FabSwingers.com forum: Depression

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its a swine . Beautiful day and the feelings are going numb. The low self esteem kicking in.

Horrible when you are usually so strong and can take on the world

Then bang your weak and vulnerable.

All because somewhere mentally your not coping or been strong to long . Offt

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

You put a front on of being strong you just let your guard down and all the insecuritys take over

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By *rmrshorny2Couple
over a year ago

Seaside

keep your chin up and think positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been their and it's shit, keep thinking positive and take one thing at a time and smile, take care x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there Hun, mine was yesterday,

Am fine today, thank god,

True friends helped me big time last night,

Hope you get better soon,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with posts above and also try not to bottle it up and find someone you trust to speak to.....if they're a true friend they won't be judgmental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B of C

I sincerely hope this is just a very short term issue for you and you are soon able to gain back your positive energy and move on. We all have vulnerability and I understand how things can look daunting in the short term, try and focus on something in the near future that your looking forward to and use that to help lift your spirits. I am no expert on this subject but I hate to think of anyone who is having a bad time where I could at least offer a little help.

Best of luck I hope you get back to yourself soon.

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By *orneyC0upleCouple
over a year ago

scotland near kilmarnock

I totally agree it's a horrible thing to have I found that mood gym helped me with coping strategies. Yes never keep anything bottled up as it only feels worse having gone through this and multiple attempts of suicide it's not a joking condition. Keep an eye on how you feel if your still like it for several days seek the doctors. Fortunately for me I am no studying in being a mental health nurse as I want to help others come through it as so many people don't understand the condition. Hope you feel better and if ever down seek help or try going online to mood gym.

Mark xx

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By *eterjamesmcMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Masturbation is good for mental health and also physical well being .you are not alone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly its a battle i know too well on a daily basis picking yourself up from that dark place

Fab can be a good escape at times but then again other times it can knock you back down and when it does it does with a bang and all your confidence can go its like a rollercoaster

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

It's very scary being on the receiving end of someone who's severely depressed because some of the symptoms don't only effect the person themselves but others around them.

Paranoia is one of the worst things ever and if your on the receiving end of someone else's paranoia it's one of the most unpleasant things ever.

The best advice I can give is remove yourself from negativity and things that cause your mood swings and depression to worsen.

Deal with you and only you because outside influences can sometimes add to the anxiety that's causing your symptoms to worsen.

Hope your mood lifts soon and your happiness returns... But reach out because help is there for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paranoia is another thing on its own depression more been down on yourself and your own confidence

You beat yourself up rather than others you may push away but i wouldnt say paranoia

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By *hickensCouple
over a year ago

Inverness-ish

Step outside, sit some where for even just ten minutes, close your eyes, don't upon them and soak up the sun shining on your face.

Don't know why but it helps.

Wrap up warm though, the wind is still chilly out there

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Trust me I know what I'm talking about psychotic depression is very real.

Psychotic depression is characterized by not only depressive symptoms, but also by hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that aren’t really there) or delusions (irrational thoughts and fears). Often psychotically depressed people become paranoid.

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By *oe bloggs69Man
over a year ago

fife

Been there done that n when it kicks in you can't stop it...sex helps,really!

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By *anarkshirelassCouple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Being brave enough to open up and speak about it to family and friends and colleagues is the first step to managing and dealing with it.

I know however, that's easier said than done for some people but you can see by the number of posts on here how many people either suffer or are aware of someone who have this horrible illness.

Because its not visible, its also one of these illness's that are either dismissed and ignored by most people.

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By *all saulMan
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

hey chin up gorgeous mind you can always find an ear to listen intently on here xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone. A nice drive up loch lomond . Also chocolate cake and ice cream helped it abit. Just a horrible feeling that creeps up on you. Thank you thank you xx

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I hope your alright. Im glad you went out. It wouldn't do you any good sitting in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope your ok dear. If I was there I would give you one of my big strong long hugs, but know that my thoughts are with you. xx

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By *otGeorgeClooneyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Well done for taking a positive step and sharing your emotions here. there are many here who share your feelings from time to time too.

where's did you get the choc cake incase I fancy some on way up lomondside

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By *otGeorgeClooneyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Well done for taking a positive step and sharing your emotions here. there are many here who share your feelings from time to time too.

where's did you get the choc cake incase I fancy some on way up lomondside

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done for taking a positive step and sharing your emotions here. there are many here who share your feelings from time to time too.

where's did you get the choc cake incase I fancy some on way up lomondside"
Aurdlui hotel beautiful views. cake good to xx

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Shame I missed the cake but glad you got out and about instead of letting it all get the better of you today.

