FabSwingers.com forum: why is it so hard for a single guy on here??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everywhere I look I see guys having problems with getting meets, which is like me. I don't know what I'm doing wrong but I know I'm not doing it right lol anyway any fab help would do!!

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

OP, we're not supposed to mention other competing sites on here, but maybe try 'instashag.com'?

However, having already got a veri within your first 6 weeks on the site, a lot of guys would wonder what you were complaining about!

But just remember the 3 'p's; patience, patience, patience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep but that was just a social meet lol thanks

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Not everyone struggles

think too many guys come on here with a waayyyyy wrong perception of what site is all about which makes it easier on here for those that do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 3 meetings this week so far.......what am I doing wrong lol

Happy Fabbing all

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By *ostEligibleBachelorMan
over a year ago

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"Not everyone struggles

think too many guys come on here with a waayyyyy wrong perception of what site is all about which makes it easier on here for those that do

I don't know what people expect on here but this site is class and it's easy enough to get meets arranged if you have the right attitude, profile text/pics and chat! The amount of women whom I'm friends with on here who tell me the types of mails they're getting from some guys on here lol... Depends on your approach too I guess lol

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

"Not everyone struggles

think too many guys come on here with a waayyyyy wrong perception of what site is all about which makes it easier on here for those that do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree totally with above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep but that was just a social meet lol thanks"

There is a lot of men who have been members for over a year and never have had the experience of "just a social"

Be grateful and patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading profiles before you message will get you more replies and possibly more meets.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it's not hard at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough, any singles guys we have met, never complain about how hard it is here, how do they get a meet etc etc. They are always well verified, so it must work for some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a virtue mate

I've been here nearly 2 months and haven't even got as far as a social lol but I've discovered that the forums are a much better place to meet people than simply messaging people

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

The forums will give people an idea of your personality, and if they'd click with you. Shame only 1-2% of the site actually use it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums will give people an idea of your personality, and if they'd click with you. Shame only 1-2% of the site actually use it! "

To be honest when I first joined I thought it was all about sending winks and messages but I find the forums more enjoyable, like you said you get a better idea of people's personalities on here than you do from a profile

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

"Not everyone struggles

think too many guys come on here with a waayyyyy wrong perception of what site is all about which makes it easier on here for those that do

I would totally agree with my friend here

It's not hard for a decent, well mannered man to get a meet at all. I've met some really nice men in here. However, some men need to really consider both their approach and their profile contents.

I'm sure I speak for a lot of women here when I say that a polite, individually written introduction and a nice face pic will be 100x more effective than a dick pic and an offer of a hook up in your car/lorry/woods behind your house!!!

Women get a lot of messages here and can afford to be picky so make yourself worth her while!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its no different for a single guy or lady on here. If the profile or attitude aren't good then its going to be a struggle.

If you make an effort you reap the rewards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone struggles

think too many guys come on here with a waayyyyy wrong perception of what site is all about which makes it easier on here for those that do

I would totally agree with my friend here

It's not hard for a decent, well mannered man to get a meet at all. I've met some really nice men in here. However, some men need to really consider both their approach and their profile contents.

Women get a lot of messages here and can afford to be picky so make yourself worth her while!

I'm a decent well mannered man lol still haven't had a meet, my chat up technique must be very poor

lol and for the record I've never used any of the lines mentioned in your post lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawn

Sorry op, but check out the 5 million other threads on this very subject!

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its no different for a single guy or lady on here. If the profile or attitude aren't good then its going to be a struggle.

If you make an effort you reap the rewards."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because women get a good few messages a day with the contents of - "fancy a fuck", "do you know another female who could join us" "what size are your tits" and so on.... it becomes boring after the 10th time that day.... so we tend to get pissed off and cba. Shame for the decent guys who sometimes you'll miss out on because the eejits on here just make you want to chop their fingers off so they can't send another shitty message

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It's just as hard for single females who have standards....trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really had a problem getting meets as a single guy x

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By *nstant_classicMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I know the struggle well, I've also been let down on a few occasions too. It's definitely harder for single men to meet.

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By *implyJayGeeMan
over a year ago

Garthamlock

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By *implyJayGeeMan
over a year ago

Garthamlock

"it's not hard at all."

