FabSwingers.com forum: Cheating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just seen one of my best pals wife on here and she on as a single gal , do I let him know ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Tell her you know and Give her the chance to admit it herself

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By *agic37Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave"

And ask for a BJ

John

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By *rown eyes 8Woman
over a year ago

South Eastern Spain and Scotland

"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave"

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

What would she say if she knew you were on fab?

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By *oftSwingDuoCouple
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Is she verified? As in, a picture collector hasn't taken her pics from Facebook, etc and pretending to be her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think before you say anything. You would be surprised what some people will put up with in a relationship, especially if there's kids or a mortgage involved. You may find yourself the one without a good mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might have agreed to save his marriage !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say nothing and block her. Your mate might hate you for saying anything

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By *enfrew massageMan
over a year ago

renfrewshire

I say arrange a meet with her !! ... lol only joking but I believe what happens on fab stays on fab ... discretion is a must

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I say arrange a meet with her !! ... lol only joking but I believe what happens on fab stays on fab ... discretion is a must "
in your opinion descretions a must. If one of my best mates girlfreinds fiance or wife was on here she would get 24hrs to fess up or I would say to him. Got to laugh at folk who think let my mate get the piss taken out him its fine what happens on fab blah blah blah just my opinion

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By *enfrew massageMan
over a year ago

renfrewshire

who's to say it's not an open relationship ? U never know how couples work ? only way to find out is speak to her and see what she has to say first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a good situation to be in but I would get it confirmed that she is using it and not someone else uploaded her pictures and then take next step and tell her you know! Cheating is not nice if they have troubles at home this won't mend it being on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just seen one of my best pals wife on here and she on as a single gal , do I let him know ? "

Swinging means Discretion.

Block her ..If you message her she ll probably leave However that will cause some atmosphere when you go to your Mates BBQ.

It is a tricky one..But do digest and take your time in whatever you do.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice, it's a hard one to decide on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's her user name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave

And ask for a BJ

John

Ha ha ha ace!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now wudnt you like too know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wee nose at her profile and let us see if she is playing away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away, you don't know why she's here, he may even know, people never know what happens behind closed doors, and always best on this site to stay discreet

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By *rmagiteMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

say hello?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay away, you don't know why she's here, he may even know, people never know what happens behind closed doors, and always best on this site to stay discreet

Agreed

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By *lascumMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Stay away, you don't know why she's here, he may even know, people never know what happens behind closed doors, and always best on this site to stay discreet

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By *cottybhoyMan
over a year ago

falkirk

None of your business in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now wudnt you like too know "

I was having a laugh matey, bit of tongue in cheek banter, lot of good advice on here, only two ways id deal with this, either stay completely clear or if your that concerned have a word with her, either way could lead to your chum being hurt! That's if he doesn't already know, Kinda stuck in a hard place!

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Block her and move on. The less you know about her/his domestic life the better.

Discretion is everything.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I often wonder on threads like these. would you be happy if your friend caught your spouse on here but said nothing would you be happy......kinda know the answer having seen it a few times easy way to think on it op if it was your spouse and your mate caught her would you want to be told

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By *agic37Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave

And ask for a BJ

John

I was tempted to say something similar

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By *eckyWithTheGoodHairWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Block her and move on. The less you know about her/his domestic life the better.

Discretion is everything. "

100% this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave

And ask for a BJ

John

Sexual blackmail is illegal, and on average carries a term of two years in this country. Just sayin'.....

I was tempted to say something similar

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By *44bertCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"Tell her you know and Give her the chance to admit it herself "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put yourself in their shoes would you want to know. I work with a guy who is seperated from his mrs and I know he'd love to get back with her. I just don't have the heart to tell him she is on here.

Morally you should tell your friend but when you joined you wouldve been looking for discretion think about that.

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave

And ask for a BJ

John

Sexual blackmail is illegal, and on average carries a term of two years in this country. Just sayin'.....

I was tempted to say something similar

Asking isn't a crime.... Unless you are asking with a gun pointed at someone

"Just Sayin"

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block her and move on. The less you know about her/his domestic life the better.

Discretion is everything. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt she is the only married woman on fab or married man playing away! We get tonnes of guys texting saying they are single. If they are all single then there must be thousands of single ladies out there!

What happens on Fab stays on fab. Just our thoughts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say nothing. Stay out of it and block so she can't see you.

It's none of your business what goes on. You don't know your mate doesn't know. You just assume.

There are many people on here who play away from their partners. A great many reasons for doing it. No one should be justifying themselves to anyone else on here

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By *arymore1Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I doubt she is the only married woman on fab or married man playing away! We get tonnes of guys texting saying they are single. If they are all single then there must be thousands of single ladies out there!

