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"No" No as in none of the choices or just don't want to enjoy being used. p.s. the statement is for Girls to put their views, doesn't not mean I'm that way inclined, well not all the time  | |||
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"No No as in none of the choices or just don't want to enjoy being used. p.s. the statement is for Girls to put their views, doesn't not mean I'm that way inclined, well not all the time "No as in i never have a time when i just want to be used by a guy as per your OP | |||
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"No Never Sex to me is a 2 way things Not into " being used " as you put it Not good at taking direction..I'm more of a go with the flow kinda chick " | |||
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"A Question for the girls. If and when you play, do you ever have a time when you just want really used by a guy and if so when, Is it when your in the mood ? or Just when you look at the guy you think "Fuck I so want him to use me" ? Just Asking Like "depending on my mood yes sometimes I just want taken is that the same as abused like your meaning im not too sure ?  | |||
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"No Never Sex to me is a 2 way things Not into " being used " as you put it Not good at taking direction..I'm more of a go with the flow kinda chick "Yes I get why you said that
But I don't mean it that way, I mean 'the used part' is still two way, as is, its what the girl wants.
There's most definitely a difference that's why I added this post to see girls views in the two way version.
For me as a guy, (checks mirror), no matter when I play or whatever level I play, there is always respect for the person(s) I'm with.
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There's always one 
What do you mean by 'being used'.
Everyone has their own interpretation, but what is yours so am sure we are talking the same language before commenting. | |||
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There's always one
What do you mean by 'being used'.
Everyone has their own interpretation, but what is yours so am sure we are talking the same language before commenting."You submitting to the guy, knowing whatever he does he's in charge, telling you what hes going to do to you or just doing it and you will enjoy yourself fully whatever fun you have. | |||
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"Sorry for the silly question
There's always one
What do you mean by 'being used'.
Everyone has their own interpretation, but what is yours so am sure we are talking the same language before commenting.
You submitting to the guy, knowing whatever he does he's in charge, telling you what hes going to do to you or just doing it and you will enjoy yourself fully whatever fun you have. "In that case yes I do enjoy this kind of play but only with a trusted playmate and a safe word used to indicate I wish to stop  | |||
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"Being used to me anyway is... The guy being in total control Do this...do that sort of thing with no say Maybe that's why I don't get the whole dom slave thing "lol but what im saying is definitely not dom / slave thing. Its not my bag either, cant be bother with the master shit either. The girl could be the sweetest girl ever and enjoy fun and sex but one night just want a guy to take total control of her as he desires with her wishes. That's what I'm trying to get across is it normally when the girl would be in the mood or if sometimes she meets a guy and think 'ouff, use me' | |||
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"Sorry for the silly question
There's always one
What do you mean by 'being used'.
Everyone has their own interpretation, but what is yours so am sure we are talking the same language before commenting.
You submitting to the guy, knowing whatever he does he's in charge, telling you what hes going to do to you or just doing it and you will enjoy yourself fully whatever fun you have. "Glad I asked, as I make a huge difference between 'being used' and 'submitting'/'being dominated' 'being used' complete no-no. 'Dominated' yes but only and I mean only with someone I know, trust, knows me well and I am in that mood. And that situation has been discussed. Saying that, does not mean I am going to make it easy for him to dominate me! | |||
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"A Question for the girls. If and when you play, do you ever have a time when you just want really used by a guy and if so when, Is it when your in the mood ? or Just when you look at the guy you think "Fuck I so want him to use me" ? Just Asking Like depending on my mood yes sometimes I just want taken is that the same as abused like your meaning im not too sure ? "ops obviously ment used not abused  | |||
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"Being used to me anyway is... The guy being in total control Do this...do that sort of thing with no say Maybe that's why I don't get the whole dom slave thing "The slave 'does' have a say. | |||
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"Being used to me anyway is... The guy being in total control Do this...do that sort of thing with no say Maybe that's why I don't get the whole dom slave thing
The slave 'does' have a say."Yessssss, agreedddddd | |||
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"Being used to me anyway is... The guy being in total control Do this...do that sort of thing with no say Maybe that's why I don't get the whole dom slave thing
lol but what im saying is definitely not dom / slave thing. Its not my bag either, cant be bother with the master shit either.
