FabSwingers.com forum: Manners?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not saying this is everyone as I have spoke to lots of lovely women but it starts to get annoying the amount of women on here that have absolutely no manners, you write in your profile you want a well written message but when you get one you don't even have the decency and manners to at least say thanks but not interested.

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Hi H,

I'am sorry to hear about your bad experience with rude women. I sadly have the same problem with rude gents. It is frustrating, I just block and move on now.

Miss Naughty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi H,

I'am sorry to hear about your bad experience with rude women. I sadly have the same problem with rude gents. It is frustrating, I just block and move on now.

Miss Naughty

yeah I can imagine guys being just as bad if not worse in some cases, just felt like I needed to vent and have a little rant about it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not saying this is everyone as I have spoke to lots of lovely women but it starts to get annoying the amount of women on here that have absolutely no manners, you write in your profile you want a well written message but when you get one you don't even have the decency and manners to at least say thanks but not interested.

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

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while I agree with you to a degree,you've got to remember some women work full time and to get home late,to be greeted by sometimes 50 or so messages from single guy's.

Sometimes a bulk delete happens and obviously some decent polite messages get deleted too

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I think we have been very lucky not come across that many rude people in all the years here. Sadly you do get them though so I would dust yourself down and move on to someone else xx

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By *andl kinkycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

I feel your pain! I just received a message from some one stating I was an ignorant person because I hadn't replied to the first message which I hadn't even read yet...it was only sent an hour ago!! Wow! What's going on with fab!!!

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

while I agree with you to a degree,you've got to remember some women work full time and to get home late,to be greeted by sometimes 50 or so messages from single guy's.

Sometimes a bulk delete happens and obviously some decent polite messages get deleted too"

Couldn't agree more, I have done this by accident before too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel your pain! I just received a message from some one stating I was an ignorant person because I hadn't replied to the first message which I hadn't even read yet...it was only sent an hour ago!! Wow! What's going on with fab!!!

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clearly patience isn't a virtue with some folk

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

You mean you have a life outwith fab tut tut an hour is a long time

lol ... Sadly some people have nothing else to do but look at it this way stopped you even consider meeting them xx

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Shame on you ..dont you know you should be sitting there all day desperate for someone to message you and reply within seconds incase you miss out ..jeezo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

while I agree with you to a degree,you've got to remember some women work full time and to get home late,to be greeted by sometimes 50 or so messages from single guy's.

Sometimes a bulk delete happens and obviously some decent polite messages get deleted too"

This is understandable but when you have seen that it's been read then a little later deleted then it's a tad annoying! If you have time to be on the website and read a message then you have time to send a 2 second reply, even if it isn't thanks. Manners cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

while I agree with you to a degree,you've got to remember some women work full time and to get home late,to be greeted by sometimes 50 or so messages from single guy's.

Sometimes a bulk delete happens and obviously some decent polite messages get deleted too

Even if it is a no thanks lol dam phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A 2 second "thanks but no thanks" message, multiplied by the amount of unread messages I have would take time I could spend chatting to someone I do want to chat with.

A delete is not rude, it means I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A 2 second "thanks but no thanks" message, multiplied by the amount of unread messages I have would take time I could spend chatting to someone I do want to chat with.

A delete is not rude, it means I'm not interested."

Agree to disagree then

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By *andl kinkycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

You mean you have a life outwith fab tut tut an hour is a long time

lol ... Sadly some people have nothing else to do but look at it this way stopped you even consider meeting them xx"

Hahahaha I know an hour...in that time I made lunch, ate it and hung up washing...silly me for eating!! I best go answer messages before more abuse comes my way!

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By *andl kinkycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

Shame on you ..dont you know you should be sitting there all day desperate for someone to message you and reply within seconds incase you miss out ..jeezo

I know I'm bad!! Missed out on a photo shoot too!!

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

Our main issue is the ones that clearly never read the profile and just looked at pics before messaging.

They have no chance of a reply and are likely getting blocked.

It does say so on profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me at all.

When I message I do so more in hope than expectation of a reply .

Sometimes they get read and deleted so no interest . Sometimes they remain unread until deletion . The very odd occasion I get a reply back . It's just the way it is and I've seen myself the volume of mail ladies get so it's understandable.

More frustrating In my opinion is when contact is initiated by a female then you reply and the above happens .

