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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Could somebody explain to me (Nina) what exactly is wrong with women on cam teasing and flirting, and why this is the wrong place to do that?

I mean, I'm sure if I saw a shrink, they'd probably tell me that my parents didn't give me enough cuddles or something, but in the context of a swingers website with web-cam enabled chatrooms, why do so many people seem to have a problem with others engaging in a bit of flirtation?

Just a genuine question! All in the interest of understanding each other better

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By *ot4itcplCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

well speaking as the male half of a cpl, I dont have a problem with it at all.

its all part of the fun of sites like this as far as I am concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the amount of emails we got last weekend calling pamela a tart was pretty funny after we played on cam, just jealousy i think xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well as is my want...

I have no personal issues with a woman shaking her tatas or anything else on cam..lets get that straight...however..

the issues (as i have heard them) is that this then causes the men to direct..the men then get banned...not a good thing.

Some of the women doing this actively encourage directing..and there is a room for this....

Some men get into such a lather that when said women goes off cam..they go in hunt of another to look at and poss direct...

there have been many reasons spoken about. I am not saying that perhaps some people are or are not jelous but that aside it can at times cause issues due to the ..perfectly normal and at times OTT response from the men.

Bottom line..its an adult chat room and as such there has to be tolerance of this sort of thing, i mean being naked, fucking on cam..all acceptable in my opinon. All i would say is that it seems to be the OTT responses that are more the issue..as well as the negative response that some of the non verbal tit flashers cause lol.

not saying i share any or all of those views...but the question was asked.

Vol

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a guys teasing on cam..or ppl would call it..wanking he be shot down in flames 4 it an be told thats wat the DIRECTING ROOM is for..when a fem does it u get ppl starting 2 comment an it ruins chat cause thats wat it is a chatroom..if ppl want 2 show on cam i believe they should go 2 the DIRECTING ROOM..or just having a laught then yea its ok..cause i do it 2 some ppl 4 a laught like 2..himnher i say 2 him u wanty see ya twin an i flash him my tit lol but i couldnt just sit there an show..its no me..but each 2 there own i say xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I hear you all ...

leading on from my initial question and based on your responses to said question ,should we then have a policy whereby no 'naughtiness' goes on on cam except in the directing room for fear that some men will get 'overexcited' and direct?(not being confrontational , at all. really , I'm not )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think that would be too hard to police nina...

i mean what i regard as fun or acceptable may not be the same as the next person.

However i think that if anyone is 'acting' on cam and seeks interraction..then they should go to directing room

I know im fed up getting the drool bucket out when some fems play on cam lol!

vol

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all, Ill add my 2 penneth worth.

Even if a woman is sitting there on cam, fully clothed you get some guys directing its not just cos they are part nekid, flirting or even in a complete state of undress. So, I personally see nothing wrong with it providing that person does not ask to be directed. If certain males cannot hold in the temptation to ask for more then that is their problem, not yours.

I have only ever been in the directing room to watch people I know when they are in there and never interacted but looking at all the comments that are made to the "performing" female or male its right at the other extreme. Also, you dont actually seem to see much chat in there, it is just directing and guys throwing "compliments" at the girls.

It seems that most of the people that are banned from the Scottish room for directing are non-regulars, just venturing in for a nose, the regulars do seem to know not to direct as they now know the consequencies.

I, personnaly would like to have the option of banning members from an individual room either completley or for a variable amount of time. This could act as more of a deterrent. I'd also like for mods to be able to come in the room and observe while invisible to room members.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i wanted to show my dick i will do so on MSN in private, if that's what's required.

Just appreciate my face if i am on cam in the chatroom lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people don't want to see they don't need to watch !!!

Kay xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have a problem with ladies on cam quite the reverse., most are fab, lovely ladies and as such should be treated nice and respected.