The girl could be the sweetest girl ever and enjoy fun and sex but one night just want a guy to take total control of her as he desires with her wishes.
That's what I'm trying to get across is it normally when the girl would be in the mood or if sometimes she meets a guy and think 'ouff, use me'
"So surely if she is thinking 'ouff, just use me' (sic), then she is in the mood anyway? | |||
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"Unfortunatly you cant pick and choose who finds a topic intresting or who can and cant post on a subject. If you really dont want a guys intwrpretation other than your own disregard all guys posts. folks terms for the word "used" seems to be different so I gave my take on it and my thoughts on it " lol kola, you've know em long enough it was just from the girls perspective. Guys perspective will always see it differently | |||
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"Unfortunatly you cant pick and choose who finds a topic intresting or who can and cant post on a subject. If you really dont want a guys intwrpretation other than your own disregard all guys posts. folks terms for the word "used" seems to be different so I gave my take on it and my thoughts on it lol kola, you've know em long enough it was just from the girls perspective. Guys perspective will always see it differently "Girls think differently from each other too  | |||
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"Unfortunatly you cant pick and choose who finds a topic intresting or who can and cant post on a subject. If you really dont want a guys intwrpretation other than your own disregard all guys posts. folks terms for the word "used" seems to be different so I gave my take on it and my thoughts on it lol kola, you've know em long enough it was just from the girls perspective. Guys perspective will always see it differently
Girls think differently from each other too " | |||
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"Being used to me anyway is... The guy being in total control Do this...do that sort of thing with no say Maybe that's why I don't get the whole dom slave thing
The slave 'does' have a say."I make you right Max ... Anyone thats done proper Dom/Sub play would know, the sub is only sub because they enjoy it and want to.... in reality its the sub that holds the power. The Domme/Dom goes too far?... one word from the sub stops play | |||
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"Anyway... i saw the forum thread header and my first thought was "bet this is Horsey"..... Pmsl, horsey yer some boy, tell mammy I miss her "lol, when I reach ma grave, I'll let her know pmslllllllllll | |||
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"Being used to me anyway is... The guy being in total control Do this...do that sort of thing with no say Maybe that's why I don't get the whole dom slave thing
The slave 'does' have a say."that's why I did I don't get it | |||
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"A Question for the girls. If and when you play, do you ever have a time when you just want really used by a guy and if so when, Is it when your in the mood ? or Just when you look at the guy you think "Fuck I so want him to use me" ? Just Asking Like depending on my mood yes sometimes I just want taken is that the same as abused like your meaning im not too sure ? "I like to be taken by a guy who wants to take me but don't think that's being abused! Wanting to be abused is a bit extreme and not a lot of woman are that extreme x | |||
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"Yup...I am just a wee bit sub "Think you mean slave, slaves get used, bottoms get abused, littles ... No idea what they do, brats get naughty and subs get commanded or ordered. Done everything except little and it's subs then brats then slaves as order of preference mostly because my kink is watching and causing orgasms... Sometimes punishing for orgasming without permission | |||
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"I think the question is too vague (sorry horsey) and therefore open to various scenarios which some like and some don't. Whatever way YOU mean it horsey is just fine if your partner is consenting and obviously, as many lovely ladies have said, under the right conditions and with the right partner then yes they would like it. Personally I need a tree... "It is indeed Rouge. (sorry Peter  )
Many terms have been thrown in on this thread: used, dominate, submit, slave, sub, abuse, etc...
And each person on this thread has their own interpretation and understanding of those terms.
They are great subjects to debate but in my opinion when it comes to those types of questions same as a bdsm type questions I find that everyone don't start at the same level and same language.
A question on mince pies, yeah! We are all on the same starting block.
Hope this makes sense!
