FabSwingers.com forum: Has Scottish forum gone downhill

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone else who's been on here for a while think the Scottish forum has gone downhill. It was quite a welcoming place. When we first joined but it's not got that feel now. It can be very bitchy or downright nasty and if a post isn't of intrest to some they decide to take over and basically shut down that post. It's meant there's no variety in topics just same old same old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed, just a bitch fest most of the time!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it goes through cycles, good and bad. Seems to be in a dip just now, agreed. Unfortunately, there will always be certain folk who comment whether the thread interests them or not, which then leads to some folk just giving up on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree. Some great posts. However can be used to stick the knife into people or just get down right nasty. Everyone has different opinions.

Less funny or interesting topics.

I try to post intresting topic. However that can be seen as attention seeking.

Attention seeking my jlo butt.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Think it goes through cycles, good and bad. Seems to be in a dip just now, agreed. Unfortunately, there will always be certain folk who comment whether the thread interests them or not, which then leads to some folk just giving up on it."
im sure this will be seen as one of those whether it intrests him or not posts.and couldnt care less who thinks it. The forums have been nondescript and basically ruled for over a yr. at one point they did go through cycles. As much as I dont like the snog fuck avoid post and the happy midday threads they were also interspersed through them these posts havent happened for a long time. There used to be folk who would debate some left some were forced to leave others gave up. The forums are how they are because they have been taken to this point I seen it coming yrs ago

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Does anyone else who's been on here for a while think the Scottish forum has gone downhill. It was quite a welcoming place. When we first joined but it's not got that feel now. It can be very bitchy or downright nasty and if a post isn't of intrest to some they decide to take over and basically shut down that post. It's meant there's no variety in topics just to same old same old"
There isn't a topic that's not been discussed at some point on the forums and the longer your here you will see that.

Some do use the forums for topical debates and some use it for the fun element and yes some will use it to have a dig at others.

Just post and use the forum in whatever way you want and dont let others dictate how you use them.

But some do need to differentiate a difference of opinion and bitchiness

Whilst some complain about the happy clappy gang as I think they were described lol...you will always have an opposite in someone who is so negative about every post lol.

Just use the forums how you see fit and let others do the same.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Bad fabsters won't get anything nice from Santa this year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a great point

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

The forum clique rules! Yeehah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to agree. There is a huge amount of senseless drivel posted on here disguised as opinions.

Sorry 'bout that folks!

I'll stop it immediately!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been feeling it for about a week, only a few interesting topics and a ton of fluff or troll bait.

Glad I'm not the only one that noticed, might be just the stress of Christmas and male stress from all the unread messages getting ignored in favor of searching though amazon deals for cheap crap.

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Sorry I've been busy I will try and post more.

I am only joking. Sometimes it can be a problem when people jump on threads and try to take them over other times it keeps the thread bumped to the top of the page.

The problem is if it's the same people posting all the time it is going to get boring. But for some strange reason new people don't feel comfortable posting on here. They feel like their thread will get taken over with cake and popcorn. Or they will get some form of abuse for liking something that is slightly different from the standard norm.

Unfortunately if we don't welcome these new posts and posters the forum will become stagnant and that seems to be happening at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been using the lounge for years moreso than scottish forums.Met lots of brill people south of the border..

There is the odd scottish thread thats of interest..but sometimes I just cant be fucked interacting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"been using the lounge for years moreso than scottish forums.Met lots of brill people south of the border..

There is the odd scottish thread thats of interest..but sometimes I just cant be fucked interacting "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately if we don't welcome these new posts and posters the forum will become stagnant and that seems to be happening at the moment. "

I've not really had that problem, my post on making a friend with a TV/TS lead to a huge discussion with lots of a trolls and ended up with me making friends with Joanne, that sexy giant dom bitch who one day I hope to meet!

Meet meet, not fab meet... though if her intelligence and size is anything to go by I don't think saying no to her seems like a plan

My post on waxing my legs ass and crack was so much fun I ended up doing it... and regretting it a month later when red dots started showing up

but at the time it was AWESOME!

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By *dlilbumCouple
over a year ago

Aviemore and regularly visit Glasgow

We come and have a look at this forum fairly regularly but unfortunately we get put off posting. There seems to be a group of people who spend their lives on this forum. Don't have a problem with that but I'm afraid they don't seem all that welcoming.

