FabSwingers.com forum: Ignorant girls

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do some girls on here think it's not rude to delete messages without reply? And what the hell is wrong with starting a message with hi how are you doing, it's how most normal conversations start ffs.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Why do some girls on here think it's not rude to delete messages without reply? And what the hell is wrong with starting a message with hi how are you doing, it's how most normal conversations start ffs. "
my apology is on my profile if u delete any emails.

My main reason is I ain't interested in the person sending the email.

I don't reply to junk mail at home so why should I do it on here.

Just because you mail someone does not guarantee you a reply.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Well I'm a woman not a girl, but if you read the site faq's it tells you it's not rude at all, I look at the profile before I open the message and if it's rubbish I don't bother, I prefer to spend my limited time on folk I have an interest in!

Do you reply to all the junk emails you get?

And nothing wrong with a hi how are you message except there's only so many times you can reply I'm fine thanks before it drains the life out of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind off look at it as a sign off rejection if my messages are deleted without being read but i can live with that and just move on to the next profile i find interesting with asking WHY .

But everyone is different and handle it in different ways

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By *oody2shoesWoman
over a year ago

dunbartonshire

I try to reply to all but sometimes that causes more hassle than its worth. I always try to be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok before you blow a gasket...as you've only been on a couple of weeks you probably won't know that women on here get literally hundreds of messages every day so they'll only usually reply to the ones that appeal to them and delete the rest. They just don't have the time to reply to every one so probably assume they weren't taken with your message and / or your profile.

Second, most messages start with 'how's you?' 'how are you' so in the context of getting hundreds a day, you can maybe see why they's want to see something different.

Thirdly, learn to accept these two things because if you don't you'll be mega-frustrated and come across as a shouty, desperado. Which will do you no good at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I read a guys status about this I feel abit (just abit) guilty. I tend to look at the profile and if i feel we could get on I reply. I don't have time to reply to every message, I'm not being big headed either in saying iv loads of messages, but the ones I do get. But it especially annoys me if they haven't read my profile and send a message like "iv a free afternoon fancy a fuck"

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Second, most messages start with 'how's you?' 'how are you' so in the context of getting hundreds a day, you can maybe see why they's want to see something different.

Thirdly, learn to accept these two things because if you don't you'll be mega-frustrated and come across as a shouty, desperado. Which will do you no good at all.

Your so much nicer than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being nice doesn't always get you what you want though, I'm learning that

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second, most messages start with 'how's you?' 'how are you' so in the context of getting hundreds a day, you can maybe see why they's want to see something different.

Thirdly, learn to accept these two things because if you don't you'll be mega-frustrated and come across as a shouty, desperado. Which will do you no good at all.

Your so much nicer than me

Aww thanks! Just though a wee explanation would do the trick. We got loads of 'samey' messages from guys when we first joined so we ended up deleting the ones we didn't like and got a few choice replies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

Instashag, obviously

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By *overocketoneMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

I guess the secret on here is not to take it too seriously or personal or it will kill ya..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I'm a woman not a girl, but if you read the site faq's it tells you it's not rude at all, I look at the profile before I open the message and if it's rubbish I don't bother, I prefer to spend my limited time on folk I have an interest in!

Do you reply to all the junk emails you get?

And nothing wrong with a hi how are you message except there's only so many times you can reply I'm fine thanks before it drains the life out of you

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"junk mail" ? Not junk mail when one human writes it for another think that's a bit harsh

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

Instashag, obviously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

Instashag, obviously

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thanks guy looks like you put me in my place there, nice profile you have if anybody knows a crap profile it's you

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Do you reply to all the junk emails you get?

And nothing wrong with a hi how are you message except there's only so many times you can reply I'm fine thanks before it drains the life out of you

"junk mail" ? Not junk mail when one human writes it for another think that's a bit harsh "

Maybe but it's just as harsh receiving 10 "hi" 7 " how's u" 11 "wanna fuck" and 4 "free now" messages every day from guys who make no effort at all on their profile and think that all they need to do is chuck a picture up n a couple of words then they will be knee deep in pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ehhh uummm ... nah cant be arsed replying to this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

I'm going to totally agree here, if I had a look at your profile and saw it there's no way I would bother replying.

