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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Past few days had

Want fucked

Can I have your used knickers

want a 9 inch cock.

Seriously .don't know what I look like no effort in chat .

NI effort do they expect replys ??

Any better ones than these ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont forget what an ugly slag you are when you don't reply! You were the most beautiful woman in the world for message 1, but somehow you grew hooves and a tail by message 2!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a variety of people in here just as outside, obviously with a greater focus on sex. It's not pleasant, nor excusable, but not surprising that there will be men engaging with with someone they fancy with something other than the polite and conversational part of the brain.

Hope your call for better is answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally mind dead, i always send messages that that are well thought out , personal and light hearted but it becomes tedious after a while when most people dont even read it , messages all have a face pic and within bounderies of the people i messsge . Would never sink so low as to just message 1 line , far too well mannered and would never be so uncooth. But deff dont put as much effort as i used to when i first joined . Some of the ladies should try typing out THEIR life story 5-10 times a day , its boring as feck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Past few days had

Want fucked

Can I have your used knickers

want a 9 inch cock.

Seriously .don't know what I look like no effort in chat .

NI effort do they expect replys ?

Any better ones than these ?"

Strangely we prefer more straight to the point messages we all know why we are here plus going through over 100 messages a day of hey howd you is more than annoying, but thats just us think people will prefer different thingd

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Totally mind dead, i always send messages that that are well thought out , personal and light hearted but it becomes tedious after a while when most people dont even read it , messages all have a face pic and within bounderies of the people i messsge . Would never sink so low as to just message 1 line , far too well mannered and would never be so uncooth. But deff dont put as much effort as i used to when i first joined . Some of the ladies should try typing out THEIR life story 5-10 times a day , its boring as feck lol "

I can completely understand where you are coming from. It would drive me insane if I had to. Actually I would give up quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is though, all this behavior means is women are a little more ruthless in their handling of the site (which is completely understandable).

Barraging women with messages means the quality gets lost amongst "wanna fuk?". Women dont need to change on here, its the men need to stop acting so thirsty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the ones with two or three profiles that drive me insane. Don't even try and hide it's the same person. Same bad grammer and pathetic lines they use over and over again. Oh and the pictues that are clearly the same person.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Conversations a two way street to many fems want placed on a pedastal and have it re-affirmed that they are the greatest .....most beuatiful.....heaven sent you get my drift. A polite msg of hi im steven care to chat should be enough. Way to many fems profiles and to a larger extent cpls profiles have an ever increasing set of demands that must be fullfilled before the word hello will be typed from their keyboard perhaps the mindless hoard cant be bothered so come straight out with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Conversations a two way street to many fems want placed on a pedastal and have it re-affirmed that they are the greatest .....most beuatiful.....heaven sent you get my drift. A polite msg of hi im steven care to chat should be enough. Way to many fems profiles and to a larger extent cpls profiles have an ever

increasing set of demands that

must be fullfilled before the word

hello will be typed from their

keyboard perhaps the mindless

hoard cant be bothered so come

straight out with it."

I really don't think so .would you go on a swinger site to get worshipped nope .more chance of getting abuse .not women's fault men out number woman on here so much .if your serious about want to meet you need to stand out from the rest .catch peoples eye .show you have read there profile makes a great start .it's all about effort. Not giving in easy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah that whole pedestal thing is crap! Its just women reacting to the market climate appropriately as far as I see!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the ones with two or three profiles that drive me insane. Don't even try and hide it's the same person. Same bad grammer and pathetic lines they use over and over again. Oh and the pictues that are clearly the same person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...not women's fault men out number woman on here so much .if your serious about want to meet you need to stand out from the rest .catch peoples eye .show you have read there profile makes a great start .it's all about effort...

"

Out of interest, little ms, do you ever send introductory messages? Has anyone praised you for having read his profile and formed your first message accordingly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...not women's fault men out number woman on here so much .if your serious about want to meet you need to stand out from the rest .catch peoples eye .show you have read there profile makes a great start .it's all about effort...

Out of interest, little ms, do you ever send introductory messages? Has anyone praised you for having read his profile and formed your first message accordingly?"