We put up a post about attending Club Noir and asking if anyone else was going a few weeks ago but it got hijacked by two regular posters who then had a long conversation in the thread about something that happened when they were at CJ's and had nothing to do with what we were asking. It just seemed a bit rude and intimidating to us but maybe you guys will think we're just being a bit too sensitive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry I've been busy I will try and post more.

I am only joking. Sometimes it can be a problem when people jump on threads and try to take them over other times it keeps the thread bumped to the top of the page.

Unfortunately if we don't welcome these new posts and posters the forum will become stagnant and that seems to be happening at the moment. "

I have to agree with this. I imagine for a lot of new people it would look very unwelcoming. I've been here a while and have a couple of times not had a thick enough skin.

However the same thing happens in all these types of forums.

If people have something to say they should feel able to say it. We are all adults and should all have enough respect and manners to discuss or appreciate difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forum clique rules! Yeehah!

Oh oh oh can I join?

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

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double agreed

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"We come and have a look at this forum fairly regularly but unfortunately we get put off posting. There seems to be a group of people who spend their lives on this forum. Don't have a problem with that but I'm afraid they don't seem all that welcoming.

7 comments between 2 people is hardly a long conversation... I think you'll find they were actually discussing a previous visit to club noir and nothing to do with cjs. It is an open forum for people to use as they see fit. Yes it can be intimidating, I found it this way to begin, I also found the regular posters to be warm and welcoming. K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think post can go off on tangents and it can be annoying but it happens alot and tbh you get used to it although it doesnt make it correct. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think post can go off on tangents and it can be annoying but it happens alot and tbh you get used to it although it doesnt make it correct. X"

I'm bad for taking posts off tangent.I don't mean it maliciously it just how I cope with being overwhelmed by the sexual freedom this site projects.it comes across as arrogance on my part and have been vilified in forums for it...but I'm no going to change..so the above comment to me makes absolute sense and makes me feel welcome and not think there is a clique and all doom and doom as the thread in its current context is portraying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone one does it myself included when its an open forum things are gonna go from one topic to the next. Such is life but never be afraid to voice a _iew or start a topic as it would be a dull world if we were all the same x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

treat it with indifference, it works fine then

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

or the 6 can't post for various reasons. I am always wary about people who will comment on the Forums by private message but can't put it out there for all to see.

They usually, not always, either can't post or may have issues with certain posters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is missing a few enlightened posters that were busy on here a year or more back. The last 12 months hasn't been as good.

Maybe I should do as I preach and do a few more posts again and make some effort.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

The forum is whatever you want it to be.

I've read threads recently where people have got on their high horses and battled each other. That doesn't make it a bad thing as long as it doesn't get personal.

If I don't want to post on a thread, I won't. Yes threads go off at a tangent, but so do conversations in real life. Sometimes it's ok, sometimes it's frustrating for the OP. I am guilty of this and for that I apologise to those people who don't want to post anymore.

That being said, sometimes I'll start a thread with the simple intention of everyone talking rubbish and taking the mickey out of each other - just so it doesn't happen on other peoples threads. And I still get grief for it.

If people don't realise there are lurkers who read but don't post, then they are daft. But it would be nice if the lurkers did post from time to time. I'm not saying it's easy, it isn't. I struggled when I first started posting. But grow a thick skin and keep posting. You'll eventually get a feel for everyone and their personalities.

Let's face it, if gasmonkey can do it, then anyone can.

Oh, and for those people who moan about 'cake' - it's not meant in a nasty way, just a bit of fun.

When it's popcorn, it's because people know where a thread will go because it's either inflammatory or designed to provoke a reaction 90% of the time.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I think it is missing a few enlightened posters that were busy on here a year or more back. The last 12 months hasn't been as good.

Maybe I should do as I preach and do a few more posts again and make some effort."

There is the key word.....effort

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I don't see the forums being any different to people who frequent the chat rooms night after night.

Some posts have a great deal of banter in them and that's what makes them fun.

The only difference with forums and chat is that everything that's typed in the forums Stays there where as in chat it's gone in a matter of minuets.

Pretty sad state of affairs where people feel they can't join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lurk as you say but very rarely post...maybe the forum is reflecting real life in Scotland, which in my opinion (brace for impact) is becoming year on year a slightly less friendly,welcoming and open country even to the point of becoming an angry country..not originally traits that made us who we are or were.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I lurk as you say but very rarely post...maybe the forum is reflecting real life in Scotland, which in my opinion (brace for impact) is becoming year on year a slightly less friendly,welcoming and open country even to the point of becoming an angry country..not originally traits that made us who we are or were."

