FabSwingers.com forum: Thinking Of Missing Loved Ones

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been thinking a lot of recently of someone I've lost and I really miss her with all my heart but I know there's others who have lost friends, family and loved ones.

Just want to say that there are a lot of genuine nice people on fab and always available to talk to if you need comfort and just an ear to listen.

Be Strong and Believe in yourself, that's what our loved ones would want

XxX peter

Miss You

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By *ilveryFoxMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Nice words Peter

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I've been thinking a lot of recently of someone I've lost and I really miss her with all my heart but I know there's others who have lost friends, family and loved ones.

Just want to say that there are a lot of genuine nice people on fab and always available to talk to if you need comfort and just an ear to listen.

Be Strong and Believe in yourself, that's what our loved ones would want

XxX peter

Miss You

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lovely post horsey .

I too lost my most inspirational woman in my life me wee mum just 10 weeks ago .

I miss her so much and ovbiously with Christmas just around the corner its making me even more emotional

But life goes on and we have to make the most of things and do the living for them.

Chin up and (((big hugs)))

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By *etshavesomefun321Couple
over a year ago

dundee

Our loved ones are always part of our life and live on through us. We always have our memories although sometimes to hurt to deal with to look back no matter how many years pass by ur loved ones r still a big part of pur lifes xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lovely thread, and very touching posts. I wish you all well, great comfort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am one of the strongest minded persons on this earth but I've had some shitty nights just missing/thinking of her.

I have my kids and the ex lets me see them a lot and they are my source of inspiration and keep me going, cheering me up all the time.

XxX

Always and Forever in my Heart

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By *igtittedteaseWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Lost my mum on 30th Nov

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lost my mum on 30th Nov "

Big Hugs

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Lost my mum on 30th Nov "
((( big hugs)))

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I lost my dad 5 years ago and my gran 8 years ago. This time of year is never easy and has never been the same with out them. Time does heal and memories live forever xxx

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By *lawless doveWoman
over a year ago

bothwell

I truly think some people forget that there are real people with real feelings on fab not just rampant sex objects. This is a great reminder.

In the lat 4 years I've lost my dad, my brother and my fiancé. Miss them all so so much. Never a day goes by without something triggering a memory.

Thankfully I have a great support network of family, friends, support group and Fab pals who all offer their own individual help and guidance when I'm down.

To everyone out there who has lost someone and missing them my advice is find a really strong positive memory and think of this every time. The pain of loss never leaves you but the happiness this memory will give you will be strong over time

Miss you my 3 amigos xxxxx

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

Pain fades but memories remain xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Your Memory - Always Keep Them Close:

Remember In Time We Share As We Live.

Never Forget the Ones Whom Have Passed.

All The Loved Ones Past and Present, Never Let Them Face You Mind.

Remember the Joys and the Fun Times

Live As How They Would Have Wanted and Let Your Life Flourish As If They Were Here Beside You

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I truly think some people forget that there are real people with real feelings on fab not just rampant sex objects. This is a great reminder.

Absolutely

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Lost my mum on 30th Nov "

(((Big hugs))) xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Opps Sorry, Small Error As I wrote It

Updated

Your Memory - Always Keep Them Close:

Remember In Time We Share As We Live.

Never Forget the Ones Whom Have Passed.

All The Loved Ones Past and Present, Never Let Them Fade From Your Mind.

Remember the Joys and the Fun Times

Live As How They Would Have Wanted and Let Your Life Flourish As If They Were Here Beside You

XxX peter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very nice thread.

In the run up to Xmas, when ebryone is busy organising stuff, it can be easy to to get caught up in things. We never forget the ones we have loved and lost, but on Xmas day or hogmanay in my case memories can come flooding back.

It's is always nice to take time to think of those that have touched our lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find this time of year so hard as it's very sentimental and all about the little ones and I miss my own special wee angel so much. It's over 20 years now..but it might as well be yesterday. Grief is dreadful but we can live through it and come out the other side but...it's always there and the love goes on. Our best tribute to the ones we have loved and lost is to be as happy, content and fulfilled as we can. I always quote Jethro Tull..."Life's a Long Song".

Thinking of you Peter and hoping you stay strong. X

First Christmas is so so hard. Special thoughts to those facing a festive season lonely for the one they recently lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chirsitmas never used to mean very much to me but since losing my gran and cousin and a close family friend within 4 months of eachother I really find this year tough, we never used to be a close family but now we meet up for chirstmas dinner second year this time, it's strange

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To Everyone I hope you all have a great Xmas and to those who have lost someone, I know it will be hard but please be strong the way they would have wanted:

In my heart, I trust myself.

