FabSwingers.com forum: Being 'Bi-Curious' on profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My wife asked me to consider playing with males occasionally in our meets for her, as she plays for me with other females. We are on here to explore and expand our sexual boundaries, so with that in mind, being honest on our profile has attracted mixed responses. Is this usual or do we revert to a straight profile? All opinions welcome. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is always the best policy.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

It's your profile use it as you see best for what your looking for though as stated honesty is best policy .

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Difficult one to answer, as many couples the men won't entertain males that are bi or curious.

I have my personal theories on that one, and why many couples won't meet single males.

Take a look at my profile for how I have dealt with it.

Paradoxically, a lot of couples who are both bi or curious, won't meet couples or single guys who say straight.

So basically, just see what works best for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty best

I'm bi and put it on my profile you tend to get abuse by people who don't really know what they're talking about....

I like having fun with both men and women....but really only into oral...but never say never..

lol.

We're all on here to enjoy ourself's ....swing on and enjoy.....have a look at my profile to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good advice and thanks for the PM's everyone as well, very supportive!

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

As has been said, do what's best for you both - not others. Just because you're bi-curious doesn't mean you can't play straight too but some won't meet you in case you try to touch them. But that's their hang ups, not yours.

Good luck and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men have a bi side it depends if they are prepared to say so and give it a try. If its ok for the lady to be no then why would they frown on guys being the same.

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The only difference between a straight guy and a bi guy is a few pints of beer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men have a bi side it depends if they are prepared to say so and give it a try. If its ok for the lady to be no then why would they frown on guys being the same. "

You would be surprised by the abuse that you sometimes receive just for sending a message and they realise you're bi.....

And I'm not talking about men...

So men having a bi side is not taken the same as a girl being by....atleast not by all.....

Which is a shame when you think everyone is here to be themselves and meet people....

But hey their loss..... The only thing better than having naughty fun ......is having options ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men have a bi side it depends if they are prepared to say so and give it a try. If its ok for the lady to be no then why would they frown on guys being the same. "

Where do you get that from?

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Bisexuality in humans was common place pre Victorian era, it was Victorian society that made it taboo.

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

There are people that won't meet if your bi. But then there's plenty that will.

Best being honest. I was looking for a bi guy and I was shocked with the amount of guys messaging me telling me how they were secretly bi.

Wish more people would just admit it I'm starting to think most guys are actually bi.

Not just that though if your both bi and have it on your profile you will probably get more meets as not many men are that honest so makes genuine bi people hard to find xxxxx

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

But people should also have the right to keep it up their sleave and only share it with those that are into it.

I think those openly bi being judgemental on those that are not is out of order.

Society is accepting and even embracing of females being bi, that's not the case for males.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"But people should also have the right to keep it up their sleave and only share it with those that are into it.

I think those openly bi being judgemental on those that are not is out of order.

Society is accepting and even embracing of females being bi, that's not the case for males."
if you hide that you are bi are you being fair to a prospective meet who does not want to meet bi folk though. Its fine to keep it up your sleeve until you involve others then its not fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are people that won't meet if your bi. But then there's plenty that will.

Best being honest. I was looking for a bi guy and I was shocked with the amount of guys messaging me telling me how they were secretly bi.

As you can see I'm not secretly bi...would like to chat if you like.....tried to pm.... but I guess you've had enough of the males on here pestering xxx

Wish more people would just admit it I'm starting to think most guys are actually bi.

Not just that though if your both bi and have it on your profile you will probably get more meets as not many men are that honest so makes genuine bi people hard to find xxxxx"

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes, because it's perfectly possible to resist you know.

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"But people should also have the right to keep it up their sleave and only share it with those that are into it.

I think those openly bi being judgemental on those that are not is out of order.

Society is accepting and even embracing of females being bi, that's not the case for males."

I understand what your saying about males being bi but if every bi male was to come out you'll find its a lot more acceptable. It's just a case of who goes first. Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But people should also have the right to keep it up their sleave and only share it with those that are into it.

I think those openly bi being judgemental on those that are not is out of order.

Society is accepting and even embracing of females being bi, that's not the case for males.if you hide that you are bi are you being fair to a prospective meet who does not want to meet bi folk though. Its fine to keep it up your sleeve until you involve others then its not fair"

Totally agree..... why should men who like the choice no be treated like women who like the choice....

We're both looking for the same things....

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

There is also degrees of male bisexuality, on speaking to bi guys, most say it's only oral and they aren't attracted to men in the same way totally bi and gay guys are.

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"But people should also have the right to keep it up their sleave and only share it with those that are into it.

I think those openly bi being judgemental on those that are not is out of order.

Totally agree..... why should men who like the choice no be treated like women who like the choice....

We're both looking for the same things....

Which quote are you agreeing with?

