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"I think that if you can verify someone as genuine then you should also be allowed to name and shame too. After a conversation last night with a young boy I said thanks but no thanks. He then messages today to say that he hopes I die cause I'm a fat smelly cow. I've reported and blocked but there should be a way to warn others of this vile creature. " That's shocking. Hope the admins do something about this. Sadly there are too much keyboard warriors on this site who write horrible messages but wishing someone to die is really horrendous You have a great figure and I'm sure a beautiful person. | |||
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"The thing is he's a friend of someone I have met before and it now has me thinking hmmmm maybe I don't want to see him again if that's the company he keeps... I've been here a looooooong time but I've never had someone wishes I died cause I rejected him. Awww thanks for saying so " That really does complicate things. Was in a similar situation a few months back. Guy I was seeing was also seeing another woman from here but she started giving me hassle. Told him but he didn't believe me. Just walked away as deserve to be treated better. Tell him what's happened that's my advice xx | |||
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"I think that if you can verify someone as genuine then you should also be allowed to name and shame too. After a conversation last night with a young boy I said thanks but no thanks. He then messages today to say that he hopes I die cause I'm a fat smelly cow. I've reported and blocked but there should be a way to warn others of this vile creature. " Just fabbed one of your pics right now if he sent that message then you simply click the "report" button and then the "ignore" button ofcourse you can discretely pass word to your friends of who the person is | |||
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"I think that if you can verify someone as genuine then you should also be allowed to name and shame too. After a conversation last night with a young boy I said thanks but no thanks. He then messages today to say that he hopes I die cause I'm a fat smelly cow. I've reported and blocked but there should be a way to warn others of this vile creature. " I could write a book about the nasty things said about me and to me . Hold your head high girl and don't give them a 2nd though the truth about them will come out in the end. And as others said just because your friends with someone they are friends with too should not reflect on them were all responsible for our own actions no one else's. Xx | |||
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"The guy is just an arsehole who you shouldn't pay any attention to, but to punish someone else because he knows that person isn't right either" Agree with this, he's a silly little boy who you shouldn't give time of day to. It's really not worth stressing about. Practically on a daily basis there's a thread on naming and shaming, use the forum search box to find them and you'll see why it's a bad idea. Plus we do have an unofficial name and shame - people here tell their friends to watch out for someone undesirable. | |||
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"Thing is that it isn't just one silly wee arse, there are far too many people who think it's ok to be abusive. We get told to block and report but there are always more and I'd like the site to deal with these people better as I really don't think anything gets done" Yes there are always more, just as there are in everyday life. You can choose whether or not to engage though. I really don't know what admin are expected to do about it - inter_iew every single person who creates a profile? | |||
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"Thing is that it isn't just one silly wee arse, there are far too many people who think it's ok to be abusive. We get told to block and report but there are always more and I'd like the site to deal with these people better as I really don't think anything gets done Yes there are always more, just as there are in everyday life. You can choose whether or not to engage though. I really don't know what admin are expected to do about it - inter_iew every single person who creates a profile? " Strangers don't randomly abuse me in the street! It's not the point of engaging as I do block and report but nothing appears to get done so these people keep on doing it. They need to clamp down on these people who think it's ok to abuse strangers | |||
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"Thing is that it isn't just one silly wee arse, there are far too many people who think it's ok to be abusive. We get told to block and report but there are always more and I'd like the site to deal with these people better as I really don't think anything gets done Yes there are always more, just as there are in everyday life. You can choose whether or not to engage though. I really don't know what admin are expected to do about it - inter_iew every single person who creates a profile? Strangers don't randomly abuse me in the street! It's not the point of engaging as I do block and report but nothing appears to get done so these people keep on doing it. They need to clamp down on these people who think it's ok to abuse strangers " And how do you suggest that? Genuine question. There are a lot of threads on various topics saying admin should do this and that, yet no suggestions on how to improve the situation. This is our site too, if anyone has some ideas that they think might actually work, then suggest them. | |||
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"No it doesn't stop them but at the moment they can hop about and be abusive to as many people as they like .. No deterrent Making up new profiles every other day will become boring Do you think it's acceptable and we should just accept nasty messages?" No, I don't. But I can't think of a cast iron way to stop them. All we can do is use the tools that are available to us until a better alternative appears | |||
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"I've only read the top message and I see women saying this all the time what is it with you men! Treat women with respect and talk to them how you would want someone to talk to you very disappointing to see someone harasse women it's a site to meet if the women isn't intrested take it on the chin and move on sorry for the a****** yous have to deal with they are just jealous a beautiful women with a very good body and personality isn't intrested " I can guarantee that the abusive idiots aren't even aware that there's a forum, never mind use it and read posts about how they should stop being twats lol | |||
