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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im always nice as i can be on these messages and not getting anywhere do any of you guys think i should try something different because being myself aint working!

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You only joined a couple of months ago so calm down. As far as I've seen it's extremely hard for any guy to get a meet off here.

Keep being yourself and it will happen one day xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You only joined a couple of months ago so calm down. As far as I've seen it's extremely hard for any guy to get a meet off here.

Keep being yourself and it will happen one day xxxxx"

Just frustrating thats all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For guys it must be difficult as ur competing with alot of testosterone on here lol.

Just be patient. From my point of view I get a load of mail from guys daily, it's always the messages that have more than 'hi wanna fck?', that make me read more. But I can't message everyone. I'm sure alot of woman will feel the same on here. Keep being a nice guy if that's who you truly are and u'll get somewhere eventually xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For guys it must be difficult as ur competing with alot of testosterone on here lol.

Just be patient. From my point of view I get a load of mail from guys daily, it's always the messages that have more than 'hi wanna fck?', that make me read more. But I can't message everyone. I'm sure alot of woman will feel the same on here. Keep being a nice guy if that's who you truly are and u'll get somewhere eventually xx"

Ill keep that in mind thanks! The worst ones is when people dont even read or look at the profile and delete withought really checking you know !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ye I know but honestly it's probs because they have loads to go thru and don't have the manners to at least read the message. Generally I reply even if it's just to say no thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much you can do about it but being so young probably takes you outwith alot of peoples age range too although im sure you will catch some sexy cougars eye

Not sure what the socials / club scene is like where you live but that seems to work well to get people better known down here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ye I know but honestly it's probs because they have loads to go thru and don't have the manners to at least read the message. Generally I reply even if it's just to say no thanks xx"

Yeah i understand must be anoyying !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not much you can do about it but being so young probably takes you outwith alot of peoples age range too although im sure you will catch some sexy cougars eye

Not sure what the socials / club scene is like where you live but that seems to work well to get people better known down here x"

I sometimes go to glasgow on the odd occasion id love to go to a club but it seems as though you need someone to accompany you its a realy shame your looking for someone 25 and over haha look perfect if i might add! maybe you will change that and when im next in glasgow we could meet up for a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not much you can do about it but being so young probably takes you outwith alot of peoples age range too although im sure you will catch some sexy cougars eye

Not sure what the socials / club scene is like where you live but that seems to work well to get people better known down here x

I sometimes go to glasgow on the odd occasion id love to go to a club but it seems as though you need someone to accompany you its a realy shame your looking for someone 25 and over haha look perfect if i might add! maybe you will change that and when im next in glasgow we could meet up for a chat "

Im sure i already spotted you on the dating thread , seem a nice guy but you live miles away

You can go to clubs alone it just helps to maybe make a few friends on the forum or chat that are going too ... Means a friendly face to say hello to and help break the ice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not much you can do about it but being so young probably takes you outwith alot of peoples age range too although im sure you will catch some sexy cougars eye

Not sure what the socials / club scene is like where you live but that seems to work well to get people better known down here x

I sometimes go to glasgow on the odd occasion id love to go to a club but it seems as though you need someone to accompany you its a realy shame your looking for someone 25 and over haha look perfect if i might add! maybe you will change that and when im next in glasgow we could meet up for a chat

Im sure i already spotted you on the dating thread , seem a nice guy but you live miles away

You can go to clubs alone it just helps to maybe make a few friends on the forum or chat that are going too ... Means a friendly face to say hello to and help break the ice x"

Aye just even making freinds is always a healthy way to meeting new people hooefully they speak back and i can meet with them at the club sometime!

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By *gowbhoy4funMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Aye its a pain when you send msgs n thy just get deleted or read without reply ... But remember theres about 100 guys to 1 girl on here haha ... I never realised til i had my first meet n the girl had 500 odd unread msgs !!

Now im flying haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aye shame theres so many guys that give out a bad impression though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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will do mate cheers !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep being a nice guy, seriously this site has too many arseholes! Many of them think they're bullet proof and can do and say whatever they please. I assure you if it wasn't for my friend saying NO, don't stoop to his level..... People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry didn't want to be specific about his punishment lol could get myself arrested if I went with my original plan

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha why not !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It involved posting his name and face as a .... You get the point, plus he has three kids who are innocents... People shouldn't be arseholes and post there entire life on social media... It reeks of arrogance that makes my blood boil. I used to be...not nice but that was back when my job was a stress filled pile of crap and I weighed 16.5 stone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It involved posting his name and face as a .... You get the point, plus he has three kids who are innocents...

People shouldn't be arseholes and post there entire life on social media... It reeks of arrogance that makes my blood boil.