I could not tell myself no lies.

In truth we punish ourselves for those we loved.

Telling them how we felt, giving them the hope they deserve.

In my past I have cried a thousand tears, tearing at my pillows.

Searching for a dream where I haven’t lost my friend.

Life is worth living if you have something to live for.

Time is for giving, helping those who are in need of us most.

Searching a past, wishing it was the present.

You came into my life and brought it substance.

But now all I have left is ash from which I’m drowning.

Little by little, time makes me think of my children.

Making me stronger and wanting to be near them.

Watching them grow up and living as I have done.

Helping them as much, never thinking of myself.

Until the lights turn out and I can remember the love I have lost.

Memories that will always make me smile.

Always and Forever Until my Last Breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew you took me to a different box... life is about boxes of emotions for different things and I firmly put lid on this one... wishing you all the best mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few people may remember I lost my mum in the run up to Christmas 4 years ago.

This is a difficult time and I do tend to hit self destruct. I'm blessed C has pulled me back from the brink a few times already this year, but nothing can take away the pain in my heart, and I fear nothing ever will.

I hate going into shops at this time of year, as it brings back all the memories of what my mum and I had done. All the presents had been bought, wrapped, put into bags. Food shopping had been done. The night she took not well the last music video on the telly we watched before it kicked off was Merry Christmas Everyone by Shakin Stevens....

Some people say it will ease, the pain. But I fear for me it wont ever.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Some people say it will ease, the pain. But I fear for me it wont ever.

"
very earlie for me but I feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is so sad! Been having awful nightmares lately about losing my parents, it's so bad! Could not imagine my life without them especially my mum, seriously my best friend! She lost her dad a few years younger than I am right now, it's so sad. Big hugs to anyone thats lost someone close this year espcially xx

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite"

Sometimes it's easier to talk to strangers Kola - hence the existence of counselling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite"

Kola... some people don't have family or friends and this is their next best thing? I'm lucky I have family but I don't have many friends, so I get where they're coming from

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite

Kola... some people don't have family or friends and this is their next best thing? I'm lucky I have family but I don't have many friends, so I get where they're coming from

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lol I have only enough friends for one hand ( and only one of those I would share with)acquaintances I have loads but wouldnt share my breakfast menu with them. As I wrote maybe its me thats hard edged.I cant help that having seen alot of the nasty side of human nature I just dont buy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite

Kola... some people don't have family or friends and this is their next best thing? I'm lucky I have family but I don't have many friends, so I get where they're coming from

lol I have only enough friends for one hand ( and only one of those I would share with)acquaintances I have loads but wouldnt share my breakfast menu with them. As I wrote maybe its me thats hard edged.I cant help that having seen alot of the nasty side of human nature I just dont buy it

Maybe they just need to vent, everybody is different babes

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Yup and sometimes folk like myself also do

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite

Kola... some people don't have family or friends and this is their next best thing? I'm lucky I have family but I don't have many friends, so I get where they're coming from

Lol I have only enough friends for one hand ( and only one of those I would share with)acquaintances I have loads but wouldnt share my breakfast menu with them. As I wrote maybe its me thats hard edged.I cant help that having seen alot of the nasty side of human nature I just dont buy it

I guess you're just cynical. Everyone is different and there's nothing wrong or suspicious about that. Personally I try to go through life always thinking the best of people until they give me reason not to. Must be quite tiring always assuming everyone has an ulterior motive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite"

I understand what you're saying Kola...I think the double edged sword that IS the Internet means that the lines between intimacy and detachment are ever changing goalposts. This can be good or bad depending on the people, circumstances or timing... what really matters.. whether those people have a physical contact or a cyber one... is that the sentiment is honest, sincere and genuine... that cuts across ANY shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been thinking a lot of recently of someone I've lost and I really miss her with all my heart but I know there's others who have lost friends, family and loved ones.

Just want to say that there are a lot of genuine nice people on fab and always available to talk to if you need comfort and just an ear to listen.

