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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So i'm literally going through a shit period in my life.

Now i won't go into the whole story because its long and boring etc etc lol, but i just wanted to know how people keep themselves going? What is it that people think or do to help themselves?

Anything to just help give me another view/perspective would be awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i'm literally going through a shit period in my life.

Now i won't go into the whole story because its long and boring etc etc lol, but i just wanted to know how people keep themselves going? What is it that people think or do to help themselves?

Anything to just help give me another view/perspective would be awesome "
That's a easy one, do some exercise, gives you the feel good factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confide in someone, a problem shared is a problem halfed etc, etc....... Or alternatively, shoot ?? ????, there, sorted. Anyone else need advice?

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By *elledegoreCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yup definitely try and talk to a close friend or family member o know it is a really scary thought ! If you don't want to talk to someone you know go to your gp they are very helpful and can make you a referral to people who are specialists in counselling mental health etc I am very guilty of bottling my feelings up it really doesn't help in the long run I am finally getting the help I require if you need a chat its vampira here feel free to message me hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i dont really get that good feeling from doing exercise these days, did too much of it in the army lol. i play sports but its not always on unfortunatly.

the talking thing works only if people understand you, and to be honest i dont think anyone ever will lol.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I'm lucky to have a couple of friends who really get me and will let me bitch and unload. They are a wonderful way to stay sane

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i'm literally going through a shit period in my life.

Now i won't go into the whole story because its long and boring etc etc lol, but i just wanted to know how people keep themselves going? What is it that people think or do to help themselves?

Anything to just help give me another view/perspective would be awesome "

Focus on the positive things in your life and dont dwell too much on negatives.

Life isnt easy its a challenge.

Socializing with close friends who understand you will give you great advice if its only to agree with you.

Whatever happens happens for a reason and time will always be your best healer.

So dont frown yourself as you will never know who is falling for your smile.

Keep your head up and have a great 2016

Buboo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well the focusing on the positive part is easy enough having my daughter but that is where it ends really. I didn't want to say this over the forum because I don't really want sympathy because it always feels false, but I'm virtually alone. Family and my close friends who I grew up with are all in Sheffield and the one close friend I had is having her own problems which have ended up spilling into mine.

Honestly though thanks to everyone the advice is always appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join online forums of things that interest you. Dating sites are full of lonely women who don't necessarily want to meet. Many just want to chat. You'll find they're more open because there's no pressure to meet.

What about volunteering for something. Im hoping to do this in the new year.

But quite often I just sit on my sofa and look around me. I walked away from an abusive marriage with 2 kids, 2 dogs and our pride. It's taken a while but I've held down a full time job, raised 2 young girls into fine young lassies and my most coveted possession - I've built a home from scratch with virtually nothing in my purse.

We all have things to be thankful for and perhaps just need to reflect on that.

Good luck Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and keep busy. Find a good pass time. I'm looking at starting snowboarding to keep me busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i'm literally going through a shit period in my life.

Now i won't go into the whole story because its long and boring etc etc lol, but i just wanted to know how people keep themselves going? What is it that people think or do to help themselves?

Anything to just help give me another view/perspective would be awesome "

I feel you dude. Same place myself.

Looking at changing my schedule and intetests. Find something to distract you. Start a business lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Join online forums of things that interest you. Dating sites are full of lonely women who don't necessarily want to meet. Many just want to chat. You'll find they're more open because there's no pressure to meet.

What about volunteering for something. Im hoping to do this in the new year.

We all have things to be thankful for and perhaps just need to reflect on that.

Good luck Xxx "

I have always put life into perspective, I know there is people out there In worse situations than me and it's people like yourself who give the best advice. Well done on getting through your troubles, because you're where I am aiming to be.

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By *elticcurlsWoman
over a year ago

london

What do you think would cheer you up? You know yourself best. Try writing down some answers to that and then crack on with whatever it takes to start them off. If any seem too daunting then keep breaking them down until you have something you think you can actually do. Just an option but I sincerely hope things perk up for you. New Years can be great for new starts. All the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only thing that works for me is to deal with whatever is making me feel down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, what about getting out and volunteering to help those who've been affected by the flooding. How good would that make you feel after the good and grateful work you'd have done there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seriously thank you everyone, I don't know why it took me so long to ask this on here lol. New year and new beginnings is a great way to look at things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree with suggestion of volunteering - at a similar low point in the past and I found the routine helpful, the social aspect good and made new friends that I still see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a wee thought on the idea of talking about things. You said you don't think anyone would understand. Believe me, that's how SO many people feel about whatever problems they have.

You have to try think about it this way, if someone came to you feeling really down, depressed or troubled, you'd do what you could to listen & help if possible. But at the very least you'd listen. We are all the same, if you come to any of us who have responded here or speak to a GP or whoever they will do what they can to understand & be a shoulder to cry on or someone to lean on. If you just need a rant, feel free to do so with us.

But also the idea of busying yourself with something is ideal. Develop a new hobby or pass time with your daughter? Join Meet Up events - they've been really helpful to people.

Do something, anything as long as it makes you feel more positive about yourself.

Mr J

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have always thought about going to one of the meets from here, but it's always been a bit daunting lol. Don't feel comfortable going alone and don't know anyone to go with lol. Seriously though thank you, any idea, help or advice really does go a long way. It's tiring telling people everything and yet I have been able to get more from people I haven't told.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I have always thought about going to one of the meets from here, but it's always been a bit daunting lol. Don't feel comfortable going alone and don't know anyone to go with lol. Seriously though thank you, any idea, help or advice really does go a long way. It's tiring telling people everything and yet I have been able to get more from people I haven't told. "

Go - you'll have a blast. Yes it's daunting the first time, but message someone else who is going and arrange to meet before. There is usually a few that will meet for a drink beforehand, meet them, chat and get to know them a little and head in with them for back up.

Trust me, once you take that first step you'll wonder why you worried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i'm literally going through a shit period in my life.

Now i won't go into the whole story because its long and boring etc etc lol, but i just wanted to know how people keep themselves going? What is it that people think or do to help themselves?

Anything to just help give me another view/perspective would be awesome "

Remember no-one gets out of life alive, 100 years from now pretty much anything you do won't matter. So dn't live your life by fear or dogma or regret. You get one crack at it so be the person you want to be and do what inspires you and makes you happy.

But above all else inspire others. Personally, don't buy into charities but rather try for at least one random act of kindness towards a fellow human being each day.

If all else fails. Sex, drugs and rocks n roll man. Can't say old Lemmy had it too bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was where u are after I split from my daughters dad.

Won't mind admitting I was depressed.

But I got through it by focusing on my little girl and making a life for us.

I read u also have a daughter.

If u wanna chat pm me I won't mind x

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