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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do you get blocked by folks for being polite?

Surely at least a reply saying no thanks and why before they hit the block button isn't so difficult.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Come on Willie - you've been here long enough to k ow the answer already lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Why do you get blocked by folks for being polite?

Surely at least a reply saying no thanks and why before they hit the block button isn't so difficult. "
Some just dont accent a no thanks you too well as I've learned from experience sometimes they leave you no option but to block

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Come on Willie - you've been here long enough to k ow the answer already lol "

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By *akedninjaMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Manners cost nothing,it says alot about a person their ability/inability to demonstrate and practice good manners

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Lots of things can be deemed impolite.......

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yup, he has

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some may not see the point in sending a 'No thanks' message.

Maybe they have too many messages to reply to from folk they are actually interested in.

I rarely message back those who randomly message me without any sort of contact first. But thats just how I do things

Lx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners cost nothing,it says alot about a person their ability/inability to demonstrate and practice good manners"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally always reply, just the way we are

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

As long as they haven't been abusive then who cares. If they block you they aren't interested move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a no thanks gets a return mail with abuse. So people just block to avoid it.

You probably knew this anyway.

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By *lasgowNightRiderMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not been blocked (that I know of) but do get ignored (unread or deleted without reply) mostly on here, as to why that may be... any advice appreciated.

But... I've ended up waffling...

In response to OP... you've avoided meeting an ignoramus, no loss.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Not been blocked (that I know of) but do get ignored (unread or deleted without reply) mostly on here, as to why that may be... any advice appreciated.

But... I've ended up waffling...

In response to OP... you've avoided meeting an ignoramus, no loss."
do you reply to all the junk mail you get at home ?

my guess is no you don't ...insinuating people are ignorant for not replying isnt fair unless you know whats been said in the email and who the email was for .

I don't reply to every email because that's my choice and my no thanks is on my profile

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Not been blocked (that I know of) but do get ignored (unread or deleted without reply) mostly on here, as to why that may be... any advice appreciated.

But... I've ended up waffling...

In response to OP... you've avoided meeting an ignoramus, no loss."

Ah right so when I get a mail saying " meet now " or " wanna fuck" I'm ignorant..... Thanks for clearing that up

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Fab does state that if you don't get a reply take it as a no thanks

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By *lasgowNightRiderMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *lasgowNightRiderMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Not been blocked (that I know of) but do get ignored (unread or deleted without reply) mostly on here, as to why that may be... any advice appreciated.

But... I've ended up waffling...

In response to OP... you've avoided meeting an ignoramus, no loss.

Ah right so when I get a mail saying " meet now " or " wanna fuck" I'm ignorant..... Thanks for clearing that up "

As I understand it OP seemed to indicate his message was not of that nature, nor is it my preferred introductory message, but.. okay.

Of course no one is under any obligation to reply.

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By *lasgowNightRiderMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"do you reply to all the junk mail you get at home ?

my guess is no you don't ...insinuating people are ignorant for not replying isnt fair unless you know whats been said in the email and who the email was for .

I don't reply to every email because that's my choice and my no thanks is on my profile "

That's a fair enough point but was taking OP to his word that his message was polite.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I try to reply to every message but when I get someone messaging me at a later date even when I've said no thanks, I'll message them then block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For the avoidance of doubt I am referring to those who have been actively chatting...'friends' even. Some very predictable comments though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No offence, OP, but I've seen you be less than polite on the forum. Maybe others have too and that may have influenced their response.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"For the avoidance of doubt I am referring to those who have been actively chatting...'friends' even. Some very predictable comments though."
perhaps you said something they didnt like it does happen you just need to take it on the chin and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not been blocked (that I know of) but do get ignored (unread or deleted without reply) mostly on here, as to why that may be... any advice appreciated.

But... I've ended up waffling...

