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By *lawless dove OP   Woman
over a year ago

bothwell

Had this discussion by the poolside this weekend and was surprised by the responses.

Guys --- do you prefer a woman who is selective on who she meets on fab. Someone you have to really put the effort in for, or do you prefer someone who is a lot less fussy.

Girls --- do you prefer to be selective. Going for someone who is also selective in who they will meet or are you happy to meet a guy who is happy to meet anyone.

My preference is I prefer the guy to put in the effort as I am very choosy. Even though he puts in the effort with me I also don't want him going with multiple women at the same time.

Discuss lol

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Im very selective of who I even associate with never mind become bedfellows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We expect both, both ways. respect is a big thing for us!!

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By *appyman3943Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Quality over quantity every time. Bit of a turn off to see verifications that run to multiple pages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I like quality, sometimes I like quantity, depends on my mood, but I like quality in my quantity.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

I dont think i have that kind of preference to be honest i'll tend to meet who i feel i have that connection with regardless of how we got there

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I just like being able to click with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quality every time, I also think guys with tons of veris one after another are NOT looking for regular, even though it says it on their profile so their not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quality every time, I also think guys with tons of veris one after another are NOT looking for regular, even though it says it on their profile so their not for me "

I agree

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"Im very selective of who I even associate with never mind become bedfellows"

This

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

Always quality

I think there has to be some connection to really enjoy each other

And regular usually means we explore and get more comfortable in each others company

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I just like being able to click with someone"

Agree. Usually find that if I get on well with someone it leads to subsequent meets. You can't tell if someone has had lots of meets or not. We could start afresh with new profiles tomorrow, it wouldn't change who we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the real search is for quality in quantity

A very rare thing to find

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world


"Im very selective of who I even associate with never mind become bedfellows

This"

Me 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 meets in 9 and a half years ..Who says i aint fussy ..

Quality every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very selective who I meet

I go through a guys profile even before I reply so yes defo quality over quantity

I have a few rules that if a profile has certain things in them...it's a no thanks

Rules are for me to know only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here 7 year and only met 8 guys so for me it's definitely quality and connection

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

It goes without saying quality wins everytime with me over quantity ...me personally im not looking for 1 offs or to shag half the site(not likely scenario anyway lol ) i'll put effort in if theres a connection( thats a must for me) and would be looking for select regular playmates ..find the sex gets better the more you get to know someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you all looking for a relationship...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how much is more...I personally find the more I meet the same guy...the buzz isn't as good?

Suppose that's why I'm on here I like meeting new folk

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Sounds like you all looking for a relationship... "
this one ive got to hear although in a sense your right. A relationship is nothing more than folk getting along though im gonna guess your meaning relationship as in a life partner. Some folk can just have sex with anyone others need more substance. That dosnt mean your trying to rush them down the aisle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here 7 year and only met 8 guys so for me it's definitely quality and connection "

That might be NINE shortly lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you all looking for a relationship... this one ive got to hear although in a sense your right. A relationship is nothing more than folk getting along though im gonna guess your meaning relationship as in a life partner. Some folk can just have sex with anyone others need more substance. That dosnt mean your trying to rush them down the aisle"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you all looking for a relationship... this one ive got to hear although in a sense your right. A relationship is nothing more than folk getting along though im gonna guess your meaning relationship as in a life partner. Some folk can just have sex with anyone others need more substance. That dosnt mean your trying to rush them down the aisle"

Leading to a slow walk down the aisle. I've just seen do much of it, people want to meet for NSA, then get all bunny boiler if they want to meet elsewhere, just my observations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So*

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It goes without saying quality wins everytime with me over quantity ...me personally im not looking for 1 offs or to shag half the site(not likely scenario anyway lol ) i'll put effort in if theres a connection( thats a must for me) and would be looking for select regular playmates ..find the sex gets better the more you get to know someone "

Agree with this. Quality over quantity for me. Has to be a connection and I personally feel the more of a connection you have then the sex is better and you can become comfortable with that person which may or may not lead to regular meet ups. I couldn't meet someone I didn't have a connection with that would just be awkward xx

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"Quality every time, I also think guys with tons of veris one after another are NOT looking for regular, even though it says it on their profile so their not for me

I agree "

Agreed, and if they have a verification from certain people who I know aren't fussy I am reluctant to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you all looking for a relationship... "
I for one ain't looking for a relationship, but I do have self respect and standards, lots of guys will ask to meet after one message, or even the first message to me that speaks volumes, to me that says they will sleep with anyone, and for me that's a def no thanks

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Sounds like you all looking for a relationship... this one ive got to hear although in a sense your right. A relationship is nothing more than folk getting along though im gonna guess your meaning relationship as in a life partner. Some folk can just have sex with anyone others need more substance. That dosnt mean your trying to rush them down the aisle

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I'm not going down any aisle again. I have known some people for several years though and play and socialise with them occasionally. So much easier than having several new meets when you know you can have fun with someone you know well. The occasional booty call too at the last minute wouldn't happen with a stranger.

