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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I normally send a message 'Hi how are you' along with face pic. I accept that I may not be what some people are looking for and no reply is recieved. What I want to ask fellow fabbers is, do you think it's a naff way to make initial contact. I only want to be respectful and not pushy but should I say more in my first message? Thanks for your help peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally send a message 'Hi how are you' along with face pic. I accept that I may not be what some people are looking for and no reply is recieved. What I want to ask fellow fabbers is, do you think it's a naff way to make initial contact. I only want to be respectful and not pushy but should I say more in my first message? Thanks for your help peeps "

I think it's 'naff' that at 47 you are asking others how you should approach folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it's a naff way to make initial contact?"

"Should I say more in my first message?"

Yes and Yes.

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

What's wrong with the good old fashioned " Fancy a fuck" introduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's wrong with the good old fashioned " Fancy a fuck" introduction "

Thiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I want my dick sucked" pretty much does it for me!

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire


""Hi I want my dick sucked" pretty much does it for me!"

Or "I am hungover and horny fancy a fuck or sucking my cock"

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I would appreciate the face pic, and would prefer a little more than just a hi

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

More than acceptable in my books

First off it starts off the convo and secondly it lets me see who im speaking with .

Its a start and who knows where it could lead

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By *ightfall79Man
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

Read the profile of the person you are messaging and see what they are into. Do they have likes that you are also into if so ask them about them. Send a message to engage the other person to reply back and also attach face pic.

Though if women want then FAF works for me if you want to send me message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I delete messages like that.

I like to get a sense of the person. If the message and profile are bland I'm not going to progress anything.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"Read the profile of the person you are messaging and see what they are into. Do they have likes that you are also into if so ask them about them. Send a message to engage the other person to reply back and also attach face pic.

Though if women want then FAF works for me if you want to send me message. "

FAF?

Could you explain that one please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the profile of the person you are messaging and see what they are into. Do they have likes that you are also into if so ask them about them. Send a message to engage the other person to reply back and also attach face pic.

Though if women want then FAF works for me if you want to send me message.

FAF?

Could you explain that one please?"

FAF - Fancy A Fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprised to hear women saying the ol' fancy a fuck line is a good approach, it seems to be regularly scorned in people's statuses so I would never do it. I just go for a simple intro with a few face pics and it leave it in the hands of the other person to see if they want to chat.

Maybe I should just be more direct!

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Read the profile of the person you are messaging and see what they are into. Do they have likes that you are also into if so ask them about them. Send a message to engage the other person to reply back and also attach face pic.

Though if women want then FAF works for me if you want to send me message. "

This is good advice in my opinion

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Or just send a pirate pic

Works for me

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"Read the profile of the person you are messaging and see what they are into. Do they have likes that you are also into if so ask them about them. Send a message to engage the other person to reply back and also attach face pic.

Though if women want then FAF works for me if you want to send me message.

FAF?

Could you explain that one please?

FAF - Fancy A Fuck "

Ah thank you - should have guessed

Actually I might use that next time I'm messaging - sure to save me a bit of time typing. I'm willing to bet that in addition to the cock pics the Ladies and Couples will appreciate the brevity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a different approach, I don't send the initial message. Women and couples get so many messages I don't really see the point in adding to their already full inboxes.

I log in, chat away to my friends and place my awful banter in the forums. You find other fab users will get intouch with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a different approach, I don't send the initial message. Women and couples get so many messages I don't really see the point in adding to their already full inboxes.

I log in, chat away to my friends and place my awful banter in the forums. You find other fab users will get intouch with you "

That may be true as I do the same but find they usually block me

Happy New Year Everyone

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"I have a different approach, I don't send the initial message. Women and couples get so many messages I don't really see the point in adding to their already full inboxes.

I log in, chat away to my friends and place my awful banter in the forums. You find other fab users will get intouch with you "

This

But sending a dick pic with "hi how are you, fancy a nsa fcuk" works pretty well. Women are like putty in my warm fingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally send a message 'Hi how are you' along with face pic. I accept that I may not be what some people are looking for and no reply is recieved. What I want to ask fellow fabbers is, do you think it's a naff way to make initial contact. I only want to be respectful and not pushy but should I say more in my first message? Thanks for your help peeps "

I try and open dialogue with someone with sending a face pic and how are you, it's nice and easy and starts you off.I also read their profile and try and add a personal touch. For instance if they have tattoos I ask about them as I also have tattoos and it is common ground. Although my approach has vary success.

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By * n SCouple
over a year ago

dundee

Hi how are you is a reasonable opener in our opinion. If we get that and like the look of the sender then we'd expect more in the 2nd message.

Regularly see folk say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet still seem to expect guys to have the time to sit and write war and peace as a first message. It's surely demoralising for guys who do send a lengthy message only to see it deleted without reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for the above J and S.

Nail on the head.

There's no point writing loads on first contact if the likely hood is that it often doesn't even get opened.

I quick hello, this is me should be enough but some expect sugar on top. And yes it is demoralising being ignored.

If someone is kind enough to reply they will receive plenty of chat on the second one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi how are you is a reasonable opener in our opinion. If we get that and like the look of the sender then we'd expect more in the 2nd message.

Regularly see folk say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet still seem to expect guys to have the time to sit and write war and peace as a first message. It's surely demoralising for guys who do send a lengthy message only to see it deleted without reply."