Just keep yourself moving in the right direction, one step at a time and hopefully you will right yourself again soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you found the motivation to get yourself out today and do something that lifted you if only a little.

Been suffering myself these past few days...exam stresses have opened the door to all the rest of the negative feelings of depression. Good friends and family help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you've had a wee blip. We all try so hard to be strong but I think of it like a rubber band. You can stretch it and stretch it but overdo it and it WILL snap. I wish there was a magic formula as I suffer myself.. but I find surrounding myself with cheerful, positive, life enhancing people really helps. Many of my friends suffer and I've discovered its so easy to drag each other down. I guess two drowning people can't save each other so I call on the friends and family who ease my mood. That, and cake therapy.

I can do a great medley of songs from the shows!

It will pass... for sure xx

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

"Sorry to hear you've had a wee blip. We all try so hard to be strong but I think of it like a rubber band. You can stretch it and stretch it but overdo it and it WILL snap. I wish there was a magic formula as I suffer myself.. but I find surrounding myself with cheerful, positive, life enhancing people really helps. Many of my friends suffer and I've discovered its so easy to drag each other down. I guess two drowning people can't save each other so I call on the friends and family who ease my mood. That, and cake therapy.

I can do a great medley of songs from the shows!

It will pass... for sure xx"

When you say, "it will pass", I hope you're referring to a need to do a medley of songs?

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By *inasparklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

My wee chickadee message me anytime x

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By *ustforalaugh1Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's such a horrible condition that affects more people than most people realize.

I personally don't know anyone that isn't affected to one degree or another.

The first, and sometimes hardest, step is recognizing you have a problem, which you have done!

surround yourself with loved ones and true friends.

Get rid of anyone with negative attitudes or that will just drag you back down.

Look for, and take, as much help/support/counseling you can.

Take each day at a time. Don't let the future, or events that might never happen, stress or worry you.

Be strong and believe things WILL get better.

They will. Slowly. But they will!

Good luck babe!

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By *ary_ArgyllMan
over a year ago

Argyll

"Its a swine . Beautiful day and the feelings are going numb. The low self esteem kicking in.

Horrible when you are usually so strong and can take on the world

Then bang your weak and vulnerable.

All because somewhere mentally your not coping or been strong to long . Offt "

Everyone has up and down periods but if it lasts more than a few days then worh seeking professional help. Hope you feel a bit better soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just done a 4 day meditation course at the Buddhist retreat in the Borders, cannot recommend it highly enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great thread for the afflicted. Really positive and just at the right time for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dad once told me " pretending to be happy will put you in an early grave" and thought he was mad, but its so true, you burn so much energy and life pretending, fair play to you for just saying how you feel!! You are stronger than you may realise, and you did the right thing, getting out and about. We all have times for be what length or time, it doesn't matter, its not good, but you need to stay positive as much as much as you can because it can deep very quickly, I admire you for just your actions today, if i could back time! But I learned, I found a hobby that i love and that one person who I can talk to when I need it and a genuine hug!! Chin up!! You have friends who will listen... Makes a world of difference....be happy as much as we can, we only live once!! Best of luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you're okay it's not a good feeling at all and very frustrating when one day you think you've finally managed to get it under control and boom the legs have been kicked for you . You're doing the right thing in talking and seeking support . We are all human and there are many on here im sure from above that proves none of us are guaranteed to avoid illness mental or physical . Try being around positive people . Do what makes you happy and try and take each day as it comes .

Hope you're okay chick xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best remedy for feeling this way is fresh air and plenty of exercise try going for a nice long walk.

I'm lucky I have a gorgeous beach on my front door step and can walk all the way to Prestwick and Ayr when the tide is out. I also have the golf here which I really enjoy and couldn't live without.

It's no good staying indoors and staring at four walls and thinking about things.

Try setting yourself small goals and targets to achieve you will find that if you do something creative it will make you feel better and good about yourself knowing that you can do it.

Hope you feel better soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all the postive feed back and advice. Mabe try the sex and fresh fruit together. Strawberries and cream. Honestly thank. You not a bad lot really

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Thank you for all the postive feed back and advice. Mabe try the sex and fresh fruit together. Strawberries and cream. Honestly thank. You not a bad lot really

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You forget the cake for dessert

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By *hickensCouple
over a year ago

Inverness-ish

"Thank you everyone. A nice drive up loch lomond . Also chocolate cake and ice cream helped it abit. Just a horrible feeling that creeps up on you. Thank you thank you xx"

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By *u-cee smurfetteWoman
over a year ago

aberdeen

Ive bn fighting it for the past 4 months, medication gets increased every few weeks

with help from hubby, family and friends i will get there

so know how ur feeling

chin up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post-natal depression not diagnosed for 15 years. I've been on meds for 9 years. Still have low days, but mostly good. Keep fighting x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Back here today . Gubbed. But ill be back to my usual gubby self. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Feel so much better today. Going to get my make up on. Get my butt out for today. See if I can tempt a man to let me

Have fun wity ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel so much better today. Going to get my make up on. Get my butt out for today. See if I can tempt a man to let me

Have fun wity ???"
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Excellent idea. I might just do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate depression. I suffered from it as long as I can remember.

