FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many people have had a confidence boost from swinging? Over the past few months my confidence has been the best it's ever been. I know that the vast majority of chat from people is pure pish and just patter but there's the odd one who you know it's genuine. I've made two friends in particular on here who've really boosted my confidence no ends. So much so that I've been able to make much needed changes in my life that make me feel better in general as well. Even friends and family have noticed that I carry myself differently.

So yeah, IMO shagging makes you feel better about your wobbly bits! What Say you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

Loving the pure pish and banter

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

I absolutely agree with you. I had absolutely no body confidence and I never believed I was particularly attractive but being part of the "scene" has really given me a huge coincidence boost, allowed me to really be myself and just enjoy the fun!

It's a fantastic site and full of truly lovely people! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't really comment about the swinging side as I'm fairly new to the scene and haven't really had any meets yet, but I think I know what you mean, when someone really makes you feel like you're wanted and desired and that they are extremely attracted to you mind body and soul then yes that's a major confidence boost and makes you feel on top of the world, glad you're getting that feeling from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree met a few folk gave me a massive boost and not so shy now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Most people I've spoke to or met both socially and for fun have been absolute gems. There's the odd nugget out there who you wonder how they managed to escape or were brought up by animals but they're in the minority thank god

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still have zero self confidence. Working on it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm chuffed for you making that change and making yourself feel good. You do seem so much more confident than when we first met.

Btw you are gorgeous and I'm glad you finally know it xx

To answer your question, yes I'm starting to feel more confident but don't always like what I see in the mirror.

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By *ifefunseekersCouple
over a year ago

St Andrews

We've not had a meet yet, but even just the attention J has had on the site has made a difference over the last week.

Onwards, and upwards!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm chuffed for you making that change and making yourself feel good. You do seem so much more confident than when we first met.

Btw you are gorgeous and I'm glad you finally know it xx

To answer your question, yes I'm starting to feel more confident but don't always like what I see in the mirror. "

Aww thank you

I would never say I was gorgeous though lol just that I'm feeling more confident about what I've been given lol. I still don't always like what I see either but I'm not getting complaints so I won't either

You should feel confident! You have so much going for you!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Stands in corner hand up waving ....ME ME ME !!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We've not had a meet yet, but even just the attention J has had on the site has made a difference over the last week.

Onwards, and upwards!

Glad to hear it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I look good from behind but having kids and c sections really has took its toll on my stomach. I can't do meets fully naked, always cover up with some kink. But I'm getting tired of feeling uncomfortable with basques and being restricted.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things."

Can I just say you have an amazing figure! I'd kill to have a bum like yours x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things."

Aww thanks Hun

i love being in your company as well cos you just seem to get me and my daftness lol

You're another one who should be confident about yourself! I'm at the point now where I think fuck it! Could be worse, my tits could be round my knees like a pair of spaniels ears but they're not lol. My stomach could be better but I've had a kid and that's my badge of honour. Still getting it sorted one day though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.

Aww thanks Hun

i love being in your company as well cos you just seem to get me and my daftness lol

Definitely not spaniels ears because I had a good grope of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a kid too but i cant loose my tummy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.

Can I just say you have an amazing figure! I'd kill to have a bum like yours x"

Aaww thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.

Aww thanks Hun

i love being in your company as well cos you just seem to get me and my daftness lol

Definitely not spaniels ears because I had a good grope of them

I had a very good bra on though lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better off x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Better off x"

My bra? It's strapping in a lot of boobage though!

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

I always feel much more confident with some matching lingerie and a Hollywood wax!

Works every time!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always feel much more confident with some matching lingerie and a Hollywood wax!

Works every time! "

I think most women do. I feel great when I've got something nice and a pair of killer heels on.

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

"I always feel much more confident with some matching lingerie and a Hollywood wax!

Works every time!

I think most women do. I feel great when I've got something nice and a pair of killer heels on. "

I have to say, getting a Hollywood always makes me feel amazing!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Ok i have to ask ...cause i cant be bothered googling lol whats a hollywood wax lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things."

I have a bad c section stomach but have learnt to say f*ck it over the years, and being on here has helped a lot with that.

