FabSwingers.com forum: looking for a couple to seduce my girlfriend

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi any couples in Aberdeen fancy a challenge of seducing my girlfriend as she gas not been interested in sex for the last ten years we are staying at the Altens hotel just outside Aberdeen on the 24th and 25th September as it is her birthday and I would love to see someone put a smile on her face thanks we are in our sixties but people say she looks about 50

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

"hi any couples in Aberdeen fancy a challenge of seducing my girlfriend as she gas not been interested in sex for the last ten years we are staying at the Altens hotel just outside Aberdeen on the 24th and 25th September as it is her birthday and I would love to see someone put a smile on her face thanks we are in our sixties but people say she looks about 50

To me this sounds very suspicious and wrong. I take it your girlfriend has no idea she will be an unwitting accomplice in your fantasy ?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If she's not interested in sex and hasn't been for the last ten years, what makes you think that a total stranger turning up without an invitation from her is going to change that?

If you were my boyfriend your nuts would hurt a lot if I found you out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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and if she wasn't interested in sex with you and someone seduced her in a hotel and ended up shagging her all night you wouldn't get jealous?

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world

Some folk really

See if she hasn't been interested in 10 years in sex with you why would you even think about this without her knowledge

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well if she was chatted up it might give her confidence and if she thinks she is SEXY maybe she would be

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world

"well if she was chatted up it might give her confidence and if she thinks she is SEXY maybe she would be

Why don't you make her feel sexy ?

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"well if she was chatted up it might give her confidence and if she thinks she is SEXY maybe she would be

Why don't you make her feel sexy ?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Will it make her feel sexy and confident knowing your on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

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maybe she could go to a therapist to talk about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh ya fecker ..

This is awesome ..

Maybe ..just maybe she hasnt been interested in sex for the past 10 yrs because of you ..

Just a thought.

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

Buying things doesn't tell her you think she's sexy

YOU seduce her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the two of you need a wee sit down honest chat to see what the story is and not be hatching plans behind her back!

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

"I think the two of you need a wee sit down honest chat to see what the story is and not be hatching plans behind her back!

This ^^

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"I think the two of you need a wee sit down honest chat to see what the story is and not be hatching plans behind her back!

Voice of wisdom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

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think it's marriage guidance you need and not the advice of a bunch of (possibly) unqualified dirty bastards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If memory serves me right, and it normally does you were here a few months ago asking for the same thing. I think your going to have to accept maybe she doesn't want sex and sorry if it sounds harsh but have you ever thought it could be you that's the problem.

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world

"I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

So because you buy her flowers take her to hotels & buy her new clothes she is going to just give you sex.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

These threads never end well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have never been on here before so you are wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

think it's marriage guidance you need and not the advice of a bunch of (possibly) unqualified dirty bastards"

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Just to throw a spanner in the works OP.....

And playing devils advocate here....

How do you know she isn't interested in sex?

Have you asked?

Maybe she has a toyboy she sees for sex and enjoys the non physical side with you.

Yes, you may not like that but how do you know if you don't ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she's just not that into you!

Maybe she's happily getting it elsewhere while your sneaking about on here behind her back!

Maybe she's on here too and knows your every move

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe she's just not that into you!

Maybe she's happily getting it elsewhere while your sneaking about on here behind her back!

Maybe she's on here too and knows your every move well as we everything together and she never goes out without me and she is definitely not on here and we have been together 25 years

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just to throw a spanner in the works OP.....

And playing devils advocate here....

How do you know she isn't interested in sex?

Have you asked? as we do everything together and she does not go out much and she told me ten years ago that she never wanted sex again up to that point she was really good in bed so for the last ten years I have not had any sex

Maybe she has a toyboy she sees for sex and enjoys the non physical side with you.

Yes, you may not like that but how do you know if you don't ask?

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world

"Just to throw a spanner in the works OP.....

And playing devils advocate here....

How do you know she isn't interested in sex?

Maybe she has a toyboy she sees for sex and enjoys the non physical side with you.

Yes, you may not like that but how do you know if you don't ask?

Well respect her wishes she doesn't want sex!!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Does she know you're bisexual? Maybe it's time you looked at your relationship.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

So a couple turn up ...you all chat and then comes out YOU arranged a set with some randoms.

Oh yeah she's going to be feeling great about isn't she . I'm afraid trying to just pimp a woman out isn't going to get her gushing like old faithful. Your lack of respect for her is clear as this is all about what YOU want and your little senarios. If she wanted sex don't you think she'd be doing something about that . Instead of focusing on you agenda and trying to veil it by making out its for her ...go and actually ask her what SHE wants .I can garentee your set up isn't going to be the answer .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she's just not that into you!

Maybe she's happily getting it elsewhere while your sneaking about on here behind her back!

Maybe she's on here too and knows your every move well as we everything together and she never goes out without me and she is definitely not on here and we have been together 25 years

She doesnt need to go out without you if she just invites him round when you are out on your sneaky bi meets

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

This definitely isn't the answer but I think you've probably realised this by now.

