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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Posting Clause-Please Beware

This will probably piss some ppl off, however this is simply an observation ive seen and would like to share to get others opinions. Read plainly without emotion, the intent is not to offed!

Im seeing more and more profiles (fems cause I dont search guys, but im not being sexiest) with people playing away without partners consent.

Seriously what is going on these days? Has communication between couples to broke down so much that there is no honesty in a relationship? Are people so fearful to share that the relationship is changing and effort is needed to work on it to improve it before it gets too late?

And last but not least if you are not happy in a relationship with your needs and desires not being met, why dont you leave?

The lack of communication, honesty and integrity is astounding!

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By *cottybhoyMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Yawn ..............

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Im sure we are about to read "you dont know everyones circumstances" along with "dont judge until you have walked in the persons shoes" for me its simple its placing their own wants above everything else regardless of the promise they made to their life partner.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

You love a post that's 1 a day so far..........

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Quite simply I don't give a fuck what anyone else does, and it's the fact too many get involved in opinions oh what others do that creates friction , animosity and drama .... Live n let live and get on with the scene.

The end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Posting Clause-Please Beware

This will probably piss some ppl off, however this is simply an observation ive seen and would like to share to get others opinions. Read plainly without emotion, the intent is not to offed!

Im seeing more and more profiles (fems cause I dont search guys, but im not being sexiest) with people playing away without partners consent.

Seriously what is going on these days? Has communication between couples to broke down so much that there is no honesty in a relationship? Are people so fearful to share that the relationship is changing and effort is needed to work on it to improve it before it gets too late?

And last but not least if you are not happy in a relationship with your needs and desires not being met, why dont you leave?

The lack of communication, honesty and integrity is astounding!

"

This

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Quite simply I don't give a fuck what anyone else does, and it's the fact too many get involved in opinions oh what others do that creates friction , animosity and drama .... Live n let live and get on with the scene.

The end "

K x

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Cheating isn't a new thing ,it's always happened . Probably seems more prevalent though with specific sites like this where they can look for NSA . Before it may of been the flirting one to one at work ,so low key .

Do people work less at relationships now ... some yes some no . Could couples communicate more ..probably .

The cheats will cheat no matter . Only thing you can control is if you meet them or not ,why stress over anything else .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite simply I don't give a fuck what anyone else does, and it's the fact too many get involved in opinions oh what others do that creates friction , animosity and drama .... Live n let live and get on with the scene.

The end "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating isn't a new thing ,it's always happened . Probably seems more prevalent though with specific sites like this where they can look for NSA . Before it may of been the flirting one to one at work ,so low key .

Do people work less at relationships now ... some yes some no . Could couples communicate more ..probably .

The cheats will cheat no matter . Only thing you can control is if you meet them or not ,why stress over anything else . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This Post doesn't piss me off in any way at all ..im just feckin tired in reading the same script over n over again.

I could send you a list of the elusive Married Couples on here that are cheating.

Its worth focusing on what you are doing ...Let others do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Posting Clause-Please Beware

This will probably piss some ppl off, however this is simply an observation ive seen and would like to share to get others opinions. Read plainly without emotion, the intent is not to offed!

Im seeing more and more profiles (fems cause I dont search guys, but im not being sexiest) with people playing away without partners consent.

Seriously what is going on these days? Has communication between couples to broke down so much that there is no honesty in a relationship? Are people so fearful to share that the relationship is changing and effort is needed to work on it to improve it before it gets too late?

And last but not least if you are not happy in a relationship with your needs and desires not being met, why dont you leave?

The lack of communication, honesty and integrity is astounding!

"

Keeps Private Investigators in a job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one of those women that you are talking about and the reasons I'm here are complicated but ultimately my business.

I state I'm here without my partner's knowledge so people can decide if they want to to chat/meet or not. You don't have to talk to me or meet me so why does it affect you in any way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This Post doesn't piss me off in any way at all ..im just feckin tired in reading the same script over n over again.

I could send you a list of the elusive Married Couples on here that are cheating.

Its worth focusing on what you are doing ...Let others do the same.

"

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I'm one of those women that you are talking about and the reasons I'm here are complicated but ultimately my business.

I state I'm here without my partner's knowledge so people can decide if they want to to chat/meet or not. You don't have to talk to me or meet me so why does it affect you in any way?"

Well said

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this another moral high ground thread to advertise that your a really nice guy to couples and fems?