Dundee lass - you know I would kill to have your norks and you have stunning eyes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok i have to ask ...cause i cant be bothered googling lol whats a hollywood wax lol "

A Hollywood wax is when you get the whole lot, front to back, off.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I had no confidence in myself at all until I met C and he introduced me to swinging. Now I feel happy and a little bit sexy. Still don't like what I see in the mirror either but it's much better than it used to be, and I'm loving life at the moment.

The best thing I ever did was give that man my number!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Ok i have to ask ...cause i cant be bothered googling lol whats a hollywood wax lol

A Hollywood wax is when you get the whole lot, front to back, off. "

Oouuuuuch

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.

I have a bad c section stomach but have learnt to say f*ck it over the years, and being on here has helped a lot with that.

Dundee lass - you know I would kill to have your norks and you have stunning eyes!"

Are you kidding me! I never messaged you guys first cos I thought you were stunning hahahaha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.

I have a bad c section stomach but have learnt to say f*ck it over the years, and being on here has helped a lot with that.

Dundee lass - you know I would kill to have your norks and you have stunning eyes!

Are you kidding me! I never messaged you guys first cos I thought you were stunning hahahaha. "

Awww I can only imagine what Talls sense of humour has done for your impression of us lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had no confidence in myself at all until I met C and he introduced me to swinging. Now I feel happy and a little bit sexy. Still don't like what I see in the mirror either but it's much better than it used to be, and I'm loving life at the moment.

The best thing I ever did was give that man my number!

I would never think that speaking to you. You're such a confident person!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.

I have a bad c section stomach but have learnt to say f*ck it over the years, and being on here has helped a lot with that.

Dundee lass - you know I would kill to have your norks and you have stunning eyes!

Are you kidding me! I never messaged you guys first cos I thought you were stunning hahahaha.

Awww I can only imagine what Talls sense of humour has done for your impression of us lol "

He's lucky I've got a juvenile sense of humour too hahaha

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I always feel much more confident with some matching lingerie and a Hollywood wax!

Works every time!

I think most women do. I feel great when I've got something nice and a pair of killer heels on.

I have to say, getting a Hollywood always makes me feel amazing!"

Yep, me too!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

The best thing I ever did was give that man my number!

I would never think that speaking to you. You're such a confident person! "

Maybe next time I'll show you some old photos of myself and you'll see, lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The best thing I ever did was give that man my number!

I would never think that speaking to you. You're such a confident person!

Maybe next time I'll show you some old photos of myself and you'll see, lol "

One of my friends was up the other morning and I showed him a pic of me from two years ago and he didn't believe it was me hahaha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no expectations , as a single guy on here it's all been pretty grim for me thus far , I've been around both as a couple and as a single and also dipped my toe in the social scene , all I can say is , I still haven't found what I'm looking for , strange people out there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've no expectations , as a single guy on here it's all been pretty grim for me thus far , I've been around both as a couple and as a single and also dipped my toe in the social scene , all I can say is , I still haven't found what I'm looking for , strange people out there

There's strange people everywhere. the world would be boring if there wasn't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for a single guy on here it can be soul destroying and confidence shattering if you take FAB too seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"for a single guy on here it can be soul destroying and confidence shattering if you take FAB too seriously"

It can be for a woman as well. The absolute shit I've had for saying someone wasn't my type or for just existing is absolutely disgusting!

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

"Ok i have to ask ...cause i cant be bothered googling lol whats a hollywood wax lol

A Hollywood wax is when you get the whole lot, front to back, off.

Oouuuuuch

lol "

Totally worth it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place creates egos , delusions , disease and even martyrs and if course kids and the broken hearted. It's nothing more than a jungle , only the strong survive !

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Ok i have to ask ...cause i cant be bothered googling lol whats a hollywood wax lol

A Hollywood wax is when you get the whole lot, front to back, off.