What happens on Fab stays on fab. Just our thoughts! "
Completely agree, stay out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobodies business but her,s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her for a shag then tell him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Turn a blind eye. It's better than being the bringer of doom. Live and let live. (?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pump her then tell him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he is on here too as a single guy ? Might be an arrangement they have i'd stay well clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my god! Are you really asking for advice about cheating or where too grass someone to there partner on here? (HALF THE PEOPLE ON HERE ARE CHEATING LOL)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the sentiment that what goes on in a marriage is their issue and not yours......block her and forget about it.

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

I think this is a really complex issue.

I'm married myself and I wouldn't hide it at all by pretending to be single as, ironically, I would rather be upfront.

However I am a great believer that no relationship is black and white, life is complicated and everyone has a story so I don't think you can ever judge a relationship based on what you see from the outside.

I keep my real life and my fab life very, very separate and that works to me and I'm comfortable with that.

For your situation, you have no idea what their marriage is like behind closed doors and to make assumptions would be wrong.

I would second what others have said and block her and move on. No good at all will come from telling her you know.

E xx

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By *eather47Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just mind your own business and stop being a sanctimonous prig After all u are a swinger as well and what gives u the right to judge anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see this as a complex issue as it is only the lady and her husbands business. Are fab members now the morality police ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just mind your own business and stop being a sanctimonous prig After all u are a swinger as well and what gives u the right to judge anyone "

if i found my best mates partner on here id tell them.

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By *e_frenchMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

You will surely loose a friend. Think twice if there are kids involved etc you might ruin a whole family...

99.9% sure that they will end up tell you that you ruined their marriage and it was your fault... He will not blame his wife but you...

Best advise I understand how you feel.

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By *avid1Man
over a year ago

Dubai

Block and walk away, it's a mine field you don't want to be walking into.

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By *ong riderMan
over a year ago

belfast

Tell her but let her know you'll keep the secret but only if she becomes your personal little cock whore. Share her amongst your other friends etc soon you'll be able to gang her, taking all her holes etc...but be discreet about it ..you don't want to spoil a good thing

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

I try not to be open minded and try not to gudge too much but holy fuck some comments make my mouth gape and not in a good way

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Tell her but let her know you'll keep the secret but only if she becomes your personal little cock whore. Share her amongst your other friends etc soon you'll be able to gang her, taking all her holes etc...but be discreet about it ..you don't want to spoil a good thing"

Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I

I think your doing the same face as me

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I

I think your doing the same face as me

I would say so

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By *ong riderMan
over a year ago

belfast

Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I

I think your doing the same face as me

I would say so

Knew that idea would go down well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member."
the amount of times I read this is unbelievable we all have a right to judge this do as you want nonsense really is stupid would you not judge a peadophile either then as that would be their choice

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Kola, we understand you feel strongly about cheating, as demonstrated by your many comments on the subject.

However it really is no one else's business. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member.the amount of times I read this is unbelievable we all have a right to judge this do as you want nonsense really is stupid would you not judge a peadophile either then as that would be their choice"

God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.

I'm actually pretty disgusted you would liken the two things both as a parent to young children and as someone who cheated on her ex husband and has spent many years since being the other woman to someone else's!"
its not me saying cant judge or dont you see that. I judge eveyone by my morals I dont pretend to be all kindness and light. My point is where do you stop with I dont judge? It was your choice to cheat it was my choice to be open and honest with my wife. Adultery is still a crime in some nations you may find even in some states of the usa. But because you wish to see it as ok dosnt mean all have too and if you think im the only person your sadly mistaken. Yes their are a multitude of reasons why it happens dosnt make it right. And I wasnt saying peodophilia is right either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.

I'm actually pretty disgusted you would liken the two things both as a parent to young children and as someone who cheated on her ex husband and has spent many years since being the other woman to someone else's!its not me saying cant judge or dont you see that. I judge eveyone by my morals I dont pretend to be all kindness and light. My point is where do you stop with I dont judge? It was your choice to cheat it was my choice to be open and honest with my wife. Adultery is still a crime in some nations you may find even in some states of the usa. But because you wish to see it as ok dosnt mean all have too and if you think im the only person your sadly mistaken. Yes their are a multitude of reasons why it happens dosnt make it right. And I wasnt saying peodophilia is right either"

I don't pretend to be all kindness and light either. And you know what I don't believe cheating is right. And despite the stereotypical image I expect you have of 'the other woman' I'm not some heartless cow out to wreck a marriage. In fact I've suffered in it all and made the decision to be the one to get hurt in order to spare his wife.

My point wasn't about justification for actions. My point was on your comparrison. Which to me was totally out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn a blind eye. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. For all you know he could be playing away also.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.

