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By *r fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Guys

What is the best method for sending a first message. A polite hello with a face photo attached or a longer message with naughty photos

I try give what's asked for in profiles but notice the vast majority don't even get opened anyway

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

For me it's a little message telling me a bit about themselves and what they are looking for, plus a face pic.

If the message is clearly a one liner, I look at the profile and see if there's anything to interest me. 99% of the time there's not so I delete without reading. Had one this morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pity we couldn't chat I did message you but you blocked me don't know why

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By *quirtiliscious1Woman
over a year ago

Dundee

Read profiles before messaging would be my suggestion.The amount of mails received by myself suggesting meets when it clearly says am not meeting unless bi-fems or couples is unbelievable.

Squirts

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"For me it's a little message telling me a bit about themselves and what they are looking for, plus a face pic.

If the message is clearly a one liner, I look at the profile and see if there's anything to interest me. 99% of the time there's not so I delete without reading. Had one this morning."

Exactly this ^^^^ xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as there's a face pic in the message it doesn't bother me what you write, if I'm not attracted it gets deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely make the first contact. Stick to the forums and if people like your chat they'l contact you.

With the amount of messages fems and couples get on here, good and bad, I think it's the best way to do it. Good things come to those who don't pester and send constant cut and paste messages with cock pics...or is it to those who wait? Either does..

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By *akeheelsTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburghish

im a big fan of the "free now for fuck?" from straight guys at 3am, followed by account deletion the next day....

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Definitely read profiles first.

And just be yourself when writing.

OK you want to make a good first impression but how many of us like cheesy salesperson talk.

And remember a picture paints a thousand words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with above posters.

Another bit of advice would be not to "copy & paste" as it can usually be spotted a mile off.

R

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By *r fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Good points manners cost nothing may try chatting in the forums more trying to get to know people that way

Cheers guys

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By *r fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Good points manners cost nothing may try chatting in the forums more trying to get to know people that way

Cheers guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as there's a face pic in the message it doesn't bother me what you write, if I'm not attracted it gets deleted "

And this type of reply is fairly common. Some singe ladies have their head up their own arse and wouldn't get a guy in a club but on here they can fight them off with a shitey stick.

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By *timulatingFunMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've stopped sending the first message on here. The females and couples get loads of messages, so even if you catch their attention with your first message, and they message you back there's a good chance they might miss your replies. If they message you first it means they are interested and will remember you when searching through their 500 messages to see if you've replyed to them. (Most of the time)

Since doing this the number of people I chat on here has dropped but the people I do chat to on here always reply to my messages, and the quality of my meets have been amazing. I have yet to have a no show since doing this.

Though I think you have to have a well written profile and good pics for this to work.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I've stopped sending the first message on here. The females and couples get loads of messages, so even if you catch their attention with your first message, and they message you back there's a good chance they might miss your replies. If they message you first it means they are interested and will remember you when searching through their 500 messages to see if you've replyed to them. (Most of the time)

Since doing this the number of people I chat on here has dropped but the people I do chat to on here always reply to my messages, and the quality of my meets have been amazing. I have yet to have a no show since doing this.

Though I think you have to have a well written profile and good pics for this to work. "

Yep, this guy has the right idea. And based on his profile and pics, I'd definitely chat with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've stopped sending the first message on here. The females and couples get loads of messages, so even if you catch their attention with your first message, and they message you back there's a good chance they might miss your replies. If they message you first it means they are interested and will remember you when searching through their 500 messages to see if you've replyed to them. (Most of the time)

Since doing this the number of people I chat on here has dropped but the people I do chat to on here always reply to my messages, and the quality of my meets have been amazing. I have yet to have a no show since doing this.

Though I think you have to have a well written profile and good pics for this to work.

Yep, this guy has the right idea. And based on his profile and pics, I'd definitely chat with him. "

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Get a parrot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as there's a face pic in the message it doesn't bother me what you write, if I'm not attracted it gets deleted "

I tried to msg you last week, it didn't even get opened it seems..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree face pic is main thing for me. Messages that say hi how are you? With a cock pic just get deleted. They are just a waste of time those kind of messages, the amount of back and forth messaging you have to do and then I'm not attracted to person so wastes both peoples time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send message

I just put on my profile title that I am 'AVAILABLE NOW' and then all the females message me and I decide who to pick

See, it's so easy

1 hour later, I wake up, damg its all a dream.

loll

I never send a cock pic even if the profile askes for it, nor nothing sexual on it. I usually send a message to welcome people or if someone has a point or comment on their profile I might send message to comment on it, (nicely)

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By *ollarLeadRestrainMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I've stopped sending the first message on here. The females and couples get loads of messages, so even if you catch their attention with your first message, and they message you back there's a good chance they might miss your replies. If they message you first it means they are interested and will remember you when searching through their 500 messages to see if you've replyed to them. (Most of the time)

Since doing this the number of people I chat on here has dropped but the people I do chat to on here always reply to my messages, and the quality of my meets have been amazing. I have yet to have a no show since doing this.