Are you suggesting women aren't holding themselves to a standard they expect of others?!

I think the problem lies just as much in them not needing to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally mind dead, i always send messages that that are well thought out , personal and light hearted but it becomes tedious after a while when most people dont even read it , messages all have a face pic and within bounderies of the people i messsge . Would never sink so low as to just message 1 line , far too well mannered and would never be so uncooth. But deff dont put as much effort as i used to when i first joined . Some of the ladies should try typing out THEIR life story 5-10 times a day , its boring as feck lol

I can completely understand where you are coming from. It would drive me insane if I had to. Actually I would give up quick"
kts the lure of you gorgeous tattooed women that keeps me hangimg in there

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Conversations a two way street to many fems want placed on a pedastal and have it re-affirmed that they are the greatest .....most beuatiful.....heaven sent you get my drift. A polite msg of hi im steven care to chat should be enough. Way to many fems profiles and to a larger extent cpls profiles have an ever increasing set of demands that must be fullfilled before the word hello will be typed from their keyboard perhaps the mindless hoard cant be bothered so come straight out with it."

But I am heaven sent ............ Or was that hell

I actually agree that some women have let it all go to their heads, me I can't be doing with the fawning bullshit I'm way too cynical to believe most of it

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Conversations a two way street to many fems want placed on a pedastal and have it re-affirmed that they are the greatest .....most beuatiful.....heaven sent you get my drift. A polite msg of hi im steven care to chat should be enough. Way to many fems profiles and to a larger extent cpls profiles have an ever increasing set of demands that must be fullfilled before the word hello will be typed from their keyboard perhaps the mindless hoard cant be bothered so come straight out with it.

But I am heaven sent ............ Or was that hell

I actually agree that some women have let it all go to their heads, me I can't be doing with the fawning bullshit I'm way too cynical to believe most of it "

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, little ms, do you ever send introductory messages? Has anyone praised you for having read his profile and formed your first message accordingly?

Are you suggesting women aren't holding themselves to a standard they expect of others?!

I think the problem lies just as much in them not needing to."

Not suggesting anything, mere curiosity - and though I think you're probably right about the different incentives in writing, I wouldn't say it's a problem to me.

Just the way it is and not really reason enough for some of the messages the OP has received.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I often send first messages. If I really like the look of someone I'll try my best to show iv read there profile .with including something that is in it. Or comment on a pacific photo.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Conversations a two way street to many fems want placed on a pedastal and have it re-affirmed that they are the greatest .....most beuatiful.....heaven sent you get my drift. A polite msg of hi im steven care to chat should be enough. Way to many fems profiles and to a larger extent cpls profiles have an ever

increasing set of demands that

must be fullfilled before the word

hello will be typed from their

keyboard perhaps the mindless

hoard cant be bothered so come

straight out with it.

I really don't think so .would you go on a swinger site to get worshipped nope .more chance of getting abuse .not women's fault men out number woman on here so much .if your serious about want to meet you need to stand out from the rest .catch peoples eye .show you have read there profile makes a great start .it's all about effort. Not giving in easy .

"
im not saying woman go on to get worshipped or that anything is their fault.im sure since you have joined you have recieved countless msgs saying how utterly wonderful you are......some believe that hype and start craving it. And effort should be shown by both partys not a guy running through hoops like a lap dog. Im not saying its always the case but having seen a few of the demanding profiles it can feel like being told fetch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I often send first messages. If I really like the look of someone I'll try my best to show iv read there profile .with including something that is in it. Or comment on a pacific photo."

Only natural that you'd want to receive the same from others. Fingers crossed!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It's the ones with two or three profiles that drive me insane. Don't even try and hide it's the same person. Same bad grammer and pathetic lines they use over and over again. Oh and the pictues that are clearly the same person.

"

^^^ this....

Especially when they're really really obvious

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

The site gives you the tools you need to eliminate certain people so why not use it to block single guys and do your own mailing ?