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"Be so much easier if admin allowed screenshots to be included within you public pics even setting a time limit on how long they stay. This allows people who get abusive / threatening messages to post the evidence for others to see and make an informed decision " I have seen that actually, when looking through 'today's pics'. That's still breaking site rules though, and I wouldn't be inclined to meet either party involved if they did that. | |||
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"maybe they do a 3 strikes and you are out, that is once they have looked at both sides of any email exchange between parties. Just because someone reports something, doesn't mean it is actually factual in the context they state." I completely agree that both sides should be looked at. As well as abusive people there are also some spiteful people unfortunately | |||
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"Be so much easier if admin allowed screenshots to be included within you public pics even setting a time limit on how long they stay. This allows people who get abusive / threatening messages to post the evidence for others to see and make an informed decision I have seen that actually, when looking through 'today's pics'. That's still breaking site rules though, and I wouldn't be inclined to meet either party involved if they did that." I tried to do it once and pic was rejected. I was blocked from checking the guys profile but know he is still on here. I know there have been many forum posts about naming and shaming and I'm not totally in favour however there does need to be a better way in dealing with the threats, wishing people to die or get a horrendous medical condition. | |||
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"Be so much easier if admin allowed screenshots to be included within you public pics even setting a time limit on how long they stay. This allows people who get abusive / threatening messages to post the evidence for others to see and make an informed decision I have seen that actually, when looking through 'today's pics'. That's still breaking site rules though, and I wouldn't be inclined to meet either party involved if they did that. I tried to do it once and pic was rejected. I was blocked from checking the guys profile but know he is still on here. I know there have been many forum posts about naming and shaming and I'm not totally in favour however there does need to be a better way in dealing with the threats, wishing people to die or get a horrendous medical condition. " That kind of behaviour says more about them than it does about anyone else. I just block and don't give them a second thought. There's a guy on here who had a fake couple profile. He claimed to know where I work, I didn't recognise him. C was chatting to the couple profile, I told him it was fake. Then because he didn't answer a couple of messages my work address was posted in the status update, for about 45 mins. I reported both profiles, the couples one was deleted but the single male profile is still here and on our block list. I warned our friends, then got on with my day. I refuse to let an idiot like that bother me. | |||
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"maybe they do a 3 strikes and you are out, that is once they have looked at both sides of any email exchange between parties. Just because someone reports something, doesn't mean it is actually factual in the context they state." Total true | |||
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"The OP's horrible experience does make me wonder why anybody would make the leap of faith and allow for a trust to be built by way of messaging here. And the extent to which single men are, understandably, looked upon with suspicion." This is not sex specific some women and couples can dish out just as much as any single guy | |||
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"The OP's horrible experience does make me wonder why anybody would make the leap of faith and allow for a trust to be built by way of messaging here. And the extent to which single men are, understandably, looked upon with suspicion." I did think like that once.... then I observed the behaviours of woman, couples and guys over the years and I now think, 'no different, some of each just thrive on the drama of the site and what it offers, the attention it gives them and the opportunity to be a complete cock/fanny/one of each'.... | |||
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"The OP's horrible experience does make me wonder why anybody would make the leap of faith and allow for a trust to be built by way of messaging here. And the extent to which single men are, understandably, looked upon with suspicion. I did think like that once.... then I observed the behaviours of woman, couples and guys over the years and I now think, 'no different, some of each just thrive on the drama of the site and what it offers, the attention it gives them and the opportunity to be a complete cock/fanny/one of each'...." Well said Batman .. The Forum seems to be a dumping ground for negativies.Idiots thrive on drama .. There is a solition to abusive message ..USE THE BLOCK BUTTON .. Sorry ...but i just want to take this opertunity ..im horny as feck these days ..HELP ..lol | |||
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"The OP's horrible experience does make me wonder why anybody would make the leap of faith and allow for a trust to be built by way of messaging here. And the extent to which single men are, understandably, looked upon with suspicion.This is not sex specific some women and couples can dish out just as much as any single guy " | |||
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"Yes i got threatened the other day for not replying to a snide message from a 35 year old. Was told he will give me abuse to my face at cjs " Theres a young guy gives similar abuse ... He has another new profile this week | |||
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"Yes i got threatened the other day for not replying to a snide message from a 35 year old. Was told he will give me abuse to my face at cjs Theres a young guy gives similar abuse ... He has another new profile this week " Some other guy ages ago told me i was getting slapped in cjs.. just for not responding lol | |||
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"I think that if you can verify someone as genuine then you should also be allowed to name and shame too. After a conversation last night with a young boy I said thanks but no thanks. He then messages today to say that he hopes I die cause I'm a fat smelly cow. I've reported and blocked but there should be a way to warn others of this vile creature. " Get some right horrible bstrds in this world eh. My ex used to tell me to die all the time hope your chopper crashes on way back from work etc and that was someone who's supposed to love you. She was a cheat anyway...btch lol | |||
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"That's horrible I found you really good to talk to." What!,,, You were talking to her too? Thought it was just me | |||
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