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By *lawless dove OP   Woman
over a year ago

bothwell

Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Sounds a tad selfish if you ask me ..wants his cake and eat it ..then it depends on whether you want to be at HIS beck and call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else"

Cake and Eat it springs to mind . Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people it works for but I'd say that's because it's happened naturally and it's the same for both parties. I think if someone asks for it then it's unlikely to ever work x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does he want exclusivity?

That would be my first question. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He just might be asking all girls the same thing...I guess if you like him OP you will already know your next move...Nike trainers on and run quicker than Usian Bolt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he going to offer exclusivity to you in return?

If not then it is hardly fair.

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By *lawless dove OP   Woman
over a year ago

bothwell

He maintains I'm the only one he's meeting and that he's hardly on here. Already told him I have other friends I like to meet both socially and for fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else"

Yes, it's happened, told him to do one

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"He maintains I'm the only one he's meeting and that he's hardly on here. Already told him I have other friends I like to meet both socially and for fun. "

Then there is your answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are exclusive to each other surely then that is a relationship. Or at the very least an affair. I would say do what feels right to you tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here twice. One couldnt handle seeing other verifications from other people. Called it cheating on him.

Ask just to see him. That isnt the point of being a swinger.

The other left here happy to just meet myself. Stuck to it but Harley see each other now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is he going to offer exclusivity to you in return?

If not then it is hardly fair. "

That's a good answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He maintains I'm the only one he's meeting and that he's hardly on here. Already told him I have other friends I like to meet both socially and for fun.

Then there is your answer "

That's a good answer to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been here twice. One couldnt handle seeing other verifications from other people. Called it cheating on him.

Ask just to see him. That isnt the point of being a swinger.

The other left here happy to just meet myself. Stuck to it but Harley see each other now."

Bloody heck my mind confuddled that's a good answer to

I think my answer would be.we met on a swinging site.if you want exclusivity then takes it out of a swinging domain and puts it in a monogamous relationship.which 60percent of the time does not work with a swinging lifestyle.so thank you for the compliment but I'm a swinger and we not compatible.....thats just my take on it ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else"

yep ... and it never went down well when i said no .. especially since im pretty sure it was only going to be exclusive in one direction

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else

yep ... and it never went down well when i said no .. especially since im pretty sure it was only going to be exclusive in one direction "

Hmmmmm I'm pretty sure you're right there

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else"
No as it states clearly on my profile what Im looking for.

But on here so many say they aint looking for it when their actions prove otherwise.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Like it or lump it there are feelings there its entirely your choice how to proceed. The worst thing you could do is say nothing will only cause angst

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Like it or lump it there are feelings there its entirely your choice how to proceed. The worst thing you could do is say nothing will only cause angst"

I agree, you need to say either way and quickly. Don't leave him hanging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like the controlling type, probably best to avoid a full on relationship with him as it looks like it will only go one way (in our opinion)

To want to have that much say over somebody you are not, or don't want to be, in a relationship with isn't healthy

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else

yep ... and it never went down well when i said no .. especially since im pretty sure it was only going to be exclusive in one direction "

The pretty lady has got it spot on

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not uncommon to meet someone and then decide your only going to play together, but from my experience I would say that then leads to emotions building up,which is fantastic if it is both what you want but not of its going to end in tears.

Has he suggested you meet other cpls/woman/men together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been here twice. One couldnt handle seeing other verifications from other people. Called it cheating on him.

Ask just to see him. That isnt the point of being a swinger.

The other left here happy to just meet myself. Stuck to it but Harley see each other now.

Bloody heck my mind confuddled that's a good answer to

I think my answer would be.we met on a swinging site.if you want exclusivity then takes it out of a swinging domain and puts it in a monogamous relationship.which 60percent of the time does not work with a swinging lifestyle.so thank you for the compliment but I'm a swinger and we not compatible.....thats just my take on it ha "

I agree with this... It doesn't work for most, good luck xxx

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By *p4funduoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else"

No way ... unless u are both free to have a relationship and both want one ....just say no lass!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else"

Seriously

I don't even know what the point in mentioning this. You know yourself what the answer is.

he's wanting his cake and bet he intends to eat tons of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else

Seriously

I don't even know what the point in mentioning this. You know yourself what the answer is.

he's wanting his cake and bet he intends to eat tons of it

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Interesting that this is what a lot of the men are saying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He just might be asking all girls the same thing...I guess if you like him OP you will already know your next move...Nike trainers on and run quicker than Usian Bolt "

Usain Bolt wears Puma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been meeting a guy for a few weeks now and he's just messaged to ask for exclusivity. Doesn't want a relationship just wants me to only meet him.

Has this happened to anyone else"

I've had this happen more than a few times and it becomes a bit annoying.

Just gotta be quite blunt and make sure there's no room for any misunderstanding.

Lx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you try and meet others as a couple and have fun. That way you may see what he's all about!!

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