BINGO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually send a message explaining how awesome i am and why they should meet me, hasnt worked so far but im not a quitter

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By *andl kinkycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Scotland


"I normally send a message 'Hi how are you' along with face pic. I accept that I may not be what some people are looking for and no reply is recieved. What I want to ask fellow fabbers is, do you think it's a naff way to make initial contact. I only want to be respectful and not pushy but should I say more in my first message? Thanks for your help peeps

I think it's 'naff' that at 47 you are asking others how you should approach folk "

Cmon the guys asking for a bit of advice! See this is why people never come back on forums...shot down straight away for asking a question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally send a message 'Hi how are you' along with face pic. I accept that I may not be what some people are looking for and no reply is recieved. What I want to ask fellow fabbers is, do you think it's a naff way to make initial contact. I only want to be respectful and not pushy but should I say more in my first message? Thanks for your help peeps "

A hi, how are you both is fine for us, a pic if you're happy with that, if not the at can follow later. If we like the look of the profile, or would like to chat more, there's plenty of scope for conversation in future messages.

As has been said, not much point in writing War & Peace for the message to be simply deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally send a message 'Hi how are you' along with face pic. I accept that I may not be what some people are looking for and no reply is recieved. What I want to ask fellow fabbers is, do you think it's a naff way to make initial contact. I only want to be respectful and not pushy but should I say more in my first message? Thanks for your help peeps

I think it's 'naff' that at 47 you are asking others how you should approach folk

Cmon the guys asking for a bit of advice! See this is why people never come back on forums...shot down straight away for asking a question! "

I'm not gonna apologise for being amazed that some folks ask the most basic of questions about how to interact with others

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"Hi how are you is a reasonable opener in our opinion. If we get that and like the look of the sender then we'd expect more in the 2nd message.

Regularly see folk say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet still seem to expect guys to have the time to sit and write war and peace as a first message. It's surely demoralising for guys who do send a lengthy message only to see it deleted without reply."

It certainly can be - we ge told to write something witty and interesting, to personalise it (which can be hard to do as some lady and couple profiles haven't had much thought or effort put into them) and then to see it deleted seconds after being read is a bit of a kick in the .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi how are you is a reasonable opener in our opinion. If we get that and like the look of the sender then we'd expect more in the 2nd message.

Regularly see folk say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet still seem to expect guys to have the time to sit and write war and peace as a first message. It's surely demoralising for guys who do send a lengthy message only to see it deleted without reply.

It certainly can be - we ge told to write something witty and interesting, to personalise it (which can be hard to do as some lady and couple profiles haven't had much thought or effort put into them) and then to see it deleted seconds after being read is a bit of a kick in the ....."

Exactly. You're as likely to get a response from a quick intro and a face pic as you are from a witty/charming long winded message. People will decide straight away if they want to interact so it makes no odds really IMHO.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Hi how are you is a reasonable opener in our opinion. If we get that and like the look of the sender then we'd expect more in the 2nd message.

Regularly see folk say they don't have time to reply to all messages yet still seem to expect guys to have the time to sit and write war and peace as a first message. It's surely demoralising for guys who do send a lengthy message only to see it deleted without reply.

It certainly can be - we ge told to write something witty and interesting, to personalise it (which can be hard to do as some lady and couple profiles haven't had much thought or effort put into them) and then to see it deleted seconds after being read is a bit of a kick in the .....

Exactly. You're as likely to get a response from a quick intro and a face pic as you are from a witty/charming long winded message. People will decide straight away if they want to interact so it makes no odds really IMHO."
your dead right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree

More likely to get a yes or no thanks from a.. hi how you doing and attach a face pic

Knobshots or blank profiles have no interest

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"I agree

More likely to get a yes or no thanks from a.. hi how you doing and attach a face pic

Knobshots or blank profiles have no interest

"

Hi - how you doin? (Best Joey Tribbiani voice)

If only there was a way to put a pic in this post...

Oh and that I was a lot closer!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow quite amazed to read fancy a fuck works with some.. I've sent probably near to 200 messages now and I'm on plenty enough and Bern nothing but complimentary funny polite topical always referring to their profile etc and yet no meets to get at least a first verification. It's very very difficult and so I'm going to try FAF HA!! fck can't be any worse that zero reply anyway!

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By *ootlover456Man
over a year ago

Paisley

ive always been crap at initial messages too. one of the reasons I don't bother to really message many people anymore.

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By * n SCouple
over a year ago

dundee


"Wow quite amazed to read fancy a fuck works with some.. I've sent probably near to 200 messages now and I'm on plenty enough and Bern nothing but complimentary funny polite topical always referring to their profile etc and yet no meets to get at least a first verification. It's very very difficult and so I'm going to try FAF HA!! fck can't be any worse that zero reply anyway! "

I don't think anyone has said fancy a fuck works. Certainly doesn't for us but a nice wee introduction may. Fancy a fuck will get you blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a nightmare some want polite some want to the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Hi I want my dick sucked" pretty much does it for me!"
lol wish that easy with you c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always think it's more polite to send a friend invite and only introduce myself if accepted.

Rubs some people up the wrong way but that helps me cut the wheat from the chaff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I delete friends invites from guys Iv never chatted too

A hey How's things what you up to today message with a face pic is my preference

But yip bit of a minefield for guys

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