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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A "get it off my chest" thread,this is.

For any single new to the scene ladies just starting out,beware the inadequate,insecure,desperado who soon (sometimes before you've even met) goes for the,"fancy being my swing partner" line on you.

1.He wont usually be too experienced on the scene himself.

2.If its suggested before he has even met you, guess what, your regarded as,"a ticket to meet other couples",probably couples he has only ever dreampt about meeting.

3. To those super swing-partner couples i have met recently, no offence, you folks play fair.

4.Single guys who stay single and dont do "pushy" or "insistant" and have an absolute ball on the scene,hope to meet you some day.

5.lol, and to those who are reading this and telling your new insta-swing partner "he should get himself a swing partner",ehhh yer ok, cause im "Having a frikkkin ball single" thanks very much.

Just beware ladies, im sure you fancied swinging for the total sexual freedom, not to help guys who want to get meets via you !

T xx "keep it fun"

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By *lirtyCouple69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Oohhh, so very well said darling.

Listen to him ladies this is one man who knows what he's talking about!!!

Ann xxx

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

As someone who is tryting hard to fit into category 4. above, i couldnt agree more.

It's a perennial problem though, and it's hard to see a way round it.

The site could, for example, make it impossible for unverified guys to contact new single girls for, say, the 1st month of their membership - to allow them to setle in and get a feel for the place.

This isnt going to happen in the real world though as the commercial imperative of driving traffic/people to the site will always win the argument.

I do think it's a shame that a lot of single girls, who could have a really good time on here, get driven away never to be seen again...

...to be honest, once we solve this problem, we'll be able to do world peace, famine and the middle east in about 10 mins flat!

Just my two-pence worth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As someone who is tryting hard to fit into category 4. above, i couldnt agree more.

It's a perennial problem though, and it's hard to see a way round it.

The site could, for example, make it impossible for unverified guys to contact new single girls for, say, the 1st month of their membership - to allow them to setle in and get a feel for the place.

This isnt going to happen in the real world though as the commercial imperative of driving traffic/people to the site will always win the argument.

I do think it's a shame that a lot of single girls, who could have a really good time on here, get driven away never to be seen again...

...to be honest, once we solve this problem, we'll be able to do world peace, famine and the middle east in about 10 mins flat!

Just my two-pence worth."

Chances are unverified guys who have joined within a month are genuine! Its the unverified guys who have been here a year kinda create their own question mark over themselves.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had this a couple weeks ago - stupid man. was meant to be a 1 to 1 meet but he insisted on using my profile to send mail out to about every couple on this site from scotland to get a 4some. Now i had NEVER slept with him - i didnt even know if there was any sexual chem there, told him i was bored to heck but nooooo he continued on to email people, sending out MY pictures cos according to him i was the one the couples were intrested in, and on that note - there was an almost meet from a couple who said at the last min they went bareback. And he could not understand why i went mental as bareback aint for me, told him he could shag the fem from the couple bareback if he insisted but neither of them (him and the guy from the couple) were getting near me.

My swinging days will be done alone. Lesson learned, never ever trust a man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its all very interesting this, i was priming myself for the "its up to the female if she wants to pair up with a guy" thing,and be damned for questioning it.

Correct its totally up to her, im just saying maybe experience the freedom of being solo before linking up with sumone who ohhh just maybe might have less idea than you what fun he wants out this.

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all very interesting this, i was priming myself for the "its up to the female if she wants to pair up with a guy" thing,and be damned for questioning it.

Correct its totally up to her, im just saying maybe experience the freedom of being solo before linking up with sumone who ohhh just maybe might have less idea than you what fun he wants out this.