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

What constitutes a quality meet . Great body , looks , personality. How do you know if it will be a quality meet before hand.

Quantity doesent mean you will find quality either.

If arranging a meet then effort should be put in as I think it makes it more rewarding for both .

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill


"Sounds like you all looking for a relationship... this one ive got to hear although in a sense your right. A relationship is nothing more than folk getting along though im gonna guess your meaning relationship as in a life partner. Some folk can just have sex with anyone others need more substance. That dosnt mean your trying to rush them down the aisle

Leading to a slow walk down the aisle. I've just seen do much of it, people want to meet for NSA, then get all bunny boiler if they want to meet elsewhere, just my observations. "

Definitely not

Just regular fun

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill


"It goes without saying quality wins everytime with me over quantity ...me personally im not looking for 1 offs or to shag half the site(not likely scenario anyway lol ) i'll put effort in if theres a connection( thats a must for me) and would be looking for select regular playmates ..find the sex gets better the more you get to know someone

Agree with this. Quality over quantity for me. Has to be a connection and I personally feel the more of a connection you have then the sex is better and you can become comfortable with that person which may or may not lead to regular meet ups. I couldn't meet someone I didn't have a connection with that would just be awkward xx"

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool


"Had this discussion by the poolside this weekend and was surprised by the responses.

Guys --- do you prefer a woman who is selective on who she meets on fab. Someone you have to really put the effort in for, or do you prefer someone who is a lot less fussy.

Girls --- do you prefer to be selective. Going for someone who is also selective in who they will meet or are you happy to meet a guy who is happy to meet anyone.

My preference is I prefer the guy to put in the effort as I am very choosy. Even though he puts in the effort with me I also don't want him going with multiple women at the same time.

Discuss lol

"

I like cheeky chappies,the ones who can give me a smile throughout the day,or the ones that can be the selves, makes an effort,has a twinkle in his eye...but back to the question hehe

I have my eyes on those I would like to meet,the ones I chat with on a regular basis...They know who they be

Plus my profile says all that I'm looking for

No not being difficult in how to put my thinking,just genuinely bad in how I get my words out

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool


"It goes without saying quality wins everytime with me over quantity ...me personally im not looking for 1 offs or to shag half the site(not likely scenario anyway lol ) i'll put effort in if theres a connection( thats a must for me) and would be looking for select regular playmates ..find the sex gets better the more you get to know someone

Agree with this. Quality over quantity for me. Has to be a connection and I personally feel the more of a connection you have then the sex is better and you can become comfortable with that person which may or may not lead to regular meet ups. I couldn't meet someone I didn't have a connection with that would just be awkward xx"

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always feel that this has a slight reek of snobbery to it....who decides whom is quality and is that person in any position to make decisions. Nothing personal against the OP, I just get a tad uncomfortable when I see stuff like this....it has an air of the Aristocrats (Quality) and the Plebs (Quantity)

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By *lawless dove OP   Woman
over a year ago

bothwell


"I always feel that this has a slight reek of snobbery to it....who decides whom is quality and is that person in any position to make decisions. Nothing personal against the OP, I just get a tad uncomfortable when I see stuff like this....it has an air of the Aristocrats (Quality) and the Plebs (Quantity)"

Nothing personal taken as I appreciate quality is not the best way to phrase what I was meaning. Everyone on fab are here for their own reasons and everyone is entitled to meet who they want when they want.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"I always feel that this has a slight reek of snobbery to it....who decides whom is quality and is that person in any position to make decisions. Nothing personal against the OP, I just get a tad uncomfortable when I see stuff like this....it has an air of the Aristocrats (Quality) and the Plebs (Quantity)"
everyone version of quality differs someone or something you find to be quality I could abhor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always feel that this has a slight reek of snobbery to it....who decides whom is quality and is that person in any position to make decisions. Nothing personal against the OP, I just get a tad uncomfortable when I see stuff like this....it has an air of the Aristocrats (Quality) and the Plebs (Quantity)everyone version of quality differs someone or something you find to be quality I could abhor"

Agreed, each to their own

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