FabSwingers.com forum: No news before meeting

By *e_french OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Hi All,

Sorry this is something I do not understand. I apologise in advance for ranting...

It happened a few times, you agree on a date time and place to meet up with someone.

24 hours before meeting the person is not answering and you can see that the person is online.

I just do not get it why people act that way. Either you wish to meet someone and you play the game or if not just be honest from the beginning.

If there would be any tips to avoid it I would take it.

I do not get people promising the moon and not even bothered to message to tell that they do not want to meet...

Things should be simple either this is a yes or a no.

But at least a message does not cost a penny.

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By *ollydimplesWoman
over a year ago

hamilton

It drives me mad ..i dont tend to get ignored but do get some pretty poor excuses on why they suddenly cant make it

i think a lot on here are only looking to chat and dont actually want to meet ..

thats fine if they say that upfront instead of wasting peoples time

i dont get a lot of free time so when it happens it really pisses me off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same it's happened a few times to me.you make plans and they cancel or just ignore you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because some people like the idea of meets, but when push comes to shove, they crap out of it!

Soooo frustrating!!!

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Its simple .....you choose them change your methods

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Its simple .....you choose them change your methods "

this ....and my reason for that is i have been on this scene for alot of years and hear this very rant often tho never experienced it myself with my single profile or with our couples profile ...think alot of this comes from some people trying to get meets as quickly as possible or get too focused on the shag rather than the person they are talking to they miss the signs that something is just not quite right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's because some people like the idea of meets, but when push comes to shove, they crap out of it!

Soooo frustrating!!!

This

happens too much though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very much part off the come chase me bit or just want to get you excited and then just rip the pish . Just move on and forget.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I think it's a fine line - you want to get to know people and the best way to do that is chatting to them. But some find it easier to chat in person and are not into a lot of messages back and forth.

We're quite happy to exchange a few messages then have a social, there are other people we've chatted to on here for ages but not yet met. Everyone is different.

The only real time we've been messed about is by arranging to have a play date with people we haven't met socially. Partly that is down to our timing problems, in that it's rare to have evenings together so when we do we want to play, but are not near a club. That's when the timewasters appear.

We've found that putting the groundwork in is essential.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Waffled a bit there, sorry!

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By *rmagiteMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Agree with B&B here.. you might need to try people at socials or spend a little time chatting. One or 2 posts to someone isn't going to get a people that are 100% all the time...and people do get scared, some just bottle it.

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By *overocketoneMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

I agree. A bit of ground work good and of course its natural to get scared and bottle it but a simple contact to say no isnt very hard but as Mr Audi rightlly say just better to learn from it and move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For what its worth I think it is just bad manners pure and simple! yes you will get people who have to genuinely have to cancel, but there will always be the wind up merchants & bottle crashers. For me its check the veri's chat on the phone & make judgement call as to whether you arrange meet or not. Unfortunately theres no one size fits all solution.....You just have to suck it and see....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happend to me a few times arrange to meet up. Then here nothing on the day. Or even worse getting stood up on the day. Can't stand timewasters. If I say ill meet up I mean it . Nothing more de moralisting really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this has also happened to me

What turns these people on that they build up someone's expectations and then let them down?

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Brings back so many bad memories of timewasters.

I had one lady ask me to go over to her place and when i asked for the address she blocked me. Another one i had spent about 2 months messaging and chatting on the phone then got stood up on the day we were actually going to meet.

I could go on but you get the general idea. Timewasters are all over the place.

If I say I will be at a meet I will be there. I have only ever had to cancel once and that was because of a family emergency and I did reschedule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happend to me a few times arrange to meet up. Then here nothing on the day. Or even worse getting stood up on the day. Can't stand timewasters. If I say ill meet up I mean it . Nothing more de moralisting really."

It works both ways too ppl looking for a meet ppl reply to that request but dont get a reply either i cant stand timewasters either both sexes hav them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi All,

Sorry this is something I do not understand. I apologise in advance for ranting...

It happened a few times, you agree on a date time and place to meet up with someone.

24 hours before meeting the person is not answering and you can see that the person is online.

I just do not get it why people act that way. Either you wish to meet someone and you play the game or if not just be honest from the beginning.

If there would be any tips to avoid it I would take it.

I do not get people promising the moon and not even bothered to message to tell that they do not want to meet...

Things should be simple either this is a yes or a no.

But at least a message does not cost a penny.

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its all part of the fab experience ivd had the same chat arrange phone number exchange then blocked ffs dont even try working it out nothing more queer than folk as they say easier to just move on and learn fast

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