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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok i know how folk feel on this subject but why do folk feel the need to do that for?

True theres folk that can be nasty but if that person knows your not that type why cant they just be honest instead of thinking youll get the hint?

Someone i spent months talking too and planned to meet suddenly done this and just noticed them back of fab after ghosting me no warning that they wernt interested yeah im blocked but hey it is how it is no moaning as such lol just dont get why folk do it i just prefer honesty especially as they didnt come across the type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok i know how folk feel on this subject but why do folk feel the need to do that for?

True theres folk that can be nasty but if that person knows your not that type why cant they just be honest instead of thinking youll get the hint?

Someone i spent months talking too and planned to meet suddenly done this and just noticed them back of fab after ghosting me no warning that they wernt interested yeah im blocked but hey it is how it is no moaning as such lol just dont get why folk do it i just prefer honesty especially as they didnt come across the type "

It's the least stressful way of sending the message that you just aren't interested anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah that i get obv but they were defo interested the person in question was planning on meeting we were arranging it and then boom blocked on everything was even off fab for months till now so just find it rather strange

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Something you said

Something you didn't say

Something you have done

Something you haven't done

Bored of your messages!

Bored with fab!

She changed her mind and didn't want the 'but why, we been chatting for weeks that surely guarantee me a meet with you!'.

Who knows!

your eyes and move on. You will never know the real reason.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks max yeah i know i did move on been seeing someone for a while now i just happened to see her back so was like oh aye really? but hey ho

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

But you havent moved on you felt the need to highlight what in your opinion they did wrong.This isnt to sound bad but you use the term ghosted and from what you have writtenyou only spoke on fab. Which to me is more like got bored of contact so cut it off

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

You say you spent months chatting, maybe she got bored of waiting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have moved on kola i just noticed them back after dissapearing for months and we spoke the most on whatsapp or txts etc she wasnt always on fab and right up to then she never gave any hint she was bored infact she said she was dying to meet me but hey her choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" got bored of contact so cut it off"

That's an extreme reaction!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It wasnt cos of me she was wanting to meet but cos of her work she could finish late i just thought id get an explination rather than just dissapearing

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Real Life perhaps got in the way it happens, people leave cut contact for reasons only they know.

As you said it's months later you have apparently moved on so leave the past in the past no point going over it in your head all over again. Bottom line she clearly wasn't as keen to meet as you thought x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

That's the problem on here though - people think they're owed an explanation and sorry to be blunt but we're not. I always tell people when I'm happy to chat but not interested in meeting/playing, but not everyone does.

Sometimes people don't want to be asked why because they don't like to hurt people's feelings. Whenever I've been asked I just say they're not my type, that covers a variety of reasons and feelings aren't hurt.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I don't get all the complaints about not getting a reply to an initial message but I think if you've been chatting to someone for a while then the decent thing to do would be to at least send a quick message saying 'sorry, this isn't working out' or something similar. Even if you block them immediately afterwards at least you've given some sort of closure. Maybe I'm being old fashioned here but it's the civil thing to do imho.

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By *onniemMan
over a year ago

South Lanarkshire

Therein lies a problem . Many on here are incapable of civility . They'll protest their innocence etc but some on here have manners that beggar belief and as my wee maw says "manners cost nothing"

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Therein lies a problem . Many on here are incapable of civility . They'll protest their innocence etc but some on here have manners that beggar belief and as my wee maw says "manners cost nothing" "

I try to have manners and replied to my messages. But it's not nice when your manners come back to bite you in the bum!!

Male: You wanna fuck?

Me: Nope

Male: Hope you get murdered blah... blah...blah...

Oooh so happy I had manners and replied

So I am not judging people that decide not to reply, may be they had one too many abusive message.

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By *onniemMan
over a year ago

South Lanarkshire


"Therein lies a problem . Many on here are incapable of civility . They'll protest their innocence etc but some on here have manners that beggar belief and as my wee maw says "manners cost nothing"

I try to have manners and replied to my messages. But it's not nice when your manners come back to bite you in the bum!!

Male: You wanna fuck?

Me: Nope

Male: Hope you get murdered blah... blah...blah...

Oooh so happy I had manners and replied

So I am not judging people that decide not to reply, may be they had one too many abusive message.

"

Wasn't meaning specifics Max . In general manners are rare in here but there is no doubt that there are many (mostly men I'd say , men being a loose description) who actually worry me that they're allowed to walk the streets messages of that nature should be able to be posted on their profiles to ensure people know what they are dealing with

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Therein lies a problem . Many on here are incapable of civility . They'll protest their innocence etc but some on here have manners that beggar belief and as my wee maw says "manners cost nothing"

I try to have manners and replied to my messages. But it's not nice when your manners come back to bite you in the bum!!

Male: You wanna fuck?

Me: Nope

Male: Hope you get murdered blah... blah...blah...

Oooh so happy I had manners and replied

So I am not judging people that decide not to reply, may be they had one too many abusive message.

Wasn't meaning specifics Max . In general manners are rare in here but there is no doubt that there are many (mostly men I'd say , men being a loose description) who actually worry me that they're allowed to walk the streets messages of that nature should be able to be posted on their profiles to ensure people know what they are dealing with "

Whoops, sorry Donnie

True. For some manners are not necessary because it is a sex site and they are behind a screen.

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By *onniemMan
over a year ago

South Lanarkshire


"Therein lies a problem . Many on here are incapable of civility . They'll protest their innocence etc but some on here have manners that beggar belief and as my wee maw says "manners cost nothing"

I try to have manners and replied to my messages. But it's not nice when your manners come back to bite you in the bum!!