You stop boasting you lol

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By *implyJayGeeMan
over a year ago

Garthamlock

I agree though, despite reading profiles and only messaging ones I think are a match, it seems a lot just like their ego to be massaged and after deleting a message, most likely having not read it, then go on and block you for no reason other than for having the audacity to try and get to know someone. On the flip side the messages I have received from some are just complete wastes of time, works both ways fella, just gotta stick at it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because women get a good few messages a day with the contents of - "fancy a fuck", "do you know another female who could join us" "what size are your tits" and so on.... it becomes boring after the 10th time that day.... so we tend to get pissed off and cba. Shame for the decent guys who sometimes you'll miss out on because the eejits on here just make you want to chop their fingers off so they can't send another shitty message

I am always nice and polite and try get to know people but get more chatting off the guys lol think they trying to turn me!!!

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By *ot_usMan
over a year ago

Ayr

Think some of the woman think they are porn stars

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Well, I've just had a rambling message from a young guy about what he wanted to do to me. No mention of my man, or even a hello.

So there's one reason single guys have difficulty on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well, I've just had a rambling message from a young guy about what he wanted to do to me. No mention of my man, or even a hello.

So there's one reason single guys have difficulty on here

I don't mind talking tobthey guy lol and don't mind being there with men but I'm straight!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

So is my man. It's still good manners to acknowledge his presence

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Not everyone struggles

think too many guys come on here with a waayyyyy wrong perception of what site is all about which makes it easier on here for those that do

This

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Think some of the woman think they are porn stars "

And some guys think it's instashag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get in touch with a couple, chances are the hubby/partner will be there, so you might as well acknowledge him at least. There have been times where my hubby has shown me a message from a guy he thought I might like, my hubby was on his side lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think some of the woman think they are porn stars

And some guys think it's instashag

Yep and seen a few statuses of women doing the same lol works both ways x

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

I'd say it's poor profile and a poor attitude. If you are single and not feeling the pleasure of a new women once a month from here or pof then you are probably better cutting off your dick.

Being alluring online is not difficult. I was on pof and had a bad picture of myself on it on purpose. I NEVER HAD A SOCIAL. I met women who liked me so much they got on a plane to see me, met me with my arm in plaster, met me because I was a nice guy so it's ok to share a hotel room(but nothing is going to happen)

the list goes on and on and on.

It's way way more tricky as a couple as I'm taking the safety and wellbeing of an 18 year old woman into account.

As a single on here and pof I would have a roster a of about 6 women.

Six is all you need and can maintain.

But if you are not willing to take a look at yourself and your own profile then you are going to be picking up the scraps.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"it's not hard at all.

You stop boasting you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is more chance of getting laid if you use dating sites and or try and pick up a woman on a night out etc.

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By *ot_usMan
over a year ago

Ayr

Instashag is shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Instashag is shit"

Don't say that to Bothy ffs! He's got shares in it!

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

Any advice I give is -

1, Read the profile

2, Do ask profile asks, ie send pics etc. If you don't, expect to be ignored and blocked.

3, If you send a cock pic as your only pic prepare to be ignored and blocked.

4, If you send a one line message again expect to be ignored and blocked.

5, Some women are what some may call fussy, deal with it. Nobody is going to let you join them if you have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp or you have a bad attitude.

6, Face pics are exactly that. Not with hat, sunglasses or taken from a mile away. Do that and guess what? Ignored and blocked.

There's probably more but it's a start. Take this as helpful advice. Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around here 5% of the guys get 100% of the meets (stats for illustration purposes only

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Basically it's not difficult but a large amount of guys are yet to master the art of selling themselves to those they want to meet.

Your pictures, your profile and how you message are all a part of this - I suggest checking out the guys in your area who are doing well and taking note!

In addition to that there is also the caveat that even doing all of the above may get you nowhere, a few days ago there was a poor guy who asked (based on his face pic) if women would meet him, I left the topic after approx 50 women gave the answer 'no'. Attraction important and,for some,no amount of good messaging will help with that !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone will be doing a update really soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Around here 5% of the guys get 100% of the meets (stats for illustration purposes only

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Basically it's not difficult but a large amount of guys are yet to master the art of selling themselves to those they want to meet.

Your pictures, your profile and how you message are all a part of this - I suggest checking out the guys in your area who are doing well and taking note!

Now that's great advice. Also take out the bit about living with your parents, major turn off.

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