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Is Honesty is the Best Policy?

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By *un69forus OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ayr

Ok not sure if we are doing the right thing posting this – but here goes!

The majority of us on this site are looking for ‘friends with benefits’ and for the most part we are honest in what we are wanting. It is not our place to judge other people – however we are getting a tad hacked off at ‘couples’ who turn out to be singles either male or female! Having said that, I again repeat, that it is not our place to judge you but honesty really is the best policy. If you are ‘attached’ and you are looking for NSA fun, in our opinion you would get more respect and response if you were honest. Our profile says ‘looking for couples’ but occasionally we will seek out singles male – or female ( I love to see Mr F with a lady) and it is not our God given right to judge you as everyone’s circumstances are different. However we do reserve the right to know if we are playing with a ‘real’ single or ‘attached’ single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a lottery, some of the most honest,and with super swinging integrity dont get a second look yet Mr slimeball says all the right things, ticks all your boxes, has his fun then oh goodness is that the time must dash (to the wife),lol

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask for their home phone number so you can call them. 99% of married men wont give it to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find honesty is the best policy ..... and if some can't handle the truth , tough its thier problem not ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"However we do reserve the right to know if we are playing with a ‘real’ single or ‘attached’ single.

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You absolutely have that right.

We both play alone and are always very upfront about it, to the extent that we offer the person our other halfs mobile number if they want to check we're being above board.

Also we have no trouble meeting together with ppl socially even if only one of us is going to be playing with them. That way they know we're 100% genuine and we both know what the other is doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ask for their home phone number so you can call them. 99% of married men wont give it to you"

And married women will? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If peeps are honest, then they will get honesty returned. Tell the truth and shame the devil. People will respect you more for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ask for their home phone number so you can call them. 99% of married men wont give it to you"

I'm a single female and I wont give out my home phone number, nothing to hide but family to protect, my private life stays private unless they are really good friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single female and I wont give out my home phone number, nothing to hide but family to protect, my private life stays private unless they are really good friends. "

Quite right too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AS your not being judgemental i think most Honest guys if they are attached would tell you once they got to know you and you all wanted to meet up. But and this is a big But, there are a lot of people on the site who are very judgemental of married or attached guys, playing away as they put it. Dont see what people have got to be judgemental about in my opinion.

Live and let live, dont judge people least you wish to be judged back. Most people learn as they go along what to look out for and to put negitive or bad eposodes behind them and concentrate on the nice folk on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"AS your not being judgemental i think most Honest guys if they are attached would tell you once they got to know you and you all wanted to meet up."

When they got to know you? Why then? Why not right away if they are "honest" about it?

In fact, why not put attached but playing away on the profile, then ppl can make up their minds whether to contact them or not instead of finding out after a month of chatting that they have a partner who has no idea they do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But and this is a big But, there are a lot of people on the site who are very judgemental of married or attached guys, playing away as they put it. Dont see what people have got to be judgemental about in my opinion."

Tell that to all the ppl on the site who have been on the receiving end of backlash from the partner of the person who happened to forget to mention they were married/attached.

I think that'd change your opinion somewhat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we were to meet single guys (which i know we don't meet to play with) we would rather know the score straight away and hear their story, to make our minds up, rather than a pack of lies then get the truth later down the line. Most single guys have 'honest, genuine guy' on their profile, but if they are not telling the truth at the offset of a meet, then surely they are not 'honest, genuine guy' are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But and this is a big But, there are a lot of people on the site who are very judgemental of married or attached guys, playing away as they put it. Dont see what people have got to be judgemental about in my opinion.

Tell that to all the ppl on the site who have been on the receiving end of backlash from the partner of the person who happened to forget to mention they were married/attached.

I think that'd change your opinion somewhat!"

This is also another reason why we don't meet single guys. I know exactly how i would be if Mr Sticky played away as a single and didn't tell me about this site, if i was a non swinging partner, and i know that i would hunt down the woman that he had played away with.

Mind you - i am a redhead, so its prolly just best to back away when i get mad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is always the best policy, u do have a tendency to come un-stuck, if u tell lies, if you chat to the person, in the chatroom, and there not your type, just be straight and let them know, its not my place to judge other folk, and i dont have that luxury, but as a single guy, i look for nsa fun- but not in the business of lying to anyone, and i never would do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So is anyone using this thread as a bit of self-advertising? lol

Be honest now,,,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not self advertising here - probably scaring more people off than attracting them

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Honesty is always the best policy, u do have a tendency to come un-stuck, if u tell lies, if you chat to the person, in the chatroom, and there not your type, just be straight and let them know, its not my place to judge other folk, and i dont have that luxury, but as a single guy, i look for nsa fun- but not in the business of lying to anyone, and i never would do that"

absolutely agree with you........

I swing with a clear conscience...

I know That I am not hurting anyone...

I wish people would be honest about it from the beginning.. and I mean in profiles.... because then you are giving people the entire picture and allow people the choice to decide on ALL the information....

The one thing I hate most is when people decide to "justify" why they are here when they are with someone else who isn't here....you may be looking for sympathy, but getting none from me because those people (married but straying) made a deliberate decision to be here..... that is cold and calculated... sorry but it is...

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

It probably isn't going to happen. Married men get so much crap on here when they are honest about their status, then I am not surprised people hide it.

If people just got on with their own life and just avoided the people they don't want to play with instead of giving them grief, then we may get people being more honest.

As for making the man give out his landline number.......we are a couple and no one would get our landline number, so I wouldn't dream of asking anyone for theirs.

We just do our own checks as to wether someone is single or not.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"AS your not being judgemental i think most Honest guys if they are attached would tell you once they got to know you and you all wanted to meet up.

When they got to know you? Why then? Why not right away if they are "honest" about it?

In fact, why not put attached but playing away on the profile, then ppl can make up their minds whether to contact them or not instead of finding out after a month of chatting that they have a partner who has no idea they do this."

I have got to agree with Xix and Jane here. I was put in the situation whereby the wife contacted me asking to give a message to her husband about one of their children (husband having swore down to me that he was single) - not a nice situation to be put in!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"AS your not being judgemental i think most Honest guys if they are attached would tell you once they got to know you and you all wanted to meet up.

When they got to know you? Why then? Why not right away if they are "honest" about it?

In fact, why not put attached but playing away on the profile, then ppl can make up their minds whether to contact them or not instead of finding out after a month of chatting that they have a partner who has no idea they do this.

I have got to agree with Xix and Jane here. I was put in the situation whereby the wife contacted me asking to give a message to her husband about one of their children (husband having swore down to me that he was single) - not a nice situation to be put in!!"

I too was put in a position where i had a guy from here's pregnant girlfriend text and call me constantly for two days asking who i was as she'd found my name on his phone he told me he was single not a nice thing to go thro and certainly not nice for the girlfriend JUST BE HONEST GUYS

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By *over-manMan
over a year ago

motherwell

iam honest and i still find it hard to get a meet

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By *if42Man
over a year ago

dundee

Honesty is best policy as far as I'm concerned for many of the reasons already stated...however I always feel a little bit of a fraud saying what I've said here is honest in as much as I'm playing away without partners knowledge so saying I'm honest is a bit of a contradiction!

Well I say playing away but not sure if it's my profile - really need to update it! - or chat that mean it's difficult to find anyone to chat to *lol*

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