FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Today I'm running a course on confidence building and while on this boring bus journey it's had me wondering...how confident are you? What kind of things do you find boosts your confidence?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I have very little confidence so I've learnt to fake it. However sometimes I struggle even with that. My insecurities surface and that voice in my head fills me with doubts.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I have very little confidence so I've learnt to fake it. However sometimes I struggle even with that. My insecurities surface and that voice in my head fills me with doubts. "

This makes me feel quite sad... You're a lovely woman inside and out. Tell that voice to go bother someone else

K x

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Today I'm running a course on confidence building and while on this boring bus journey it's had me wondering...how confident are you? What kind of things do you find boosts your confidence? "

I've always been quite confident, had to be running bars/restaurants. I do sometimes get a wee niggle of self doubt, I tend to just give myself a shake or as my mum used to say put on some lipstick

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i lost my confidence when i was married... slowly finding it again and have to say that fab is a great place to find a wee boost when your feeling pretty low...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always pretty confident its the only way to be people spend too much time wondering or assuming what others think of them and that drops your confidece big time, just be yourself and except you and the confidence will flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repetition breeds confidence. The more you do something, the better you become and so on.

However folk want to turn it into something that can be sold or 'faked'

Keep chipping away at whatever you want to be 'confident' for. You'll get there if you put the work in.

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm a pretty confident person in general, though I have my moments of self doubt. I guess we all do.

I'm interested: is your course aimed at giving people the tools to boost their own confidence, or at ways to help boost the confidence of others? Most of us could do with a wee boost now and then and it would be nice to think there are a few more people in the world thinking about how to make that happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of those times when "fake it till you feel it" actually turns out to be correct...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have very little confidence so I've learnt to fake it. However sometimes I struggle even with that. My insecurities surface and that voice in my head fills me with doubts. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, in work I'm very confident but once I'm out my comfort zone I lack it, I've had one social meet and was a bit nervous God knows how I'd have been if I ever got to meet someone for fun. Jim

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

It depends who im with or what im doing ..if meeting new people for the first time then no not really that confident but with people i know well im the opposite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In work kinda confident

Soon out work and on my own none at all just feel I push ppl away n that

Plus I feel no 1 can help with mines at that bad

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Im a very confident person but have self doubts constantly, dont think they have ever really held me back in achieving what I want from life though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think I'm quite a confident person. Like Bunkie said it depends who I'm with or what I'm doing tho.

I'm good at looking confident sometimes while secretly I'm a quivering wreck inside

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a pretty confident person in general, though I have my moments of self doubt. I guess we all do.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I'm fairly confident. But, I still have the odd time when I'm not.

However, to all of those who lack confidence in themselves, don't let it hold you back. One day you'll find your inner self. Then there will be no holding you back.

If in doubt, come say hi. I'll lend you some

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I am confident although never used to be. I realised if I talk to someone and they don't want to converse with me then hey they prob weren't worth talking to it the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication and appearance ..

Over shadow your negatives with positives.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When it comes to work I am confident, always has been the case.

Socially and secually I am getting more confident as I am getting older.

I guess as I am getting older, I am better at taking myself by the hand and say to myself 'get a grip woman'

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I can appear more confident than I am at times. I'm good at encouraging others to do things e.g. For job interviews, etc.

I have gone to a burlesque workshop which was aimed at giving confidence too. I was recently at a burlex fitness dance display and the women had all gained confidence from doing the classes and the show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a pretty confident person in general, though I have my moments of self doubt. I guess we all do.

I work in vocational rehabilitation for clients with current or previous mental illness and/or acquired brain injuries. The day course is designed to look at what is confidence, what adversely affects it and what steps can we put in place to work on improving it. Some of the topics we cover include positive thinking, communication and skills identification. I love delivering the course but I don't often follow my own advice.

Weight gain and an emotionally neglectful marriage has left my confidence at an all time low. I'm outgoing and talkative which people often mistake as confidence but underneath the gobby scouse exterior I'm full of self doubt and criticism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very confident

Don't get intimated easily

I prefer to meet guys who are confident too

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I am very confident

Don't get intimated easily"

I had to check the proper meaning of 'intimidate' in English before posting my comment. And it is what I thought.

I don't feel being not confident is related to being intimidated by people or situations. At least not for me.

Finding it hard to explain so hopefully someone will get what am trying to say and say it eloquently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am very confident

Don't get intimated easily

I had to check the proper meaning of 'intimidate' in English before posting my comment. And it is what I thought.

I don't feel being not confident is related to being intimidated by people or situations. At least not for me.

Finding it hard to explain so hopefully someone will get what am trying to say and say it eloquently

The two go hand in hand for me. Most confident folk tend not to let people intimidate them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have very little confidence so I've learnt to fake it. However sometimes I struggle even with that. My insecurities surface and that voice in my head fills me with doubts. "

Snap - oscar winning performer of confidence here, when inside is someone so shy and vulnerable.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I am very confident

Don't get intimated easily

I had to check the proper meaning of 'intimidate' in English before posting my comment. And it is what I thought.

I don't feel being not confident is related to being intimidated by people or situations. At least not for me.

