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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I try to answer all msgs I get (tho some . I just can't) I'm looking for tips on letting ppl down gently if they just don't float my boat. Really don't want to offend anyone but when I have tried before to say thanks but no thanks it just tends to encourage more msgs.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

say ' no thanks and I am blocking you now, that is not a reflection of you but it is to end the communication as my decision won't change. All the best '......

then block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My block list might get huge very quickly. I think you may be right tho I might need to toughen up a bit

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Just delete no reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tried that they just msg again and again obviously thinking I wouldn't remember them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block persistent offenders

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always politely decline then if anyone continues to message me I block them, that way you don't hear from them again and if they are abusive then report them as well. My blocked list is massive but I don't care as it's me who makes the decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just going to have to unleash the inner bitch then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have started to say sorry but no thx and the block as it saves the oh why not and the abuse messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have started to say sorry but no thx and the block as it saves the oh why not and the abuse messages"

That's what I will need to start doing x thanks

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By *rmagiteMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

if the guy does that yeah... I don't want people to block me, I like chatting. It's not like I can talk to mates about what I like to do. Also I do like to thank people for writing back, it's nice to be looked at even if I didn't get picked... that is so sappy, shot me now.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

After I say no thanks I just delete any more messages unless they give abuse or get annoying, then I just block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not at all just honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all aspects of life; treat others as you would wish to be treated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always politely decline then if anyone continues to message me I block them, that way you don't hear from them again and if they are abusive then report them as well. My blocked list is massive but I don't care as it's me who makes the decisions."

This is what I do too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In all aspects of life; treat others as you would wish to be treated."

That's what I was thinking but it's not working so will just have to use the block button a bit more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all aspects of life; treat others as you would wish to be treated.

That's what I was thinking but it's not working so will just have to use the block button a bit more"

I felt really bad blocking guys when I first joined, but I got really fed up with the 'but why's'!

An abusive idiot made me cry, so I left for a wee while.

Now I try my best to answer all messages, but it's not always possible. My secretary only works part time

Try not to let it get to you,this site is full of wankers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol yeah enthusiastic wankers lol shame for the nice guys tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you set filters to give yourself an age range it should help you cut down on the mail you will receive and if you really want to be Harsh set you filters so you don't receive mail from any single males and go look for the men you feel you would like to meet , that way all the males you contact will be hand picked by yourself so there should be no reason not to chat or in time meet .Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i do reply with a no thanks I block them immediately so they can't pester me with a response. Less hassle that way

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By *anarkshirelassCouple
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"In all aspects of life; treat others as you would wish to be treated."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you set filters to give yourself an age range it should help you cut down on the mail you will receive and if you really want to be Harsh set you filters so you don't receive mail from any single males and go look for the men you feel you would like to meet , that way all the males you contact will be hand picked by yourself so there should be no reason not to chat or in time meet @.Hope this helps "

Thanks honey x

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By *44bertCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

No thanks should be enough. You have no obligation to e plain your reasons to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a line on my profile that says I don't always reply. I don't tend to need to block and in general haven't had any problems.

I used to reply but then get bombarded with the oh but why. I don't have time or the inclination to explain my choices.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've a line on my profile that says I don't always reply. I don't tend to need to block and in general haven't had any problems.

I used to reply but then get bombarded with the oh but why. I don't have time or the inclination to explain my choices. "

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No thanks should be enough. You have no obligation to e plain your reasons to anyone."

Yes it should be enough but more times than not it isn't.

Moan when we don't reply and moan when we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a very polite no thanks more than adequate to be truthful.

If the person receiving it is an honest grabber they will say thanks and move on

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No thanks should be enough. You have no obligation to e plain your reasons to anyone.

Yes it should be enough but more times than not it isn't.

Moan when we don't reply and moan when we do "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No thanks should be enough. You have no obligation to e plain your reasons to anyone.

Yes it should be enough but more times than not it isn't.

Moan when we don't reply and moan when we do "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had any nasty messages,or sulky ones. Always

try to answer msg even though we are not going to meet,

IT'S NICE TO BE NICE !!

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