Be Strong and Believe in yourself, that's what our loved ones would want

XxX peter

Miss You

Yes Peter there are lots of genuinely nice people on fab always able to talk to, who may not have any family left - like myself, but who are willing to share and in doing so help others if they can with a few words of support.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Nope not tiring at all. folk need to prove their worth imo not be given it with no justification. Having gave folk the benefit of doubt in the past i can say that i found tiresome.There are things happened in my life that for me prove this is a necessary safeguard.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite

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100% spot on here

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Nope not tiring at all. folk need to prove their worth imo not be given it with no justification. Having gave folk the benefit of doubt in the past i can say that i found tiresome.There are things happened in my life that for me prove this is a necessary safeguard. "

But that's you, that's not everyone. If you feel you need to be suspicious of every person you meet or talk to, then I truly feel sorry for you.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

But that's you, that's not everyone. If you feel you need to be suspicious of every person you meet or talk to, then I truly feel sorry for you. "
I never said I need to feel suspicion or anything about anyone I dont. Until there is a possibility they would be entering my circle of known folk. Im far from perfect but I am my perfect. Its very hard to explain what I would like to explain without it turning where I dont want it. cold ass on a step is little fun. For me I cant buy words thats the best explanation I can give within forum rules and as said earlier nothing to do with the op. (And yup probably a little cynicism in it)

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Koal I think for once you should put aside what you think peoples resons are and just accept that at this time of year its very difficult for people who have lost someone very dear and close to them, and if by doing this post gives some a little bit of comfort in sharing then that should be accepted instead of questioning why people choose to air it here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Koal I think for once you should put aside what you think peoples resons are and just accept that at this time of year its very difficult for people who have lost someone very dear and close to them, and if by doing this post gives some a little bit of comfort in sharing then that should be accepted instead of questioning why people choose to air it here ."

Could not agree more, especially posts like this. Nothing nice to say don't say anything at all.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kola... I have to agree with Jaqs and Boobs here... yet I do agree with you too... we all digest life by our own experience but it does seem that you have a kind of body armour on... perhaps that's from hard experience but armour not only protects it prevents things (and people) from getting in... there are lovely, genuine people in the world but you have to let them in to find them... not saying that's you... just a thought... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very well put.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

look guys, just chill

some of us are going through shite, some are dealing with it. Some people may find these things hard and don't want to let anyone in and it's understandable.

There are nice people on here as there are in general life, if we come in contact with them then great.

For those who have lost someone recently or quite a while ago, it does effect them and I should know.

I didn't start this post for any arguments or moans, I started it because I have went through a very rough year and knowing as Xmass is coming up its hitting me hard and I really miss her so much, every day but I know theres people worse off then me and letting them know theres people out there who share their pain.

There is people always on here to chat with which I have found and im hoping anyone who needs comfort, will know its on here.

Keep smiling and try and get on with it the best you can

XxX peter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always the same ones horsey, can't just shut the fuck up for one post

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Kola... I have to agree with Jaqs and Boobs here... yet I do agree with you too... we all digest life by our own experience but it does seem that you have a kind of body armour on... perhaps that's from hard experience but armour not only protects it prevents things (and people) from getting in... there are lovely, genuine people in the world but you have to let them in to find them... not saying that's you... just a thought... x"
your correct I do have armour on and it wont ever come off. Perhaps I dont want things (or people) in. There are lovely people and they will find the real me. Im not trying to win a popularity contest im just giving an honest opinion. Then answering questions that I feel have been posed to me or correcting what others say about me. that I find wrong. But thats ok because its said nicely......on the other hand me saying things as I see it is seen as hard nosed and confrontational which imo it isnt its mearly my way of interaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"look guys, just chill

some of us are going through shite, some are dealing with it. Some people may find these things hard and don't want to let anyone in and it's understandable.

There are nice people on here as there are in general life, if we come in contact with them then great.

For those who have lost someone recently or quite a while ago, it does effect them and I should know.

There is people always on here to chat with which I have found and im hoping anyone who needs comfort, will know its on here.

Keep smiling and try and get on with it the best you can

XxX peter

Sending you a hug Peter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"look guys, just chill

some of us are going through shite, some are dealing with it. Some people may find these things hard and don't want to let anyone in and it's understandable.

There are nice people on here as there are in general life, if we come in contact with them then great.

For those who have lost someone recently or quite a while ago, it does effect them and I should know.

There is people always on here to chat with which I have found and im hoping anyone who needs comfort, will know its on here.

Keep smiling and try and get on with it the best you can

XxX peter

Funny... I was just thinking the same and that your original post was heartfelt... agreed Horsey... just take the honest feeling for what it is... Merry Christmas ya big Stallion Caz xXx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"look guys, just chill

some of us are going through shite, some are dealing with it. Some people may find these things hard and don't want to let anyone in and it's understandable.

