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By *uitar_antihero OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

As a single straight guy, roughly 70% of my messages are replies to messages I send, 29% are bi men chancing their arm & 1% are women sending a first contact message, almost invariably from England saying my profile amuses them.

So I was wondering, we all know what messages ladies & couples get from guys - ranging from intelligent & funny down to "wanna fuk lol" - but guys who DO get first contact messages from women, what do they say? Comment on photos? Comment on your profile text? "Hey hows u"? or what?

I guess I'm just wondering what the difference in approach is between ladies & gents. Ladies, what gets you writing a first contact message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I contact men first. Usually commenting on there photos or intresting profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's relatively rare for me to receive messages from female profiles. Just as many come from men saying nothing but 'Hi'.

However, when I do it's normally been to comment on something I've posted on forums. It has turned out that has been a useful way to get 'noticed'. In short, female messages tend to be better written than males.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It's relatively rare for me to receive messages from female profiles. Just as many come from men saying nothing but 'Hi'.

However, when I do it's normally been to comment on something I've posted on forums. It has turned out that has been a useful way to get 'noticed'. In short, female messages tend to be better written than males. "

I messaged you first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messaged you first "

I did say it was relatively rare, not unheard of

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I messaged you first

I did say it was relatively rare, not unheard of "

Lol i know, theres very few i have msgd first so feel special haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messaged you first

I did say it was relatively rare, not unheard of "

Think I did too?!!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I messaged you first

I did say it was relatively rare, not unheard of

Think I did too?!!"

Lucky guy u eh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to read that again I thought it said we have now found hens teeth

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I often contact guys that interest me first.

Have a fair few messages deleted but that is just life.

I tend to write about something that they have written that has interested me - either on the forum or their profile.

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By *ereforgigglesMan
over a year ago

Scotland

Usually I get comments about my pics from females (not many mind you but the few who have messaged have mentioned the pics), from guys it's been either pics or "Id blow you" which is nice either way lol

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Usually a clothing question can count on the fingers of one hand though

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By *uitar_antihero OP   Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It's relatively rare for me to receive messages from female profiles. Just as many come from men saying nothing but 'Hi'.

However, when I do it's normally been to comment on something I've posted on forums. It has turned out that has been a useful way to get 'noticed'. In short, female messages tend to be better written than males.

I messaged you first "

You sure?!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It's relatively rare for me to receive messages from female profiles. Just as many come from men saying nothing but 'Hi'.

However, when I do it's normally been to comment on something I've posted on forums. It has turned out that has been a useful way to get 'noticed'. In short, female messages tend to be better written than males.

I messaged you first

You sure?!"

Yes why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think all my time on fab i have send a first message

did send a rare wink this morning tho...

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I messaged you first

I did say it was relatively rare, not unheard of

Think I did too?!!"

I messaged him first too

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually I get comments about my pics from females (not many mind you but the few who have messaged have mentioned the pics), from guys it's been either pics or "Id blow you" which is nice either way lol"

Oh dear I'm one of those women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is this a who messaged me first thread

Those lovely women who messaged me first is significantly lower than the ones who I messaged to receive no reply.

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By *ereforgigglesMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"Usually I get comments about my pics from females (not many mind you but the few who have messaged have mentioned the pics), from guys it's been either pics or "Id blow you" which is nice either way lol

Oh dear I'm one of those women "

And it made me smile very very much.. Thank you x

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I posted a "house party"meet a couple of weeks ago.

Got a first message from a lovely looking Lady asking about who else was coming. . I replied with few names and asked if she would like to be added.

She responded with no, I just want to poach your guests!

That's my experience of first messages from women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it ever happens I'll let you know, once I've recovered from the shock if course

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I have no problem in messaging men on here.

I know what I want so no point in waiting around for it to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had first contact from a woman , ever !! and I ain't desperate so don't do copy and paste begging letters so it's a uphill battle for me , I also can't show a profile pic due to the nature of my work so I ain't expecting much on fab lol

That said I went down South few weeks ago and put up a meet , first time ever , unverified and my fab went mental , was crazy , had a amazing meet , totally opposite to Glasgow

But in Glasgow It's a good thing I don't think fab is an indication of my sex appeal hahaha and when I do get a night out at least women can't keep there hands off me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often send the first message in those situations that lead to a meet.

It's because the profile has caught my eye; gorgeous pictures or it's worded in a way that is humorous / engaging

I will never message a profile with a cock pic avatar - it's my yard stick and hasn't failed me yet!!

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"What is this a who messaged me first thread

Those lovely women who messaged me first is significantly lower than the ones who I messaged to receive no reply. "

Who shat in your kettle??

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I have messaged a good few guys. I don't hold back when I'm interested.

I have also messaged guys because of something they have said on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually when I've had a bit of dutch courage and have been looking through profiles & pics.

So would normally mention a photo or forum post.

Doesn't happen very often, have had a few messages just deleted & no response too.

So it's not just guys who get their messages bumped.

Dx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a few first msgs wich have usually turned out to be good meets I just can't stand non genuine ppl so hope to get more genuine women for hot fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually I get comments about my pics from females (not many mind you but the few who have messaged have mentioned the pics), from guys it's been either pics or "Id blow you" which is nice either way lol

Oh dear I'm one of those women

And it made me smile very very much.. Thank you x"

Welcome handsome

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By *gowbhoy4funMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Its quite rare but have had a few...so thanks for them lol

Mostly i msg first tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll message if someone interests me x

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