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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you find attracts you to someone?

Up till the past few years looks.

Now its personality.someone who makes you laugh and feel comfortable

With. Plus if someone spends more time in the bathroom than you .isn't good

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By *uzzyDuck75Man
over a year ago

Glasgow & Yorkshire

For me it's looks to begin with and then personality, I mean, you don't know what their personality is like until you start getting to know them, so it's their looks that initially attracts me to someone.

No matter how good looking / sexy they are if they are arrogant or an arsehole, it's bye bye straight away.

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Surely the only real honest answer to this has to be both.

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By *latharerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow CC


"Surely the only real honest answer to this has to be both.

"

Perfect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's looks to begin with and then personality, I mean, you don't know what their personality is like until you start getting to know them, so it's their looks that initially attracts me to someone.

No matter how good looking / sexy they are if they are arrogant or an arsehole, it's bye bye straight away."

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality every time.

Looks may catch my eye but it's personality that sparks the excitement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely the only real honest answer to this has to be both.

Yip this would be perfect .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially I'd day looks. But after speekng to someone its the personality that catches my attention. Looks only get you so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I would have said looks

At my age it doesn't really score so high.

Yes I have to be physically attracted but it is when you sit down and speak and get a feel for who the person is that works more for me

So a bit of both

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I would say personality. There has been times where I've found someone attractive but after speaking to them for 5 minute's they become a lot less attractive and there's been times were after speaking to someone for 5 minutes they suddenly become attractive.

Xxxx

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

Both x

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By *ahreeMan
over a year ago

kilmarnock

It's looks that grabs your initial attention, but then that attention is lost if there's no personality.

You also get someone who you only find moderately attractive initially but if youse get along great because of their personality you start seeing them in a whole lot more positive light. To the point you find everything including their looks attractive.

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By *gowbhoy4funMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Looks initially ( or you probably wouldnt start speaking to them)... But personality plays a big part after that.

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By *oody2shoesWoman
over a year ago

dunbartonshire

At one point i would have said looks. But learned my lesson. Bombed someone out who messaged me as didnt find them attractive at all. eventually meet them a few months later and now been good friends for a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm I'd say both, but sway more to the personality side

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Personality first and foremost. Fell for my girlfriend before I'd seen a pic of her, and meeting provided the click to make it something more.

Lots of people on here don't have full pics, so personality is always in the spotlight on here.

Mandy

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Surely the only real honest answer to this has to be both.

"

This

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Seems to be a common question on the forums. I just done a search and it's been asked quite a few times over the years, which is suprising as surely the answer is obvious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are often the initial attraction, but if the looker is also a bitch/arsehole, then it's a no from me.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Both.

The best personality isn't a guarantee I'll fancy them. Likewise they could be stunning and a wet blanket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say personality first on here as it's already been pointed out you can be chatting to someone without having seen them.

I can be attracted to someone who isn't necessarily good looking but who oozes sex appeal. There does need to be an attraction though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seems to be a common question on the forums. I just done a search and it's been asked quite a few times over the years, which is suprising as surely the answer is obvious?"

If it was that obvious would I be asking.not everyone thinks the same ?

As you live abit you realise looks aren't everything.? Personality will always be more intresting. If you find someone who as both. Then super glue then to you.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Initially looks are what make you interested in someone enough to want to get to know them.

But personality is everything nothing worse than having a looker with zero personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think it has to be both but with personality being the dominant decider.

You have to like the "person"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think it has to be both but with personality being the dominant decider.

You have to like the "person""

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you find attracts you to someone?

Up till the past few years looks.

Now its personality.someone who makes you laugh and feel comfortable

With. Plus if someone spends more time in the bathroom than you .isn't good "

surely Looks or personality go hand in hand

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Personality most of all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab : LOOKS as we are only here for good sex with horny hot people and move on, let's face it who wants to risk 'real life' by shagging a ugly person who is unfit?

Real-life: PERSONALITY,why would you want to spend half your life with someone with no personality and that only looks good enough to sheg!?