I remember one from another site, she has a stunning body, she would sit stripped to the waist touching her lovely breasts ( ffs, am getting aroused thinking about it lol AND NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS )

SHE WOULD GET SWOOPED ON... she would relish it then all of a sudden she would go off on one and rant and rant all in the room, she would go and then be back in 4 hours for a rerun...

she then moved here, changed name..

did the same show and the same rants..

and we had to sit thro it all in the room and its not nice watching it.

now is taking a break because she felt abused..

and to be fair she is a really nice girl..

my2p worth xxx

in summary , nowt wrong with it but understand you will be swooped upon so be prepared and be able to handle it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people don't want to see they don't need to watch !!!

Kay xxx"

its the running comments from guys that i hate when a fems is shower a wee bit xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

For the regular chatters in the room i dont think they have a problem with the odd flirt or show ppl do on cam its the comments that come flooding from window lickers that annoy ppl most......

if MEN just learn to appreciate in silence then chat would be a much nicer place and reason i say MEN is when have u ever saw a WOMEN direct guys on cam in the room ?????

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont have a problem with ladies on cam quite the reverse., most are fab, lovely ladies and as such should be treated nice and respected.

I remember one from another site, she has a stunning body, she would sit stripped to the waist touching her lovely breasts ( ffs, am getting aroused thinking about it lol AND NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS )

SHE WOULD GET SWOOPED ON... she would relish it then all of a sudden she would go off on one and rant and rant all in the room, she would go and then be back in 4 hours for a rerun...

she then moved here, changed name..

did the same show and the same rants..

and we had to sit thro it all in the room and its not nice watching it.

now is taking a break because she felt abused..

and to be fair she is a really nice girl..

my2p worth xxx

in summary , nowt wrong with it but understand you will be swooped upon so be prepared and be able to handle it."

I remember that lady View! she must have washed and dried her hair for those on cam to watch about six times a day!

Again I reiterate when someone like that is performing on cam, inviting direction.. remember the one who used to whisper guys and ask them to do so?... they make it difficult for others on cam.

So many guys can't attract their attention so go off in a heightened state and attempt to direct other people on cam which is really unfair if all you are doing is showing your face on cam to prove you are genuine and interact with friends on their cams also.

Yes I have showered fucked twosomed moresomed and done all sorts on cam ...BUT.... because of certain people being unable to contain their thoughts or restrict voicing them to those they see performing, I now choose to show nothing more than my face on cam...well okay maybe flash a boobers dance to pals occasionally. lol!

I have nothing against people playing on cam , I'm not a hypocrite, my gripe is with the ones secretly inviting direction in an open chat room and those who reply to all femms not just the ones doing the inviting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with ANYONE teasing or foing anything they wish on cam.We all have the choice to view or not view.AS for those who feel need to direct or call anyone a "tart"(PamelaandGordie) for doing so , ,It really is all jealousy.Usually Im drooling far too much to even think straight lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

right aww kiddin an

d jokin aside would some one kindly phone me and let me know when this happens purely so I can answer the question will all honesty lol and for scientific research tae

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"right aww kiddin an

d jokin aside would some one kindly phone me and let me know when this happens purely so I can answer the question will all honesty lol and for scientific research tae "

sends mr 44 new box of kleenex...

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By *_mac55Couple
over a year ago

Perth

We hate rules, mostly because we all make our own rules up as we go along - however - this being a swing site where people are encouraged to expand their sexual horizons we dont really have a problem with people making comments or looking for contact of some kind, actual or cerebral, unless it is rude or persistant.

so, funny, witty, complimentary, pleasantly inquisitive and polite is all ok.

rude, crude and persistant might get a warning, but generally just blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prefer hany andies view my good friend lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"prefer hany andies view my good friend lol

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yu have had andy's handy many times i hear my very good friend lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will give you that one ma guard was doon lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey i luv teased by the hottest fems and i have a bit control,how the hell guys think a lady can act sexy on cam and answer every wanky request from a guy,is daft.