Fiver says that if a female, that had on her profile that she was playing away from home, emailed you for a meet, you'd be more eager than Homer Simpson at a duff beer festival...

(And yes, I deleted the first attempt due to spelling mistakes )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite simply I don't give a fuck what anyone else does, and it's the fact too many get involved in opinions oh what others do that creates friction , animosity and drama .... Live n let live and get on with the scene.

The end "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm one of those women that you are talking about and the reasons I'm here are complicated but ultimately my business.

I state I'm here without my partner's knowledge so people can decide if they want to to chat/meet or not. You don't have to talk to me or meet me so why does it affect you in any way?"

This'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't have to talk to me or meet me so why does it affect you in any way?"

Some folks just get off on being judgemental. It makes them feel better about their being on a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a website that has many of societies normal etiquette stripped away... for most of society a married couple on here together is not acceptable... If you are here... try to meet like minded folk, be discreet and mind your owm business as to why others are here. If you don't like why ANYONE is here, whether it's sexual orientation or relationship status you really don't have to have any contact with them plus as others have said you don't know the circumstances and why should you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is a website that has many of societies normal etiquette stripped away... for most of society a married couple on here together is not acceptable... If you are here... try to meet like minded folk, be discreet and mind your owm business as to why others are here. If you don't like why ANYONE is here, whether it's sexual orientation or relationship status you really don't have to have any contact with them plus as others have said you don't know the circumstances and why should you.

"

^ This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is a website that has many of societies normal etiquette stripped away... for most of society a married couple on here together is not acceptable... If you are here... try to meet like minded folk, be discreet and mind your owm business as to why others are here. If you don't like why ANYONE is here, whether it's sexual orientation or relationship status you really don't have to have any contact with them plus as others have said you don't know the circumstances and why should you.

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Amen

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"Fab is a website that has many of societies normal etiquette stripped away... for most of society a married couple on here together is not acceptable... If you are here... try to meet like minded folk, be discreet and mind your owm business as to why others are here. If you don't like why ANYONE is here, whether it's sexual orientation or relationship status you really don't have to have any contact with them plus as others have said you don't know the circumstances and why should you.

"

Hallelujah sister

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By *ad ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I'm one of those women that you are talking about and the reasons I'm here are complicated but ultimately my business.

I state I'm here without my partner's knowledge so people can decide if they want to to chat/meet or not. You don't have to talk to me or meet me so why does it affect you in any way?"

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By *ad ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Cheating isn't a new thing ,it's always happened . Probably seems more prevalent though with specific sites like this where they can look for NSA . Before it may of been the flirting one to one at work ,so low key .

Do people work less at relationships now ... some yes some no . Could couples communicate more ..probably .

The cheats will cheat no matter . Only thing you can control is if you meet them or not ,why stress over anything else . "

Well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks to those above lol but btw OP, I didn't mean any of that to be offensive either... you have the right to post anything you want and are genuinely interested in an opinion... that was just mine.

Red xXx

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Why let what others do get to you worry bout yourself and what you do ..you'll enjoy your time here more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't get involved with someone who was playing away without the other half knowing, there's enough pain and hurt in this world as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this another moral high ground thread to advertise that your a really nice guy to couples and fems?

Fiver says that if a female, that had on her profile that she was playing away from home, emailed you for a meet, you'd be more eager than Homer Simpson at a duff beer festival...

(And yes, I deleted the first attempt due to spelling mistakes )"

damn, that's what I was going to write

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


"Fab is a website that has many of societies normal etiquette stripped away... for most of society a married couple on here together is not acceptable... If you are here... try to meet like minded folk, be discreet and mind your owm business as to why others are here. If you don't like why ANYONE is here, whether it's sexual orientation or relationship status you really don't have to have any contact with them plus as others have said you don't know the circumstances and why should you. "

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By *eahWoman
over a year ago

full of numpties

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol

This was an observation i wanted to share and also wanted to bring up for discussions or opinions.

I dont personally meet fems who are attached and playing away without consent.

Im actually surprised at how the topic isnt discussed but that I am being criticised for sharing an observation in a non aggressive or emotional way.

Fab is truly an interesting site to observe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol

This was an observation i wanted to share and also wanted to bring up for discussions or opinions.

I dont personally meet fems who are attached and playing away without consent.

Im actually surprised at how the topic isnt discussed but that I am being criticised for sharing an observation in a non aggressive or emotional way.