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By *oznrayCouple
over a year ago

helensburgh


"Totally mind dead, i always send messages that that are well thought out , personal and light hearted but it becomes tedious after a while when most people dont even read it , messages all have a face pic and within bounderies of the people i messsge . Would never sink so low as to just message 1 line , far too well mannered and would never be so uncooth. But deff dont put as much effort as i used to when i first joined . Some of the ladies should try typing out THEIR life story 5-10 times a day , its boring as feck lol "

And heaven forbid you copy and paste some bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally mind dead, i always send messages that that are well thought out , personal and light hearted but it becomes tedious after a while when most people dont even read it , messages all have a face pic and within bounderies of the people i messsge . Would never sink so low as to just message 1 line , far too well mannered and would never be so uncooth. But deff dont put as much effort as i used to when i first joined . Some of the ladies should try typing out THEIR life story 5-10 times a day , its boring as feck lol

And heaven forbid you copy and paste some bits"

Im techno retard , i dont know how to do that so i genuinly type each and every message . Its hard going

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By *oznrayCouple
over a year ago

helensburgh


"Conversations a two way street to many fems want placed on a pedastal and have it re-affirmed that they are the greatest .....most beuatiful.....heaven sent you get my drift. A polite msg of hi im steven care to chat should be enough. Way to many fems profiles and to a larger extent cpls profiles have an ever

increasing set of demands that

must be fullfilled before the word

hello will be typed from their

keyboard perhaps the mindless

hoard cant be bothered so come

straight out with it.

I really don't think so .would you go on a swinger site to get worshipped nope .more chance of getting abuse .not women's fault men out number woman on here so much .if your serious about want to meet you need to stand out from the rest .catch peoples eye .show you have read there profile makes a great start .it's all about effort. Not giving in easy .

im not saying woman go on to get worshipped or that anything is their fault.im sure since you have joined you have recieved countless msgs saying how utterly wonderful you are......some believe that hype and start craving it. And effort should be shown by both partys not a guy running through hoops like a lap dog. Im not saying its always the case but having seen a few of the demanding profiles it can feel like being told fetch "

Or to write a long thought out message to get a couple of word answer, like that sounds interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Conversations a two way street to many fems want placed on a pedastal and have it re-affirmed that they are the greatest .....most beuatiful.....heaven sent you get my drift. A polite msg of hi im steven care to chat should be enough. Way to many fems profiles and to a larger extent cpls profiles have an ever

increasing set of demands that

must be fullfilled before the word

hello will be typed from their

keyboard perhaps the mindless

hoard cant be bothered so come

straight out with it.

I really don't think so .would you go on a swinger site to get worshipped nope .more chance of getting abuse .not women's fault men out number woman on here so much .if your serious about want to meet you need to stand out from the rest .catch peoples eye .show you have read there profile makes a great start .it's all about effort. Not giving in easy .

"

Not giving in easy ? If u message people more than once u get blocked and called a pest lol , canny win lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever send one message introducing myself and asking if they would like to chat and wishing them well if I don't get a reply I don't message them again as I'm aware un like myself women have many many more messages to get through...I think there's two types of single men on the site ones that are just out to fuck anything they can and ones that genuinely want to meet people make friends and get into the lifestyle a bit long winded but it's not fair that some women tar us all with the same brush...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks

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By *regory-pecksMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks "

Well said, Missus!

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By *regory-pecksMan
over a year ago

Scotland

I remember the first message that I ever sent on here. As a totally naive newbie to FAB, I took ages composing a masterpiece and sent it off, only for the recipient to delete it without even reading it...I was devastated!

The male:female ratios on the site are so outrageously unbalanced that both camps are at opposite ends of extreme. A female friend on here showed me her inbox yesterday, with 308 new unread messages in less than 24hrs!

By way of contrast, I always take a day off work if I receive a message from a female on FAB...so far that's 2 days holiday in over a year

Each of the sexes could perhaps have a teeny-wee bit of understanding towards the travails of their opposite numbers?

It must be a NIGHTMARE as a female searching through mountains of messages looking for the gems amongst the multitude of "wanna shag" type messages that are received, so guys need to depersonalise slightly.

As a male it can be slightly demoralising to not even get a polite "no thanks" when you've obviously put in a fair degree of effort into a personal message, so your thoughtfulness in replying is truly appreciated by the "good" guys on here Girls!