I used to be...not nice but that was back when my job was a stress filled pile of crap and I weighed 16.5 stone."

Well done for the weight loss pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been skinny to muscle for eight years now but thanks Seriously though I need to start a course for women on how to ghost themselves so nutters and stalkers cant just message them personal details from their life and freak them out.

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Im always nice as i can be on these messages and not getting anywhere do any of you guys think i should try something different because being myself aint working!"

You've got a good profile compared to many, and you get involved and are respectful and pleasant on the forums.

You'll be fine, stick with your natural approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit humour can go a long way too in a message

For me I like big/unusual words ...strange but true ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fluvioglacial.....that work for ya?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit humour can go a long way too in a message

For me I like big/unusual words ...strange but true ..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For guys it must be difficult as ur competing with alot of testosterone on here lol.

Just be patient. From my point of view I get a load of mail from guys daily, it's always the messages that have more than 'hi wanna fck?', that make me read more. But I can't message everyone. I'm sure alot of woman will feel the same on here. Keep being a nice guy if that's who you truly are and u'll get somewhere eventually xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im always nice as i can be on these messages and not getting anywhere do any of you guys think i should try something different because being myself aint working!"

Thing is man, guys outnumber girls to unreal levels on sites like this, females inboxes are usually full. Youl find the same guys will send message after message and because of this it's easy for them to lose track of who has emailed. If your using fab as the main way to meet women for sex or even just for a chat Youl be waiting a while because of the already mentioned reasons.

Be yourself, stick to forums and chat rooms (I don't do the chat rooms tbh) and Youl find that if you have decent chat the girls and couples will end up emailing you. It genuinely will happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys much appreciated ! Ill take all these things into account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience is that as a single guy it is tough. But if you get involved socially & get yourself known that way you'll have more success. I started on my own, probably in a similar situation to you. Now after messages, patience, (lots of that,) attending socials, revealing the real me on forums via random shite that I write & stuff like that I've ended up with the truly lovely Mrs J by my side & we have been to clubs together & met some really lovely people.

It kinda depends what you're on here for. The "I just want an easy shag" brigade struggle, but if you're willing to put in the effort & be friendly first, good in bed second then you'll do alright.

Feel free to PM if you want any chat or comments.

On the club front, you don't need to have someone to go with but in all honesty, if I was a single guy I don't think I'd ever go. Unfortunately, in my opinion, the creepy ones that go along give a bad impression. So we tend to stick to couples & single female nights.

Mr J

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My experience is that as a single guy it is tough. But if you get involved socially & get yourself known that way you'll have more success. I started on my own, probably in a similar situation to you. Now after messages, patience, (lots of that,) attending socials, revealing the real me on forums via random shite that I write & stuff like that I've ended up with the truly lovely Mrs J by my side & we have been to clubs together & met some really lovely people.

It kinda depends what you're on here for. The "I just want an easy shag" brigade struggle, but if you're willing to put in the effort & be friendly first, good in bed second then you'll do alright.

Feel free to PM if you want any chat or comments.

On the club front, you don't need to have someone to go with but in all honesty, if I was a single guy I don't think I'd ever go. Unfortunately, in my opinion, the creepy ones that go along give a bad impression. So we tend to stick to couples & single female nights.

Mr J"

cheers mate i might just give you a shout sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On the club front, you don't need to have someone to go with but in all honesty, if I was a single guy I don't think I'd ever go. Unfortunately, in my opinion, the creepy ones that go along give a bad impression. So we tend to stick to couples & single female nights. Mr J"
you mean I'm taking my cute wee friend along to what could be a farking disaster? Awwww I'll risk it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No no, don't get me wrong, we enjoy going to the club. There are really nice people there who we count as friends & we've made more friends there. There is always a limit on the number of single guys who can go. I just see them going about & think to myself, if I was single I would not come here unless I had a female buddy to take along. Not to mention the fact I couldn't afford it anyway.

Mr J

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Just be yourself OP. Works well for most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be yourself OP. Works well for most. "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's just no rush, honestly.

Just get onto the chat rooms, have a laugh and a good natter and see what comes up.

Gt to the socials, they're always a good place to interact with swingers and if they are interested I'm sure they will let you know.

There are people who come onto Fab to Fuck.

There are people who come onto Fab to make friends and have a good laugh.

There's people who come onto Fab to meet, socialise and have fun.

Many different reasons why people come onto Fab, day to day.

I'm sure it will all work out for you and you will have fun, just don't let it do your head in.

It's not my advice as I hardly meet, just heard it form other people

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By *ruegent101Man
over a year ago

down by the river side

No point changing the way you are just to talk to people on fab ? Be yourself, best option you will find people eventually takes time belive me

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