In response to OP... you've avoided meeting an ignoramus, no loss.do you reply to all the junk mail you get at home ?

my guess is no you don't ...insinuating people are ignorant for not replying isnt fair unless you know whats been said in the email and who the email was for .

I don't reply to every email because that's my choice and my no thanks is on my profile "

Of course you will know what is said in the email, you would be the person who sent it

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"For the avoidance of doubt I am referring to those who have been actively chatting...'friends' even. Some very predictable comments though."

Hey I had a " friend" who sent a shitty veri because I wouldn't play with him at a party and who accused me of being an escort..... So " friends" aren't always what they claim to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For the avoidance of doubt I am referring to those who have been actively chatting...'friends' even. Some very predictable comments though.perhaps you said something they didnt like it does happen you just need to take it on the chin and move on "

I have...broad shoulders and all that.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Not been blocked (that I know of) but do get ignored (unread or deleted without reply) mostly on here, as to why that may be... any advice appreciated.

But... I've ended up waffling...

In response to OP... you've avoided meeting an ignoramus, no loss.do you reply to all the junk mail you get at home ?

my guess is no you don't ...insinuating people are ignorant for not replying isnt fair unless you know whats been said in the email and who the email was for .

I don't reply to every email because that's my choice and my no thanks is on my profile

Of course you will know what is said in the email, you would be the person who sent it "
Really oh well Im glad you cleared that one up

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't doubt for a minute that you already know that there's nothing stranger than folk

There is absolutely no way for us to give an answer to your original question without seeing exactly what happened. So we have all speculated and told you the way we do things. If you read through them you will see that everyone is different.

Who knows what you wanted to hear but we all had the decency to try and reply to your thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"For the avoidance of doubt I am referring to those who have been actively chatting...'friends' even. Some very predictable comments though.perhaps you said something they didnt like it does happen you just need to take it on the chin and move on

I have...broad shoulders and all that."
so glad to hear it

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Profile cock shots and rudeness = instant block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So much for lucky Friday the 13th...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This topic isn't new but it is one that will always recur as people struggle with both sexual and fab etiquette (similar but also subtlety different). All comments above are fair but as _ab fem rightly said reactions are always different. As a single fem on here I always try to reply on the civility costs nothing tenet... I have been delighted by the many civil responses BUT there is a healthy dose of responses to a polite no thanks that make you want to tear your hair out. They vary from a "why not" to "can't you just fit me in" (possibly the most offensive response lol) to various really crude/abusive ones. I think this results in many women listing a long line of "dont's on their profiles much to the frustration of genuine males. However basically I won't let anyone bring me down to their level if they can't decipher a polite no thanks, which I do say that clearly then I often reply to clarify but it can push you to the block button. Some will still persist with ridiculous questions even if you've clearly said no. I have found that being polite has led to finding out that there are lots of great single guys in here and alas rude folk of both sexes just make it harder for the rest of us. Ohhh interesting that fab states a no reply is a polite no thank you.., I didn't know that was official lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing says no thanks like a hidden profile xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

There is absolutely no way for us to give an answer to your original question without seeing exactly what happened. So we have all speculated and told you the way we do things. If you read through them you will see that everyone is different.

Who knows what you wanted to hear but we all had the decency to try and reply to your thread "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing says no thanks like a hidden profile xx"

Lmao love that comment xXx

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"This topic isn't new but it is one that will always recur as people struggle with both sexual and fab etiquette (similar but also subtlety different). All comments above are fair but as _ab fem rightly said reactions are always different. As a single fem on here I always try to reply on the civility costs nothing tenet... I have been delighted by the many civil responses BUT there is a healthy dose of responses to a polite no thanks that make you want to tear your hair out. They vary from a "why not" to "can't you just fit me in" (possibly the most offensive response lol) to various really crude/abusive ones. I think this results in many women listing a long line of "dont's on their profiles much to the frustration of genuine males. However basically I won't let anyone bring me down to their level if they can't decipher a polite no thanks, which I do say that clearly then I often reply to clarify but it can push you to the block button. Some will still persist with ridiculous questions even if you've clearly said no. I have found that being polite has led to finding out that there are lots of great single guys in here and alas rude folk of both sexes just make it harder for the rest of us. Ohhh interesting that fab states a no reply is a polite no thank you.., I didn't know that was official lol "