I'm actually pretty disgusted you would liken the two things both as a parent to young children and as someone who cheated on her ex husband and has spent many years since being the other woman to someone else's!its not me saying cant judge or dont you see that. I judge eveyone by my morals I dont pretend to be all kindness and light. My point is where do you stop with I dont judge? It was your choice to cheat it was my choice to be open and honest with my wife. Adultery is still a crime in some nations you may find even in some states of the usa. But because you wish to see it as ok dosnt mean all have too and if you think im the only person your sadly mistaken. Yes their are a multitude of reasons why it happens dosnt make it right. And I wasnt saying peodophilia is right either

My point wasn't about justification for actions. My point was on your comparrison. Which to me was totally out of order.

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I wasnt calling you anything its entirely your choice what you do what in my opinion you cant expect is everyone not to judge it. Thats what I was getting at everyone claims im non judgmental ........then proclaims how I am wrong to say what I have which in itself is a judgement. or as you yourself wrote calling names. Im not here to say how lovely people are to try and gain their freindship im here to hear diffrent opinions on diffrent subjects and to debate those points I couldnt care less what folk I dont know or have no intrest in think of me im secure in who I am and happy with those I have in my life

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By *iesel89Man
over a year ago

West lothian

Mate it's not your place to say possibly a quiet message to her I don't know how much you have to take into concediration kids etc but don't pure jump the gun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was my mate id msg her saying who.i am and ask.if he knew and if he didnt id tell him as nothing worse than being cheated on ,just my thoughts on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest.... I would think about your friendship and not the relationship! I personally would HATE if my best friend found out my hubby was on a site like this and didn't tell me.

I think they know me enough to know I would want to know shit like that!

What kinda friend would you be otherwise?

Just my opinion though.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest.... I would think about your friendship and not the relationship! I personally would HATE if my best friend found out my hubby was on a site like this and didn't tell me.

I think they know me enough to know I would want to know shit like that!

What kinda friend would you be otherwise?

Just my opinion though.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've nothing to hide tell him you are on the site. Even show him you profile. Let him find out for himself.

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By *ixie and adamCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I would want to know if someone was cheating on me. I know there are reasons etc. and not everyone is the same but that's not really the point. Yes, we want discretion but it's not as though we're in a secret cult and it's forbidden to tell your friend. Would you tell him if you saw her cheating in 'real life'? If so, this is no different. It's a horrible thing to keep from someone just because you don't want to break the news.

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By *anarkshirelassCouple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

People come on here for various reasons and in effect what a person does or decides to do on here is their choice. They don't need any one else's approval.

Fook all do to do with you....stay well alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She might be on here for a lot of reasons , personally it's none of our business , I would block and move on .... Who are we to judge...

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I would want to know if someone was cheating on me. I know there are reasons etc. and not everyone is the same but that's not really the point. Yes, we want discretion but it's not as though we're in a secret cult and it's forbidden to tell your friend. Would you tell him if you saw her cheating in 'real life'? If so, this is no different. It's a horrible thing to keep from someone just because you don't want to break the news. "

But we don't know she is cheating. She may be on with her man's permission. We don't know, and neither does the OP unless he asks his mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say a word nor even talk to her! I agree that nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors and tbh it's nobody's business! if she's wanting to risk her marriage then that's her choice, but I'm sure she's thought long and hard about it before joining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Say nothing. Stay out of it and block so she can't see you.

It's none of your business what goes on. You don't know your mate doesn't know. You just assume.

There are many people on here who play away from their partners. A great many reasons for doing it. No one should be justifying themselves to anyone else on here "

I have to agree with this !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and on here, yes my hubby knows but hus mates don't !! !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares!!

Let's all get d*unk and forget it even happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay away, you don't know why she's here, he may even know, people never know what happens behind closed doors, and always best on this site to stay discreet

This to a T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if your friend has a problem with his mojo and she comes on here for her release?

Or maybe she's looking for another female as a surprise birthday present for him to enjoy two ladies at once?

Or maybe it's him pretending to be her so he can talk to men?

My point is, you don't know the situation. Yes you're his mate and have a duty of care and loyalty to him...but at the end of the day it's got nothing to do with you and doesn't affect you so best to mind your own business I think.

Would you really want to be the reason for causing waves in a marriage?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"What if your friend has a problem with his mojo and she comes on here for her release?

Or maybe she's looking for another female as a surprise birthday present for him to enjoy two ladies at once?

Or maybe it's him pretending to be her so he can talk to men?

Would you really want to be the reason for causing waves in a marriage?

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and in all the scenarios your pointing out his mate knows so no harm in saying then is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if your friend has a problem with his mojo and she comes on here for her release?

Or maybe she's looking for another female as a surprise birthday present for him to enjoy two ladies at once?

Or maybe it's him pretending to be her so he can talk to men?

Would you really want to be the reason for causing waves in a marriage?

But then what happens if she's just being deceitful and being a cheat?

If it was out with fab and I'd had a girlfriend/wife doing it id expect my mates to tell me if they found out.

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By *lyingscotsman696Man
over a year ago

Renfrewshire

mind your own business I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer

Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave

And ask for a BJ

John

Hahahhaa worth a try

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