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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Hi, I am very new to this world and was wondering what makes a good first message? I've sent a few "hiya fancy a chat" then it dawned on me it's a pretty crap way to meet people as unless I wanted a chat I probably wouldn't reply to a message like that. Xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I generally pick up on something from their profile and send a message based on that. I wouldn't bother opening a message that said 'hi fancy a chat' cause you can read that without opening the message. Imagination and humour go a long way for me but I do generally look myself when I'm interested in meeting someone. It's very rare that someone will message me and I'm interested.

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Each to their own...some people will respond to anything. Others wont...

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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Thanks dirty girl. I'm so bad at this lol I really sit for ages trying to think of something to say but my mind just blanks. I've never really been good at speaking to people I don't know lol

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Thanks dirty girl. I'm so bad at this lol I really sit for ages trying to think of something to say but my mind just blanks. I've never really been good at speaking to people I don't know lol"

I'd be inclined to join in posting in the forums and that way you can pick up on humour and interests from people in your area. It makes it easier to approach people once you've shared a little banter.

It works differently for lots of people, you just need to find what you're comfortable with. There are lots of friendly souls here and I'm sure you'll have no problem finding people to chatter to.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Thanks dirty girl. I'm so bad at this lol I really sit for ages trying to think of something to say but my mind just blanks. I've never really been good at speaking to people I don't know lol

I'd be inclined to join in posting in the forums and that way you can pick up on humour and interests from people in your area. It makes it easier to approach people once you've shared a little banter.

It works differently for lots of people, you just need to find what you're comfortable with. There are lots of friendly souls here and I'm sure you'll have no problem finding people to chatter to. "
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Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I am very new to this world and was wondering what makes a good first message? I've sent a few "hiya fancy a chat" then it dawned on me it's a pretty crap way to meet people as unless I wanted a chat I probably wouldn't reply to a message like that. Xx"

Unblock single guys lol

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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

In my experience it's easy to work out from single guys messages why there single lol

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By *cotsteveMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

We're not all knuckle dragging idiots

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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

No your Deffo not. Just around 90% of the ones that messaged me. I swear I received hundreds from guys that very clearly didn't take the time to read my profile.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Sometimes it's like being messaged by Beavis and Butthead

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Comment on whatever made you notice that profile in the first place.

It doesn't need to be a long winded message. If they are interested in chatting they will reply from a 'Hi' message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response

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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's females I'm messaging though xx

Thanks for all you reply very much appreciated xx

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"It's females I'm messaging though xx

Thanks for all you reply very much appreciated xx"

I'm away to cry. I haven't had a message

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Your female say what ya like most will hang on every word

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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Not other females that have heard it all before but from men..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tired many, many ways. From massive texts containing proof I've read their profiles to simple quick one liners. Nothing works for me but maybe I'm just shocking at this! Can't give up tho!

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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You'll get someone one day xx

I think it must be a lot harder for guys. I literally got hundreds of messages in just a few days that I gave up reading and blocking all obvious Pricks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll get someone one day xx

I think it must be a lot harder for guys. I literally got hundreds of messages in just a few days that I gave up reading and blocking all obvious Pricks. "

Hopefully it a lot harder for guys cause I've had 2 replies and then they went silent! X

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Just do what I do - become a pirate and offer to share cake

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By *ripleXrateD OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Does that work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response "

Spot on. Dont think a single female mailing a guy needs that many words though.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response "

From a bloke perhaps.

If I got that I'd assume it was a single bloke in a girls profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response

From a bloke perhaps.

If I got that I'd assume it was a single bloke in a girls profile. "

You can tell when it's a guy pretending to be a female/couple when after 3 messages it turns to sex talk

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Good point, well presented!

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Does that work lol"

More often than you'd think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find a detailed rant in broken English about what we'd like to do to the girl / female half of a couple goes down really well. Especially if we pretend the male half doesn't exist.

Mr Jigsaw

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