Oouuuuuch

lol

Totally worth it though

Oh i have no doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero expectation , I want good sex that's it , nothing more or less , I'm not here for an ego boost or a reality check, it's all just a bit surreal this , bit tounge cheek , although I do understand that for some people this is there life and feed of Despret males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgive my grammar , I'm thick as fuck I don't wear a suit , but I've got more money than a horse can shite , but you can't but class , what I am but is honest and what you see is what you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had the yr from hell anid both totally lost confidence and once you do its bloody hard to get it back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have had the yr from hell anid both totally lost confidence and once you do its bloody hard to get it back "

I know it's hard to get back but it can be done. A lot of it is a case of fake it until you make it as well. As the saying goes, bullshit baffles brains. If you act confident people believe it and treat you differently and you are likely to feel more confident as a result. That's my story and I'm sticking to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my confidence has grown a lot x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my confidence has grown a lot x

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By *ollydimplesWoman
over a year ago

hamilton

Defo boosted my confidence on here .. i know some guys will say anything if they think they will get in your knickers but some are really genuine and if u can sort out what one your talking to it helps lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Defo boosted my confidence on here .. i know some guys will say anything if they think they will get in your knickers but some are really genuine and if u can sort out what one your talking to it helps lol x"

Definitely agree. I got the sweetest message about this thread from a friend a little while ago that put a massive smile on my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined here after I found out my bf had been cheating with someone from here. My confidence was lower than it had ever been. Slowly but surely after chatting to a few guys, 1 in particular, I'm now back to being my old self again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has something they dislike/they'd change...

Surely if u feel less restricted without clothing the guy is gonna be to engrossed to notice a silly thing like a scar? Dimmed lighting, lights off, gradually build ur confidence. Any male/female who points out another's "flaws" ain't much o a person in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many people have had a confidence boost from swinging? Over the past few months my confidence has been the best it's ever been. I know that the vast majority of chat from people is pure pish and just patter but there's the odd one who you know it's genuine. I've made two friends in particular on here who've really boosted my confidence no ends. So much so that I've been able to make much needed changes in my life that make me feel better in general as well. Even friends and family have noticed that I carry myself differently.

So yeah, IMO shagging makes you feel better about your wobbly bits! What Say you? "

I wouldn't say I'm overly confident I just don't give a fuck what people think. Who is anyone to judge nobody is perfect

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By *appyDeviantsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things."
you have more confidence than you think ,you naked in a pair of wellies got me smiling

.Work it miss bee and remember without those scars there would be no little bees $-.Nice to see you back )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You really are happier and I love being in your contagious company

I see a huge difference with you and how you carry yourself

I think I'll probably be the only one who is gonna say I haven't got any confidence and I look at myself worse than before I joined here 3yr ago.

I'm meant to be getting an op but personal reasons I can't because it takes 6wk to recover and I don't have anyone to help me with daily things.you have more confidence than you think ,you naked in a pair of wellies got me smiling

.Work it miss bee and remember without those scars there would be no little bees $-.Nice to see you back )"

Splosh splish splash!

I think I still have a wellie shot somewhere

Ooohhhh nice to see you as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one of those guys with no body confidence, really holds me back I feel on this site unfortunately!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it has worked both ways for us, well mainly the fem half, she is very shy but is getting more confident through meets, nice comments on pics and stuff, but a bad meet she had on her own knocked her a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a thin line between confidence and arrogance/delusion on here. There's some women on here who are truly tragic but because a lot of guys have zero standards and would basically fuck anything these women all of a sudden think they are gods gift to us mere mortals.

Just want to say I'm not saying this is the same with any of the folk who have posted on this thread. I'm glad the OP feels confident though, and so she should.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I've always been a really confidant person anyway.

This place is full of people willing to pass a compliment to you and it's always nice to be complimented on.

But us women ain't daft and know a genuine compliment to a non genuine one lol

There are also quite a few who try to be nasty about things and for many people that is a huge confidance crusher so please engage your brain before making insulting comments you know might crush someone's confidance especially if it's took them a while to build that up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it has worked both ways for us, well mainly the fem half, she is very shy but is getting more confident through meets, nice comments on pics and stuff, but a bad meet she had on her own knocked her a bit.

mr"

Well tell her she should be full of confidence as you two have a brilliant personality and and easy enough to get on with!!

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