x" Haha Santa it's a while since anyone's called me Buzz She's moaning over nothing, at the end of the day you're a fantastic dad and that's all that matters! Xx | |||
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"My ex still stays the odd night and lives 5 minutes away, it's really helped the kids adjust to the separation and meant that we can still be a family for them. Can you explain to your ex that you're not close to keep an eye on her or that you have any interest in what she does with her life, your priority is your kids and living close is convenient for them. She should appreciate everything you've done and how dedicated you are as a father! Totally agree Buzz x Haha Santa it's a while since anyone's called me Buzz She's moaning over nothing, at the end of the day you're a fantastic dad and that's all that matters! Xx" That's babe x | |||
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"OP, you're looking to be in the same town for the right reason. Your kids. It will be as good for them, as it is you to have easy and frequent access to the little ones. If things are quite amicable between you, you could always ask why she'd see you being "on her doorstep" as such a big issue? If it was to stop tongues wagging, then she needs to worry less about what others think. Cheers bud Hope you get it all worked out. " | |||
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