There are nice people on here as there are in general life, if we come in contact with them then great.

For those who have lost someone recently or quite a while ago, it does effect them and I should know.

There is people always on here to chat with which I have found and im hoping anyone who needs comfort, will know its on here.

Keep smiling and try and get on with it the best you can

XxX peter

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(((big hugs))) & keep smiling through the pain xxx

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Kola... I have to agree with Jaqs and Boobs here... yet I do agree with you too... we all digest life by our own experience but it does seem that you have a kind of body armour on... perhaps that's from hard experience but armour not only protects it prevents things (and people) from getting in... there are lovely, genuine people in the world but you have to let them in to find them... not saying that's you... just a thought... xyour correct I do have armour on and it wont ever come off. Perhaps I dont want things (or people) in. There are lovely people and they will find the real me. Im not trying to win a popularity contest im just giving an honest opinion. Then answering questions that I feel have been posed to me or correcting what others say about me. that I find wrong. But thats ok because its said nicely......on the other hand me saying things as I see it is seen as hard nosed and confrontational which imo it isnt its mearly my way of interaction"

I get why you see things like that, but in that instance it may be better to adhere to the 'if you can't say anything nice' policy. Not having a go, I genuinely feel sorry that you view the world like that and it goes a long way to explaining why you come across as such a negative and argumentative person.

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kola... I have to agree with Jaqs and Boobs here... yet I do agree with you too... we all digest life by our own experience but it does seem that you have a kind of body armour on... perhaps that's from hard experience but armour not only protects it prevents things (and people) from getting in... there are lovely, genuine people in the world but you have to let them in to find them... not saying that's you... just a thought... xyour correct I do have armour on and it wont ever come off. Perhaps I dont want things (or people) in. There are lovely people and they will find the real me. Im not trying to win a popularity contest im just giving an honest opinion. Then answering questions that I feel have been posed to me or correcting what others say about me. that I find wrong. But thats ok because its said nicely......on the other hand me saying things as I see it is seen as hard nosed and confrontational which imo it isnt its mearly my way of interaction"

And in all fairness Kola a lot of that hard nosed stuff is spot on... but... as with everything there's a fine line... I'm not being smart arsed... we ALL walk it to some degree... just... don't block out the good in life because of old hurts... it's a corny saying but true... the heart is the only thing that works even when broken (again not saying that's you x)

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Kola... I have to agree with Jaqs and Boobs here... yet I do agree with you too... we all digest life by our own experience but it does seem that you have a kind of body armour on... perhaps that's from hard experience but armour not only protects it prevents things (and people) from getting in... there are lovely, genuine people in the world but you have to let them in to find them... not saying that's you... just a thought... xyour correct I do have armour on and it wont ever come off. Perhaps I dont want things (or people) in. There are lovely people and they will find the real me. Im not trying to win a popularity contest im just giving an honest opinion. Then answering questions that I feel have been posed to me or correcting what others say about me. that I find wrong. But thats ok because its said nicely......on the other hand me saying things as I see it is seen as hard nosed and confrontational which imo it isnt its mearly my way of interaction

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Kola... I have to agree with Jaqs and Boobs here... yet I do agree with you too... we all digest life by our own experience but it does seem that you have a kind of body armour on... perhaps that's from hard experience but armour not only protects it prevents things (and people) from getting in... there are lovely, genuine people in the world but you have to let them in to find them... not saying that's you... just a thought... xyour correct I do have armour on and it wont ever come off. Perhaps I dont want things (or people) in. There are lovely people and they will find the real me. Im not trying to win a popularity contest im just giving an honest opinion. Then answering questions that I feel have been posed to me or correcting what others say about me. that I find wrong. But thats ok because its said nicely......on the other hand me saying things as I see it is seen as hard nosed and confrontational which imo it isnt its mearly my way of interaction

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not broken dont have one

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I get why you see things like that, but in that instance it may be better to adhere to the 'if you can't say anything nice' policy. Not having a go, I genuinely feel sorry that you view the world like that and it goes a long way to explaining why you come across as such a negative and argumentative person.

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon."

Again I get that, however you do seem to try and impose your opinion on everyone and everything as if no one else has a brain or voice of their own. And that's why you get my back up. It's really not necessary. I don't think I'm better than anyone else, and there are times when I don't agree with things but don't feel the need to comment on every little thread. Life's too short, tbh.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes.