T xx"

Lol i have experienced swinging before on another site as a single fem, and i will continue to do so - as a single fem, but the guy just would not take no for an answer. Ended up just telling him to leave as i was so fed up you have no idea - all i can say is it ranks as one of my worst meets ever in doing this thing for just over a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just read Rasps post and we are a bit para over that.

we are very very picky who we send pics to as we do not want other users passing our photos around, and wopuld go mental if it happened, we dont think anyone has the right to send photos of other users.

we had a meet all set up with a guy from here as a one off mmf and at the last moment he demanded he brought either a male friend or found another female to come alone, got the feeling he was thinking of getting an escort as he had mentioned adultwork.com a few times previousy, he then saw us talking in the chatroom about our female friend that comes up and then bombarded us with pleading messages to join us for a 4some, needles to say we had to block him. bloody cheek!

one of our female friends on here has a ball playing on her own,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having spoke to many couples it seems that being part of a couple can be a distinct disadvantage when it comes to meeting other couples as you then need 4 people who all get along ? i for one am quite happy plugging along by myself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just read Rasps post and we are a bit para over that.

we are very very picky who we send pics to as we do not want other users passing our photos around, and wopuld go mental if it happened, we dont think anyone has the right to send photos of other users.

we had a meet all set up with a guy from here as a one off mmf and at the last moment he demanded he brought either a male friend or found another female to come alone, got the feeling he was thinking of getting an escort as he had mentioned adultwork.com a few times previousy, he then saw us talking in the chatroom about our female friend that comes up and then bombarded us with pleading messages to join us for a 4some, needles to say we had to block him. bloody cheek!

one of our female friends on here has a ball playing on her own,"

Just to clarify a point here, I am here as a single person - because i am a single person. The person concerned is no longer here thank fuck, and incase i do need verifying on here for some people i do actually know and have met - without sex meets - various people on here through social settings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Just to clarify a point here, I am here as a single person - because i am a single person. The person concerned is no longer here thank fuck, and incase i do need verifying on here for some people i do actually know and have met - without sex meets - various people on here through social settings. "

we werent having a go at you lol, we were sharing a similar experience that we had xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just to clarify a point here, I am here as a single person - because i am a single person. The person concerned is no longer here thank fuck, and incase i do need verifying on here for some people i do actually know and have met - without sex meets - various people on here through social settings.

we werent having a go at you lol, we were sharing a similar experience that we had xx"

lol its cool pamela - just dont want people to think i have someone pulling my strings lol get into enough trouble on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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lol its cool pamela - just dont want people to think i have someone pulling my strings lol get into enough trouble on my own "

hopefully with us soon.........x

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy


"Its all very interesting this, i was priming myself for the "its up to the female if she wants to pair up with a guy" thing,and be damned for questioning it.

Correct its totally up to her, im just saying maybe experience the freedom of being solo before linking up with sumone who ohhh just maybe might have less idea than you what fun he wants out this.

T xx"

i'd have thought it would have been a joint dcision if the two people involved would want to play as a couple - not just down to the female. just as one to one play should be a mutual decision as well

as for unverified guys i do try my bit for those single guys- even if its just meeting them for a coffee i always leave a verification for then - the choice to use it is again up to them. after all we all have a first meet sometime

anyway enough from this tert

happy swinging people stay safe and true to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye but yer a luvable tert lol

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its all very interesting this, i was priming myself for the "its up to the female if she wants to pair up with a guy" thing,and be damned for questioning it.

Correct its totally up to her, im just saying maybe experience the freedom of being solo before linking up with sumone who ohhh just maybe might have less idea than you what fun he wants out this.

T xx

i'd have thought it would have been a joint dcision if the two people involved would want to play as a couple - not just down to the female. just as one to one play should be a mutual decision as well

as for unverified guys i do try my bit for those single guys- even if its just meeting them for a coffee i always leave a verification for then - the choice to use it is again up to them. after all we all have a first meet sometime

anyway enough from this tert

happy swinging people stay safe and true to yourself"

Cool, i was/am on about the guys with the hidden agenda of "soon as i get one interested im going to make her my swing partner,cant agree more with it being a joint decision,hence me saying "beware" beware of the ones who could'nt give a monkeys bout it being a joint decision, quite sure it does/has happened.

T xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And yep, "we all have a first meet" or at some point for all starting out i hope we do.

The pointer of someone or indeed a "couple" being on here a year and having zero verification should at least get you thinking, "hmm wunder why theres nowt",and even then it just might be a choice thing 100% discretion and dont want verified ever, a guess.

T xx

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