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"Hate the word used ,surely it should be all about pleasure and having fun thats how we like to play anyway " No it's about the release, slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. You might hate it but please don't jump to their defence, its the equivalent of a friend cock blocking you from sex because she thinks sex is bad. | |||
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"Hate the word used ,surely it should be all about pleasure and having fun thats how we like to play anyway No it's about the release, slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. You might hate it but please don't jump to their defence, its the equivalent of a friend cock blocking you from sex because she thinks sex is bad." The op didnt mention slave or sub so to me the term used comes across as using someone like a peice of meat with only the guy getting the pleasure | |||
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"Hate the word used ,surely it should be all about pleasure and having fun thats how we like to play anyway No it's about the release, slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. You might hate it but please don't jump to their defence, its the equivalent of a friend cock blocking you from sex because she thinks sex is bad." I see what you are saying here but in being "used, sub" or any other term you want to use CONSENT is the key term as it is in any sexual liason... as Max said it's going to mean slightly different things to different people... As has been said the submissive (or used) person has the control because if they don't enjoy it then neither does the other person... as to mince pies...YESSSSSSSSSS but I want those one with the butter puff pastry top with the wee star cut out and lashings of thick cream.... (I got a bit lightheaded typing that bit btw... ) | |||
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"Hate the word used ,surely it should be all about pleasure and having fun thats how we like to play anyway No it's about the release, slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. You might hate it but please don't jump to their defence, its the equivalent of a friend cock blocking you from sex because she thinks sex is bad. I see what you are saying here but in being "used, sub" or any other term you want to use CONSENT is the key term as it is in any sexual liason... as Max said it's going to mean slightly different things to different people... As has been said the submissive (or used) person has the control because if they don't enjoy it then neither does the other person... as to mince pies...YESSSSSSSSSS but I want those one with the butter puff pastry top with the wee star cut out and lashings of thick cream.... (I got a bit lightheaded typing that bito btw... ) "Low blood sugar? | |||
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"Hate the word used ,surely it should be all about pleasure and having fun thats how we like to play anyway No it's about the release, slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. You might hate it but please don't jump to their defence, its the equivalent of a friend cock blocking you from sex because she thinks sex is bad. I see what you are saying here but in being "used, sub" or any other term you want to use CONSENT is the key term as it is in any sexual liason... as Max said it's going to mean slightly different things to different people... As has been said the submissive (or used) person has the control because if they don't enjoy it then neither does the other person... as to mince pies...YESSSSSSSSSS but I want those one with the butter puff pastry top with the wee star cut out and lashings of thick cream.... (I got a bit lightheaded typing that bito btw... )
Low blood sugar? "YES... I've been up since 6.30 and yet to have breakfast due to PEOPLE... and STUFF... grrrrr bah humbug | |||
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"A Question for the girls. If and when you play, do you ever have a time when you just want really used by a guy and if so when, Is it when your in the mood ? or Just when you look at the guy you think "Fuck I so want him to use me" ? Just Asking Like depending on my mood yes sometimes I just want taken is that the same as abused like your meaning im not too sure ?