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over a year ago

"Kola... I have to agree with Jaqs and Boobs here... yet I do agree with you too... we all digest life by our own experience but it does seem that you have a kind of body armour on... perhaps that's from hard experience but armour not only protects it prevents things (and people) from getting in... there are lovely, genuine people in the world but you have to let them in to find them... not saying that's you... just a thought... xyour correct I do have armour on and it wont ever come off. Perhaps I dont want things (or people) in. There are lovely people and they will find the real me. Im not trying to win a popularity contest im just giving an honest opinion. Then answering questions that I feel have been posed to me or correcting what others say about me. that I find wrong. But thats ok because its said nicely......on the other hand me saying things as I see it is seen as hard nosed and confrontational which imo it isnt its mearly my way of interaction

not broken dont have one

Lol Merry Christmas yabigheartlessmidden(not)

Luv the Meringue Maiden

xXx

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over a year ago

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes."

Yep xxx

Or folk who... even if they don't mean to be... sound abrasive... hugs tae you two tae xXx (

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes.

Yep xxx

Or folk who... even if they don't mean to be... sound abrasive... hugs tae you two tae xXx ("

If only everyone could just get along, eh?

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over a year ago

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes.

Yep xxx

Or folk who... even if they don't mean to be... sound abrasive... hugs tae you two tae xXx (

If only everyone could just get along, eh? "

To quote Mr Lennon...

Imagine all the people

Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer

But I'm not the only one (that's important that bit)

I hope one day you'll join us (that's you Kola

)

And the world will live as one (even Fab

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes.

Yep xxx

Or folk who... even if they don't mean to be... sound abrasive... hugs tae you two tae xXx (

If only everyone could just get along, eh?

To quote Mr Lennon...

Imagine all the people

Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer

But I'm not the only one (that's important that bit)

I hope one day you'll join us (that's you Kola

)

And the world will live as one (even Fab

)

"
we say your a dreamer lol

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over a year ago

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes.

Yep xxx

Or folk who... even if they don't mean to be... sound abrasive... hugs tae you two tae xXx (

If only everyone could just get along, eh?

To quote Mr Lennon...

Imagine all the people

Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer

But I'm not the only one (that's important that bit)

I hope one day you'll join us (that's you Kola

)

And the world will live as one (even Fab

)

we say your a dreamer lol

Yer no the first to say that lol

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Cant hold tongue in check

amazing the diffrent way a post can be read cest la vie

cmon meringue you know me better than to ever think I could condone fakeness I prefer reality (even though it bites)

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes.

Yep xxx

Or folk who... even if they don't mean to be... sound abrasive... hugs tae you two tae xXx (

If only everyone could just get along, eh?

To quote Mr Lennon...

Imagine all the people

Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer

But I'm not the only one (that's important that bit)

I hope one day you'll join us (that's you Kola

)

And the world will live as one (even Fab

)

we say your a dreamer lol

Yer no the first to say that lol

"
but im not the only one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cant hold tongue in check

amazing the diffrent way a post can be read cest la vie

cmon meringue you know me better than to ever think I could condone fakeness I prefer reality (even though it bites)

Ah get that Kola (the not holding thing)

But... we all need to learn moderation... it's all in the approach... we can say what we feel and still be empathetic... I still like ya biting noo and again tho lolol xxx

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Lol moderation with-holding the truth or part of the truth in order to placate someone.......naaaaa not me off to put tongue in a vice.......but could be released at any moment

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over a year ago

"Lol moderation with-holding the truth or part of the truth in order to placate someone.......naaaaa not me off to put tongue in a vice.......but could be released at any moment

No need for a vice ya dafty... mebbe just remember there's two sides to things oooooft am gonna shut up noo... ah sound like my Mother (crazysmarteresedbitchthatsheis)

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over a year ago

Maybe just for the season get into the spirit and embrace the happy?

last post from me

even just knowing me from the forums im sure you can guess "nothing nice to say....saynothing" dosnt sit with me perhaps past experiences taught me that allowing fake a foothold brings consequences.

also no need to feel sorry for me im surrounded by love and laughter. Its part of my cynical nature to see the world as ive experienced it and to strive to make it a better place.

embrace the happy is something I live with all year. admittidly I dont suffer fake happiness (not aimed at anyone) and it really twists my melon.

But I also won't stand by when someone's being unfair to anyone else. I guess one of my faults is that I don't suffer idiots or arseholes.

