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"Unsure about this. In a normal family it wouldn't be needed I don't think . But in a family in need ie if parents have drug or alcohol addicts then this type if thing could come in handy for the kids involved " This is spot on, but looking into the past and even recent times with the social works performances... It seems the middle class families are the ones with all the interference and the junkies are left to mistreat kids left right and centre. Schools are now wanting detailed reports from parents when kids are off for a day, yet no-ones hassling the parents of the youngsters who are kicking about at home everyday or out in the streets at 10pm etc..will the nominated person be any different? This is 100% true, when I split with my ex two years ago she got a call from the school head teacher expressing 'concern' that my daughter had told her teacher I chase her in the house, grab her and hold her down. Turns out her teacher completely ignored the fact that my daughter was talking about the weekend when we were playing hide and seek and play fight tickles with my daughter and my wee boy....I was not happy | |||
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"The whole NP scheme is flawed, as proven up north where on the of the designated NPs has been placed on the Sex Offenders register for offences against children. legally there is no opt out despite the claims of the FM, who avoids answering when asked directly. claims that parents can choose not to take the NP advice/ interference is incorrect. I for one have no confidence in the HT who is due to be my kids designated NP & as such my kids have been told to refuse to comply, be interviewed or answer invasive questions unless myself or my wife are present." I definitely need to do my homework! What a crazy and dangerous sounding practice. | |||
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"Unsure about this. In a normal family it wouldn't be needed I don't think . But in a family in need ie if parents have drug or alcohol addicts then this type if thing could come in handy for the kids involved " Problem is.... it's not just kids from families with "issues". It's every child.... | |||
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"Unsure about this. In a normal family it wouldn't be needed I don't think . But in a family in need ie if parents have drug or alcohol addicts then this type if thing could come in handy for the kids involved Problem is.... it's not just kids from families with "issues". It's every child.... " GIRFEC - getting it right for every child | |||
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"It does perhaps seem overkill but there have been quite a few occasions when children have fallen through the social net and ended up being abused or worse. It might help prevent these occasions although I don't really see how people like head teachers can take this on as yet another role." I believe some schools will have a teacher dedicated to GIRFEC | |||
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"My understanding of it (limited I grant you) is that it's main purpose is to track a child through the course of his/her education to see that they don't fall out of the system. Having worked in education for almost 20 years I can't believe that it is in an H/T's remit to do much more.To me it seems another unnecessary burdon on the education service which in my belief will achieve very little. Other agencies are much better placed. But I need to learn more... " I agree on this too, whilst I genuinely feel it's disgustingly unfair on parents to have their parental power and decision making for what is best for their child taken away and placed into the lap of an outsider I think it's also a bit of a piss take for teachers who are already underpaid and over worked. There is already enough pressure on teachers in our schools without giving them the added responsibility of huge decision making within a child's life. I also think that the FM may not be fully clued up in the ins and outs of it too as she does avoid all questions regarding the NP. There's currently a phone in interview with Kay Adams speaking to a MP from the SNP regarding the nominated persons act doing the rounds on social media and YouTube. It's a very revealing few minutes worth a listen | |||
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"I think your maybe going off the deep end a little there buddy. For me it's the only thing they have came up with that I don't particularly like. Going off topic for a moment, I think people who are currently wanting to vote the tories or labour and even the flag in the wind which follows whoever blows the most wind Liberal Dems, must be insane. All three of these parties are currently moaning and basing their Scottish election campaigns around the SNPs lack of use for the very new powers we now have....powers Scotland has that none of those three parties even wanted. There it is in an idiot proof nutshell. Back to the nominated person, it's not right. It will not target the few who are living in poverty or have shit parents, it will only interfere with your average household going through the testing times. Those are currently the only families who have faced fines and court for kids missing school, we never see a junkie being hit with a court order for their bastard ned teenager not attending home economics class..." Don't you think you are being a bit harsh & judgemental? Some 'junkies' as you put it make very good parents. Parents from middle class families are just as capable of neglecting their children & are able to carry on working despite being functioning alcoholics or have a drug addiction. Domestic abuse can occur in any family environment regardless of social class & as a result none our children should not experience this. | |||
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"I think your maybe going off the deep end a little there buddy. For me it's the only thing they have came up with that I don't particularly like. Going off topic for a moment, I think people who are currently wanting to vote the tories or labour and even the flag in the wind which follows whoever blows the most wind Liberal Dems, must be insane. All three of these parties are currently moaning and basing their Scottish election campaigns around the SNPs lack of use for the very new powers we now have....powers Scotland has that none of those three parties even wanted. There it is in an idiot proof nutshell. Back to the nominated person, it's not right. It will not target the few who are living in poverty or have shit parents, it will only interfere with your average household going through the testing times. Those are currently the only families who have faced fines and court for kids missing school, we never see a junkie being hit with a court order for their bastard ned teenager not attending home economics class... Don't you think you are being a bit harsh & judgemental? Some 'junkies' as you put it make very good parents. Parents from middle class families are just as capable of neglecting their children & are able to carry on working despite being functioning alcoholics or have a drug addiction. Domestic abuse can occur in any family environment regardless of social class & as a result none our children should not experience this." No, I don't think I'm being judgemental in the slightest, to be fair I think my post is pretty factual. Some 'junkies' may make fantastic parents in your eyes but the fact that's there's a huge possibility of having drugs around children is a massive massive problem to me. Il avoid any forum argument that I can't be arsed with by saying its a matter of personal opinion...which ofcourse isn't a lie | |||