Fab is truly an interesting site to observe"

I think the written word often comes across harsher than it sounds, especially when expressing strong opinions. Like others here I am not offended, aggressive or emotional about it nor is this a new subject. You asked for opinions and you got them lol (the wee lol shows I'm not annoyed )

Red xXx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha. Indeed I did :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha. Indeed I did :p"

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By *p4funduoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Hmmm no comment for fear of being dammed by judgment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm no comment for fear of being dammed by judgment "

Never fear that... we are all entitled to our opinions and it's also how we broaden our minds and learn new concepts so gofurrrrrrrrrrrrit - DARE YA

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

Nothing to get emotional about and everyone has a right to their own preferences. Always better if people are honest about whether they are playing away without consent because that really might not be everyones cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing to get emotional about and everyone has a right to their own preferences. Always better if people are honest about whether they are playing away without consent because that really might not be everyones cup of tea. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks to those above lol but btw OP, I didn't mean any of that to be offensive either... you have the right to post anything you want and are genuinely interested in an opinion... that was just mine.

Red xXx"

Classy lady who has an opinion but allows others to have theres too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this another moral high ground thread to advertise that your a really nice guy to couples and fems?

Fiver says that if a female, that had on her profile that she was playing away from home, emailed you for a meet, you'd be more eager than Homer Simpson at a duff beer festival...

(And yes, I deleted the first attempt due to spelling mistakes )

damn, that's what I was going to write "

this made me smile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing to get emotional about and everyone has a right to their own preferences. Always better if people are honest about whether they are playing away without consent because that really might not be everyones cup of tea. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh wise red xx

Floats and Boats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing to get emotional about and everyone has a right to their own preferences. Always better if people are honest about whether they are playing away without consent because that really might not be everyones cup of tea.

Agreed "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh wise red xx

Floats and Boats "

Thanking you lovely lady xXx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks to those above lol but btw OP, I didn't mean any of that to be offensive either... you have the right to post anything you want and are genuinely interested in an opinion... that was just mine.

Red xXx

Classy lady who has an opinion but allows others to have theres too. X"

Thank you kind sir... one can never learn without trying to see both sides of a situation. xXx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why judge anyone its their body,life,and choice simples?

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Why judge anyone its their body,life,and choice simples?"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Just leave others to do as they wish, it really is that simple.

and the marrieds cheating, just get on with it..... no body needs to hear about it.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

nobody*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why judge anyone its their body,life,and choice simples?


"Just leave others to do as they wish, it really is that simple.

and the marrieds cheating, just get on with it..... no body needs to hear about it."

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Just leave others to do as they wish, it really is that simple.

and the marrieds cheating, just get on with it..... no body needs to hear about it."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Most, if not all, of you missed the point of the post which was to do with communication and brining up the discussion of why its broken down so much...

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

tHe internet makes it easy to meet people, it also makes things more public.....society changes, attitudes change its all the circle of life.

But In full honesty it makes no difference to me who does what and why....it doesn't effect my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most, if not all, of you missed the point of the post which was to do with communication and brining up the discussion of why its broken down so much..."

Your point was not missed sorry if it seemed that way... yes of course communication is the answer... if only it was that easy... what if no matter how you try it does not work... what if you have other things you value above your personal happiness like children... I am not making excuses for people but then again if only problems were as easily solved in reality as they are in theory... for one I really try not to live in a glass house... we all judge... we all find others problems easier to sort... It's an age old debate... but a fascinating one.

Red xXx

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By *e gentle 100Woman
over a year ago