I like to be taken by a guy who wants to take me but don't think that's being abused! Wanting to be abused is a bit extreme and not a lot of woman are that extreme x "sorry yes I did correct this further down the post I did mean used lol | |||
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"slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone." Ooh! I tell you it does matter! Why you think there's a safe word for?! Again a misconception of the sub/slave role. The OP indeed never mentioned Dom/sub but for many people 'being used' falls under this category. | |||
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"slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. Ooh! I tell you it does matter! Why you think there's a safe word for?! Again a misconception of the sub/slave role. The OP indeed never mentioned Dom/sub but for many people 'being used' falls under this category. " Which is a complete fallacy. Dom/sub requires more trust than the average relationship imho. Too many 50 shade readers lol worlds apart the Dom/sub and "being used" | |||
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"slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. Ooh! I tell you it does matter! Why you think there's a safe word for?! Again a misconception of the sub/slave role. The OP indeed never mentioned Dom/sub but for many people 'being used' falls under this category. " My slave never said the safe word once and I went way out my comfort zone too see if I was interested in some of the extreme's of sex, I didn't enjoy using her face as a toilet but she did. I know the op didn't specially target subs or slaves but their are those out their that can't define their tendency (sex slave) to enjoy being used sexually. You obviously don't and that's fine but don't tell the world you hate it or the word. (I find daddy/little weird but I'd never be disrespectful of their life choice) I loved my slave, would still protect her if she asked and still have a ton if affection for her. | |||
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"slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. Ooh! I tell you it does matter! Why you think there's a safe word for?! Again a misconception of the sub/slave role. The OP indeed never mentioned Dom/sub but for many people 'being used' falls under this category. My slave never said the safe word once and I went way out my comfort zone too see if I was interested in some of the extreme's of sex, I didn't enjoy using her face as a toilet but she did. I know the op didn't specially target subs or slaves but their are those out their that can't define their tendency (sex slave) to enjoy being used sexually. You obviously don't and that's fine but don't tell the world you hate it or the word. (I find daddy/little weird but I'd never be disrespectful of their life choice) I loved my slave, would still protect her if she asked and still have a ton if affection for her." And she never used the safe word because she was ok with what was being done to her! And that is my point. And please do show me where in any of my comments I have been disrespectul? I have no issue with females or males doing what they want sexually! Everyone uses the site and their bodies as they wish! And I think i have said that more times than i care to remember on the forum. | |||
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"slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. Ooh! I tell you it does matter! Why you think there's a safe word for?! Again a misconception of the sub/slave role. The OP indeed never mentioned Dom/sub but for many people 'being used' falls under this category. My slave never said the safe word once and I went way out my comfort zone too see if I was interested in some of the extreme's of sex, I didn't enjoy using her face as a toilet but she did. I know the op didn't specially target subs or slaves but their are those out their that can't define their tendency (sex slave) to enjoy being used sexually. You obviously don't and that's fine but don't tell the world you hate it or the word. (I find daddy/little weird but I'd never be disrespectful of their life choice) I loved my slave, would still protect her if she asked and still have a ton if affection for her. And she never used the safe word because she was ok with what was being done to her! And that is my point. And please do show me where in any of my comments I have been disrespectul? I have no issue with females or males doing what they want sexually! Everyone uses the site and their bodies as they wish! And I think i have said that more times than i care to remember on the forum."
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"No Never Sex to me is a 2 way things Not into " being used " as you put it Not good at taking direction..I'm more of a go with the flow kinda chick " | |||
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"If your post sounds disrespectful then its disrespectful, disrespectful misunderstanding but you still post about a subject you have no interest in like others should follow your example. I reject your example and the emoji warrior who cheers you on." You have not reply to my question. Which of my post is disrespectful??? And you do not know me so how can you say it is a subject I have no interest about or know nothing about!? | |||
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"Oh I do hope everyone enjoys themselves this weekend... whether you're sub/dom/used/user/equal rights or unequal lefts, whether you enjoy cuddles and spooning or clingfilm and custard, beating the bedsheets or beating each others bums - do just make sure it's all consenting folks and have a safe word just in case... my advice is don't make it "I'm cumming" ... that's free advice - you're welcome
