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By *ro_guy OP   Man
over a year ago

Central Scotland and South of the border

What do other members think about people who add invite you as friends, only to delete you ? what is that all about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt happen cos only add those we actually know and intend on meeting... we dont add peeps willy nilly

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

They've waited till you're offline, added you, had a wee perv of your private pics and then deleted you again. Tbh I sometimes do that if people add me without sending a message because they clearly haven't read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They've waited till you're offline, added you, had a wee perv of your private pics and then deleted you again. Tbh I sometimes do that if people add me without sending a message because they clearly haven't read my profile."

lol we do this 2, if there so inconsidarate not to msg first then its only fair lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree with mrs k iff their profile isnt what im looking for ie, in ma no nos a wait till they offline and peek n delete lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps im reading menu wrong, however to me it says invite as friend, this to me means your inviting recipient to be a friend not adding them. totally up to the person then to either accept or refuse. totally understand re. sending without reading intended recipient,s profile though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just means there perving your pictures that are kept private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone that sends me a friend invite without even speaking to me gets deleted straight away - i dont even waste my time looking at their pics. They didnt spend time reading my profile, so i just zap them!

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!


"They've waited till you're offline, added you, had a wee perv of your private pics and then deleted you again. Tbh I sometimes do that if people add me without sending a message because they clearly haven't read my profile."

Us to and so do most on ere we think lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone that sends me a friend invite without even speaking to me gets deleted straight away - i dont even waste my time looking at their pics. They didnt spend time reading my profile, so i just zap them!"
never do that anyways

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I never accept random invites anyway but after the shit ive had on here recently i will never ever accept a friends invite until im 100% sure the person is who they say they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we add friends to list it's only done once we either meet them face to face (socialy or otherwise)or we have chatted to them for some time and got to know them well enough.

Only delete from the list if people either no longer chat for a while , of become ignorant and totally ignore us.

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By *ro_guy OP   Man
over a year ago

Central Scotland and South of the border

Well they have now blocked me lmfao .. oh well their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe theyve added u then thought

u werent wat they were looking for

it happens xx

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We do this aswell lol I agree with above comments, if you dont have the politeness to send some form of message why not. I notice though they have the time to keep perving the page to see if you have accepted or keep sending. The time they waste doing that it would take 2mins of their time to send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even with a message, its not guaranteed it gets a friends acceptance,just incase those in such a hurry that dont bother with a message think otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete friends invites if i havent spoken to the person , i also have that on the first line of my profile , so they obviously havent even read my profile , i dont want to have people who are to lazy to even read as my friend.

My friends list consists of people i have met or have chatted to for a long period of time. So never been ignored by a friend ......... yet lol

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Well said Thongz x

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

We have a policy of not adding to our list until we have either had a fem to fem chat on the phone OR have already met socially.

You stil get the odd ones deleting after peeking but we guess this policy rids us of most timewasters too...You know, those who "pose" as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invites sent with out a message prior will get deleted. I will chat with ppl and try and get to know them and if they ask to be friends with me with the view to meeting up then I will aceept their invite. However after a period of time and I dont hear from that person and I see that he/she has been online and we havnt spoken for a cpl of months I will clear out my friends list and keep the ppl I am chatting to on my list. I always put a note on my profile when I am having a friends list clear out. No point being on my friends list if we are not chatting.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have similar feelings to Latino on this...

I accept friends only after chatting for a while and I am 100% sure of them.

If after a couple of weeks they have not been in touch then they are deleted.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are on my friends list then they are on it, dont believe in closing doors on people for the sake of any form of time scale, its a lovely journey we go on, sometimes quickly meeting people, sometimes it takes ages to occur (2yrs in one case),sometimes it just may not happen,cool, thats ok too.