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Great post and very well put

We've had some "interesting" and sometimes persistent replies from a polite and explanatory "thanks but no thanks" lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"This topic isn't new but it is one that will always recur as people struggle with both sexual and fab etiquette (similar but also subtlety different). All comments above are fair but as _ab fem rightly said reactions are always different. As a single fem on here I always try to reply on the civility costs nothing tenet... I have been delighted by the many civil responses BUT there is a healthy dose of responses to a polite no thanks that make you want to tear your hair out. They vary from a "why not" to "can't you just fit me in" (possibly the most offensive response lol) to various really crude/abusive ones. I think this results in many women listing a long line of "dont's on their profiles much to the frustration of genuine males. However basically I won't let anyone bring me down to their level if they can't decipher a polite no thanks, which I do say that clearly then I often reply to clarify but it can push you to the block button. Some will still persist with ridiculous questions even if you've clearly said no. I have found that being polite has led to finding out that there are lots of great single guys in here and alas rude folk of both sexes just make it harder for the rest of us. Ohhh interesting that fab states a no reply is a polite no thank you.., I didn't know that was official lol "
spot on how people take rejection whether it's ignored messages or a polite no thank you makes all the difference and those who spit the dummy In my opinion deserve to be blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This topic isn't new but it is one that will always recur as people struggle with both sexual and fab etiquette (similar but also subtlety different). All comments above are fair but as _ab fem rightly said reactions are always different. As a single fem on here I always try to reply on the civility costs nothing tenet... I have been delighted by the many civil responses BUT there is a healthy dose of responses to a polite no thanks that make you want to tear your hair out. They vary from a "why not" to "can't you just fit me in" (possibly the most offensive response lol) to various really crude/abusive ones. I think this results in many women listing a long line of "dont's on their profiles much to the frustration of genuine males. However basically I won't let anyone bring me down to their level if they can't decipher a polite no thanks, which I do say that clearly then I often reply to clarify but it can push you to the block button. Some will still persist with ridiculous questions even if you've clearly said no. I have found that being polite has led to finding out that there are lots of great single guys in here and alas rude folk of both sexes just make it harder for the rest of us. Ohhh interesting that fab states a no reply is a polite no thank you.., I didn't know that was official lol

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Great post and very well put

We've had some "interesting" and sometimes persistent replies from a polite and explanatory "thanks but no thanks" lol "

Well thanking you kindsexypeeps xXx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This topic isn't new but it is one that will always recur as people struggle with both sexual and fab etiquette (similar but also subtlety different). All comments above are fair but as _ab fem rightly said reactions are always different. As a single fem on here I always try to reply on the civility costs nothing tenet... I have been delighted by the many civil responses BUT there is a healthy dose of responses to a polite no thanks that make you want to tear your hair out. They vary from a "why not" to "can't you just fit me in" (possibly the most offensive response lol) to various really crude/abusive ones. I think this results in many women listing a long line of "dont's on their profiles much to the frustration of genuine males. However basically I won't let anyone bring me down to their level if they can't decipher a polite no thanks, which I do say that clearly then I often reply to clarify but it can push you to the block button. Some will still persist with ridiculous questions even if you've clearly said no. I have found that being polite has led to finding out that there are lots of great single guys in here and alas rude folk of both sexes just make it harder for the rest of us. Ohhh interesting that fab states a no reply is a polite no thank you.., I didn't know that was official lol spot on how people take rejection whether it's ignored messages or a polite no thank you makes all the difference and those who spit the dummy In my opinion deserve to be blocked "

Agreed my dear xXx

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