Yep xxx

Or folk who... even if they don't mean to be... sound abrasive... hugs tae you two tae xXx (

If only everyone could just get along, eh?

To quote Mr Lennon...

Imagine all the people

Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer

But I'm not the only one (that's important that bit)

I hope one day you'll join us (that's you Kola

)

And the world will live as one (even Fab

)

we say your a dreamer lol

Yer no the first to say that lol

but im not the only one xx"

Damn you and your rightness lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

All I know is my mum passed less than three months ago and any words of comort coming my way is greatfully apprecated xxx

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over a year ago

So sorry for your loss Jaqs we've all had a similar one at some point ... when you hear of someone else's it brings that hurt back to some degree... I don't think that's a bad thing... means you cared... xXx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"So sorry for your loss Jaqs we've all had a similar one at some point ... when you hear of someone else's it brings that hurt back to some degree... I don't think that's a bad thing... means you cared... xXx"
exactly

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Suffering a loss of a loved one at any time is tough feeling sorrow around this time of year can be harder constant reminders to be happy and merry it's Christmas , pressure the bereaved unfairly I feel . It's important to make time for yourself don't bottle it up as it will come back and bite . The saying time is a great healer may be true I believe we make ourselves stronger in time by learning to cope in whatever way helps .

To all that miss someone tears will be shed remember the joy they had and would want you to have may the heartache subside and joy of their memory takeover .

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over a year ago

"Suffering a loss of a loved one at any time is tough feeling sorrow around this time of year can be harder constant reminders to be happy and merry it's Christmas , pressure the bereaved unfairly I feel . It's important to make time for yourself don't bottle it up as it will come back and bite . The saying time is a great healer may be true I believe we make ourselves stronger in time by learning to cope in whatever way helps .

To all that miss someone tears will be shed remember the joy they had and would want you to have may the heartache subside and joy of their memory takeover ."

Wise words Steph CxXx

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By *he Ginger PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Ffs can there not be at least one forum post without Bitching! I give up!!

Peter, big hugs darling. Talking about it will help and I agree. This time of year is especially hard for people who have lost loved ones.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost my brother on hogmanay 5 years ago. There are no words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad that posts go off in such tangents!

I lost my husband and in October my wee Mum. I hate Christmas these days and can't wait until January xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On Christmas day 1997 I lost my gran whom I was so close to and miss her terribly. I also miss.mynson who died at 12 weeks .he would be 14 by now..

But life goes on...

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Well I tend to speak as I find also.

Ignore him, the day he posts positively there'll be a blue moon in the sky!!

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over a year ago

"Well I tend to speak as I find also.

Ignore him, the day he posts positively there'll be a blue moon in the sky!!

Blue moon?

More like Armaggedon

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over a year ago

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite"

That's your view Kola which as ever you are entitled to express. I must say however, that at this time of peace and goodwill it seems remarkably callous and unfeeling.

I can only speak for myself. Yes, I have a wonderful family and friends in abundance who know why this time of year brings extra stress for me and they do indeed listen and console.

But...it is important to ME that I acknowledge my loss, to myself and others and I won't be made to feel guilty, weak or attention seeking for doing that. The worst thing imaginable in many people's lives happened to me. I have every right to express my feelings of loss if that is my choice. But also I would hope that I could give a little hope to others that, you will survive it all and life will even bring you new joys.

You can buy that...or not. It doesn't change a thing in my world.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite

That's your view Kola which as ever you are entitled to express. I must say however, that at this time of peace and goodwill it seems remarkably callous and unfeeling.

I can only speak for myself. Yes, I have a wonderful family and friends in abundance who know why this time of year brings extra stress for me and they do indeed listen and console.

You can buy that...or not. It doesn't change a thing in my world. "

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over a year ago

"Is it bad that I just dont buy it?.

Maybe im to hard edged but all I see are words on a page and knowing folk and their drives I just dont get it. If things are personal and hard friends and family are who you share with.

this isnt about the op before the hordes demand a beheading.

for me deep seated feelings and emotions are for those close to that subject. And not randoms on a wensite

That's your view Kola which as ever you are entitled to express. I must say however, that at this time of peace and goodwill it seems remarkably callous and unfeeling.

I can only speak for myself. Yes, I have a wonderful family and friends in abundance who know why this time of year brings extra stress for me and they do indeed listen and console.

You can buy that...or not. It doesn't change a thing in my world. "

I buy it missus - big love to ya CxXx

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