Sit doon, admire, or if yi canny shuup,dont admire, or better still if you canny shuup, get sumone to cuff yer hands behind seat and ohh ok it yer still going to try n type with yer tongue to direct yer gettin a gimpy gag on too,lol

Chats always good in a chatroom though.

T

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Hey i luv teased by the hottest fems and i have a bit control,how the hell guys think a lady can act sexy on cam and answer every wanky request from a guy,is daft.

Sit doon, admire, or if yi canny shuup,dont admire, or better still if you canny shuup, get sumone to cuff yer hands behind seat and ohh ok it yer still going to try n type with yer tongue to direct yer gettin a gimpy gag on too,lol

Chats always good in a chatroom though.

T"

pmsl tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i could look at the cams all day and still come back for more.

without doubt the scottish fems are by far the most gorgeous fems ever.

cam on nina!! and may the swinging god be with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol fugy@swinging god !

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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago

central scotland

Dont watch the cams (maybe have a quick look to see whos there)but dont see the problem with them either wonder if there are a load of Mary Whitehouses on fab? remember you dont have to look whether its a guy wanking or a cpl bonking and if a guy or gal directs when told not to then its nobodys fault but their own if they get in bother as the rules are there to be obeyed and i would thing if they can type "show us your tits" then they can surely read the rules.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

'Mary Whitehouses' pmsl !

I am beginning to think that the issue that some have is that those 'flirting' on Cam draw people's attention away from Chat.A fair enough complaint ,but still does not justify labelling people attention seeking this and that as though they are psychological miscreants and making them('us' lol )feel bad about flirting on cam.Exhibitionism in the right context and environment( such as a swingers'site perhaps???) is a healthy enough sexual preference.

As for the ones who privately encourage directing just for the childish glee of watching some guy get banned - all I can say is,as in all other aspects of life:there will be twats.

About getting swooped on - totally , you have to expect that and handle it appropriately , that includes shooting down in flames the crude and nasty comments as well as having the grace to appreciate the good ones and the sense of humour to laugh at the genuine jokes.

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By *_jkCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Personaly we feel that if people want to pose, tease or perform on cam then go on. As swingers weve surely all seen a stranger with an erection so fail to see how offence should be taken on a swingers site.

We feel it is like watching anything from a film to a tv programme, if you dont like it turn it off. But there are bound to be others who do like it. surely we dont want a strict do and dont list on an adult site.

You keep camming away Nina, its up to others to react in a proper manner.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Always like to dress up in something sexy for my Friday nights in the chat room. It's fun and a good laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this with interest,I've been on chat and saw a fair number of peeps performing on Cam.

As already mentioned when someone innocently makes a complimentay remark that the "hyenas" pounce. This is when the directing starts and this is the only problem I have with it, because more or less every hot blooded male in the room at the time switches their attention to that cam, the room becomes a private perving tool for that particular cam which is detrimental to the rest of chat.

As for the actors complaining about it grow up, if you don't want to be drooled over by he Fabswingers Hyena pack then don't switch your cam on in the chatroom.

I take Pamela's coment on being called a tart, Pam this is not just on cam. I've had discussions with ladies on here before who have advertised in the "Meet Today" section and have been inundated with offers from the same pack of Hyenas, and when a simple "No, sorry got too many offers" are put in from of them they resort to what comes natural to the Non Educated Delinquent and they spout the "tart, whore,etc" comments.

It is hard to Police it but what to do with the pack is report them and then BLOCK them.

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By *egs4uWoman
over a year ago

somewhere around

hey nina hun

I dont have a problem with anyone teasing or flirting on cam, but its when some ppl actively encourage others to direct them.

There was one instance not long ago where all us fems had to turn our cams off as the fem left the room and we were left with the whispers trying to direct the rest of us with quite disgusting suggestions, i get so pissed off with it!!!!!

I do think if you want to fuck on cam you should take it to the directing room as the comments that then appear in the room lead to ppl being banned and disrupt peeps chat.

foxi

xxx

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