I dont get this "im having a friends clear out" why? will yer pc stop workin if have too many? lol

Just my opinion,

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends clear out is explained in my original post. Iv had guys on my list who have stopped chatting .. I see they have been online and have read my message with no reply. If this happens more than once I quietly take it as a hint because I'm not pushy. We all have our opinions that's what forums are for. I am not in anyway saying the way I control my friends list is the right way its just the way I do it and it works for me. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think its also an easier point of reference to click on your friends list to find folks you are or were in contact with, much less time consuming than searching your memory banks for the name then browsing it then locating them, just a suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The friends i eventually met after 2 years of being in touch, we were'nt in touch, daily, weekly or even a message once a month, it was simply nice to have them classed as friends and be able to look them up and as often happens, the time the date suited and we met and have become good swinging friends, that would not of been poss if i had chosen to click them off the list,thats why i say i dont see the benefit of creating a cut off point for remaining friend listed.

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By *ee-deeWoman
over a year ago

The Kingdom


"I have similar feelings to Latino on this...

I accept friends only after chatting for a while and I am 100% sure of them.

If after a couple of weeks they have not been in touch then they are deleted.....

You only wait a couple of weeks and then delete 'your friends'!!?...thats a bit harsh...surely not that quick!!...not everyone can chat all the time...we all have lives away from Fab?...well im with Fine DBS on this...unless they have upset you in some way...surely you would keep the folks on your friends list...not expecting every friend to be there chatting all the time? I suppose we are all different but I like to keep my friends a bit longer and would hope they would understand that I was just busy ..working...on holiday...having family time...whatever ..not cause I no longer wish to be friends with them.

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

Personally I have friends clear outs now and again. That's not to say I delete everyone I haven't spoken to in X number of weeks, I have someone on there who hasn't been online in 3 months, but I don't want guys to have access to my private pics if they can't be arsed to talk to me, whether in chat or in messages. This is why I'm also very fussy about who I add in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe theyve added u then thought

u werent wat they were looking for

it happens xx "

Well Said That Mad Woman ..lol

Buboo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most people wanna b added to c pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"most people wanna b added to c pics "
this i very agree with. so now its why its all hidden from prion eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The friends i eventually met after 2 years of being in touch, we were'nt in touch, daily, weekly or even a message once a month, it was simply nice to have them classed as friends and be able to look them up and as often happens, the time the date suited and we met and have become good swinging friends, that would not of been poss if i had chosen to click them off the list,thats why i say i dont see the benefit of creating a cut off point for remaining friend listed."

As I have said before thats your way and I have my way .. I dont have a cut off period I just used that as an example I look to see who I havnt chatted to and I thin you have missed the bit where I also said I have messaged them they have read the message with a delete ... but I do like most have a friends clear out, it is normally a cpl. I do put a note on my profile .. its just the way I do things it doesnt mean its wrong or right ... I get it you dont agree okies noted xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, nowhere did i say it was right or wrong, and if nobody else is gona say it i will, i think i explained it pretty bloomin well,lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I never said you said it was wrong it was simply a coment pointing out there is no right way or wrong in how you manage your friends list ... and you have pointed out you disagree which is something I accept because we all have our opinions again I stess this is what forums are for not slagging matches ... you dont have to swear and blooming isnt a nice word to use esp in relation to me .. SO STOP pls I am not hear for a slagging match my comment was trying to explain to the orignal person who put the post in the forum to make him understand why I personally manage my friends list that was all.

Yes you have indeed explained yourself very clearly and I thank you for that now I think this forum should stop xxxx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

The only thing that needs to stop is you two getting in a tizz.

Just accept people do things THEIR way and then there is no need to argue about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get loads of requests.

we usually just accept, perv at there private pics then delete

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By *nverman67Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I haven't a problem with anyone perving my private pics lol, so if anyone wants to send a friend invite feel free........you know you want to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I have friends clear outs now and again. That's not to say I delete everyone I haven't spoken to in X number of weeks, I have someone on there who hasn't been online in 3 months, but I don't want guys to have access to my private pics if they can't be arsed to talk to me, whether in chat or in messages. This is why I'm also very fussy about who I add in the first place. "

I agree with this, works for me

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast


"They've waited till you're offline, added you, had a wee perv of your private pics and then deleted you again. Tbh I sometimes do that if people add me without sending a message because they clearly haven't read my profile."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They've waited till you're offline, added you, had a wee perv of your private pics and then deleted you again. Tbh I sometimes do that if people add me without sending a message because they clearly haven't read my profile.

+1 "

+2 lol

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