FabSwingers.com forum: mixed feelings

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wondering if its time to leave fab??

Had great meets. Met some great people.

Question myself worth. Is it really good for you ??

Getting swamped with messages puts me off abit

Got to the point where happy to meet one or two people regularly now.

However I know it can be addictive on here.anybody eles went through this emotional rollercoaster ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hide your profile chick.

Put loads of filters on who can message you,It definitely cuts down the mail.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Hide your profile chick.

Put loads of filters on who can message you,It definitely cuts down the mail.

This

I've hidden mine to chill for a bit and it helps to recharge and reevaluate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hide your profile chick.

Put loads of filters on who can message you,It definitely cuts down the mail.

This

I've hidden mine to chill for a bit and it helps to recharge and reevaluate

Exactly this

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By *all saulMan
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

yeah defo hide rather than delete been there done that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a bad shout. Same wanks, different day!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everyone has said block guys and whoever else from messaging you. It can get to much at times so I do that. You can then choose who you want to message.

And if that's no good then hide your profile. It will save you hassle if you ever did want to come back x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if it starts to feel stifling and all consuming, take a break....

recharge..

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By *44bertCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"Hide your profile chick.

Put loads of filters on who can message you,It definitely cuts down the mail.

Yup- this.

After we put up a filter blocking single men, things got a lot more manageable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break and have a wee think!

We'll always welcome you back if you decide to return. there's plenty of good advice above block and falter. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*filter lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything that causes you to question your self worth is to be avoided. As previous posters have said perhaps change your filters and seek to minimise the abusive or pestering mail

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By *inasparklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

That's five of us his our profiles for the same reasons. Lol it's just getting so bad. I only meet from the clubs and socials know as its just to many young dafties x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear looks like this is turning into a "Let's slag off single guys" post. There are two sides to the abusive/pestering message coin on Fab ladies...it's not the sole preserve of guys you know!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Just stick yo your regular guys then hunni .

Take a wee timeout to think things over and decide what it is you want from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just decide what's best for you and life style and i am sure you will come to the right decision . This will either be change filters , block single guys and look for them yourself, hide profile or even delete it but at the end off the day you are person who has to decide and all the best in whatever you decide .

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Oh dear looks like this is turning into a "Let's slag off single guys" post. There are two sides to the abusive/pestering message coin on Fab ladies...it's not the sole preserve of guys you know!"
Ohhhh I know Ive had my share of the bunny boilers too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh dear looks like this is turning into a "Let's slag off single guys" post. There are two sides to the abusive/pestering message coin on Fab ladies...it's not the sole preserve of guys you know!"

Couples & females are just as bad tbh!! Having my own female profile I know to read profiles & put a bit of effort into messages but its like pulling Fucking teeth at times so yes I feel it for the majority of decent guys out there x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

there is one person who is ultimately accountable for their enjoyment on here and that is YOU, take control and don't let anyone else impact that. If they try, block and don't engage in any other interaction with them.

Staying on the periphery and dipping in and out is the best thing I do, I enjoy it much more.

others can drain the fun out it for you.... if YOU ALLOW IT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples & females are just as bad tbh!! Having my own female profile I know to read profiles & put a bit of effort into messages but its like pulling Fucking teeth at times so yes I feel it for the majority of decent guys out there x"

Good to see that someone at least appreciates that women can be just as rude as men. Its down to the mindset of the individual as opposed to being purely based on gender. Thank you very much madam

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"there is one person who is ultimately accountable for their enjoyment on here and that is YOU, take control and don't let anyone else impact that. If they try, block and don't engage in any other interaction with them.

Staying on the periphery and dipping in and out is the best thing I do, I enjoy it much more.

others can drain the fun out it for you.... if YOU ALLOW IT

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

*others can drain the fun out of it for you.... if YOU ALLOW IT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a time out just do what is right for you

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By *inasparklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I know one of the above and I'm not speaking about me is down to the single guys previous meets. Your right it's not always the single guys a lot of woman in here are as bad. The main problem is people thinking they have ownership of a person. Some forget it's fun and a swingers site x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know one of the above and I'm not speaking about me is down to the single guys previous meets. Your right it's not always the single guys a lot of woman in here are as bad. The main problem is people thinking they have ownership of a person. Some forget it's fun and a swingers site x"

Definitely Tina

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your advice and input see how I feel over the next few days. If anybody would like to fly me to a hot beach with a free bar. While I take time to think things over. Would help a lot. Thanks LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your advice and input see how I feel over the next few days. If anybody would like to fly me to a hot beach with a free bar. While I take time to think things over. Would help a lot. Thanks LOL

Im free to accompany you for support toots!!!! It will all settle. There isnt one of us here who hasnt felt like you do. Ive left ten times over the years. Now, with filters and a huge attitude swing im in control of the runaway train. Youll be fine. Pina Colada???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt like that last year and came off here fully. I found I was more excited in the build up to the meet but that the meet itself was never fulfilling what I was looking for. It became an ego boost and I think I was using it to try to distract from feelings of inadequacy, loneliness and depression.

I think being single sometimes fab can make you lonely because u have some aspects of a relationship (sex) but not the intimacy, respect, love and tenderness that you would have with your own boyfriend.

This time I came back more for the banter and the chat and because I was more selective with my meets (quality not quantity) I have found a playmate that provides me with all I need mentally and physically. And if it comes to more it comes to more. I had intended on meeting anyone but when the right guy came along I couldn't stop myself.

Good luck. It can all be a bit of a head fuck from time to time.

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