Your profile on here is the first point of contact with people, it's effectively you on the page for people to see

Stating that you don't wanna talk to dudes is great but if you're interested in women there's nothing there for us ladies to look at and decide if we wanna take it further.

If you want effort put into getting replies I suggest you put effort into what people say

(Btw I know our profile not the best but it works for us)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has been discussed every week for god knows how long.

If someone deletes my message without replying then I delete the message and I block them. Not to be nasty or being in a huff - just so I know not to message them again.

Guys need patience on FAB - Christ I've loads of patience.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Why not try when you log into fab spend an hour or two crafting thanks but no thanks msgs ......this is what you are asking fems to do if I was a fem id tell you to listen to a little song by the streets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every time I read a guys status about this I feel abit (just abit) guilty. I tend to look at the profile and if i feel we could get on I reply. I don't have time to reply to every message, I'm not being big headed either in saying iv loads of messages, but the ones I do get. But it especially annoys me if they haven't read my profile and send a message like "iv a free afternoon fancy a fuck" "

Really can't do this afternoon as i am busy washing my hair , but could do tonight as i have nothing planned lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think if someone is actively looking for people to contact them, they receive a message that is well written and speaks to their profile. It is clear that the person has read it and is well matched to what that person is seeking.... a reply is appropriate and courtesy.

if it is 3 word drivel or the like: press delete and don't give it another thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

us women need a pa. love to see you reply to over 200 messages a day. you wouldnt have time to meet up. wish i could answer all messages but no chance. iv a life to.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"us women need a pa. love to see you reply to over 200 messages a day. you wouldn't have time to meet up. wish i could answer all messages but no chance. iv a life to."

but you encourage people to contact you, this will drive 100's of messages as you play out your stuff on here. The guys looking to make you feel better about the site, hoping to be the shoulder to cry on and making you befriend them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"us women need a pa. love to see you reply to over 200 messages a day. you wouldnt have time to meet up. wish i could answer all messages but no chance. iv a life to."

C'mon that's a bit sexist i need a PA to sometimes like today i have 5 messages unopened lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus, some of my fellow blokes are sounding very needy today.

Away & have a knuckle shuffle & release some tension furfuxsake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at the OP's profile it needs some work...there are a limited number of available ladies on here...you need to be appealing to them in someway...and the main thing you are going to need here is patience...if you think you are going to get a reply to all the mails you send out you are sadly mistaken...just saying...

One other thing...if you don't like it you'd best leave as this is how it is Fact...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

Instashag, obviously

thanks guy looks like you put me in my place there, nice profile you have if anybody knows a crap profile it's you"

Childish as well as aggressive? Aren't you just endearing yourself to the Fab folks?

To be fair, the guy has a point. You've nothing on your profile, no public pic, no profile text apart from telling other guys to stay clear so what do you think that says to prospective meets when they look at it? Like it or not, a profile is an extension of the person who owns it and any one looking at it is going to take one look at your and move right on to the the next one so you should maybe look to address that.

At the end of the day, take the advice of people on here or not, it's your call but most people have been around here a while and 'get' how Fab works.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

Instashag, obviously

thanks guy looks like you put me in my place there, nice profile you have if anybody knows a crap profile it's you

Childish as well as aggressive? Aren't you just endearing yourself to the Fab folks?

At the end of the day, take the advice of people on here or not, it's your call but most people have been around here a while and 'get' how Fab works."

a very fair reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile clearly states I'm not looking just now so when I receive a message its evident that the sender hasn't read my profile! Therefore wasted their time and indeed mine so delete is all that is required!

I don't answer my phone to unwanted calls, same idea

ps it's not just 'girls' - I've had many a message deleted / ignored during my time here. Shit happens and you move on

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Just 2 weeks in and already a rant about not getting enough attention ....your off to a flier

just had wee look at your profile n its crap tbh ...serious question now...what do you expect from here exactly ??

Instashag, obviously

thanks guy looks like you put me in my place there, nice profile you have if anybody knows a crap profile it's you

Childish as well as aggressive? Aren't you just endearing yourself to the Fab folks?