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"I haven't seen this topic on here or discussed on social media yet. What's your thoughts on the SNPs Nominated Person, the plan to give a huge responsibility of your child's life to a head teach at a school etc. With decision making power in every aspect of the family life surrounding the child being basically removed from parents and placed into a strangers hands I really don't like it. Maybe I don't know enough of it... Thoughts friends?" This is so far from the truth it's unbelievable. How you describe it is nothing how it works at all. Pure and utter scare mungering at it's worst! It takes away none of the rights or responsibilities of a parent! FACT! If you actually read it properly and seen how it was being actioned, you would be in full support of it. Kids fall through the net every day, this will help stop that in a big way. It will also help parents who are concerned about their own child development. It will make it easier for members of the public to report their concerns too. one person to get all the concerns, seeing the bigger picture. Rather than lots of different professional getting we bits of info and never connecting the dots to get the bigger picture. Again, this takes away non of the rights or responsibilities of the parents. What it actually is about is taking the pressure off social work, so they can concentrate on the most serious cases. Education and Health are being ask to do their do and take responsibility, after years of avoiding it and using social work as a dumping ground. Remember it's everyone's job to make sure children are alright. We need to get it right for every child. This is a good thing, if you only stop and know what your talking about. This has been over 10 years in the making. | |||
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"I haven't seen this topic on here or discussed on social media yet. What's your thoughts on the SNPs Nominated Person, the plan to give a huge responsibility of your child's life to a head teach at a school etc. With decision making power in every aspect of the family life surrounding the child being basically removed from parents and placed into a strangers hands I really don't like it. Maybe I don't know enough of it... Thoughts friends? This is so far from the truth it's unbelievable. How you describe it is nothing how it works at all. Pure and utter scare mungering at it's worst! It takes away none of the rights or responsibilities of a parent! FACT! If you actually read it properly and seen how it was being actioned, you would be in full support of it. Kids fall through the net every day, this will help stop that in a big way. It will also help parents who are concerned about their own child development. It will make it easier for members of the public to report their concerns too. one person to get all the concerns, seeing the bigger picture. Rather than lots of different professional getting we bits of info and never connecting the dots to get the bigger picture. Again, this takes away non of the rights or responsibilities of the parents. What it actually is about is taking the pressure off social work, so they can concentrate on the most serious cases. Education and Health are being ask to do their do and take responsibility, after years of avoiding it and using social work as a dumping ground. Remember it's everyone's job to make sure children are alright. We need to get it right for every child. This is a good thing, if you only stop and know what your talking about. This has been over 10 years in the making. " You have had a right hard go at me with this post which I think a little heavy handed however I would urge you to go and listen to some SNP interviews in the subject and read a bit more about it before coming the twat at me unprovoked. Opinion is one thing but being a dick is another. I am an SNP supporter and after growing up in care in all for positive changes but the nominated person and the ins & outs of it are wide open to interpretation, this is because each and every interview and statement released by the party all contradict each other. If prefer it if you dropped the unprovoked attitude with me tbh, it's just a fucking forum thread, simmer and chill out, it's nearly the weekend | |||
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""Again, this takes away non of the rights or responsibilities of the parents. What it actually is about is taking the pressure off social work, so they can concentrate on the most serious cases. Education and Health are being ask to do their do and take responsibility, after years of avoiding it and using social work as a dumping ground." I have no idea how you can accuse Education of avoiding responsibility when firm and fast guidelines are in place to flag up the smallest concern. I take great exception, having adhered to care and welfare policies many times with successful outcomes. It's about better communication between agencies rather than including families who are not in any need to an already bulging register. My grandson has no need of an NP. He has two very vocal grannies!!! " | |||
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"Given that I am likely to end up as one of these responsible people I'm not to keen on it :/ " I'd like to think those being given the position would be getting full support with it, training etc and a bloody wage bump. It's a lot of responsibility and with the general public opinion on it, the first mistake made will be all over the papers. | |||
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"Given that I am likely to end up as one of these responsible people I'm not to keen on it :/ I'd like to think those being given the position would be getting full support with it, training etc and a bloody wage bump. It's a lot of responsibility and with the general public opinion on it, the first mistake made will be all over the papers." You'd like to think so, but don't bet on it! | |||