Sit her down and talk to her.

Tell her sex is important to you and ask her if it's important to her.

Then take it from there.

You're going out for her birthday... There's clearly still something resembling a relationship there.

Sex is an important part of a loving relationship. But there's more to it than that. Lack of sex is a sign that there's something wrong.

But maybe it's something out with your control. Maybe she doesn't feel sexy any more. Do you show her you still find her sexy? Touch is important. As are compliments. And don't tel anyone tell you anything differently. Negging is for manipulative arseholes.

Be nice to her. See what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like it's u who wants the meet .going but what u have on ur profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone actually thought about the Couple who have organised Babysitters..made the effort and prior arrangements in advance to turn up with expectations in having mutual fun.

Can you just imagine ..your Gf and the Couple standing looking at each and thinking ..WTF ...

Its as good as a dead parrot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That actually happend to me n hubby lol

Arranged a meet turned up at the cpls house and she was sat watching eastenders lol

He arranged the meet without her knowing..luckily she was a swinger but she told him she wanted a night out at the pub lol

Quick exit!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's all shite and he's just looking for attention so he can prey on others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That actually happend to me n hubby lol

Arranged a meet turned up at the cpls house and she was sat watching eastenders lol

He arranged the meet without her knowing..luckily she was a swinger but she told him she wanted a night out at the pub lol

Quick exit!!!

So ....Ya pumped Den and Angie ..then went down the Queen Vic ..

i dinna believe ya x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Ok OP....

So if she has made it very clear she doesn't want a physical relationship with anyone - for whatever reason - why try and force it on her?

Why not just accept her for who she is and enjoy your time together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok OP....

So if she has made it very clear she doesn't want a physical relationship with anyone - for whatever reason - why try and force it on her?

Why not just accept her for who she is and enjoy your time together? "
^^^^^this^^^^^

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Ok OP....

So if she has made it very clear she doesn't want a physical relationship with anyone - for whatever reason - why try and force it on her?

Why not just accept her for who she is and enjoy your time together? ^^^^^this^^^^^"

Thank god its furrys turn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok OP....

So if she has made it very clear she doesn't want a physical relationship with anyone - for whatever reason - why try and force it on her?

Why not just accept her for who she is and enjoy your time together? ^^^^^this^^^^^

Thank god its furrys turn

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it's ok normal service has been resumed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why everyone feels the needs to give advice and judge....

The original poster asked if anyone wanted to seduce his wife - if you weren't interested - I am not sure why you felt the need to give your "tuppence worth"

I thought swingers would be less judgemental - but seems I was wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers might be less judgemental about what other consenting adults get up to ... But probably more aware of how wrong it could go if you just spring a foursome on an unsuspecting wife who hasnt wanted sex for 10 years ... Thats not swinging its just selfish

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By *laireandjamieCouple
over a year ago

west lothian

Sitting here with my popcorn.............

In my experience no sex is a sign of something else in your relationship

Arranging swinging is not going to solve that

An honest conversation will help massively - just our view

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world

"Not sure why everyone feels the needs to give advice and judge....

The original poster asked if anyone wanted to seduce his wife - if you weren't interested - I am not sure why you felt the need to give your "tuppence worth"

I thought swingers would be less judgemental - but seems I was wrong...

If you read the full thread his gf doesn't & hasn't wanted sex for 10 years, yet he's trying to get someone seduce her to make her smile

He buys her nice things but she doesn't want to have sex.

So while she sits knitting a guy is wanted by him to go in & pump her to make her smile. Wrong in so many levels

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Swingers might be less judgemental about what other consenting adults get up to ... But probably more aware of how wrong it could go if you just spring a foursome on an unsuspecting wife who hasnt wanted sex for 10 years ... Thats not swinging its just selfish "

It's knowing just how badly wrong it could go that makes me comment. Otherwise I'd have just walked on by.

I wouldn't like to see the OP or his girlfriend get hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just on another note ..

Surely OP ..you must see that from the advice people have given there are so many negatives as someone has said ..on many levels..

Do you not realise that in a Couples meeting Couples scenario the FOUR of you need to get on.

If you dont agree ..you are assuming your GF would feck anyone and thats highly disrespectful..

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Not sure why everyone feels the needs to give advice and judge....

The original poster asked if anyone wanted to seduce his wife - if you weren't interested - I am not sure why you felt the need to give your "tuppence worth"

I thought swingers would be less judgemental - but seems I was wrong...

The beauty of an open forum is that people get to give their opinion, ask questions and add in their tuppence worth.

People judge every minute of every day. It's life. You would think that a whole bunch of swingers would be less judgey than the norm but it's absolutely not the case.

Given the topic and the circumstances of the OP, it's unsurprising that people are quick to comment negatively. I'd not want to be involved in such a scenario either as the girlfriend or the other couple. Would you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been on here before so you are wrong "

The green arrow reveals all...