At the end of the day, take the advice of people on here or not, it's your call but most people have been around here a while and 'get' how Fab works.

a very fair reply

I think so too - I've seen a lot worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clear out your sent messages and don't go back to see if it has been read/deleted. You've done your bit by sending a message, what happens in return is out of your hands by that point so don't stress about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clear out your sent messages and don't go back to see if it has been read/deleted. You've done your bit by sending a message, what happens in return is out of your hands by that point so don't stress about it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignorant and rude? Absolutely OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God we've seen this one so many times. The OP needs to waken up and smell the coffee.

As a single woman I get loads of messages daily, most of which say nothing or I'm not interested in and if he thinks I should answer them all then he needs to think again, and as far as profiles are concerned then his is garbage and he ain't going to get meets like that.

Biggest problem with messages is that the sender just hasn't read my profile but still insist in sending a message, but then again it's good to have a block button !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you reply to all the junk emails you get?

And nothing wrong with a hi how are you message except there's only so many times you can reply I'm fine thanks before it drains the life out of you

This

And the harassment lots of guys give you when you say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God we've seen this one so many times. The OP needs to waken up and smell the coffee.

Biggest problem with messages is that the sender just hasn't read my profile but still insist in sending a message, but then again it's good to have a block button !!!"

This. 250 messages between 7 and 8 Sunday morning. I guess I got the hungover horn guys. deleted 99.9% of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all done it, it saves having to send a no thanks message back and risking the immortal lines like "why not" or "your loss" or the all time classic "if you give me a chance you'll enjoy it".

We wouldn't show interest in people on the street Who don't take our fancy so it shouldn't be different on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont take it personally woman on here have a hard job theres prob 100 guys too one woman so tney can be choosy just he way this site is other than that just have a laugh and you,ll find ppl will message back most off us dont get replys thats life dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol I don't even get that far, I am out of your age range so don't even get the chance to say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all done it, it saves having to send a no thanks message back and risking the immortal lines like "why not" or "your loss" or the all time classic "if you give me a chance you'll enjoy it".

We wouldn't show interest in people on the street Who don't take our fancy so it shouldn't be different on here."

I used to feel bad about deleting, but not now. Especially after op's post!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the same as the guys who dont take the time to read a profile. A lot of answers to questions are already on my profile so im not into repeating myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try reading profiles and respecting boundaries set by other site users

I'm not going to waste my time responding to people who can't respect my choices or make very little effort.

You get what you put in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could try reading profiles and respecting boundaries set by other site users

I'm not going to waste my time responding to people who can't respect my choices or make very little effort.

You get what you put in

Very well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more. Everybody seems to be having fun apart from the single guys, ive been on here a few months and only met one person. Im genuine, honest and respectful but yet for some reason just not what girls/woman are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profiles pure mince as well but im not going to beat myself up over it.

Whatever will be will be, que sera sera.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know lots of single guys who do very well here. They put a lot of effort in getting to know people. instead of expecting meets they actually look to make friends

This is not instashag I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couldn't agree more. Everybody seems to be having fun apart from the single guys, ive been on here a few months and only met one person. Im genuine, honest and respectful but yet for some reason just not what girls/woman are looking for. "

I, like many others on here, only meet single guys.

Every one of them says they are genuine, honest, respectful, clean, smells great, hung like a horse, etc. etc..

Good luck, and happy swinging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or we could just realise it's a website and stop taking it to heart?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or we could just realise it's a website and stop taking it to heart? "

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yesterday I had a bacon sandwich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fact is, girls can do what ever they wish, their choice and they do not have to justify their actions to anyone, that also goes for the guys, that's life, and just the way it is, we all have to learn to accept that every one of us is different

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Do you reply to all the junk emails you get?

And nothing wrong with a hi how are you message except there's only so many times you can reply I'm fine thanks before it drains the life out of you

"junk mail" ? Not junk mail when one human writes it for another think that's a bit harsh "

Rather than junk mail, how about bulk mail! Because it is more a volume issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second, most messages start with 'how's you?' 'how are you' so in the context of getting hundreds a day, you can maybe see why they's want to see something different.

Thirdly, learn to accept these two things because if you don't you'll be mega-frustrated and come across as a shouty, desperado. Which will do you no good at all.

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By *e_frenchMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

There are plenty fishes in the sea. Just move on and do not take it personally.

The secret is to make your message interesting. Hi how are you and a Vick picture does not take you anywhere.

That would be my best advise

Good luck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me haha

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