I get good point and bad point. The good never last more than a few months. Tried to get help for it and it just made me worse. The drugs didn't help and the psychotherapy made me worse especially after the doc called me a arse hole and I was wasting his time because work wouldn't let me go to the appointments.

So now I deal with it my self. I don't tend to let people in now so they never see how bad it is. Or how low I feel or how disgusted I am looking at my self. Depression and things like borderline personalty disordsr (which I hsve) are horrible. And so hard to explain to others.

I hope you able to have support to get you through it. I been thought it with and without support. Both a hard as one you feel so alone. The other you scared to open up and hurt the people you care about.

Sorry I rambled on a bit here. Just remember it's possible to come out of it that they is a light at the end of the tunnel it's what I keep telling my self

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By *e_frenchMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

I have some very close friend and family members that suffered from it...

I saw them suffering from it, I can only imagine how difficult it is to get out of it.

I have a lot compassion for those that suffers from it and wish them all the best to get better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Glasgow- guy

Nobody wants to admit to it. You can be the richest person in the world. Or a beggar on the street. It Dosnt matter. Its a chemical in blance in the brain. Triggered by lots of things . Stress, bordem, lack of sleep. Poor diet. Nothing to be ashamed of. I really don't care who knows I suffer from time to time. Because I need my family and friends help. I can be in a hard horrible place and I'm in bit. There's times I need someone to look after me. I gets me through it. Back to been the fighting . Gubby me. Then I can be there for other people. Its called caring and loving people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glasgow- guy

See I was always better at being there for others. I always went out of my way to help anyone that needs help.

And I didn't care who knew about my depression but after my last big break down in 2011. I seen how nasty people could be about it. How much they thought it was attention seeking. To this day I still don't remember those 2 days. But I do know 5hey had loads of people out looking for ne it was on the radio and everything.

I was left with some nasty scars after thst l. Thankfully they fade and most people don't notice. But for a long time all I heard wad oh you a self harmer a wee emo. Got sick of it. Especially the abuse and bulling I got in work at the time. He'll even had a ex who fucked with my head call me a suicidal perv.

Just made me not want to open up to anyone. Almost no one in my day to day life know if I'm suffering anymore. And until last week or two no one had knew I had 4 suicide attempts in the last year and half. Only reason it came out as it affected my proformance at work to the point might be loosing my job.

So had to explain to them about everything. It shit and it tears you down having to tell people and seeing thst look in there face. I hate it.

Words can't discribe how much I hate it with a passion. Same as I hate trying to explain 5o people how I look fine one day but in acculy fact I am in agony ever day with chronic pain. That it's a stuggle to get out of bed physical and emosionaly and after a long day I just come home and switch off because I no energy to think.

Anyway I'm ranking again and probably said way more than I shoukd have about crap I'm going through just now or hoe close to breaking I been.

Guess I'm just trying to say I understand I know what it's like.

Also you might want to look up the spoon theory

Helps explain chronic conditions like depression and physical disabilitys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glasgow- guy

See I was always better at being there for others. I always went out of my way to help anyone that needs help.

So had to explain to them about everything. It shit and it tears you down having to tell people and seeing thst look in there face. I hate it.

Anyway I'm ranking again and probably said way more than I shoukd have about crap I'm going through just now or hoe close to breaking I been.

Guess I'm just trying to say I understand I know what it's like.

Also you might want to look up the spoon theory

Helps explain chronic conditions like depression and physical disabilitys"

You are so brave,being able to talk about this should be applauded. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glasgow- guy

See I was always better at being there for others. I always went out of my way to help anyone that needs help.

So had to explain to them about everything. It shit and it tears you down having to tell people and seeing thst look in there face. I hate it.

Anyway I'm ranking again and probably said way more than I shoukd have about crap I'm going through just now or hoe close to breaking I been.

Guess I'm just trying to say I understand I know what it's like.

Also you might want to look up the spoon theory

Helps explain chronic conditions like depression and physical disabilitys

You are so brave,being able to talk about this should be applauded. x"

Thank you.

I find it easy to talk about it via a computer much harder in person

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