Finding it hard to explain so hopefully someone will get what am trying to say and say it eloquently

The two go hand in hand for me. Most confident folk tend not to let people intimidate them "

We will agree to disagree

But from your definition, I am confident

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not very confident but I'm not intimidated and can be quite assertive, personally I don't think the two go hand in hand. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often feel intimidated and believe it's due to my lack of confidence

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By *ockerMrBloggs6969Man
over a year ago

nr you but not too near

I'm super confident until I come on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as???"

Parklife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am very confident

Don't get intimated easily

I had to check the proper meaning of 'intimidate' in English before posting my comment. And it is what I thought.

I don't feel being not confident is related to being intimidated by people or situations. At least not for me.

Finding it hard to explain so hopefully someone will get what am trying to say and say it eloquently

The two go hand in hand for me. Most confident folk tend not to let people intimidate them

We will agree to disagree

But from your definition, I am confident

Yes we will

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Many will say that I "Mr" can appear to be a very confident person at times, being the joker or the one that starts a carry on and is largely inappropriate in nature, but put me in a room with strangers and I go all shy not wanting to speak to others so readily.

I wouldn't say I was intimidated more just unsure of myself at times.

Confidence and la know confidence can go hand in hand at times depending on the situation you are in .

Mr S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero self confidence - but tend to put on a cheeky front to cover it up. Always been painfully shy,that probably doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outwardly appear confident

But quite shy particularly in large social gatherings

I'm definitely a 1 to 1 sort of person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Day to day and work I'm fine, I can present to any sized audience.

Stick me on my own at the social as I did on Saturday and nope, no way, go strangely shy

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Day to day and work I'm fine, I can present to any sized audience.

Stick me on my own at the social as I did on Saturday and nope, no way, go strangely shy"
you shy ? Pfftttt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as???

Parklife"

Well played

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, I like to think I stay on the right side of confidence

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By *ava girlWoman
over a year ago

fife

I've been on one of those courses- walked on broken glass and punched a board of wood with what you hate about yourself written on it, I enjoyed the course.

Music makes me feel confident when my mojos low.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, I like to think I stay on the right side of confidence

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spot on too many overstep the mark with arrogance both male and female

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

"There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, I like to think I stay on the right side of confidence

spot on too many overstep the mark with arrogance both male and female

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been on one of those courses- walked on broken glass and punched a board of wood with what you hate about yourself written on it, I enjoyed the course.

Music makes me feel confident when my mojos low. "

Haha I don't do anything quite as epic as that...don't think my boss would allow me to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Day to day and work I'm fine, I can present to any sized audience.

Stick me on my own at the social as I did on Saturday and nope, no way, go strangely shyyou shy ? Pfftttt

Why dpes nobody believe me

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Day to day and work I'm fine, I can present to any sized audience.

Stick me on my own at the social as I did on Saturday and nope, no way, go strangely shyyou shy ? Pfftttt

Why dpes nobody believe me

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eh cause we've met and I know you aint shy thats why lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, I like to think I stay on the right side of confidence

spot on too many overstep the mark with arrogance both male and female

True. I won't meet arrogant guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think... like the vast majority of people I have many issues over how confident I am... it has held me back hugely in life... I am without doubt my own hardest critic..however... there is a spark within that drives me to try... to have faith... without that, well you really don't have anything... in doing that I've managed to achieve, in my own small way, things I once could only have dreamed of. My thought is... Feel the fear and do it anyway, people are often far nicer than you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little to no confidence

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"I'm a pretty confident person in general, though I have my moments of self doubt. I guess we all do.

I think it's difficult at times for us to be happy with our own bodies. There's always something we don't like but equally there's usually someone who will find it attractive. I don't like my butt as it's too big but guys love the curves.

We have to learn to love what we have and to stop putting ourselves down. I think you are doing a great thing helping people with confidence and it is difficult to do as you preach. Low self esteem needs to be rebuilt slowly and gradually and being with people who are supportive helps. Sometimes we have friends who drain us of our confidence and self esteem.

With the start of a New Year maybe it's time to sort out who is good for you and who isn't. Love your body and yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence/self-esteem is on a perpetual rollercoaster ride.

I find that the biggest influence is the peeople who are around me and how they make me feel about both myself and the situation I am in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My confidence/self-esteem is on a perpetual rollercoaster ride.

I find that the biggest influence is the peeople who are around me and how they make me feel about both myself and the situation I am in."

Very true... I'd say minimise the negatives...not always easy or possible but do so as much as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection gets me down

Being wanted/needed gives me a boost

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By *loki the BoatbuilderMan
over a year ago

Kattegat

I've heard of that word, 'confidence', have no idea what it is, or what it actually means, when I think I'm confident, which is rarely, I get told I'm on an ego trip, that just kills any confidence I thought I had, think I may take up one of those confidence courses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At work I'm very confident but in social/meeting new people terms I have zero confidence. I kinda fake it as well I'm all chattty and stuff but inside I'm freaking and generally feeling like a dafty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually Confident with people who I know but I still get nervous around new people and new situations I have tried build up my confidence bit by bit but i still get shy and flustered and a little nervous xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At work I'm very confident but in social/meeting new people terms I have zero confidence. I kinda fake it as well I'm all chattty and stuff but inside I'm freaking and generally feeling like a dafty "

I think that's most of us

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