So, that's a wee fib isn't it. Aberdeen social...???

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

This. Absolutely. We're not judging - we are telling him we don't think it's the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been on here before so you are wrong

The green arrow reveals all...

So, that's a wee fib isn't it. Aberdeen social...???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

Very nice.....try making the dinner....stroking her hair....a foot massage....send her a moonpig card....send her nice unexpected text messages....all the things that money can't buy.....and don't expect anything in return x"
I make most of our meals she does not like her feet being touched I quite often whisk her away some where nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok OP....

So if she has made it very clear she doesn't want a physical relationship with anyone - for whatever reason - why try and force it on her?

Why not just accept her for who she is and enjoy your time and what about my feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do I buy her flowers every 2 weeks I take her out for romantic meals we go away for weekends I even buy her nice clothes and I tell her she looks fabulous but to no avail

Very nice.....try making the dinner....stroking her hair....a foot massage....send her a moonpig card....send her nice unexpected text messages....all the things that money can't buy.....and don't expect anything in return x I make most of our meals she does not like her feet being touched I quite often whisk her away some where nice "
oh ya wee sneaky, oor jinty sussed you oot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure why everyone feels the needs to give advice and judge....

The original poster asked if anyone wanted to seduce his wife - if you weren't interested - I am not sure why you felt the need to give your "tuppence worth"

thankyou

I thought swingers would be less judgemental - but seems I was wrong...thankyou for the comment I was not expecting to be savaged by all these other people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure why everyone feels the needs to give advice and judge....

The original poster asked if anyone wanted to seduce his wife - if you weren't interested - I am not sure why you felt the need to give your "tuppence worth"

I thought swingers would be less judgemental - but seems I was wrong...

If you read the full thread his gf doesn't & hasn't wanted sex for 10 years, yet he's trying to get someone seduce her to make her smile

He buys her nice things but she doesn't want to have sex.

So while she sits knitting a guy is wanted by him to go in & pump her to make her smile. Wrong in so many levels

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no that was not what I asked for I was looking for a nice couple to get friendly social only to give her some confidence

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Errr not what your opening post says.

Wanting a cpl to seduce her and put a smile on her face isn't just shooting the breeze at a social is it .

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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago

happy lil world

"Not sure why everyone feels the needs to give advice and judge....

The original poster asked if anyone wanted to seduce his wife - if you weren't interested - I am not sure why you felt the need to give your "tuppence worth"

I thought swingers would be less judgemental - but seems I was wrong...

If you read the full thread his gf doesn't & hasn't wanted sex for 10 years, yet he's trying to get someone seduce her to make her smile

He buys her nice things but she doesn't want to have sex.

So while she sits knitting a guy is wanted by him to go in & pump her to make her smile. Wrong in so many levels

no that was not what I asked for I was looking for a nice couple to get friendly social only to give her some confidence

Well why not meet with friends ? Meeting with swingers for a social only means your looking for it to turn to a sex meet are you not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dress it how you want - the judgement continues....

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By *ary_ArgyllMan
over a year ago

Argyll

"I make most of our meals she does not like her feet being touched"

WTF - I also don't normally combine a foot fetish with cooking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""I make most of our meals she does not like her feet being touched"

WTF - I also don't normally combine a foot fetish with cooking."
well someone else suggested a foot massage nothing to do with the meals

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure why everyone feels the needs to give advice and judge....

The original poster asked if anyone wanted to seduce his wife - if you weren't interested - I am not sure why you felt the need to give your "tuppence worth"

I thought swingers would be less judgemental - but seems I was wrong...

If you read the full thread his gf doesn't & hasn't wanted sex for 10 years, yet he's trying to get someone seduce her to make her smile

He buys her nice things but she doesn't want to have sex.

So while she sits knitting a guy is wanted by him to go in & pump her to make her smile. Wrong in so many levels

no that was not what I asked for I was looking for a nice couple to get friendly social only to give her some confidence

Well why not meet with friends ? Meeting with swingers for a social only means your looking for it to turn to a sex meet are you not?"
Not at all swinger just happen to be more tolerant a social is fine she was getting gift chatted up on Friday night by a lot younger guy and she enjoyed it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have never been on here before so you are wrong

The green arrow reveals all...

So, that's a wee fib isn't it. Aberdeen social...???

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I can assure this person that I have never been on from before I did post on Aberdeen social but that the wrong pkace to put it so I did another on here so it is not a fib no not FIB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP, possibly you've not worded this at all well... this would in turn suggest your communication with your partner is not great either.

You did say in your original message "seduce" not chat up so it sounded like you were organising a sexual meet without her knowledge.

All the "talk to her" advice is sound so I'd underline that... oh and you have two ears and one mouth for a reason... listen to what she says... who knows you might even get what you want. Miscommunication is at the root of most misunderstandings.

Good luck to you BOTH - Fire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of guys on here saying their wives/ girlfriend don't want sex

Fair enough if you want to live like that but why moan about it or try to justify being in here

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