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By *ubgirl66 OP   Couple
over a year ago

dunfermline

Should I name and shame them or keep them to myself and it's all females that have been wasting my time. They say they are going to meet then they go off the site for a few days.

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

chalk it up to experience and move on. People can choose to walk away at any time, and unless someone ghosts on a meet and leaves you stood up, they've hardly wasted your time.

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I think there's a "don't name and shame" policy on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think its part of life on here.maybe the nerves kick in and and they get cold feet

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

3 strikes and there out should be the rule . They spoil it for all the genuine fabbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 strikes and there out should be the rule . They spoil it for all the genuine fabbers.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Should I name and shame them or keep them to myself and it's all females that have been wasting my time. They say they are going to meet then they go off the site for a few days. "

You can't name and shame!

Depends what you call wasting your time.

They say they are going to meet?? Or you made firm arrangements about meeting?

May be something in real life turned up?

May be they are put off by your couples profile that is not a 'couples' profile but a single female one?

Could be lots of things!

Frustrating but roll your eyes and move on!

May be turning your profile as a single female one might help.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't waste your time, just move on, life's too short.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

People change their minds. Real life happens and takes priority.

People are not obliged to explain themselves to strangers on the internet.

Being here does not give some entitlement to anything.

I often wonder if the people that post about "timewasters" are actually the cause of their problem.

Perhaps the other party felt they couldn't just say they changed their mind so it was easier to vanish?

I've chatted to people and then they change - as their expectations increased so did their person. I've not liked it and told them so and blocked.

That doesn't make me in the wrong.

Why would anyone on here take a path they aren't comfortable with?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

All of the above. Plus are you sure they were genuine profiles?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"People change their minds. Real life happens and takes priority.

People are not obliged to explain themselves to strangers on the internet.

Being here does not give some entitlement to anything.

I often wonder if the people that post about "timewasters" are actually the cause of their problem.

Perhaps the other party felt they couldn't just say they changed their mind so it was easier to vanish?

I've chatted to people and then they change - as their expectations increased so did their person. I've not liked it and told them so and blocked.

That doesn't make me in the wrong.

Why would anyone on here take a path they aren't comfortable with?

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all of this though mainly what is a timewaster for some it appears to be he/she is on a swingers site but aint shagged me timewaster. For myself never had my time wasted but my definition is a solid planned meet in place they dont or didnt show with no contact why they havent shown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless I've made a solid arrangement to meet and I turn up to nobody and no message of apology I will try to contact, if still no reply then my time was wasted and I move on

Hasn't happened on here in 10 years .....YET

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 strikes and there out should be the rule . They spoil it for all the genuine fabbers.

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Two strikes max!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with Nawty Max.

In my opinion there are far too many of these half arsed couples profiles that are vague in the extreme.

If you are here as a couple wtf are his details??

Setting yourself up for a fall and having a good moan doesn't change that.

Good to see that it's not single men mucking you about though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should I name and shame them or keep them to myself and it's all females that have been wasting my time. They say they are going to meet then they go off the site for a few days. "

How dare these ladies have real lives!! Surely they should be there to service the OP whenever he wants. Get a grip fella and don't name and shame. Just makes you look extremely bitter.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Should I name and shame them or keep them to myself and it's all females that have been wasting my time. They say they are going to meet then they go off the site for a few days.

How dare these ladies have real lives!! Surely they should be there to service the OP whenever he wants. Get a grip fella and don't name and shame. Just makes you look extremely bitter."

Strawbs... The OP is a single female with a couple's profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we so sick of time wasters but its true that life to short to worry about them stick to photo verified users and hopfly things will be ok .

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

You're a single girl, on a couples profile, but there's no info on the male half??

You say that you're not interested in guys, but your only shown veri is from.......a guy??!!

Is it any wonder that you're coming across what you describe as 'timewasters'!!

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Seems a dodgy eh...

I find a lot of time wasters here too... But we carry on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should I name and shame them or keep them to myself and it's all females that have been wasting my time. They say they are going to meet then they go off the site for a few days.

How dare these ladies have real lives!! Surely they should be there to service the OP whenever he wants. Get a grip fella and don't name and shame. Just makes you look extremely bitter.

Strawbs... The OP is a single female with a couple's profile "

Pmsl. That will teach me to not read OP's properly. Assumed it was a single male complaining. ...then again

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By *unseekers87Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow ish

We have not long joined fab again after a long lay off and have been taking it slow talking to some couples. The last night one of the couples asked to swap face pics, which we agreed to as they seemed genuine and we'd been messaging back and fourth for a few days. They sent first and it was a pic we recognised from a couple from our old account of a couple who were supposedly from a diffrent location and a younger age. We then asked them if they used to have a diffrent profile from a diffrent area and they replied " not sure". The amount of fakes on fab is terrible there is a whole Internet of porn out there and they choose to spend time trying to collect pics on fab.

Sorry for the rant, we are nice people honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see some on this site are to quick to blame us single guys for the ills of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never really got all this frustration and angst about so called "timewasters". If it turns out someone doesn't really want to meet or real life makes it impossible I could never be so far up my own bum as to not accept it.

As far as I know fab doesn't come with contractual obligations. Just jog along and find someone who will meet and if it happens repeatedly that you're let down, look at the type of people you chat to.

This attitude of "How bloody dare they.." gets my goat.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I have never really got all this frustration and angst about so called "timewasters". If it turns out someone doesn't really want to meet or real life makes it impossible I could never be so far up my own bum as to not accept it.

As far as I know fab doesn't come with contractual obligations. Just jog along and find someone who will meet and if it happens repeatedly that you're let down, look at the type of people you chat to.

This attitude of "How bloody dare they.." gets my goat. "

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"I have never really got all this frustration and angst about so called "timewasters". If it turns out someone doesn't really want to meet or real life makes it impossible I could never be so far up my own bum as to not accept it.

As far as I know fab doesn't come with contractual obligations. Just jog along and find someone who will meet and if it happens repeatedly that you're let down, look at the type of people you chat to.

This attitude of "How bloody dare they.." gets my goat. "

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