I don't see a why straight men in couples should have a problem with meeting a bi guy, unless of course he considers himself totally irresistible to men if that persuasion, also smacks of homophobia (in the true sense of the word, an irrational fear).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm agreeing with its not fair to keep it back from others...also I myself am not attracted to Guys so to speak....I like oral....and enjoy having fun with options...

I just don't think it's fair when you get abuse when it's uncalled for.....maybe there just jealous lol

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I take it he means its fine to hide being bi as long as there is no one else involved. the second you look for a liason with someone they should really know. Another misconception is homophobic I wouldnt play with a group where men were with men as for me its a massive turn off. But nothing againstthem for their sexual preferance

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I just don't get what the big deal is. I'm bi and watching two guys together would be a massive turn on for me.

I understand why a straight guy wouldn't like that bit still gives him no reason to judge. Be yourself not what someone else wants you to be. Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just don't get what the big deal is. I'm bi and watching two guys together would be a massive turn on for me.

I understand why a straight guy wouldn't like that bit still gives him no reason to judge. Be yourself not what someone else wants you to be. Xxxxx"

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I just don't get what the big deal is. I'm bi and watching two guys together would be a massive turn on for me.

I understand why a straight guy wouldn't like that bit still gives him no reason to judge. Be yourself not what someone else wants you to be. Xxxxx"
my replys are not judgements (even though I do make them constantly) watching two fems does little for me either and my partners bi lol. As you say be yourself........ but if you bring others into it they need to know

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I just don't get what the big deal is. I'm bi and watching two guys together would be a massive turn on for me.

I understand why a straight guy wouldn't like that bit still gives him no reason to judge. Be yourself not what someone else wants you to be. Xxxxxmy replys are not judgements (even though I do make them constantly) watching two fems does little for me either and my partners bi lol. As you say be yourself........ but if you bring others into it they need to know "

That wasn't aimed at you. More just people who have a problem with bi or gay people. I understand your nit being judgmental just not your thing. Sorry sweetie xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just don't get what the big deal is. I'm bi and watching two guys together would be a massive turn on for me.

Not judging either...just letting people know what to expect.... I was a little taken back myself and didn't know what to do...

Everyone to there own desires..

We're all on here to enjoy our naughtier side

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

My point was, in a situation where there will be no male on male action, why does either party need to know that you might have a play under different circumstances with another male?

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"My point was, in a situation where there will be no male on male action, why does either party need to know that you might have a play under different circumstances with another male?"

They don't. Tbh no matter if I am with a girl or boy I don't need to know there sexual history. It's up to me to make sure I stay safe.

But I also don't think bi men should need to hide it. Who cares what he has done in the past its his and no one else's business as far as I am concered xxxxx

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"My point was, in a situation where there will be no male on male action, why does either party need to know that you might have a play under different circumstances with another male?

They don't. Tbh no matter if I am with a girl or boy I don't need to know there sexual history. It's up to me to make sure I stay safe.

But I also don't think bi men should need to hide it. Who cares what he has done in the past its his and no one else's business as far as I am concered xxxxx"

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"My point was, in a situation where there will be no male on male action, why does either party need to know that you might have a play under different circumstances with another male?"
I would say right or wrong some folk class folk diffrently for want of a better word. some females dont see men who have sexual contact with other men as "real men" conversly some fems will only play with bi men. Would say on the flip side all the imagery and ethos a lot of folk grow up with is that fems are the fairer creature its how gorgeous they look so on so fourth so its percieved as natural and normal for fems to see this beauty in other fems but not so much in a battle scarred beer swilling guy

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"My point was, in a situation where there will be no male on male action, why does either party need to know that you might have a play under different circumstances with another male?

They don't. Tbh no matter if I am with a girl or boy I don't need to know there sexual history. It's up to me to make sure I stay safe.

But I also don't think bi men should need to hide it. Who cares what he has done in the past its his and no one else's business as far as I am concered xxxxx"

I agree. Bi men do get a bad rap sometimes. However it's never bothered me being in the same room as a bi guy if we are playing as part of a bigger mixed group as most are more than happy to respect people's boundaries.

However, it's the odd one or two who don't respect other people's boundaries that leads to the discrimination in my opinion.

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"My point was, in a situation where there will be no male on male action, why does either party need to know that you might have a play under different circumstances with another male?

They don't. Tbh no matter if I am with a girl or boy I don't need to know there sexual history. It's up to me to make sure I stay safe.

But I also don't think bi men should need to hide it. Who cares what he has done in the past its his and no one else's business as far as I am concered xxxxx

However, it's the odd one or two who don't respect other people's boundaries that leads to the discrimination in my opinion.

You'll always get some arsehole though that doesn't respect people's boundaries. In my short time swinging I've already came across one. Xxxxx

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

But I also don't think bi men should need to hide it. Who cares what he has done in the past its his and no one else's business as far as I am concered xxxxx

However, it's the odd one or two who don't respect other people's boundaries that leads to the discrimination in my opinion.