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"If your post sounds disrespectful then its disrespectful, disrespectful misunderstanding but you still post about a subject you have no interest in like others should follow your example. I reject your example and the emoji warrior who cheers you on." Not having a go at anyone, but I know Max and she probably knows more about BDSM than most on the site, shes more than qualified to have an opinion on sub/dom related manners... I had my own sub for a while and the safe word wasnt used, only because i hadnt pushed them too far or do something they found vile. But if it had been used then i would have stopped, instantly. So who holds the real power? | |||
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"If your post sounds disrespectful then its disrespectful, disrespectful misunderstanding but you still post about a subject you have no interest in like others should follow your example. I reject your example and the emoji warrior who cheers you on. Not having a go at anyone, but I know Max and she probably knows more about BDSM than most on the site, shes more than qualified to have an opinion on sub/dom related manners... I had my own sub for a while and the safe word wasnt used, only because i hadnt pushed them too far or do something they found vile. But if it had been used then i would have stopped, instantly. So who holds the real power?" The Emoji Warrior Jo | |||
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"slave subs crave being used. Doesn't matter to them how they are used, the pleasure comes from being helpful to someone. Ooh! I tell you it does matter! Why you think there's a safe word for?! Again a misconception of the sub/slave role. The OP indeed never mentioned Dom/sub but for many people 'being used' falls under this category. My slave never said the safe word once and I went way out my comfort zone too see if I was interested in some of the extreme's of sex, I didn't enjoy using her face as a toilet but she did. I know the op didn't specially target subs or slaves but their are those out their that can't define their tendency (sex slave) to enjoy being used sexually. You obviously don't and that's fine but don't tell the world you hate it or the word. (I find daddy/little weird but I'd never be disrespectful of their life choice) I loved my slave, would still protect her if she asked and still have a ton if affection for her." Oh that's just beautiful | |||
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"If your post sounds disrespectful then its disrespectful, disrespectful misunderstanding but you still post about a subject you have no interest in like others should follow your example. I reject your example and the emoji warrior who cheers you on. Not having a go at anyone, but I know Max and she probably knows more about BDSM than most on the site, shes more than qualified to have an opinion on sub/dom related manners... I had my own sub for a while and the safe word wasnt used, only because i hadnt pushed them too far or do something they found vile. But if it had been used then i would have stopped, instantly. So who holds the real power?"
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"If your post sounds disrespectful then its disrespectful, disrespectful misunderstanding but you still post about a subject you have no interest in like others should follow your example. I reject your example and the emoji warrior who cheers you on. Not having a go at anyone, but I know Max and she probably knows more about BDSM than most on the site, shes more than qualified to have an opinion on sub/dom related manners... I had my own sub for a while and the safe word wasnt used, only because i hadnt pushed them too far or do something they found vile. But if it had been used then i would have stopped, instantly. So who holds the real power? The Emoji Warrior Jo "Emoji warrior?....... Me and my ninjago sudjers laugh in the face of emoji | |||
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"If your post sounds disrespectful then its disrespectful, disrespectful misunderstanding but you still post about a subject you have no interest in like others should follow your example. I reject your example and the emoji warrior who cheers you on. Not having a go at anyone, but I know Max and she probably knows more about BDSM than most on the site, shes more than qualified to have an opinion on sub/dom related manners... I had my own sub for a while and the safe word wasnt used, only because i hadnt pushed them too far or do something they found vile. But if it had been used then i would have stopped, instantly. So who holds the real power? The Emoji Warrior Jo
Emoji warrior?....... Me and my ninjago sudjers laugh in the face of emoji "(It might be me Jo ... see comments further back... then again it might no be... I could be paranoid... but that does NOT mean they aren't oot tae get ya ....) *looks innocent | |||
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"On the flipside .. I hope this doesnt offend anyone.. I was used once ..i couldnt believe i could have been so foolish ..I really should have seen it coming ..well ..they did .. SIX busty gorgeous Ladies grabbed me..pinned me too the floor...ahll i can recall they had sexy undies on....everything was a blur..I did manage to fasten the top button of my stone Island jeans....but that didnt last ..ripped back open ..i muttered.."Im calling for Help" ..that didnt work that just annoyed these hungry sexy clad Ladies. There it was ..the first one ..wham bam ..second wham bam ..wan after another they took chances each in riding my thrusting pulsating rampant varieble speed cock. I was left semi naked, ripped jeans and a well torn shirt ..they even stole my white armani boxers.. Ive never been so embarrassed and felt USED in all my life .. You couldnae make it up ..im just left with the memories.. "Memories of yer boxers or are they ex boxers noo | |||
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