But hey ho it is what it is . I won't get upset or lose any sleep about it . A quick wank sees to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

I know what your saying mate. But a lot of the ladies here get hundreds of mail a day so it would take forever to answer all of them. So i understand when i dont get replys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A 2 second "thanks but no thanks" message, multiplied by the amount of unread messages I have would take time I could spend chatting to someone I do want to chat with.

A delete is not rude, it means I'm not interested.

Agree to disagree then

So in response to your message earlier, and the "other" one that followed, can I now say "thanks, but no thanks"?

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

When everything today is so "instant" & "fast" people have become accustomed to getting things quickly. Patience has become a forgotten virtue, along with manners. Consideration for others has all but vanished & the art of conversation has been replaced with text speak.

However rather than add to the negativity in the world the best thing is to rise above it, do what I can to keep myself in check when I become frustrated & remember not to add to it by submitting to the current trend but to enjoy life's little positive moments.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Shame on you ..dont you know you should be sitting there all day desperate for someone to message you and reply within seconds incase you miss out ..jeezo

I know I'm bad!! Missed out on a photo shoot too!!

And now we've all missed out on they photos ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A 2 second "thanks but no thanks" message, multiplied by the amount of unread messages I have would take time I could spend chatting to someone I do want to chat with.

A delete is not rude, it means I'm not interested.

Agree to disagree then

So in response to your message earlier, and the "other" one that followed, can I now say "thanks, but no thanks"?"

My one that followed was about manners lol which is also what the post is about

I understand women get tonnes of messages and would be difficult to respond to them all but when they complain about messages that are 'one liners' but can't give a polite response when effort has been made then why should guys even bother?

As I said, just my opinion. I was brought up with manners

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

If you get 50-100 messages a day are you going to spend all your spare time answering them all ...i think not ...your only gonna answer the ones that appeal to you ....so maybe thats what they do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A 2 second "thanks but no thanks" message, multiplied by the amount of unread messages I have would take time I could spend chatting to someone I do want to chat with.

A delete is not rude, it means I'm not interested.

Agree to disagree then

So in response to your message earlier, and the "other" one that followed, can I now say "thanks, but no thanks"?

My one that followed was about manners lol which is also what the post is about

As I said, just my opinion. I was brought up with manners

Well in the time it's taken me to write that last post, I've had 20 new messages, don't know if they are one liners or what cos I don't have time to check them, that shows the number of messages us women get on here, it borders on unmanageable at times.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nothubg to do with manners, fab states no reply means no thanks, also have this on our profile.

I remember first joining and replying no thanks to everyone we weren't interested in, soon learned very quickly that it was better not to reply as most of the no thanks were them followed by other questions of why not or abuse.

I don't imagine the single ladies have the time to reply to every message they get, I've been on here as a single and have come home after working a 15 hour shift to over 100 messages which would end up in a mass delete.

K x

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think I will need to go back to a copy and paste effort lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I might join in your rant had a meet arranged for tonight I was even going to accommodate and now user off the site etc a simple I can't make it etc would suffice. Grr

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By *andl kinkycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

Shame on you ..dont you know you should be sitting there all day desperate for someone to message you and reply within seconds incase you miss out ..jeezo

I know I'm bad!! Missed out on a photo shoot too!!

And now we've all missed out on they photos ....

Ohh yeah...sorry Bunkie. Next time I shall apologise for being ignorant instead of blocking.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

The site rules are to take a no reply as a no thank you .

Why do some members need to be told no thank you instead if taking no reply as just that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply...please duck off your now blocked....

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By *p4funduoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't always have time to reply to every message. This is not intended to cause offense x

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Why do some members need to be told no thank you instead if taking no reply as just that ? "

It's the St Thomas syndrome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do some members need to be told no thank you instead if taking no reply as just that ?

It's the St Thomas syndrome

Is that the same as, how dare you not reply to this fine specimen of a man

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

What! You mean you're not sitting with phone in hand or on lap top to read messages the instant you get them day or night????

Some people obviously have nothing else in their life than Fab. Block and move on.

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

"I don't always have time to reply to every message. This is not intended to cause offense x"

Never reply to mine

Unless sending gorgeous pics on FPF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah for me it's a waste of time chatting with folk I have no interest in meeting,so I don't think it's rude when I myself don't get a reply.I might be a little disappointed for a second but them's the breaks eh.

If I wanted pointless correspondence I'd join a pen pal site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a thought for the poor newbie who has said no thanx to all those messages and to those who didn't take no for an answer the first, second or third time, she's getting on like a house on fire with someone or a few folk but not sure of them yet to swap numbers so she's just keeping it to here but wait she's ran out of messages as she used most of them up tell folk no thanx. So now the folk that she was chatting to think she's a time waster for not replying and no longer want to continue chatting with her.

