FabSwingers.com forum: Dont know what I'm doing wrong :S

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Iv recently joined fab after hearing about it from a friend I'm verified genuine got a few pictures not public as my friend says alot of people use your photos on here for their wicked ways! But I happily send them to people I message. its always nice to show I'm not a fake by verifying my profile but like iv heard there's a lot of fakes on here

I am only ever nice and respectful in my messages non cock pics always send face picture and a nice well thought out message but my question is when I do get a reply I send them a couple messages back and forth just asking a bit about that person and I just get patched, I'm just a bit confused as to why I'm a nice genuine guy on here just looking for regular fun with someone but it's hard to get chatting as this happens lol I can understand if they don't like the way I look but it's not like iv been rude in my messages to merit a dingy :P any one help me understand this please

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

There are many previous posts on the problems your having it's worth searching through for them . Patience , look for socials great way to get to know folk , patience , I've not looked at your profile but look at other guys who have been here a while see how theirs stands out , patience , have a nice picture of you in a suit or just your torso without showing your face , patience , sell yourself through your text don't sound too desperate or needy , patience , you'll get there eventually ratio of males to females is very high have fun .

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Oops forgot no reply means no some folk get so many messages can't reply to each and every one . Patience .

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You would be best with a profile picture. I don't even look at the messages of guys that don't have one. I've been on the site for 5 years and never had a picture stolen.

And as for the messages then getting ignored, there are so many guys on here so if they change their mind or see your picture and realise you aren't their type they just move on to the next guy. Don't take it personally, yes it would be nice to get a message explaining why but it doesn't always happen that way.

Good luck with the search

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well that's very true you forget that there's a lot of males on here I suppose my best bet is to try stand out from the rest and try be patient. I'll definitely change my profile pic to body pic or something I can see why that would put people off

not up for brandishing the face all over this site it's nice to have a bit privacy and all that haha. Thanks very much for the advice taken on board

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Well that's very true you forget that there's a lot of males on here I suppose my best bet is to try stand out from the rest and try be patient. I'll definitely change my profile pic to body pic or something I can see why that would put people off

not up for brandishing the face all over this site it's nice to have a bit privacy and all that haha. Thanks very much for the advice taken on board

Most people don't have a face picture. Hope you find what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off the bat, I'd get that bio changed, way too serious, got a door to door sales feel to it.

I wouldn't think that photos doing much for you, indistinguishable from about 40k others on here. Try something memorable, unique.

As for messages you are sending, non-sequiturs, completely off topic comments tend to work best for me. Stick to the wee hours, less traffic and the nights made for saying things you can't say tomorrow day. People on here ain't angels, have fun with it.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your probably not doing anything wrong

The only advice worth a damn is be patient, took me months and months originally and I still get blanked regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey

I read through your profile and for me it's bad punctuation and your reference to another female. Makes you sound like a couple. Go back through it, put in a few full stops and commas then all is good. Had you messaged me I would've given up halfway at the bad grammar.

Good luck tho Dxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I thank you for your constructive advice I have taken it on board and changed my profile, put a profile picture on and sorted out my terrible grammar I must have had a couple of drinks at the time :O

If you could have a wee look and let me know if it looks a bit more appealing, that would be greatly appreciated

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Instant no from me based on some of the content of your profile..

(but I'm not going to tell you what as its your profile so up to you what you write on it)

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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago

bellshill

Patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all I'm pretty much in the same boat as the op, I'm a genuine honest guy I'm not pushy and can't always meet at short notice,A did join the site a while ago but thinking I might end up back with my ex I never really bothered with it but since actually trying to strike up a conversation with someone it's been difficult most of my messages get deleted, I would prefer to chat to someone first for a bit before a meet, can any females or males give me any advice on my profile as too why I don't get many replies? Unfortunately I don't have a 6 pack and big muscles a don't have a beard or covered in tattoos, am aware that I'm no brad Pitt but a don't think im that ugly to barely get a reply. Can anyone give me any advice please good or bad. Thanks alan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem to frown upon people who've had a lot of sexual partners & your profile comes across as a bit judgemental.

Also you're wasting your time saying you're genuine. It means nothing. Nobody would ever say they weren't genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You seem to frown upon people who've had a lot of sexual partners & your profile comes across as a bit judgemental.

Also you're wasting your time saying you're genuine. It means nothing. Nobody would ever say they weren't genuine."

spot on.

maybe time to crawl out of your own arse op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should you not maybe ask your friend? Looks like he may have misled you into thinking that it would take a week or less for you to be up to the oxters in pussy? It really takes quite a lot of effort to be successful and harping on about being genuine while being sniffy about others choices won't cut the mustard either.

I have a friend at "Instashag" who would be happy to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way too much info, you really do sound like your trying to sell yourself.

I'd pick half a dozen things that your into, less is more and all that, remove some of the detail about yourself (no one really cares about your friend, or what you've been told about pictures.

Change your looking for bit from saying about long term relationships, while your committed it also comes across as a bit needy as most are just looking for a bit of fun with a chance of maybe having a friends with benefits type relationship.

And never give an opinion on how many sexual partners may have had, it is a bit judgemental.

Just my thoughts x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again for the info, I don't mean to come across as an up myself kind of guy just a bit crap at explaining things that's all. I didn't Expect this to be a walk in the park I was just curious to find out how the site works hence me asking :P short and sweet got it !! I appreciate people being honest about it just what I'm after so I can improve my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience seems to be a virtue on here as a single guy. I like to think of myself as a nice genuine discrete person, however on the occasions i msg people whether it be couples or single women i never get replies or msg gets deleted. I guess its a case of hanging on in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is pretty simple buddy, stop sending out messages. Genuinely, stick with the forums and have a laugh, this is a cracking way to get your sense of humour and personality known.

Thats when you'll find the fems and couples will send you an email or two

(if your not a prick that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP

Your probably not doing anything wrong

The only advice worth a damn is be patient, took me months and months originally and I still get blanked regularly "

Maybe if you offered to share your yorkie bar you might not get blanked as often....

Just sayin..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My advice is pretty simple buddy, stop sending out messages. Genuinely, stick with the forums and have a laugh, this is a cracking way to get your sense of humour and personality known.

Thats when you'll find the fems and couples will send you an email or two

(if your not a prick that is

That sounds like a better idea than sending the odd msg every now n then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha I'll try that mate cheers, hopefully people will see that I'm a nice guy worth messaging and not a total dick :P haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be on for a right good laugh and chat and take it from there either via socials, chat room or messages.

People will get to know you, like you and take it from there.

I go on for a right good laugh and chat and never got a meet for 43 years then I got one recently, so patience is a virtue.

Girls will get about 60 messages a day, especially when they put a status up that they are looking or just horny and your mail might in in amongst them so you want it to stand out.

I don't normally message but a lot of times I will make a comment about their status by message if I feel the need whether advice or appreciating the comment or having a right good giggle and its nice if they reply and you can chat away without it looking for a meet or fuck.

Just enjoy fab and make friends, its a fun place once you get to know it.

There's assholes, egits and timewasters here but when you look through the mire there are some really nice, lovely people and some sexy as feck loll

Keep the Faith and They will Follow ( sure that's from a film)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and never send cock pics even if they ask for them.

I never do or will

So get back to us in 43 time when your first meet comes up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh and never send cock pics even if they ask for them.

I never do or will

So get back to us in 43 time when your first meet comes up

This.

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