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"Clearly you have no idea, as this doesn't add any kids what so ever to why register! Your next point, this is exactly what the named person does. faciliates better communication and joint working between the agencies. By having a single point of contact using the my world triangle. It's really a simple concept that 99.9% of the population won't see any difference what-so-ever. As parents, family, friends and universal services more than meet kids needs allow them to thrive. The only inpact will be for the children failing to thrive, for whatever reason. This will stop kids falling through the net. If it saves one child's life then it's a good thing! " So itl be just me on the thread with no idea simply because my opinion is different to yours...but just me, no-one else who hasn't agreed with you.. Aye ok | |||
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"I think I'm the one who "has no idea" so I'll just pop off in my ignorance and leave the experts to it. " But you don't have any idea...neither do I....maybe they don't. Who really knows, the joys of independent thought The ideal idea is to probably just leave the thread be, when posts turn arsey it's best to go vote at who we would kiss or avoid | |||
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"I just hope all those who find themselves taking up this role are suited to it and are fair minded individuals with the child's welfare at the forefront of their actions and not just those happy to "wield the big stick". " Iv got a big stick.....ok,Iv got an average stick... | |||
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"I just hope all those who find themselves taking up this role are suited to it and are fair minded individuals with the child's welfare at the forefront of their actions and not just those happy to "wield the big stick". Iv got a big stick.....ok,Iv got an average stick... " Stay behind after class please!!! | |||
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"I just hope all those who find themselves taking up this role are suited to it and are fair minded individuals with the child's welfare at the forefront of their actions and not just those happy to "wield the big stick". " Totally agree with this as my kids primary HT was a total bully to 2 of my kids who disiplined them for the minor of things and singled them out. Got so bad I made a formal complaint to education dep who upheld my complaint. One of kids regularly visit pastoral care at high school now feeling undervalued as a consequence of this persons actions and this person could end up a NP aye right. | |||
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"health, social work and education have a duty to be open and honest. To work in partnership with parents and or gardians. So the example I gave, maybe a phone call home from the head or the teacher to discuss with the family. Outcome of this maybe no further action required. You refer to decent folk, well the reality of this is. If your child's needs are being met. Which the majority are, then you will never come contact with this. Information will not be shared (because there is no need for it). You really have nothing to worry about it. As states earlier. Major of kids needs are met. Then the opposite end of spectrum is not fine. But everyone works together as risks so high. Where the gap hits and kids fall through the net is the boarder line cases, where information is not shared effectively and things are missed. Now this does move some burden / responsibility away from social work to health / education. However, it is every easily argued that this is where the burden should have been in the first place as they are in the best position to assess and intervene where required. A lot of professional who are actively practices in this area are happy about this and see it as a good thing. There are others, who like everywhere, hate change etc. but from personal experience practitioners are on the most part positive about this. Now for every lay person who doesn't approve of this. Rather than just moan about it and say it's not right. Come up with a realist alternative to protect those boardline kids who fall though the net, that works. As when a kids falls through the net, it hit the papers like the Sun, who vilify social works, health and education for not saving the kids life. As this is what the professionals are asking for to fix it. " so many ifs ands or buts the simple thing for me is I wouldnt want people interfering in the raising of my children as I see fit not how the nanny state decides it will happen. Its a long way from big brother but it is the beggining imo. Believe me I hear about girfec all the time and the new scheme causes nothing but division.as ive said above at its inception its a noble idea but once you look at the manner they propose with phrases like once the np has facts from all agencys they will sit the parents down and give proposals on what way they will move forward.......sorry that to me is overstepping parental boundries.because you view this as good doesnt mean all do. Every system has flaws and for me this one has many and also the ability for abuse of power | |||
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"Sorry am confused about your point as... Per nominated person you fail to meet the min parenting standard someone will sit down and tell you what needs to happen. Post nominated person, samething happens. Pre nominates person you meet the min parenting standard then no one interferes. Post nominated person, samething happens. the above is the short abrupt version of what actually happens. So am not show who nominated person or not im relates to your statement about overstepping the mark? Again, this removes none of your responsibilities as a parent nor your rights. It's removes none of the safeguards, complaints, appeals or challenges to decisions. All professionals have governing bodies and fitness to practice standards etc. " sorry but with the new system a np can take action as ive said at points its almost guardianship powers this is what I dont agree with. The line parents and a np will sit down and move forward with whats best for the child. sorry I dont think an np has any right or need to meddle in family matters and im sure a fair proportion dont agree with this being placed on them. I believe this proposal has the possibility to cause even more harm than what there is at present. You believe this is a good move along with many others......but myself and many others believe its wrong. But who cares about the populaces thoughts as has been seen on this limited thread not too many of the scottish forum users like the np proposal | |||
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