Bathgate

Marriage or long term relationships and cheating, my opinion as follows, it all starts out as a bed of roses with everything perfect and nothing can go wrong, BANG, it does go wrong if u don't communicate with one another as that is one of the most important Things about any relationship communication, love, trust and respect for each other, we all get on with everyday things and slowly things start to lack in a relationship and before u know it we start to lessen the communication bit by bit and this causes problems as then sometimes it causes loved ones becoming distant and makes some feel like they are no longer loved in a way they were loved in the beginning of the relationship, if the relationship is strong enough and u communicate more then people shouldn't need to go off and cheat but cheating does happen and what goes on behind closed doors u'll never know and everyone has their reasons for cheating no matter if those reasons are good or bad, if people are open and honest about being married and want to meet then it's ur choice to make and not anyone else's choice if u want to meet someone who is married, hope all that makes some sense xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Marriage or long term relationships and cheating, my opinion as follows, it all starts out as a bed of roses with everything perfect and nothing can go wrong, BANG, it does go wrong if u don't communicate with one another as that is one of the most important Things about any relationship communication, love, trust and respect for each other, we all get on with everyday things and slowly things start to lack in a relationship and before u know it we start to lessen the communication bit by bit and this causes problems as then sometimes it causes loved ones becoming distant and makes some feel like they are no longer loved in a way they were loved in the beginning of the relationship, if the relationship is strong enough and u communicate more then people shouldn't need to go off and cheat but cheating does happen and what goes on behind closed doors u'll never know and everyone has their reasons for cheating no matter if those reasons are good or bad, if people are open and honest about being married and want to meet then it's ur choice to make and not anyone else's choice if u want to meet someone who is married, hope all that makes some sense xx"

Perfect sense

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By *e gentle 100Woman
over a year ago

Bathgate


"Marriage or long term relationships and cheating, my opinion as follows, it all starts out as a bed of roses with everything perfect and nothing can go wrong, BANG, it does go wrong if u don't communicate with one another as that is one of the most important Things about any relationship communication, love, trust and respect for each other, we all get on with everyday things and slowly things start to lack in a relationship and before u know it we start to lessen the communication bit by bit and this causes problems as then sometimes it causes loved ones becoming distant and makes some feel like they are no longer loved in a way they were loved in the beginning of the relationship, if the relationship is strong enough and u communicate more then people shouldn't need to go off and cheat but cheating does happen and what goes on behind closed doors u'll never know and everyone has their reasons for cheating no matter if those reasons are good or bad, if people are open and honest about being married and want to meet then it's ur choice to make and not anyone else's choice if u want to meet someone who is married, hope all that makes some sense xx

Perfect sense "

Thank u xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheaters, regardless of their reasons, can do as they wish as long as they don't involve me in any way. I indicate I'm not interested in married/attached fabbers and I never approach a profile which suggests the fabber might be attached. Yet I still get messages, 'I'm married but I'll make it worth your while' Seriously?! Their openness and honesty with me is so very misplaced and shows very little respect for my choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters, regardless of their reasons, can do as they wish as long as they don't involve me in any way. I indicate I'm not interested in married/attached fabbers and I never approach a profile which suggests the fabber might be attached. Yet I still get messages, 'I'm married but I'll make it worth your while' Seriously?! Their openness and honesty with me is so very misplaced and shows very little respect for my choices.

"

Agreed but that kind of disrespect is not limited to "cheaters"... that is a general disrespect of not reading your profile... but it does disrespect your profile choices xXx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what if no matter how you try it does not work...

"

Then surely both people would go their own way to live a fuller happier life, instead of one of stress and unhappiness by staying together.

I very much understand and respect that people change and some change more than others. But surely this is something to respect, respect yourself enough to move on, to find a new path and continuing living instead of feeling bound or chained by an obligation or fear...

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Everyone is different. Everyone makes there own choices.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"what if no matter how you try it does not work...

Then surely both people would go their own way to live a fuller happier life, instead of one of stress and unhappiness by staying together.

I very much understand and respect that people change and some change more than others. But surely this is something to respect, respect yourself enough to move on, to find a new path and continuing living instead of feeling bound or chained by an obligation or fear..."

Sometimes it's just not that easy or clear cut. That's why I don't judge people on here. They all have their reasons

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By *oznrayCouple
over a year ago

helensburgh

As said earlier everyone has their own reasons, and the walk in their shoes yada yada yada, even when there is love trust and communication some times it will happen, just a little senario for you, couple have been on the site since year dot, flown solo on occasions with full knowledge of each other, infact get off on the chats about it at later stage, then one falls into serious depression they fall off the site to help one bolster the other, but as is with said illness it's not a quick fix, we all have needs, but there is no need to rub it into someone's face that is unwell, it can be talked about at a later time, when the illness has lessened and the person can take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm one of those women that you are talking about and the reasons I'm here are complicated but ultimately my business.

I state I'm here without my partner's knowledge so people can decide if they want to to chat/meet or not. You don't have to talk to me or meet me so why does it affect you in any way?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite simply I don't give a fuck what anyone else does, and it's the fact too many get involved in opinions oh what others do that creates friction , animosity and drama .... Live n let live and get on with the scene.

The end "

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