Though I think you have to have a well written profile and good pics for this to work. "

Sent 5 messages yesterday each taking 10min to compose...all deleted! 1 hour wasted?!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I've stopped sending the first message on here. The females and couples get loads of messages, so even if you catch their attention with your first message, and they message you back there's a good chance they might miss your replies. If they message you first it means they are interested and will remember you when searching through their 500 messages to see if you've replyed to them. (Most of the time)

Since doing this the number of people I chat on here has dropped but the people I do chat to on here always reply to my messages, and the quality of my meets have been amazing. I have yet to have a no show since doing this.

Though I think you have to have a well written profile and good pics for this to work.

Sent 5 messages yesterday each taking 10min to compose...all deleted! 1 hour wasted?!

"

Not wasted, that's 5 people you now know aren't interested so you can pass them by

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By *ollarLeadRestrainMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I've stopped sending the first message on here. The females and couples get loads of messages, so even if you catch their attention with your first message, and they message you back there's a good chance they might miss your replies. If they message you first it means they are interested and will remember you when searching through their 500 messages to see if you've replyed to them. (Most of the time)

Since doing this the number of people I chat on here has dropped but the people I do chat to on here always reply to my messages, and the quality of my meets have been amazing. I have yet to have a no show since doing this.

Though I think you have to have a well written profile and good pics for this to work.

Sent 5 messages yesterday each taking 10min to compose...all deleted! 1 hour wasted?!

Not wasted, that's 5 people you now know aren't interested so you can pass them by "

True...1 meet 8months ago (great as it was)..hate to think of the time spent on composing messages! Runing out of possibles in Aberdeenshire!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I've stopped sending the first message on here. The females and couples get loads of messages, so even if you catch their attention with your first message, and they message you back there's a good chance they might miss your replies. If they message you first it means they are interested and will remember you when searching through their 500 messages to see if you've replyed to them. (Most of the time)

Since doing this the number of people I chat on here has dropped but the people I do chat to on here always reply to my messages, and the quality of my meets have been amazing. I have yet to have a no show since doing this.

Though I think you have to have a well written profile and good pics for this to work.

Sent 5 messages yesterday each taking 10min to compose...all deleted! 1 hour wasted?!

Not wasted, that's 5 people you now know aren't interested so you can pass them by

True...1 meet 8months ago (great as it was)..hate to think of the time spent on composing messages! Runing out of possibles in Aberdeenshire!"

Someone up your way needs to organise a social then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the Profile clearly.

Highlight points of interest.

Be clear and explain what you seek in others and they can seek in you.

Be respectful..If they decline any further contact with you.

If your sending to a Couple..Make sure you include both in your conversation

Sending a Face Pic with your message is a massive no no for me..However only be sure in sending once youve built up some chat and trust.

Lastly....

Good preparation will always meet an oppertunity..

and

Good Luck

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By *ollarLeadRestrainMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Read the Profile clearly.

Highlight points of interest.

Be clear and explain what you seek in others and they can seek in you.

Be respectful..If they decline any further contact with you.

If your sending to a Couple..Make sure you include both in your conversation

Sending a Face Pic with your message is a massive no no for me..However only be sure in sending once youve built up some chat and trust.

Lastly....

Good preparation will always meet an oppertunity..

and

Good Luck

"

Say's the man with 1line profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still haven't mastered it yet.

I usually send face pic if profile asks and am very polite asking that if they like my pics and want to more then let me know. All end up deleted (don't think I am that bad looking but starting to wonder lol). Could spend hours composing messages.

I state in my profile that if I wink then I am interested in their profile as I don't want to burden others with another message to add to their 500. Just occasionally I see a profile that jumps out and I send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the Profile clearly.

Highlight points of interest.

Be clear and explain what you seek in others and they can seek in you.

Be respectful..If they decline any further contact with you.

If your sending to a Couple..Make sure you include both in your conversation

Sending a Face Pic with your message is a massive no no for me..However only be sure in sending once youve built up some chat and trust.

Lastly....

Good preparation will always meet an oppertunity..

and

Good Luck

"

You been on a planning course

pmsl

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