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By *andl kinkycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

What! You mean you're not sitting with phone in hand or on lap top to read messages the instant you get them day or night????

Some people obviously have nothing else in their life than Fab. Block and move on.

I know. Would love to have so much time on my hands although I'm not sure I'd be on fab

I did exactly that...thank god for the block button!!

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

What! You mean you're not sitting with phone in hand or on lap top to read messages the instant you get them day or night????

Some people obviously have nothing else in their life than Fab. Block and move on.

I know. Would love to have so much time on my hands although I'm not sure I'd be on fab

I did exactly that...thank god for the block button!!

What would you be doing instead????

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By *lawless doveWoman
over a year ago

bothwell

Seems to be a common occurrence and we girls can't seem to do right from wrong. I will try and get through as many of the mails as possible. I will instantly delete messages from non local guys, guys with cock profile pics or those without my header.

If the person clearly hasn't read my profile or chosen to ignore it the message is deleted.

Once I've gone through that process I will start to reply starting with the sorry your not for me. There will always be 1/2 who will always ask why. A real pet hate of mine. We all have choices on here and mine is I don't want to chat or meet you please accept that thank you. If they continue to ask why it's block and move on.

There are times however when there are just too many messages so I will bulk delete however alway update my status to show this. Still doesn't stop the "ignorant bitch/cow/cunt/bastard/fucker" messages.

The site is meant for enjoyment let's remember that when sending messages to each other.

Sorry for war and peace. Thank you for listening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

while I agree with you to a degree,you've got to remember some women work full time and to get home late,to be greeted by sometimes 50 or so messages from single guy's.

Sometimes a bulk delete happens and obviously some decent polite messages get deleted too

And this would be the case if FAB operated in a perfect world. Unfortunately it doesn't and you can go from the hottest honey on her to the fattest ugliest slag, just by saying a polite - thanks but not for me. Only takes one idiot reply to make you hit that delete button time and time again.

I'm here for fun not to pander to fragile egos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

Site FAQ's does state no reply = no thanks, have you taken the time to read said FAQ's?

https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems to be a common occurrence and we girls can't seem to do right from wrong. I will try and get through as many of the mails as possible. I will instantly delete messages from non local guys, guys with cock profile pics or those without my header.

If the person clearly hasn't read my profile or chosen to ignore it the message is deleted.

The site is meant for enjoyment let's remember that when sending messages to each other.

Sorry for war and peace. Thank you for listening"

I would wager the vast majority

Are in the same boat as you and the response is All that is wrong with here .

Unfortunately decent people get caught in mass cullstorage but it the way it is .

Why anyone on here needs to explain ofr justify how they use the place is beyond me .

Guys need to tuck away their egos and catch themselves on . It's pathetic

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By *lawless doveWoman
over a year ago

bothwell

If the person clearly hasn't read my profile or chosen to ignore it the message is deleted.

The site is meant for enjoyment let's remember that when sending messages to each other.

Sorry for war and peace. Thank you for listening

I would wager the vast majority

Are in the same boat as you and the response is All that is wrong with here .

Unfortunately decent people get caught in mass cullstorage but it the way it is .

Why anyone on here needs to explain ofr justify how they use the place is beyond me .

Guys need to tuck away their egos and catch themselves on . It's pathetic "

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By *ittle DancerWoman
over a year ago

Leslie, Glenrothes

Someone want to reply to the nearly 500 unread messages I have so they don't think I'm rude? I don't even know what's underneath (it only shows you the first 50?) and I'll spend half an hour sometimes trying to delete as many read ones as I can to get to the unread.

OP you underestimate just how much time it takes to simply go through the messages - yes to you it seems like a 2 second reply but it's more than that (on top of doing that trying to have conversations with people I may be interested in) and it takes a lot more time than you realise to go through the amount of messages single woman get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely I can't be the only one that thinks if a genuine effort has been made then surely a reply that takes two seconds is the decent thing to do

Rant over haha

95% of my fab experience tbh. I understand some gals get 100s of mail a day. Just frustrating when they DO read it and still nowt

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

95% of my fab experience tbh. I understand some gals get 100s of mail a day. Just frustrating when they DO read it and still nowt"

Just take it as you didnt fit the bill and move on ..its not hard

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