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By *lawless doveWoman
over a year ago

bothwell

I can be physically attracted to a guy on looks alone however if he has no personality I would not go any further. For me personality is most important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to have both really ! Thats the honest answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, looks are important you need to be attracted to the other person, but if there's zero personality I quickly loose interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well obv the ugly folk will say personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both would b nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely personality. Iv been attracted to folk who were less than handsome. Looks are a bonus especially in an age where you can chat to someone online for ages and feel a connection before you even meet.

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By *lawless doveWoman
over a year ago

bothwell


"Well obv the ugly folk will say personality "

So I'm ugly if I say personality over looks. Yet you say both would be nice sorry I don't see you logic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what my logic is dont play dumb

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By *lawless doveWoman
over a year ago

bothwell


"You know what my logic is dont play dumb "

So your logic is if your ugly your going to pick personality

If your beautiful/handsome you'll pick looks.

Well you logic has been proven to have been wrong as borne out by the many beautiful/handsome people choosing personality over looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im genuine and honest and love a confident genuine girl who knows what she wants and you can usually guess this by messages and if they are stunning and sexy well ill put my lottery ticket on as well

lol

XxX peter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You still know what am saying, people just dont like the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There does have to be a bit of both... good looks on there own means nothing in the bedroom - personality and that mysterious spark is not all to do with looks

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By *ednesdayfeelinCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Looks for the initial spark, but any interaction requires personalities to click.

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By *uncity1Man
over a year ago

dundee

looks /appearance call it what you want ... will always come first as that is what sparks initial interest .

personality can only be assessed in person .

on here people have personas that are geared towards attracting attention.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"looks /appearance call it what you want ... will always come first as that is what sparks initial interest .

personality can only be assessed in person .

on here people have personas that are geared towards attracting attention.

"
absolutely spot on and not all for the right reasons either

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

It's a little from column A and a little from column B.

It depends on the the situation and what I am hoping acting on the attraction will lead to.

At first it's usually a person's looks that attracts me to them; and I think if we are honest that is the case for everyone, but it's their personality that makes you want to act on the initial attraction.

While with others the attraction comes once you get to know them and you find that their personality makes you want to be with them.

For me it is almost always the personality that is the deal breaker on whether or not I will have some fun with someone, as I find that most women are physically/looks attractive in their own way. So it's their personality which determines if I am to act on the initial attraction.

There is the exception to this in the situation where both of us know that it's going to be a one off just sex type encounter, in those instances personality doesn't matter as much. But those are very rare cases.

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By *uncity1Man
over a year ago

dundee


"looks /appearance call it what you want ... will always come first as that is what sparks initial interest .

personality can only be assessed in person .

on here people have personas that are geared towards attracting attention.

absolutely spot on and not all for the right reasons either "

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By *ad ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

My opinion for what it's worth. ...

She could be the most perfectly beautiful woman but if she has no personality I would walk away. I have met a few women over the years who don't consider themselves or others have not considered them to be "pretty" but on chatting to them or when getting to know them have an amazing personality that was cheeky or naughty or amazing. That was a bigger turn on for me than being gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't have to be handsome but there has to be a sparkle in their eyes and a good smile. Couple that with a good personality and I'm in heaven.

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By *ad ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"They don't have to be handsome but there has to be a sparkle in their eyes and a good smile. Couple that with a good personality and I'm in heaven.

"

well in the words of Meatloaf

2 out of 3 ain't bad. Lol.

But then some might say I have 3 out of 3.

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By *uncity1Man
over a year ago

dundee


"They don't have to be handsome but there has to be a sparkle in their eyes and a good smile. Couple that with a good personality and I'm in heaven.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you find attracts you to someone?

Up till the past few years looks.

Now its personality.someone who makes you laugh and feel comfortable

With. Plus if someone spends more time in the bathroom than you .isn't good "

this is a swinging site,,id imagine most if truthful go on looks,i mean its not a dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't have to be handsome but there has to be a sparkle in their eyes and a good smile. Couple that with a good personality and I'm in heaven.

"

Ach fun u are handsome with a sparkle and a smile. It's the personality that let's u down (hee hee hee hee)

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By *gowbhoy4funMan
over a year ago

glasgow

So whats the final answer then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So whats the final answer then "

The final answer is......

Whatever floats your boat

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By *ad ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"So whats the final answer then

The final answer is......

Whatever floats your boat "

I don't have a boat, just a car had it on a friend ferry last month though

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