Male: You wanna fuck?

Me: Nope

Male: Hope you get murdered blah... blah...blah...

Oooh so happy I had manners and replied

So I am not judging people that decide not to reply, may be they had one too many abusive message.

Wasn't meaning specifics Max . In general manners are rare in here but there is no doubt that there are many (mostly men I'd say , men being a loose description) who actually worry me that they're allowed to walk the streets messages of that nature should be able to be posted on their profiles to ensure people know what they are dealing with

Whoops, sorry Donnie

True. For some manners are not necessary because it is a sex site and they are behind a screen.

"

Be happier if they were behind bars

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I will be honest and admit I've done it because it's easier then saying I've changed my mind because something put me off

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world

I've done it. Spoke to someone for a wee while then a few days before the meet he was bringing his mate as a surprise apparently boom blocked

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"I've done it. Spoke to someone for a wee while then a few days before the meet he was bringing his mate as a surprise apparently boom blocked "
a whole new meaning to shy

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I will be honest and admit I've done it because it's easier then saying I've changed my mind because something put me off "

one time I told a couple I wasn't interested in meeting them. The reply was "which one of us is the issue?"

Not really sure which answer they were hoping for tbh (and it was both of them)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done it. Spoke to someone for a wee while then a few days before the meet he was bringing his mate as a surprise apparently boom blocked a whole new meaning to shy "

At least it wasn't his mum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is very honest.. they don't want to talk to you anymore.

It's saves all the why why why that some people feel the need to go over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume most folk ghost someone as sending a message to say your not interested is hard. I personally hate it as I'd prefer the certainty of knowing rather than the slow death of hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame that some genuine folk suffer for the sins of others. I have found it easier to block sometimes as very often a polite no thanks is followed by "why, what's wrong with me" "can we continue to chat" "am I not your type" and various other pointless ping pong mails... one memorable message was "can't you just fit me in"... I won't tell you my reply but I didn't pull any punches before blocking...

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

I think if you at least get an answer, even a no, deserves a polite reply

Even if it's

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you at least get an answer, even a no, deserves a polite reply

Even if it's

Good luck"

My standard response is "Thank you for your message which is appreciated but I have all I need in regard to the site.

Good luck and Happy Swinging"

You would be surprised how many do not take that a final answer... on the plus side many do make a polite response... they are NOTED

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill


"I think if you at least get an answer, even a no, deserves a polite reply

Even if it's

Good luck

My standard response is "Thank you for your message which is appreciated but I have all I need in regard to the site.

Good luck and Happy Swinging"

You would be surprised how many do not take that a final answer... on the plus side many do make a polite response... they are NOTED "

I've had that response lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you at least get an answer, even a no, deserves a polite reply

Even if it's

Good luck

My standard response is "Thank you for your message which is appreciated but I have all I need in regard to the site.

Good luck and Happy Swinging"

You would be surprised how many do not take that a final answer... on the plus side many do make a polite response... they are NOTED

I've had that response lol"

Noted

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill


"I think if you at least get an answer, even a no, deserves a polite reply

Even if it's

Good luck

My standard response is "Thank you for your message which is appreciated but I have all I need in regard to the site.

Good luck and Happy Swinging"

You would be surprised how many do not take that a final answer... on the plus side many do make a polite response... they are NOTED

I've had that response lol

Noted "

But always a polite reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get used to it as it happens A LOT on here!

I'd say probably 70% of all my messaging on here consists of one or a few nights of chatting n then I won't hear back from them for whatever reason......changed their mind/are no longer d*unk n lots of other reasons it's pointless to think about.

Will hold my hand up n admit to doing it myself on occasion.

Don't see what all the fuss is about really,if folk can't handle it n get all precious about being ignored then they're in the wrong place!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Honestly folk just take these threads and run with it i never said it was someone i was only talking to on here it moved away from here spoke for months by txt calls whatsapp etc friendship built up as well as wanting to meet up then one day nothing infact until i got blocked on whatsapp i actually i thought something had happened to her cos she just stopped contact it was months and just by chance i saw she was back on fab after blocking me and had not used it since she stopped talking to me i wouldnt bother if it was only on fab as ive had that happen which is fine just move on but as we were friends it was a bit strange and hurtful that she gave no reason just blank me till i took the hint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly folk just take these threads and run with it i never said it was someone i was only talking to on here it moved away from here spoke for months by txt calls whatsapp etc friendship built up as well as wanting to meet up then one day nothing infact until i got blocked on whatsapp i actually i thought something had happened to her cos she just stopped contact it was months and just by chance i saw she was back on fab after blocking me and had not used it since she stopped talking to me i wouldnt bother if it was only on fab as ive had that happen which is fine just move on but as we were friends it was a bit strange and hurtful that she gave no reason just blank me till i took the hint "

Fab,WhatsApp,Kik.....doesn't really matter.

Only you know the ins n outs n all the details but I'd say it serves no purpose to invest yourself emotionally in someone you've messaged for months without managing to meet.....or spoke to in person over the phone?

Just my opinion,but just because the convo shifts to a different platform it doesn't make it anymore meaningful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not trying to sound a bitch but if you've never met them how can they really be classed as a friend? People change their mind all the time, doesn't mean they need to give a reason especially if you've never actually met.

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By *adylee80Woman
over a year ago

Motherwell


"Not trying to sound a bitch but if you've never met them how can they really be classed as a friend? People change their mind all the time, doesn't mean they need to give a reason especially if you've never actually met. "

Exactly what I was thinking chick.

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