You'll always get some arsehole though that doesn't respect people's boundaries. In my short time swinging I've already came across one. Xxxxx"

I know. But whilst it's never been an issue for me and I'm happy with my sexuality and relaxed around others, for some people, they don't have that level of confidence and may feel threatened or have had a bad experience.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I suck cock, I am bisexual

No need for drama over that.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If you are thinking about, try it

Don't like, back to straight and never needs to be discussed again with others

Good luck

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

But I also don't think bi men should need to hide it. Who cares what he has done in the past its his and no one else's business as far as I am concered xxxxx

However, it's the odd one or two who don't respect other people's boundaries that leads to the discrimination in my opinion.

You'll always get some arsehole though that doesn't respect people's boundaries. In my short time swinging I've already came across one. Xxxxx

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By *ettercallsaul118Man
over a year ago

Funtown

"There are people that won't meet if your bi. But then there's plenty that will.

Best being honest. I was looking for a bi guy and I was shocked with the amount of guys messaging me telling me how they were secretly bi. Are you still seeking a bi guy princess

Wish more people would just admit it I'm starting to think most guys are actually bi.

Not just that though if your both bi and have it on your profile you will probably get more meets as not many men are that honest so makes genuine bi people hard to find xxxxx"

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I suck cock, I am bisexual

No need for drama over that.....

No drama here View.

But that's because I know you're happy to respect my boundaries

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I suck cock, I am bisexual

No need for drama over that.....

No drama here View.

But that's because I know you're happy to respect my boundaries

Indeed

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By *helma_richardsCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"There is also degrees of male bisexuality, on speaking to bi guys, most say it's only oral and they aren't attracted to men in the same way totally bi and gay guys are."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi & love it. I much prefer jus oral, either way but I f a guy wants to try anal, I will! I'm not attracted to guys, I don't look at them when out & about thinking 'oh, I'd love his cock'

Go for it & try it, even if it's just the once & you hated it.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

We don't meet up with bi guys. It's our choice. We respect whatever people chose to do but we also ask that people respect our choices too which is often forgotten.

Honesty is always the best policy.

Unfortunately a lot of single men don't know what honesty is. How many bi single guys are on here with a wife that has absolutely no idea of them meeting other men? Only thing that could be worse for them to find thier husbands cheating on them with a woman and that would be finding out it was a man in my opinion.

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"We don't meet up with bi guys. It's our choice. We respect whatever people chose to do but we also ask that people respect our choices too which is often forgotten.

Honesty is always the best policy.

Plenty of women are meeting other women without their male partner's knowledge, it's not just a male thing.

What is the honest rational reason that you won't meet bi males?

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"We don't meet up with bi guys. It's our choice. We respect whatever people chose to do but we also ask that people respect our choices too which is often forgotten.

Honesty is always the best policy.

Plenty of women are meeting other women without their male partner's knowledge, it's not just a male thing.

What is the honest rational reason that you won't meet bi males? "

I realise women do this also but the ratio of men is far far bigger.

One of the reasons is that I don't want to be in a situation where the guy enjoys even the most basic contact. It has happened before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife asked me to consider playing with males occasionally in our meets for her, as she plays for me with other females. We are on here to explore and expand our sexual boundaries, so with that in mind, being honest on our profile has attracted mixed responses. Is this usual or do we revert to a straight profile? All opinions welcome. Thanks."

Just asking... If you were straight you wouldn't have considered this and said hell no so if you've done it then you must be curious, at least, so it's best to be honest.

But are you doing this for her or for you. I know if I asked C to do that there is no way he would as a straight guy, and as a woman I'd never want my man to be something he isn't, so he knows I'd never ask him anyway.

Be true to yourself and don't pretend to be anything you aren't. Truth always comes out.

Good luck.

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By *yandmMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"We don't meet up with bi guys. It's our choice. We respect whatever people chose to do but we also ask that people respect our choices too which is often forgotten.

Honesty is always the best policy.

Plenty of women are meeting other women without their male partner's knowledge, it's not just a male thing.

What is the honest rational reason that you won't meet bi males?

I realise women do this also but the ratio of men is far far bigger.

One of the reasons is that I don't want to be in a situation where the guy enjoys even the most basic contact. It has happened before.

Homophobia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love bi men, it's such a turn on watching them together then joining in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good advice and interesting debates. We are enjoying this as a couple, so neither of us are under any pressure in our meets, as all options were discussed beforehand. We are surprised about the huge response from 'straight' guys though. Just what we've noticed since posting this topic!??

Happy Swinging everyone!

B&S aka The Clauses!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great feedback, thanks everyone!

Keep the messages coming!!

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