I guess the hard part, as always, is where do you draw the line...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Past few days had

Want fucked

Can I have your used knickers

want a 9 inch cock.

Seriously .don't know what I look like no effort in chat .

NI effort do they expect replys ??

Any better ones than these ?"
sorry I'll stop sending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Past few days had

Want fucked

Can I have your used knickers

want a 9 inch cock.

Seriously .don't know what I look like no effort in chat .

NI effort do they expect replys ??

Any better ones than these ? sorry I'll stop sending "
funny,you've never said any of those things to me #feelleftout

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Since making it clear on my profile I have no intention of replying the messages I get have improved. Maybe they like a challenge?

They still get deleted though.

The site is what it is and it attracts all sorts. Good luck to everyone in whatever approach they use.

I've never really cared about the things others do and it makes things so much more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks "

Most? There are a minority who are not? The mind boggles...

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By *rmag3ddonMan
over a year ago

East lothian


"I only ever send one message introducing myself and asking if they would like to chat and wishing them well if I don't get a reply I don't message them again as I'm aware un like myself women have many many more messages to get through..."

I do this as well and tbh I'm at the point where i think randomly messaging someone on here with the hope to just even chat is a mugs game. It's much more fun and productive to go to clubs and socials for meeting and having fun.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks "
I have to agree I must be very lucky as 99% of my emails are polite and also complimentary.

The ones who aint polite but rude are simply deleted .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever send one message introducing myself and asking if they would like to chat and wishing them well if I don't get a reply I don't message them again as I'm aware un like myself women have many many more messages to get through...

I do this as well and tbh I'm at the point where i think randomly messaging someone on here with the hope to just even chat is a mugs game. It's much more fun and productive to go to clubs and socials for meeting and having fun."
I've found yapping on the forum helps as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks I have to agree I must be very lucky as 99% of my emails are polite and also complimentary.

The ones who aint polite but rude are simply deleted ."

Exactly. It's not a big deal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks I have to agree I must be very lucky as 99% of my emails are polite and also complimentary.

The ones who aint polite but rude are simply deleted .

Exactly. It's not a big deal!"
what about ones that are cheeky?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks I have to agree I must be very lucky as 99% of my emails are polite and also complimentary.

The ones who aint polite but rude are simply deleted .

Exactly. It's not a big deal!"
spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks I have to agree I must be very lucky as 99% of my emails are polite and also complimentary.

The ones who aint polite but rude are simply deleted .

Exactly. It's not a big deal!spot on "

Not wanting to hijack the thread, but happy birthday!!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Most of my messages are complimentary. Which is nice, and yes, good for my ego.

I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks I have to agree I must be very lucky as 99% of my emails are polite and also complimentary.

The ones who aint polite but rude are simply deleted .

Exactly. It's not a big deal!spot on

Not wanting to hijack the thread, but happy birthday!!!"
thank you sweetie xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever send one message introducing myself and asking if they would like to chat and wishing them well if I don't get a reply I don't message them again as I'm aware un like myself women have many many more messages to get through...

I do this as well and tbh I'm at the point where i think randomly messaging someone on here with the hope to just even chat is a mugs game. It's much more fun and productive to go to clubs and socials for meeting and having fun.I've found yapping on the forum helps as well"
Yeh I'm beginning ti think that ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to dominate your whole family was the weirdest message we have received x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm amazed at how basic some people are and how little they say. Know wonder some of them never get off the blocks.

Others are chatty and charming. It takes all types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to dominate your whole family was the weirdest message we have received x"

Bloody hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely get messaged first but the two shortest ones I've had were......

Face pic?......She was hot so I sent one but it scared her off! Lol

Fucky yeah?.....I just ignored that one as they didn't meet my criteria anyway.

So shit one line messages aren't restricted to single guys,but due to the numbers on here I guess a lot of females n couples don't have to put much effort into their messages as they will get meets regardless.

Just the way it is eh,so no point moaning about it.

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By *gowbhoy4funMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"I want to dominate your whole family was the weirdest message we have received x"

Very very VERY strange msg to send anyone !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy who thought it would be a treat to offer money for sex

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