Sometimes people type before they think about the consequences. But that isn't always a bad thing as it means the topic has grabbed them and they feel passionate about it.

Angry? Maybe, but sometimes people see anger instead of passion for a subject.

All too often, the things typed on here can be misinterpreted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we have a word game or something to brighten up the forum then

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Can we have a word game or something to brighten up the forum then "

Start one then

Don't wait for an idiot like me, just go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you send me a cheat sheet, i suck at word games lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To many people with cocky smart answers who think they belong on a stage .... Another reason people don't post topics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its never been uphill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a little like a Treasure Hunt in the sewers. There might be gold but you have to sift through the shite first.

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I've been using the forms for around a month and I've got to say I love them.

So if this is a bad cycle I can't wait for it to pick up again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forum has peaks and troughs make of them what you will.

People take life too serious meant to be fun

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I use the forum predominantly as a tool to see who I might like to message and try to meet.

It gets me engaging and works for me.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"There isn't a topic that's not been discussed at some point on the forums and the longer your here you will see that.

Some do use the forums for topical debates and some use it for the fun element and yes some will use it to have a dig at others.

Just post and use the forum in whatever way you want and dont let others dictate how you use them.

But some do need to differentiate a difference of opinion and bitchiness

Whilst some complain about the happy clappy gang as I think they were described lol...you will always have an opposite in someone who is so negative about every post lol.

Just use the forums how you see fit and let others do the same.

Has the Forum gone downhill?

No. It's the same as it's always been.

As Nawty says, there's hardly a topic on here that hasn't been discussed at some point or another. You need only do a quick search & you'll probably find similar topics stretching back days, weeks, months, even years.

Have the Forum users changed? Yes. Some come & go, some lurk, others stay & use the Forum as an extension of their social group. Isn't that why many join any online group? To chat with folk who have similar mindsets & interests?

So the common denominator on Fab is everyone enjoys or seek folk with similar sexual interests.

However amongst that group are a huge variety of likes, dislikes, preferences, personalities & even attraction.

So what's the solution if you feel your appreciation or enjoyment of the Forum (or the site) has diminished?

Well to paraphrase JFK - ask not what the Forum can do for you, but what you can contribute to the Forum. In other words, the solution is in your own hands.

If you prefer to lurk, fine. If that's your thing crack on. Not posting will not change the Forum content.

If you come here for a laugh & banter, fine. It's good for the soul to have a chuckle & better than being miserable.

If you continually post on certain types of thread be they political threads, sexual threads, funny threads, musical threads, LAM threads, whatever your thing is then fine. You're feeding the part of you that enjoys that topic of conversation.

I'm sure many users post on a variety of threads & so long as they stay within the site rules can discuss or chat with folk they might not otherwise talk to. Some even form friendships they would never imagine & go on to meet in person. These people can even feel like a form of extended social group or family.

Just like any group or family they go through disagreements, different opinions or can change their mind & _iewpoints on things. Some will be quieter at times, or leave, whilst others come back either for longer or shorter spells.

One thing is for sure though, the Forum will be here as a source of information, humour, social interaction etc long after the current Forumites move on to other things.

So while you're here, make the best use that feeds your soul. Not joining in won't change it either way. Only by posting things that are of interest to you, getting your personality known, getting involved, will you contribute YOUR likes, interests & personality. And THAT's what makes the Forum what it is. As I said, it's unlikely the threads will touch on anything that hadn't been touched on before, but that doesn't matter. What DOES is that you involve yourself, mix with others & their interests.

Personally, I know I've made lifelong friends I'd never have considered if I'd met them in for example the pub; that I've considered political implications I'd never have had an opinion on; had hook ups with partners that might not have been on my radar; discovered music which I'll always think of certain people when I play of hear tracks; & many other things which have graced & enriched my life. All thanks to Forums & sites like Fab.

So whether it's cake, popcorn, music, politics or whatever grabs your fancy then get involved. If you don't then you'll never alter or affect anything.

As for the trolls, the disaffected, disenfranchised, negative or bitchy posts - I personally choose to ignore them whenever possible (who needs that shit in their life?)

So have the forums changed?

I'll get back to you after I've finished my popcorn